-------------------He bowed out gracefully. Don't need him figuring this one out.
-------------------He bowed out gracefully. Don't need him figuring this one out.





Glad you took the leap Blonde. It just comes with the territory. I totally understand, we all get dreaded callers but I think if you could at least get really into your character you can sort of have a disassociation situation where you're listening and giving him what he wants, but you yourself not "all there" if that makes sense. Also, an amazing PSO on another forum I'm apart of does this. She sells calls in pre-blocks but this can work for you regardless. Take a stack of ones, to signify how much you get paid per min. If his calls are 30-60 min long, and you get $1 your cut, get out $30-60 one dollar bills or even $5, etc and give yourself a bill every minute you believe has gone by.
Once you think a minute has gone by (since you can't tell on NF) take a dollar out of that pile and "pay" yourself. Once you physically see how much money you're getting to actually speak to him, you'll mentally realize it. Money usually is a big motivator.
Or, you can pick out something you really want online and bookmark the site. As soon as he calls, open your site bookmark and imagine getting closer to your goal of buying that much wanted item. Just knowing that his call is getting you that much closer to your goal and or seeing the physical money, it will help you get through. You can do this! Just remember, there will come times when you'll miss his calls because it's so dead or he moved onto someone elseDo whatever you have to do to keep him calling.




BBGA I totally know how that feels, it doesn't make sense sometimes but I still feel that way. I've cut some people off that I probably shouldn't have, but when it starts making me not want to log in then I know it's time because I don't know how to deal otherwise. Kortney gave some awesome tips I should try those myself so I don't have to do that anymore. Wish I had some good advice to give but I'm in the same boat.





I almost forgot, if you really can't stand him, wait until he gives you your last review and then block him but just know that he won't be the last lol. You can even take a day off and recuperate, do something nice for yourself, that seems to help. I just see it as work, some things I just have to do until I'm in the position to not put up with it anymore.
Thanks for the advice ladies. KK you are so right. I cannot miss out on $ from every guy that gets under my skin. I just need to see him as dollar bills and play his game. Those are excellent ideas too! I will definitely put them into practice.
Ooooo, one more question. I have now been through 2 different headsets for my cellphone, because the long calls kill my ears. I'm moving in about 2 months and will be able to get home phone service then, but until then can you recommend a good headset? I spent a lot of money on this last one, and I have one of my regs rate each one I get. Lol. He says it sounds clear but still like I am distant.





I only use cordless phones but there's another forum where some ladies suggested the Plantronics CS 55H Home Edition Wireless Headset System. It was $295 but I see them on ebay (used and new) for $40-155 but you can talk for up to 10 hours on it and if it dies you can just get a regular headset from platrontics and hook it up to your cordless phone. I did have a headset but it wouldn't stay in my ear but once I move I'll be looking into getting a better one for sure.
I would echo what KK has already said, and yes the beauty of NF is you can only take the sort of calls you want to take. Congrats for jumping in.
As to headsets I actually had the handset that looks like and old school desk phone for my cell and that worked pretty well before I had a landline. I can't think of the brand name,but I brought mine from Amazon.
Oooo, thank Rina! That sounds interesting. I'll see if I can find one on ebay.
Last edited by BlondebombGA; 04-22-2013 at 06:28 PM.
AHHH...it was working. He would pop up and I would breath and remind myself that my character is interacting with him, not me. Every minute is $, etc. He bowed out gracefully...details removed





This is the one thing a lot of "Doms" and I say that lightly will do to try and take advantage of subs. Personally, I would let him know ever so sub-like that you will only give out free minutes this last time, or once (5 total) an explain that you've been taken advantage of before as a sub and if he feels he's not the one for you, you'll unfortunately have to submit to a Dom who understands, listens to, an respects you. He's either going to go prey on someone else, or he's going to stay.
He's not a real Dom and I find it funny that he's trying to take advantage of you. Before you know it he will be asking your character for free shit in the name of "submitting". Fuck him and the fake broke down chariot he rode in on. REAL Doms know how to dominate correctly and it's not really all about them. I'd drop him like a hot potato. You don't really like him anyway and there are more men willing to call your character.
However, if you don't mind putting up with his shit and don't want to lose his money, continue to be screwed out of minutes, or raise your prices on his ass. What upsets me about him is that he's no longer playing the fantasy role. He's trying to screw you out of what you are worth by manipulating you into giving him free shit which is out of character. Fuck him lol. No real "Dom" will say, I won't call you anymore if you don't give me free minutes! Did he forget that he needs YOU to jizz off and not the other way around? Pay for play no matter what you claim to be.
Thank you!!! Right?? I catered to this guy's ego way to much, and his bullshit (detail) but not making $$ to talk to him?? Out of the question...it's the opposite of what I want.
You are so right KK. I was trying to find a way to get around this while keeping his $ coming in, but at this point it is just not worth my time or energy. Yet again, you are brilliant and an excellent voice of reason. Ahhhhh, work will be so much more pleasant tomorrow.
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