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    Okay stripperweb, hit me with your best shot ;-)

    Let me preface by saying I've run the gamut of SC experiences over many years, especially in Vegas where I used to frequent for both work and pleasure. I've been on this forum for a number of years. I would not consider myself a noob at all. I've dated a stripper before, and I'm also happily married for the last 7 years.

    These days I'm in my local city, and there's a bikini bar very close to my residence. I started going there about 3 years ago since it's so close, drinks are better than any other bar in my area, and I get to be in the presence of you lovely ladies. My wife knows I go there, although she might not know the real frequency I visit.

    Really though, I usually come in for a short time, have a drink or two, keep to myself, email and browse on my phone, do work stuff, but I almost always tip stage dancers who come by, just as a courtesy, even if I haven't glanced a peek the entire time.

    Now, over several years I've met all the dancers and know them by name, many know me. On occasion I've spent time chatting with them, I generally pay them for their time sitting with me, and if they ask for a dance, I usually oblidge. No biggie. I've actually gotten to know a number of them reasonably well, I think.

    Then, out-of-the-blue, one of the girls whom I've known OTC prior only vaguely before comes by...she's dancing now, okay cool. But, in this case, I'm instantly smitten with her.

    We make a connection and over a few weeks she gives me her number and adds me on facebook, this is her real facebook as I knew her name prior, It's hard to fake a facebook account when her mom, brothers and sister are on it, I think.

    We start texting regularly, and meet OTC for casual meals (no $$). But now I go into the club to see her specifically, leave work early, and now I'll buy extended dances from her. Sometimes we just hang out. She's gangbusters fun to be around.

    Our conversation and texts are sexually charged to a degree, I have no intention of having a sexual relationship with this girl (I'd love to kiss her, which is a big no I understand), but I love the enticement, tension, and conversation.

    We've spoken about future meetups that include jogging or hiking, fairly innocuous I would say, I do that with other girls, except I like her in a way that is less than platonic.

    I think I could happily visit her ITC and OTC, give her a car payments worth of dances a month, and I figure this will have to end sometime soon, perhaps even tomorrow. I'm cool with that.

    But I like her, a lot. I don't want to hurt her, and I don't want her to hurt me. We've already crossed the line.

    I expect you all to tell me to run for hills. Or that I'm a cheating philanderer. But I have life-long friends whom are dancers and I see them as nothing else as people whom I appreciate for who they are. Who gives a shit about what people do for living, really?

    Any input, ladies?

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    Default Re: oh gawd another dating stipper thread ;-)

    Are you male or female? just asking because we've had males claim female by mistake.

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    I'm a dude :-)

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    Default Re: oh gawd another dating stipper thread ;-)

    Well the ribbon is pink & you joined in 2011 & this is your 2nd post, strange. Sounds like your dating a stripper, your prize will arrive in the mail with-in 2 weeks.

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    Default Re: oh gawd another dating stipper thread ;-)

    Your photo is of a female, and you have a pink ribbon, which means that you are a female poster. Might want to change that...

    Re: the post--you're married, so I don't get why you're asking about "dating a stipper [sic]." Actually, I guess you're just an emotionally unfaithful would-be-physical-cheater ass. So, yeah. Have fun with that.

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    Default Re: oh gawd another dating stipper thread ;-)

    appreciate the sarcasm, moderator ;-) You're welcome to live by your metrics, I was just asking a question. ;-)

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    Default Re: oh gawd another dating stipper thread ;-)

    I tried to change my gender in the profile, but I can't, looks like this is VBulletin which I'm familiar with. Oh well...

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    appreciate the sarcasm, moderator ;-) You're welcome to live by your metrics, I was just asking a question. ;-)
    *Were* you asking a question? All I see is 'any input, ladies?' - and that suggests to me that what you're really looking for is someone to tell you what a clever boy you are for finding a stripper willing to play with you behind your wife's back.

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    It's amazing to me how clever some folks think they are but yet can't manage to register for the site properly. Congratulations VS, this section has two mods and now we are both keeping an eye on you. By the way, you can't change your ribbon color so I guess you are doomed to a SW life of ambiguous gender.

    As far as your post goes...

    What exactly are you asking? Is it OK for you to date dancer if you are married? Well, even though I did it when I was married I would still say no, it's not OK. I expect the ladies will feel the same way. Now, it's also very possible that you are just being played by the lady in question as a means to keep you spending. Most dancers don't want to be "the other woman" but many will have no problem leading you on to keep the cash flowing.
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    Clever, Sabihah? I didn't ask to be put in this position, I didn't even try. You girls know how this shit spirals so fast. I'm just asking for your all perspective, that's all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    Our conversation and texts are sexually charged to a degree, I have no intention of having a sexual relationship with this girl (I'd love to kiss her, which is a big no I understand), but I love the enticement, tension, and conversation.

    We've spoken about future meetups that include jogging or hiking, fairly innocuous I would say, I do that with other girls, except I like her in a way that is less than platonic.

    I think I could happily visit her ITC and OTC, give her a car payments worth of dances a month, and I figure this will have to end sometime soon, perhaps even tomorrow. I'm cool with that.
    Well, if you are who you say you are, and you didn't concoct this whole relationship out of thin air just to get our approval, then I would say...continue to be financially beneficial to her.
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    Op you are being played and what you are considering is sleazy. However I'm sure she sees you as just extra money so no you won't be '"dating" her anymore.

    But I have life-long friends whom are dancers and I see them as nothing else as people whom I appreciate for who they are. Who gives a shit about what people do for living, really?
    Translation: because I go to strip clubs and spend money the strippers are my friends and they all want me. I love looking at how hot they are because I don't see hot women like them outside of the clubs. Because I go all the time I am "in" with the dancers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    I've dated a stripper before
    Why is it necessary to mention this? Other than being just like every other PL, who wants show he is different from all the other PL's, by pointing out that he "knows better" or is wiser or more acceptable than the last PL we saw posting on here about how accepting he is of dancers.

