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    I dance sets seductively slow or fast and i shake my butt, no tips. I talk to guys and all i get are time wasters. I am terrified to go up to anyone cause i mean when I walk in the club I dont see any guys checking me out. HOw can it be because I'm black if other black girls get love, how can it be because im thick if girls bigger than me are pulling rooms. One dancer said I was too nice. One guy said It's cause I have morals. I feel like i have no stage presence or just cant dance. Damn i can't even take off my clothes and be appreciated for it. I want to make money and I dont know how to get guys to be interested in me. It's like fucking high school all over again. And its starting to get embarrassing dancing hard all nigh long and having nothing to show for it while other girls are getting rained on. Damn guys dont find me attractive or some shit.
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    It's like i go into the club and i always happen to sit down next to the guy who obviously isnt there for daners or to spend big money. but i always am comfy talking to them and I feel like im doing something besides sitting around being ignored by racist white guys. no offense to anyone I just dont know what eles could be the deal
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    Default Re: It's as though I'm invisible

    It is probably because you're too nice. "It's because you have morals" is the same thing as being friend zoned by your crush.

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    well its obviously not race or body type then..i know how you feel, i have a bad night and i immediately think " im too skinny!", or " i have no boobs, that's why!" or '" im not as good as the other girls, i need to get XYZ" whatever..but everyone has bad nights, starting out as a stripper is hard and honestly the first 6 months i stripped i had no clue what i was doing and didn't earn much. customers can pick up on vibes and if you feel self-conscious or not good enough or you are feeling negative that night you won't earn much. seen it time and time again.

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    Guys will purposely not check you out to deter you from approaching them. It is YOUR job to approach them. You have to hustle or you will not make money. How can you expect to make money when you're sitting around? Not every club is the right fit for every girl. With that being said, maybe try another club ? Stop watching other girls. DO not compare yourself to them. I know it's hard and we all do it but the best thing you can do for yourself is worry about yourself not who's doing rooms or who's getting rained on. They're not going to share their money with you so who cares? Focus on making yourself better and making the maximum amount of money you can. Stripping is a learning process even after years in the buisness, you learn something new every single day. Hustle Hut has so much amazingness. Read one thread a day at least. Another thing, how long are you sitting with these guys? Do not sit with a guy just so you feel validated. Guys can sense your aura. They can tell when you're not confident. Confidence is key. Fake it if you need to. With time, it will come. Good luck. ALSO, maybe change your outfit?

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    lol change my outfit? to what exactly, and its like 2 or 3 hours im sitting like a dumby. i just dont want to hurt their feelings and make them think i dont care or i only wanted them for their money. which i stupid cause thats exactlly whats going on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mega_bear View Post
    i just dont want to hurt their feelings and make them think i dont care or i only wanted them for their money. which i stupid cause thats exactlly whats going on.
    fuck their feelings lol, do you go into their work and ask for THEIR time and don't pay? no, of course not, and they wouldn't put up with it for 2 seconds regardless of your feelings..this isn't a date, its work, and if they aren't paying you they are free-loading assholes plain and simple. don't feel bad for them at all hun ..sit for 2 or 3 songs and then pop the question in a sweet, sexy flirty way and if they say no then say "ok, well thank you! enjoy your time" and get up. never sit by yourself for long periods of time, it doesn't look good..go up to every available guy in the room, keep mingling, and always smiling. oh and if im not having a good night i often change my outfit just so i feel fresh and sexier, and go out and try again...i think that's maybe what arielbriel meant

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    wow thats great advice, im trying it tonight, is there something you tell yourself to get in the mindset? like a mantra or a magic word lol
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    the day before work ( of if im feeling burn out or down) i treat myself to a pedi-mani, new hair cut or color, or outfit..you gotta FEEL sexy stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself how sexy and beautiful you are..focus on all the things you love about yourself. then go out there and ASSUME guys are going to get dances. when i assume they will say yes i have a VERY high success rate, but if i think theyll say no they always do. i just repeat silently " you want to get dances from me, you are going to say yes..because i am beautiful and sexy and charming and deserve all the money in your wallet!" you have to feel confident. also touching the customer's arm, whispering in their ear, sitting with your legs brushing up against their inner thigh, and playing with your boobs or hair while you talk works! good luck babe

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    They already know you are there for their money. It gets confusing for them when go so long acting like you're not.

