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    As the title states, would you date a privelaged/intellectual spoiled adult? What I mean is someone (male or female) who is an adult and does not have a job. Now bear in mind, these privileged few simply choose not to work, they can afford not to. Be it wealthy parents/family/etc.

    They have an allowance or money set aside for them so they live more than comfortable and can support themselves. They are well educated (not necessarily traditionally) but read a lot, so they are well versed and can hold their own in a stimulating conversation. They are also down to earth, compassionate, and decently good looking going by American society's interpretation of what is physically attractive.

    Is this someone you would consider dating? Remember you do not have to support them financially and if anything, they have more than enough to support you. I ask this because I know a few individuals (lets just call em the rich kids club) who don't have to work. The are in their 20s/30s and spend their time reading, dining, traveling, exercising, helping others, doing anything but work. And these are some of the nicest people I know...they are not spoiled brats.

    Cliff notes: Would you date/get into a relationship with a male/female who is rich and does not work. As mentioned they are nice, smart, caring, etc.

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    i have..and he was very sweet, hot, affectionate, and all that..but he just lacked the depth and character that hard times and supporting yourself can give you. i also felt a little bitter mommy and daddy served up the perfect life to him on a silver platter while i have been working since 15..it just didn't work out. i prefer a guy who is all of the above but depends on no one but himself and has earned his money and life by himself. i can't say i NEVER would but it wouldn't be my preference.

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    FUCK NO! Never again. No exceptions. If you don't have a job (or aren't actively searching for one, don't have a disability, & not old & retired), then you don't have any passions and you lack ambition. That's a huge piece to be missing in terms of character and personality. I don't even feel bad generalizing with those statements. I need a man who works hard and is passionate about things. If he can work hard, he can play hard too.

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    ive never met someone like this. most ppl that come from $$ are extremely driven to accumulate their own wealth. even women who marry rich get bored with doing nothing so they found charities, etc. most rich ppl without formal jobs still invest.

    and ive never met someone who didn't have a traditional education yet called themselves an intellectual that was worth talking to. id love fo believe they exist but everyone ive met was a conspiricist nutjob, a narcassist, an idiot, or all of the above. I also find it hard to believe that someone who comes from money and is interested in the finer things wouldnt pursue an education.

    in short, everyone I date must have at least a bachelors and something going on with their life.

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    I feel like earning things yourself makes you just a better person in general. Trust fund babies, although they may be educated, etc. just don't share a lot of the same values as someone who earned it themselves. There are people like this who do have a good work ethic and good values, but that is the minority. Someone doesn't have to work and can still have them because they have other goals like charity, different projects, as well but they need to be working towards SOMETHING.
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    Depends on the person. People aren't uniform, even if they have similar backgrounds. One of my exes was like that, and he was a narcissistic, mentally unstable man-child. I am optimistic that he's in the minority. If this hypothetical other potential date self-assigned the label of "intellectual," I'd probably roll my eyes and pass.

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    Hell no! these guys aren't even worth fucking.
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    http://www.wisegeek.org/what-is-a-trust-fund-baby.htm

    Trust fund baby, that's the term I was looking for. I don't mean it in negative way. Interesting some of the comments regarding the article. I think it is true that most people who resent/hate these lucky individuals truly can't comprehend what that person has to go though. Imagine not knowing if people are around you because they really care for you or your money. The negative stigma that comes when people find out you are privileged. I have no problem and never hate on these people, they are lucky enough to be in the situation they are...it is just the way the cookie crumbles. People nowadays are so envious.

    Then again for me with my recent health scare (things turned out fine). I treasure my health more than I do money. I am a simple person who is happy and content with the little things. I dont need much to be happy...I just need my health which in my opinion is the ultimate wealth. At least I can see, hear, walk, talk, move. These are things so many people take for granted...they dont know what they have till its gone.

    It took a health scare to make me want to be a better person. So while I am not proud of things I have said/done in the past...its done and I would like to take it back but thats not possible. So I just focus now on the present and do good/positive things in the community. Day by day I am slowing getting out of my wicked ways. The world needs a change...but that wont happen till we change ourselves. Random bit, does not matter if you care. Just putting it out there since I have no blog. Good luck people, find peace and happiness any way you can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post
    I think it is true that most people who resent/hate these lucky individuals truly can't comprehend what that person has to go though. Imagine not knowing if people are around you because they really care for you or your money.People nowadays are so envious.
    Oh, boohoo. Poor rich kids. We have no clue what they're going through.

