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    So as some of you may know, I dance (and am one of the top earners) in a city where there are a LOT of extras girls - so many that I'd say at most clubs in my area it's at least 50/50, if not more extras girls. It's awful, and they do it at cheap prices. Anyway, there's a website I go to every now and then to check up on how things are in my state, and a lot of the guys at that website normally get extras. So I just went on there are and saw a thread askin what a "10" is to each personal member on there. Like when they rate a girl a "10" what does that mean to them?

    So the first response to that thread is, "I would view an overall 10 as a 8+ in looks, a 10 at performing extras, and reasonably priced."

    When I first read that response, I found it laughable. Now it's upsetting... I get more upset as I think about this. Not only have these "extras" girls overpowered the market so that the overall dancer quality has been lessened, but a deciding factor is whether or not they were cheap? No longer do these types of men consider a 10 a 10, now whether or not she's doing extras (in the club) is a deciding factor...? I feel like a lot of men in my area, where extras are so widespread, have a similar mindset - if a girl does extras (for a "reasonable" price) she'll go up a couple points in your ratings?

    Any girls who work in such an "extras" environment, or who can at least empathize, any thoughts on this?
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    Default Re: So upset about this...

    i'm not dancing right now but i have worked in clubs where extras were everywhere...the funny thing is, i had NO IDEA that all this stuff (HJs, BJs, full on sex, girls letting customers eat them out!) was going on all around me. i guess i wasn't that observant, lol. i just assumed everyone was dancing clean and was like "wtf really?!?" when i found out from other dancers and customers what was really going on.

    anyway, this is just my thoughts/my experience, but extras girls aren't your competition. They're competing with each other, for the type of men who want what they're selling. and not every guy wants what they're selling! a lot of guys really do just want a fantasy/dances in the club and DON'T want sex in the back room with a total stranger. a lot of guys are actually grossed out by that. online forums will make it look like every guy that comes to the SC is trolling for sex, because usually only perverts with no lives are on club forums in the first place. Normal guys who just want to have a fun night out aren't thinking about strip clubs so much in their off time that they're going to waste time writing reviews of dancers and 'ranking' them online and asking about extras.

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    Default Re: So upset about this...

    Even though you're in a city/club where extras are quite rampant, I'd take the insights you've gleaned from that website with a grain of salt. There is a very specific type of customer that seeks out websites like that or actually has such a rating system, and they are far from the majority of customers. They're like, a tiny handful, so don't let them have so much power to upset you.

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    Yeah, I guess the guy from the site reads this website too because he found out about this post. You ladies are right, plus I still make good money despite the extras girls. They're so cheap these days they're not making much anyway. Still though, it bothers me how "downhill" the industry has gone - especially places like where I live. It's so accepted for extras that now apparently a measure of a girl's "hotness" is whether or not she does extras. Comments like the one I quoted just exemplify how, in general, performing (real performing, not prostitution) isn't as respected as it used to be. It upsets me, but I'll get over it once I get my law degree and have barely any college debt!
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    yeah the people who post on there are generally the scum of the earth, so don't worry too much. i looked at the website for my club and all i saw was guys talking about how my coworkers ( who they named) all fucked them and sucked them off for 10 bucks ( something i don't believe for a second) and then shit talking each dancers in general, and trolling away. they are bored idiots with no life or social skills or voice without the safety of their little computer. ugh. never going on there again. you should feel pity for those girls who have to do that, because im guessing they don't really want to and are just incredibly desperate, who know what's going on..but its great that you are a top earner while still being clean, it takes a lot of strength, smarts and skill not to bend and still earn a lot.

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    Thanks girl. I really appreciate it. The man who made the comment happened to waltz over to this board and saw what I said. He PMed me at the other site and apologized for upsetting me. It's nice that he apologized but it still doesn't make anything better. There are still many men with this mindset, and I feel like it degrades the clean dancers who go through great lengths to work hard, be classy, put effort into their appearance, etc. Whereas an extras girl in my area just fucks for $100, but she can be considered a 10 for that sole reason that she provided these services for cheap? Men who think like that have warped view of what a quality woman (a real "10") really is. But hey, that's why they seek out extras for cheap from girls of a much lesser quality than us clean girls, right? Lol. That's completely fine, I find plenty of men who are willing to spend HUNDREDS (even 1000+) on dances and conversations, whereas the extras girls have to suck and fuck for so cheap that I tend to make more than them and still keep my integrity. It's just upsetting to see comments like those when the clean dancers in my area who actually make money really have to bust their ass to do so. It's hard enough thriving in an atmosphere where I'm surrounded by whores, but rubbing it in our faces by saying things that imply an extras girl is somehow of better quality than a non-extras girl is ridiculous. If the extras girl were a real "10" you'd think she would be able to charge more than $100 for a fuck. Lol. I'd wipe my ass with a hundred dollar bill before I fuck someone for it. I also pity these dancers though, but the frustration overshadows the pity I feel for them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nina_ View Post
    plus I still make good money despite the extras girls.
    ^That's the main thing, hold your head up high and be proud that you are successful despite these challenges . Don't let a comment from someone who probably now has an STD from his 10 get to you.

    I know it's difficult and upsetting to work in an environment like this and think, "look what are you doing to this industry!?!". It's also hard to experience first hand how it lessens the quality of the customers we have to entertain.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nina_ View Post
    Lol. I'd wipe my ass with a hundred dollar bill before I fuck someone for it.
    ^LOL! Ditto!
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