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    Really though, I usually come in for a short time, have a drink or two, keep to myself, email and browse on my phone, do work stuff, but I almost always tip stage dancers who come by, just as a courtesy, even if I haven't glanced a peek the entire time.
    Why the actual fuck do guys do this? Like, why pay $30 cover charge, and buy an expensive drink, to work and check email? The girls in my club hate it and find it the height of disrespect, after non-tipping, which is the worse sin, of course. At least you're tipping, but where I work it is still considered extremely rude. Like someone in a work meeting who is checking their Facebook instead of listening to the person speaking at the time. Don't get it, but OK, whatever your level.

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    We make a connection and over a few weeks she gives me her number and adds me on facebook, this is her real facebook as I knew her name prior, It's hard to fake a facebook account when her mom, brothers and sister are on it, I think.
    You previously mentioned you vaguely knew her outside of the club. So what has she got to lose in sharing her Facebook with you, when you know her real name, etc already.

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    Our conversation and texts are sexually charged to a degree... I love the enticement, tension, and conversation
    So are mine when I notice one of my regulars has not come in for a while, and I want him to. A few choice messages of the sexy variety, and he'll be in the club that night, 5mins before my start time, buying a drink to have ready and waiting for me on the table when I arrive.

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    I think I could happily visit her ITC and OTC, give her a car payments worth of dances a month, and I figure this will have to end sometime soon, perhaps even tomorrow.
    Why? What is stopping you for enjoying your fun with her in the club indefinitely? At least in the club you cannot (or are less likely) to be tempted to try and take things further.

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    We've spoken about future meetups
    Yeah, most dancers I know have done this at some point, with guys they have no intention of seeing OTC. Even if she has already, or will meet you OTC, she has enough info on you, that it would be in your best interests not to turn into a random psychopath, as she knows your network of friends on Facebook, and your details. You have essentially been "screened" to an extent, by her knowing more about you than the average customer that walks in. While some girls never go OTC, some may, if they have enough background on the guy to give them some amount of "peace of mind".

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    But I like her, a lot. I don't want to hurt her, and I don't want her to hurt me. We've already crossed the line.
    You crossed the line, forming the emotional connection you have with her. Whether she, has, on the other hand, may or may NOT be the case.

    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    I'm also happily married for the last 7 years.
    Not as happily as one would hope, if you're making this kind of emotional connection with another woman. But hey, we girls are nothing if not good at what we do.

    Advice? I really am struggling to see the actual question here.
    Is that you want us to say OK, keep seeing her in the club? If that works for you, yes.
    Is it OK to keep seeing her OTC? With the sort of connection you are forming in your mind, only if you are happy being unfaithful to your wife.
    Is she "just not that into you"? That remains to be seen.
    Who gives a shit what people do for a living? Not me, unless they are Julian Foxx.

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    I'm not disillusioned by this forum. I've moderated forums worse than this, for sure. I'm an outsider, I get that. In some part I'm asking for validation of what is happening is okay. In some part, I relish in everyone else to trash me.

    I'm not a bad guy, jeezus, I've seen witnessed way worse in your industry. Can I not be a friend (with sexual tension) outside of a marriage? I've done this and I know tons of friends who have done this, we are normal people. Is "dancing" some sort of of a line that gives you special privileges as a human?

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    You seem to be chopping and changing about with your explanations of the situation.
    First you say you have "crossed the line" then you say "can I not be a friend?"
    Which is it?
    That you're looking for validation? That's fairly apparent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
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    You posted this 2 minutes after your previous post, which shows you are not patient and expect a reply from someone (anyone?) to make your line of posts "worthwhile". My advice? Don't invest anymore posts in this thread. Whatever it was you asked, it's been answered. Keep spending money on her if you truly like her and enjoy her company.
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    The OP very obviously chose girls username, a girls pic, and declared himself as a female, almost 2 years ago. Shady. You didn't check the wrong box bro.
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    I can already see how this is going to end...
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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet_sky View Post
    In some part, I relish in everyone else to trash me.
    Now this I believe.

    You saved up for almost two years to post...this? I'm a little disappointed. At least the story could have included an STD illicitly passed on to your wife, or a love child with the stripper friend or...something. Sheesh.

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    Wow. I have nothing to add, I'm guessing we're done here? Hey btw, there's a great tarantulas pic in Lounge, & if I can find this pic of a fish with huge teeth, I'm posting that. So there.


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    Sorry but as soon as you declared that you were NOT a female dating a stripper I lost interest.

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    Well, anything you would not feel comfortable doing or saying in front of your wife is cheating. The worst affairs can be purely emotional..if you feel the need to come ask for validation on an online forum then you probably are feeling bad about it already. There's nothing wrong with befriending a dancer and buying lots of dances from her...Just make sure you don't cross any boundaries that you can't comeback from, and don't hide shit from the wife!

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    Default Re: oh gawd another dating stipper thread ;-)

    Or how about your missus spends time, her attention and a car repayment a month on a stripper.
    Would you be OK with that?

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    After much consideration and reading your responses, let me just say, you are all right.

    I'm new to this, you aren't. I just got caught up and now I'm figuring out how to untangle it.

    At the same time this dancer keeps weaving more shit for me to unwind.

    There is nothing emotionally invested from her, it's all me.

    The cool thing is I can cut it off fairly swiftly, perhaps I can chalk it up to a few fun weeks with an amazing girl, and leave it at that.

    Does that sound like a plan?

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