    And no, I'm not envious. I just thought what you said was strange and kind of ignorant to those who actually work hard.

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    Default Re: Would you date a privelaged/intellectual spoiled adult?

    To answer your question, yes I would date someone with a wealthy background but I wouldn't date a spoiled brat.

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    You seriously feel sympathy for them? Lol they don't feel too sorry for themselves I can tell you that.
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    No. It always seems fun at first but I've learned my lesson about people like that. The only men I've ever truly loved are cops and veterans.

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    Default Re: Would you date a privelaged/intellectual spoiled adult?

    Most people that have money want to make more of it IE by getting an education, starting their own buisness, etc. These are values that their parents should have instilled in them. If they do not have those kind of values, I want nothing to do with them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post

    Trust fund baby, that's the term I was looking for. I don't mean it in negative way. Interesting some of the comments regarding the article. I think it is true that most people who resent/hate these lucky individuals truly can't comprehend what that person has to go though. Imagine not knowing if people are around you because they really care for you or your money. The negative stigma that comes when people find out you are privileged. I have no problem and never hate on these people, they are lucky enough to be in the situation they are...it is just the way the cookie crumbles. People nowadays are so envious.
    You come across some of these in major cities like San Francisco and New York. However, many of them actually are motivated to do work, and many work as artists or start their own businesses or do it big. Many are artists though, from what I've seen. Those who are artists usually have legitimate interests they are really passionate about like music, film, literature, and whatever else. Many are really, really interesting. At least that has been my experience. They make awesome friends, or can at least. Again, that is just my experience.

    But here lies the issue with getting into a relationship with one: Their life is not (romantically) compatible with someone else who bases their life around their work because they have to (in order to earn a living). Both parties are going to be living at 2 different speeds, wanting 2 different things, prioritizing beasts of opposite spectrums. The levels of routine & stability each party would have is so different that eventually one party would end up resenting the other. Again, this is just what I personally noticed from my own experience(s). If you lived a really bohemian life, I could see how it might actually work out well for you... but they would have to live life at the same speed as you in order for it to work out. You'd need to have the same priorities and values.

    However, like I said, many trust fund babies are artists, and they are actively working on their art. Which, depending on the degree to which they put time & effort into it, I do consider it a job. But if they aren't actively advancing with it and putting their all into it on the daily, then I don't see it as a job. But in reality, I want the guy to earn a liveable income because money in exchange for your product pretty much shows success. And while I feel kind of gross writing that, its pretty much true.


    From that website, I also really agree with this: "The idea that these people are always happy because of their wealth is another myth. Many find their wealth to be alienating, because others can perceive them as superficial simply because of the assets they have. Trust fund babies may become depressed if they believe their relationships aren't very deep, with some even taking measures to hide their financial status so it doesn't cloud what others think and how they interact. They also may question their ultimate purpose, struggling to find their own talents or place in the world."

    Many of them downplay their wealth because it has been used against them and thrown in their face so many times. And many trust fund babies are really down to earth.

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    Default Re: Would you date a privelaged/intellectual spoiled adult?

    I think the consensus is a SELF MADE man is a real Man.

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    I also wanted to add, while on the subject of this, stereotypes still exist. You may look at someone who keeps to themselves and if they're hot, suddenly they are ~*a stuck up bitch*~! However, if that same person were societally ugly, then no one would deem them a stuck up bitch. They would just label that person weird/rude/crazy and it wouldn't enrage anyone. No one would care. But things society seems important (looks, money, success, etc) is suddenly a threat so they are put down by others.

    So I'm sure trust fund kids go through the same thing. If they keep to themselves, people deem them ~*a spoiled little rich kid*~. If they were poor, no one would give a shit if they kept to themselves of not, they'd just be labeled as shy/quiet. Some of the kindest people I have ever met were really wealthy. But people love to make excuses and blame others for things they lack. Its sad, but I think its an inborn mechanism to keep us from feeling bad about ourselves (but it backfires horribly for most TBH lol). Id, ego, and superego for sure.

    In the end, we're all humans, but stereotyping won't cease to exist. At least not in this lifetime. The privileges we think others have are not as common/amazing as they seem.

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    Like with everying everyone is different, anyone I consider a "spoilt brat" is not someone I would want to spend time with. Self centered selfish people are no fun- money or no money. Actually they are worse if they are wealthy because as one I'm dealing with now (won't take no for an answer) says "I'm used to getting anything I want"

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    Default Re: Would you date a privelaged/intellectual spoiled adult?

