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    Question What are your views on 'lurkers'?

    I don't take any shit in my room from freeloaders and beggers but I've been on the fence a lot on what to do with 'the lurkers'.

    Part of me wants to keep them, especially with how slow that SM has been lately because they make my room look 'more popular' when new guys come in.

    But my itchy trigger finger wants to ban their asses because I am not here to entertain anyone for free.

    Thoughts?

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    I don't like them lol. They come in my room and don't say anything. Then when I say Hi, hru?...they don't respond and just sit there. Its annoying, rude, and disrespectful. I kick them out and if they come back doing the same thing I block them. It doesn't take much to say hi. I'm a manners whore and it extremely erks me if you can't show even an ounce of respect.

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    I don't pay them any mind. If they wanna stay, they can because I don't have to interact with them.

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    I dont like them....Im not a television show

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    I don't mind them, though from the little experience I got I prefer people who at least TALK. I haven't really banned anybody, I think someone would have to REALLY tick me off. Though from the worst I've gotten so far I think I've dealt well enough. Plenty of people have tried getting free stuff and I'm just like "yeah nope no freebies, either pay up or find another girl" and they leave. But if they just sit there I just dance around or talk to myself. XD Sometimes I pretend to talk to them even if they don't respond.

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    I can see why they'd be annoying but isn't everyone a lurker until they put some money in it? And if all the ladies weren't always giving tons away for free they guys wouldn't expect to get a free show. I always read such contradiction on here from what I see in the rooms (I'm still a lurker considering trying camming out). Use them to your advantage or ignore them. Of course ban anyone that's rude. I agree the more people make the room look popular and implies you've got something good going on so people are likely to stick in your room if they see it's packed.
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    I'd have to agree with ALL posts above - depending on what day of the week it is lol

    Some days I can log in,be in private constantly and feel like I'm just the most popular girl in the worrrrrld bc of all of my "fans",even if half of them arent talking.Then other days when Im not doing so well,or Ive had a few bad privates etc the lurkers can make me feel like "the jokes on me" or like they're a slap in the face and a huge blaring reminder that I'm not having the best of luck with custies that day.

    I can always usually tell whether Ive had a shitty day just by the amount of guys Ive banned by the end of it If the sight of lurkers makes me
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    then I know its pretty much time for me to log off...or to switch to "domme,take no shit,fuck me?no fuck YOU" mode in hopes of catching fickle fish with a different kind of bait while venting some anger as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JGB2009 View Post
    I dont like them....Im not a television show
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    I seem to be their favorite tv show. It's very obnoxious how they can just sit in my room EVERY day for my 4 hour or more shift to tune in. It's very rude. They obviously like my room so they should at least tip or interact. They work my nerves.


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    I hate lurkers, am the same way as the OP, but I tolerate them for a few reasons....
    1) As you said, they make your room look full
    2) Buyers never beg, and beggers never buy...but the lurker will amaze you. They may lurk for weeks, months...but one day they may get a show
    And don't worry about them too much, what pisses me off even more then lurkers, is not knowing how many are actually out there WATCHING YOU (the guys who don't sign up to sm/whatever site you may be on) Always remember that although there may be a lurker or a few in your room, there are 10x more out there who you will never have the opportunity to hustle. I am glad sm gave free guys an option to type to us....without that there was no way to hustle guys who did not sign up...but IMHO, if we are going to get FREE members to SIGN UP and SPEND.....we should make the 70% like we do when we refer guys. It would give us extra incentive to use the free chat (no sign up required feature) because most of the time I either forget it is there, or I open it and forget they are down there, ignoring all of them lol. Lurkers who sign up only to sit in ur room and say/do nothing are there for a reason....they want you to know they are watching. I often call them out, and then shortly thereafter they do leave so...screw em. Let em lurk. The longer they lurk the longer they want you lol.
    One of the top models at my studio once had a lurker who watched her for over a year. She tolerates this!!!! The guy has never bought a show, but one day out of the blue the lurky loo bought her an $800 item off of her wishlist. Because most girls won't tolerate it, her allowing him to do this for a while got her something in the end.
    Tolerate them but serious, if they lurk all day every day, say something to them about it but be cute....maybe ask them their name, etc....they really do not want to be spoken too so this usually scares lurky loo away for a while lol. I usually tell all my guys that in free chat you are welcome to spy on me, but within reason. Some of them are relentless and will LURK any chance they can get lol. Kick them and if they come back, let them know why and that their lurking makes you uncomfortable. Tell them they are welcome to come to your room to chat, and if they want to spy they can but you appreciate it if they spend a lil every now and then on you

