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    Reminder stripping after pregnancy and breakup

    Theres some decisions that you can live with and others you like oh well i made that choice life moves on, its totally different when it affects children.
    I had my first child a few weeks ago, basically her father and i have been together for a year. Ive already decided to get myself physically
    together to start dancing; hes had ideas because ive been told i would make a great dancer (physical)
    and my sisters dance
    but he always has judged me; and said 'theres ways to get more money than stripping'
    im already in school,(which he pays for, credit card bills, cell phone,) im just so tierd of him doing little shit for me and justifying
    it like he takes care of me. We all know theres so much more to care for a woman.
    The emotional part of our relationship has failed;
    im starting to realize that this isnt for me; and im not intrested in dating anymore
    more so on self- sufficiency
    Ive never fell for a guy from the very first day, and then ended up sharing
    something so precious with them.
    Weve got this 7 yr age gap between us and its like he makes me out to
    be this young girl who doesnt know what life is about. But ive been
    with guys his age that cherished me and wanted the same things ive wanted
    Im more motivated ;this guy makes sure his livelihood is secured
    hes making his money why shouldnt i make mine
    Lately things have been excluding me and him putting emphasis on
    just him n our daughter.Without just going our seperate ways.
    He has a 12 yr old daughter tht he hasnt told she has a sister
    He renovated a house yet im still living at home with my mom
    when i ask him about his intentions at 33, he cant tell me
    he says i dont know wht u want me to say...
    BUT WHEN I START STRIPPING AND GETTING MINE IM THE BAD GIRL;WHORE;I KNEW IT;
    I MUST SECURE MYSELF N MY DAUGHTER N KEEP ANYONE OUT OF MY LIFE THTS WASTING
    MY TIME...U LADIES CNT TELL ME DUDE IS SERIOUS;
    EVERYTHING HE HAS I LACK; HES NOT INTRESTED IN SHARING
    OR PROVIDING IT . SO I MUST GET IT ITS ASHAME SHE HAD A FATHER SO SELFISH
    WHO STARTED OFF TIPPING ME A COUPLE HUNDREDS TILL WE GOT
    IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.
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    I am so sorry to read about your situation. I have dated guys just like him before who were 6-7 years older than I was and treated me like I was a moron, so I know the type. He needs to know that you guys have a child together now and he needs to treat you like an independent woman who can make her own choices and her own money if need be. I'm just curious, what does he suggest you do right now to make more money than you could stripping? Cause I really don't know of that many jobs that don't require an education that pay $50k + a year right off the bat.
    Strippers are not bad mothers. In fact, I can't really think of a better alternative for a mother who is in school, when you look at the facts:
    1.) The earning potential is high. Like, generally, $100/day is a really BAD day. You can't really say that with any other job. You can afford to put your daughter in a very good daycare, buy her the best in food and diapers, take her to the doctor when she needs to go, etc etc. Not to mention, you can very likely pay for your tuition out of pocket if you are very good at saving money.
    2.) You can work whenever you want. If your daughter is sick, or her dad's work schedule suddenly changes and he can't watch her, it's no skin off your back to just not go in. You don't even have to call in and tell them you're not gonna be there. There's no schedule, and you are an independent contractor so you work for yourself. You don't have to worry about scheduling your classes around your work schedule, you just work around your classes!
    3.) The shifts are short. Working 20 hours a week is practically full time for dancers. I work four 5 hr shifts every week, but sometimes, I only work 2 days a week if I feel like it! In half the time most people work in a week, you are making much more than many. Think of all the time you would NOT have to pay for daycare/babysitters. You would have plenty of time to study, go to class, and raise your daughter.
    Obviously, most guys aren't the biggest fans about their gf/wife dancing, but you need to tell him the facts and put his fears to rest. It is a JOB. You are there to make SHITLOADS OF MONEY FAST. You aren't there to meet any men or go home with any guys for any amount of money. You aren't there to support a drug habit. However, if you just need to get out of that relationship, then leave him. Your daughter deserves a better upbringing than in a household where her parents don't get along.
    Anyways, good luck with your situation, and I know that you will make the right decision. I'm sure a few other ladies on here have some insight for you. I am not a parent, so I can't speak from firsthand experience, but I have worked with many single mothers who were able to give their children the WORLD.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aperfectseal View Post
