
Originally Posted by
aperfectseal
I am so sorry to read about your situation. I have dated guys just like him before who were 6-7 years older than I was and treated me like I was a moron, so I know the type. He needs to know that you guys have a child together now and he needs to treat you like an independent woman who can make her own choices and her own money if need be. I'm just curious, what does he suggest you do right now to make more money than you could stripping? Cause I really don't know of that many jobs that don't require an education that pay $50k + a year right off the bat.
Strippers are not bad mothers. In fact, I can't really think of a better alternative for a mother who is in school, when you look at the facts:
1.) The earning potential is high. Like, generally, $100/day is a really BAD day. You can't really say that with any other job. You can afford to put your daughter in a very good daycare, buy her the best in food and diapers, take her to the doctor when she needs to go, etc etc. Not to mention, you can very likely pay for your tuition out of pocket if you are very good at saving money.
2.) You can work whenever you want. If your daughter is sick, or her dad's work schedule suddenly changes and he can't watch her, it's no skin off your back to just not go in. You don't even have to call in and tell them you're not gonna be there. There's no schedule, and you are an independent contractor so you work for yourself. You don't have to worry about scheduling your classes around your work schedule, you just work around your classes!
3.) The shifts are short. Working 20 hours a week is practically full time for dancers. I work four 5 hr shifts every week, but sometimes, I only work 2 days a week if I feel like it! In half the time most people work in a week, you are making much more than many. Think of all the time you would NOT have to pay for daycare/babysitters. You would have plenty of time to study, go to class, and raise your daughter.
Obviously, most guys aren't the biggest fans about their gf/wife dancing, but you need to tell him the facts and put his fears to rest. It is a JOB. You are there to make SHITLOADS OF MONEY FAST. You aren't there to meet any men or go home with any guys for any amount of money. You aren't there to support a drug habit. However, if you just need to get out of that relationship, then leave him. Your daughter deserves a better upbringing than in a household where her parents don't get along.
Anyways, good luck with your situation, and I know that you will make the right decision. I'm sure a few other ladies on here have some insight for you. I am not a parent, so I can't speak from firsthand experience, but I have worked with many single mothers who were able to give their children the WORLD.
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