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    Yep you said it best, it is like we are their personal tv show...now ladies, do you think the stars of your favorite TV show would get mad at fans who watch their shows all day every day on TV...hell no so do not take it personal Take it as a compliment that they want to watch u for 4+ hours at a time...like people on tv we put ourselves out there to be watched

    And if you do not offer peeks, tits, ass, above and beyond for free, all the lurker is seeing is you talking all day. Now if I was showing all the goods in my free chat all day long and attracted alot of lurkers, of course this would upset me! Keep it classy, then lurker isnt getting away with watching FREE SHOWS, and seeing your goodies without paying a dime all day long He is getting to know you, and every time you get a private it leaves them wondering lol.

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    LOL I always do this, have 4 replies to one post...seriously tho, dont be so mean to the lurkers...Think about how little of a life they have, sitting on these camsites all day...too socially ackward to even muster up a HELLO for you. They are sad, very sad lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angel75217 View Post
    I can see why they'd be annoying but isn't everyone a lurker until they put some money in it? And if all the ladies weren't always giving tons away for free they guys wouldn't expect to get a free show. I always read such contradiction on here from what I see in the rooms (I'm still a lurker considering trying camming out). Use them to your advantage or ignore them. Of course ban anyone that's rude. I agree the more people make the room look popular and implies you've got something good going on so people are likely to stick in your room if they see it's packed.
    1. No, someone who doesn't pay for shows or tip in free chat but still chats and engages with the model is a non-spender. Someone who comes into your room and spends a significant amount of time there (usually day after day for hours on end) without even saying hello even after you acknowledge them repeatedly is a lurker. There really is a difference. Not everyone can spend money every day but everyone can contribute to the conversation to keep the atmosphere in the room upbeat.

    2. Not every model gives tons away for free. I find that a little insulting, especially as many of the verified models I know on SW are the strictest about sticking to their boundaries and are still highly successful without giving everything away. I know for the fact that the OP doesn't feed freeloaders and she's one of the models I look up to. This argument really doesn't apply in her case. Maybe guys will hop from room to room looking for random nudity but guys tend to know which specific model simply don't show nudity unless they are in a paid show.

    3. OP, I am with Briadda, lurkers always bother me more on slow days than busy days but I always think they are being disrespectful. On busy days it's easy to ignore them. On slow days I will get so frustrated and a bit nasty if I have several lurkers at a time, and ask them, "What, your momma didn't even teach you some manners? You want to watch me like I'm some cable TV show and you can't even say hello?" Yeah. I go there with the yo momma when I'm in a bad mood. It's not cute but they drive me crazy with the lack of respect. My site doesn't give the option to kick, I can either silent ban them or let them stay. I only ban for blatant repeated rudeness so unfortunately I'm always stuck with the same lurkers. In a way I'm glad because a few long time lurkers have unexpectedly whisked me into privates and some have become regs so I'm happy with that. Most don't ever spend and lurk for months, it is frustrating but since I'm one of the ones who doesn't give anything away for free* I suppose it's not the worst thing in the world.

    I think next time I log in to my free chat site I am going to put a post it or something over my room list. Lurkers only bother me when it's slow and I know they're there but they insist on being entertained by me without at least contributing a hello. Maybe if their names are covered up and I don't know they're there sucking my energy it won't be as annoying and draining.


    *ETA I am one who will flash in free if someone tips. I will also do public shows if my goal is met by the room. I guess technically that would be free to the lurkers but as long as I am getting paid what I am comfortable with I have no problem with getting naked at all for tips. It's gotten me some new regs this way, and it's gotten me some new freeloaders this way. Judge me if you will.
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    I don't care for lurkers at all. I'm not in free chat for cheapskates to sit there jerking off when they should be paying Me for that kind of entertainment. When I kick them out, they learn to speak when spoken to the next time they show up in My room.