    I am so sorry to read about your situation. I have dated guys just like him before who were 6-7 years older than I was and treated me like I was a moron, so I know the type. He needs to know that you guys have a child together now and he needs to treat you like an independent woman who can make her own choices and her own money if need be. I'm just curious, what does he suggest you do right now to make more money than you could stripping? Cause I really don't know of that many jobs that don't require an education that pay $50k + a year right off the bat.
    Strippers are not bad mothers. In fact, I can't really think of a better alternative for a mother who is in school, when you look at the facts:
    1.) The earning potential is high. Like, generally, $100/day is a really BAD day. You can't really say that with any other job. You can afford to put your daughter in a very good daycare, buy her the best in food and diapers, take her to the doctor when she needs to go, etc etc. Not to mention, you can very likely pay for your tuition out of pocket if you are very good at saving money.
    2.) You can work whenever you want. If your daughter is sick, or her dad's work schedule suddenly changes and he can't watch her, it's no skin off your back to just not go in. You don't even have to call in and tell them you're not gonna be there. There's no schedule, and you are an independent contractor so you work for yourself. You don't have to worry about scheduling your classes around your work schedule, you just work around your classes!
    3.) The shifts are short. Working 20 hours a week is practically full time for dancers. I work four 5 hr shifts every week, but sometimes, I only work 2 days a week if I feel like it! In half the time most people work in a week, you are making much more than many. Think of all the time you would NOT have to pay for daycare/babysitters. You would have plenty of time to study, go to class, and raise your daughter.
    Obviously, most guys aren't the biggest fans about their gf/wife dancing, but you need to tell him the facts and put his fears to rest. It is a JOB. You are there to make SHITLOADS OF MONEY FAST. You aren't there to meet any men or go home with any guys for any amount of money. You aren't there to support a drug habit. However, if you just need to get out of that relationship, then leave him. Your daughter deserves a better upbringing than in a household where her parents don't get along.
    Anyways, good luck with your situation, and I know that you will make the right decision. I'm sure a few other ladies on here have some insight for you. I am not a parent, so I can't speak from firsthand experience, but I have worked with many single mothers who were able to give their children the WORLD.
    Thanks, & all these things u mentioned is more than the reason why i am going to follow through with it.
    Im sure all of us women dont do this or consider doing this because of doing it,
    everyone has a reason that justifies why or their struggle.
    And if can take me to where i need to be or not even that
    the least bit help me where im at right now; and stop a guy
    from thinking hes superman and show him; when i grind
    what i can do for mine,maybe he'll respect me; and if
    he doesnt oh well. Theres nothing wrong with being a single mother
    and like u said what does he suggest your not sharing your
    money,homes,car, so i must do for SELF & BABy

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    Hugs for you. I hope you do get back to dancing. Listen to what aperfectseal said.





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    Default Re: stripping after pregnancy and breakup

    good luck! put yourself and your baby before anyone else, sounds like this relationship isn't a priority for him, so i'd just ditch and start a new better life! i was a single mom for years, and its hard but its so much better than being miserable and controlled and having your baby in that situation..i seriously wish you the best

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    Don't worry about him respecting you. You shouldn't respect him because obviously he isn't doing enough for you and your daughter. A man shouldn't have his gf & daughter living with their mother in law if he has a house available.
    Also, I saw you had your daughter very recently. Were these problems that you guys had before you were pregnant? Have you ruled out Post-partum depression? I don't know much about it but I do know it can make your emotions and hormones sky rocket.
    Did he actually call you a whore for wanting to dance? Because if he did, that's not right and should not be tolerated.
    Good luck, obviously something has got to give and NO other job gives you that kind of money with that much flexibility.

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