I was raised in the Southern US, and have certain ingrained habits that are second-nature to me by now. However, it either seems to make me stand out in SC settings, or I'm getting fed some really good SS compliments.
My question: are manners really so rare in SC's that it rates conversation, or is it just a common ice breaker? It doesn't seem to matter how upscale the club is, I still get the same reaction from lots of dancers. A few motions I've done as just plain common courtesy for where I was raised, and which normally don't rate any real notice by myself but that have started mini-conversations with dancers about manners:
- Stand up when approached by a dancer.
- Seat a dancer at a table when I invite them to join me.
- Opening the door/curtain to a VIP to let a dancer enter first, and exit first.
The most common comment I get from dancers is along the lines of "I know it says 'gentlemen's club' outside but it is rare to run into an actual gentleman in here". I know common courtesy is dying out in the general public, but that trend doesn't mean it has to die out in my proximity so I nonchalantly just carry on. It just subtly signals respect from me and sets the general tenor of the space between a dancer and me, and the acknowledgement/appreciation I get back simply communicates the lady noticed the detail and is not phoning in her interaction with me. Are manners like this just a pleasant anachronism in a SC, or an unwelcome formalism?


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