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    Omg...why, why, why did you ladies have to put this. I laughed so dam hard. (not laughing at your feelings of course though)
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    if they dont talk ill kick them but this never happens to me they either talk to me or they leave ive had two incidents with ppl hanging out that talked for a long time one didnt go pvt AT FIRST but he did tip me 5 gold then said he thanked me for being so cool and letting him stay as long as they dont beg and dont distract me from the other guys its fine after a while i did go back to watching my anime while talking to him tho and he was ok with that if he started complaining i would have kicked him. he ended up getting a 15 min pvt with me and all i had to do walk around in pumps. today i had a guy that asking questions like did u cum today do u squirt blah blah i had enuf so i straight up told him i wasnt gonna answer anymore of his questions and i had like 3 other guys in my room so i was like fuck him he came back didnt say shit and i was like u cant stay in here if ur not gonna pvt im here to work not play 20 questions not a second later he took me pvt so i dunno i guess what ever im doing is working for me lol
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    Has anyone had their lurkers turn into paying customers? That's what I'd like to know.
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    I dont mind lurkers. I prefer them to chat, but some guys get banned/kicked for chatting and not tipping/getting a show so I can see why some wouldnt. I have had so many guys who would lurk me (for months) and just tonight I was on cam, randomly tonight I let guests talk and there's a guy who's watched me from day one and never had an account. he made himself prem tonight and gave me all 200 tokens. (theres a limit the first time you buy on mfc.) he was just like "for all the times I watched you and didn't have a job" or whatever. And I've had that happen a few times over the year, it's not a ridiculous amount but I just personally don't see the harm. To each their own though, if they bug you by all means get rid of em! haha

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissSassyPickles View Post
    Has anyone had their lurkers turn into paying customers? That's what I'd like to know.
    Not too often but it has happened. I've got a reg who lurked for weeks before took me pvt, he was shy and wanted to make sure I was the "right girl."
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    I used to let them stay when I was on my old 'freechat entertaining for tips' persona. But they really annoyed me, I'd see the same 1s everyday and they never spoke to me or tipped, not even a hi. Now that I am on my new persona which is doing shows only and not bothering about tips, I have been clicking on them and seeing if they have tokens or not, and if no tokens then i kicking them. If they have tokens then I will send a PM asking if they want a pvt. If they don't respond or say no, then I kick them lol. I know that freechat is free to look, but I've had it with free chat, I have less people in my room now that I am being 'boring' in free chat, so it's easier to manage the lurkers, but I'm making more money because 200 freeloaders gets me less cash than 3 actual spenders. I aint looking 4 a massive viewer count anymore, i can quite easily pull over 100 viewers by doing nothing, but i kick 10 every few minutes almost lol, cause i refuse to perform for tips anymore, i do true privates only. it works out more profitable for me than performing for lurkers and getting no tips. fuck lurkers. fuck them all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissSassyPickles View Post
    Has anyone had their lurkers turn into paying customers? That's what I'd like to know.
    Yes. I've had guests become members just to take me private.
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    I don't care as long as they're not bugging me or poppin in and out of my shows





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    Quote Originally Posted by CourtneyRaine View Post
    2. Not every model gives tons away for free. I find that a little insulting, especially as many of the verified models I know on SW are the strictest about sticking to their boundaries and are still highly successful without giving everything away. I know for the fact that the OP doesn't feed freeloaders and she's one of the models I look up to. This argument really doesn't apply in her case. Maybe guys will hop from room to room looking for random nudity but guys tend to know which specific model simply don't show nudity unless they are in a paid show.


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    [QUOTE=MissSassyPickles;2480521]Has anyone had their lurkers turn into paying customers? That's what I'd like to know.[/QUOTE

    I've been camming since 2008 and I have had one lurker that bought a show after watching me for about six months. Not very good odds LOL

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    Lurkers annoy the hell out of me on bad days. If it's busy.. I honestly don't really pay attention to them. Lately on Streamate..well for the last three weeks its sucked for me. I want to kick the lurkers in the balls. LOL I am cringing just thinking about signing in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleLexy View Post
    Lurkers annoy the hell out of me on bad days. If it's busy.. I honestly don't really pay attention to them. Lately on Streamate..well for the last three weeks its sucked for me. I want to kick the lurkers in the balls. LOL I am cringing just thinking about signing in.
    Exactly. They usually don't bother me but when that's all you get it's different.
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