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    Try reading Hustle Hut, there's a sticky thread at the very top, Law of Attraction..it's by screen name money worshiper I believe. There's some good threads about hustling in that section. Good luck.


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    like right now im trying to force myself to go to work, im trying to persuade myself to go. its just a very disheartening ordeal and i hate coming home empty handed, thank you and in confusing them, lol thats crazy i guess.
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    Im assuming you work at a black club while Ive only worked at a handful couple of black clubs bc theyre not really my thing, as lazy as I am, I still left with some money and I never do stages at them well bc I cant dance so I hustle the floor. One thing I know with black men is they love the sassy attitude chic, hell some white men love it too but that's been my personal observation. Ill walk up to them talk shit, ill demand they give me tips or dances, and majority of the time it works. They'll be like you got a slick mouth on you or who the hell are you to demand that I give you my money all while pulling out money to put in my garter Simone said it best fuck their feelings! You can still have morals and dance ie. not fuckign or letting someone finger pop you. But that whole meek nice thing, throw that out the window! If theyre not spending money get up and walk away! And if that club has been consistently not bringing you any money then try another one. Racist white men spend money believe it or not so I wouldn't throw option out the window too. You just gotta find your niche and your clientele. Good luck

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    Are you having fun and smiling when you go up on stage? If you look bummed out or let it get to your head in any way it will affect your stage money. People can read it just from watching you, even if you think they can't. Go in there next time with a fresh mind! Make sure you are fully energized and forget the last time you did crappy. Go in as if the last night you worked and did horrible didn't exist. Do something for yourself like take a hot bath or give yourself a pedicure before you go to work. You should walk in there feeling like a princess If you walk in there depressed that you have to work you are going to start sending off bad vibes. I know from personal experience. It's all about the good energy!

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    ^It is for sure at least 80% about how you carry yourself and the mood you project. It is mega important; you have to KNOW that you are worth that $20 dance. I know I get really disinterested and lazy about going in when it's slow season (as it is now), so you have to find new ways to make yourself WANT to be there.

    I find it helps if you start a pre-work routine of going to a gas station and getting a Red Bull, or hitting Starbucks, whatever your caffeination of choice. This does 3 things: A) I limit my Sbux intake to NOT every day, so it becomes a reward/treat that I get for going to work B) You're full of energy! Woo! You'll be jonesing to go walk around on the floor and do something; it really helps to combat the sitting in the back feeling bad for yourself bit. C) Being really friendly and cheerful to the cashier/barista will get you ahead in the bubbly personality thing for the day, i.e., it's already rolling before you get into the club. This has become a habit for me and really turned into a mental association; if I go to Sbux before class now, I come to class in the same "Alright, let's learn some vertebrate anatomy!" mood.

    Don't worry about the other girls! The only thing you should be looking at them for is role models, such as "Hey, that blonde girl never stops hustling, if I spent half as much time on the floor as her, I'd be in good shape". Don't be jealous or anything. For all you know, that's a girl's regular dumping singles on her, not some random guy.
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    what do you wear? it could be your style. and like someone else said, you could be "too nice"...you need to add sexiness to your pickup lines and confidence. i make good money at work when im in a good mood and smiling alot, confident and flirty. if something is bothering or if im feeling anxious customers will straight up ask me why i seem distracted and whats wrong-ultimately it has affected my money i have seen a normal $100 customer stop me after two dances when im in a bad mood. so perk up and fake it if you have to

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    Right now I'm wearing a short lacy see through tank top an a black booster bra with black panties with a tie up now in the front a black thing and a red me black garter as black stripper heels and I she. Very pretty make u
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    fuck their feelings lol. Exactly!!! Fuck um. They dont give a fuck about u so y give 1 fuck about them? Just saying..carry on

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    Quote Originally Posted by mega_bear View Post
    Right now I'm wearing a short lacy see through tank top an a black booster bra with black panties with a tie up now in the front a black thing and a red me black garter as black stripper heels and I she. Very pretty make u
    Sounds like you have way too many clothes on. Switch clubs if it's an option. If you're at a black club maybe it's just not your scene. If you don't want to switch clubs then watch Youtube for some new moves.

    Or make yourself stand out somehow.

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