    Lol, intellectual? what does that have to with being a rich douche?
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    Fuck yes. Introduce me?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Lol, intellectual? what does that have to with being a rich douche?
    I think the OP was describing those spoiled adults that think they are intellectuals (I believe the term is "pseudo-intellectual"), and then being ultra-snobby because of it. It's the "I'm not only better than you, but smarter than you as well" attitude.
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    I'd date anyone I fancied. Financial situations are far less weighty than a person's character.
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    lol stigma? sorry, but like loveshooks said, wealth is not usually something to be ashamed of..poor babies! i don't hate rich people, not at all, i fact if they are self-made i have nothing but the utmost respect for them and instead of being jealous i find them inspiring..but somebody who was born into it, and doesn't work for it?or has no passions in which they are working in? nooo thanks. especially with somebody like me, out lives and our core beliefs and experiences would just be too different and clash. the one i went out with wanted to "slum it" with a "white trashy stripper" i always felt . he couldn't understand my struggles and im sorry but struggles make people strong and give them character. getting everything you want does not. that's a spoiled brat. there are some rich kids who were raised right, but the ones you were describing don't sound like it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    our core beliefs and experiences would just be too different and clash. the one i went out with wanted to "slum it" with a "white trashy stripper" i always felt . he couldn't understand my struggles and im sorry but struggles make people strong and give them character. getting everything you want does not.
    I feel like I've had that experience as well, lol. I know its a big reason why many keep adult work a secret. I am upfront about it if I plan to keep talking to the guy (if I really like him). I feel like it weeds out the idiots who want to hang around me for all the wrong reasons.

    It sucks because... you really don't understand each other. You come from 2 different paths a lot of the times and its hard for one to comprehend the other's priorities. You learned to prioritize different things, have a different schedule, have fun a different way, and these things often don't mesh.

    Additionally, people from wealthy families tend to want to date (or get serious with anyway) girls who have it all. Who have gone to school, have their vanilla career all set, are pretty and thin, well traveled, etc. Which... I guess I have a lot of those down, but I still always felt a looming sense of awkward pressure that wasn't talked about. Like a giant pink elephant in the room. I kind of felt like... he wanted me to be something... I wasn't? Like he wanted me to... pretend to live in / be apart of a lifestyle I wasn't brought up in. Kind of like... pretending to join someone's religion. Awkward. Uncomfortable. That's how I felt. I felt... fake. Not like ME, which was... weird. Maybe all this is just my own insecurity, but I feel like I'm pretty good on picking up energy.

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    So I assume two trust fund babies might be more compatible?
    I don't know them personally but my aunt was doing some home remodeling for them and they are both (male/female couple) in their late 30s just having a good time. I think the girl works part time (2-4 hours a week) for her father's company. And the guy spends time doing whatever he likes. Pretty chill life and from what my aunt said, they are good kids. Errr I mean adults. Down to earth, not of the show boating nature, and very generous with their money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post
    So I assume two trust fund babies might be more compatible?
    I don't know them personally but my aunt was doing some home remodeling for them and they are both (male/female couple) in their late 30s just having a good time. I think the girl works part time (2-4 hours a week) for her father's company. And the guy spends time doing whatever he likes. Pretty chill life and from what my aunt said, they are good kids. Errr I mean adults. Down to earth, not of the show boating nature, and very generous with their money.
    Not necessarily 2 trust fund babies, but 2 people who had the same upbringing and the same priorities, and who are both in high income brackets or high earning potential, because that's something you'll definitely fight about otherwise. That and money, and often money has to do with priorities. A sexworker could theoretically work out very well with a motivated trust fund baby. That might actually be a really good match. Because if both parties are motivated and driven, both will work hard, and both will have a pretty good earning potential, so their priorities may roughly be the same I think? But it would depend on both of their upbringings too, at least that has been my experience.

    Its much different when both parties are poor or average because they are forced to have the same priorities (or it doesn't work out). But when one party has a lot of money, he/she may blow it on dumb shit or just have completely different priorities than their partner. Like "oh lets go out!" or "lets go to this event I really want to go to!!" And you would be like ummm I can't afford all that. And then they are either annoyed, or are like "I'll pay!!!" But even if they always pay, they will eventually be resentful that you come off as leechy (because he/she is paying for you!) or not living up to your share (which you can't do because you have different financial situations & priorities).

    Definitely not all trust fund kids are like that though. A lot are extremely motivated and work 9-5 jobs and stuff with lots of success.

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