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    I worked at my last club for over 3 years. It was home. I felt comfortable, safe, secure and wanted. The management was awesome, the girls were like sisters to me. I met my boyfriend back in October and moved in with him on the other side of town. He supported me for awhile until I felt like it was time to get back to work. Unfortunately my club is 45 minutes away so I had to look for something a little closer. I've worked 6 shifts at this new club. I'm making good money, it's EASY money but I hate it there. I dread going! All of the staff is always so serious and hard faced. It makes me anxious and it's hard for me to loosen up. I've tried to talk to them and always smile at them to build rapport but they ignore me. I don't know why I feel this way or how to fix it. I started working day shift because night shift is worse but all of the anxiety is making me take a lot of days off work. Has anyone else had this same problem...or some advice, I'm losing my mind!

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    I have been at the same club for 3 years so I know how hard it would be to start somewhere new! Think of how new girls were treated at your old club and how long it took them to get established as part of "the gang." You are now that new girl there! If you just keep showing up, and you're not a bitch, crazy, or totally cutthroat, you will be part of the crowd in a couple weeks

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    Quote Originally Posted by JordynBliss View Post
    I worked at my last club for over 3 years. It was home. I felt comfortable, safe, secure and wanted. The management was awesome, the girls were like sisters to me. I met my boyfriend back in October and moved in with him on the other side of town. He supported me for awhile until I felt like it was time to get back to work. Unfortunately my club is 45 minutes away so I had to look for something a little closer. I've worked 6 shifts at this new club. I'm making good money, it's EASY money but I hate it there. I dread going! All of the staff is always so serious and hard faced. It makes me anxious and it's hard for me to loosen up. I've tried to talk to them and always smile at them to build rapport but they ignore me. I don't know why I feel this way or how to fix it. I started working day shift because night shift is worse but all of the anxiety is making me take a lot of days off work. Has anyone else had this same problem...or some advice, I'm losing my mind!
    You are making good, easy money.

    Strip clubs are not sororities, they aren't sisterhoods-of-the-traveling-thongs, they aren't places to socialize and mingle with co-workers.

    Have you considered that the money you are making (sounds like it's at least the same if not better than the previous clubs profits) could be related to the fact that you can't BS with coworkers? Maybe this club has made you more focussed on the task at hand?

    It's a different dynamic. But as long as you are safe and banking... what's the big to-do? Build a rapport with the customers and make that cash. Tough it out. Your bank account will thank you.
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    Default Re: Anxiety and a New Club

    the staff as in bouncers? if you are earning good money, then who cares?? ignore them..its always nice to have friends but work isn't hang out time. totally focus, and build your friendships outside of work

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    Exactly... ^^^

    Do your job and let your co-workers do theirs.
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    I hope my next club is good easy cash and staff ignore me sounds like a dream, where I work hard to make money and everyone is nosy and lots of drama!.

    OP are you making more than old club? If not 45mins drive is not that far x
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    Quote Originally Posted by chanzep View Post
    OP are you making more than old club? If not 45mins drive is not that far x
    This was my thought. It's not too brutal of a commute if you vastly prefer the club.

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    New clubs suck, nobody is going to deny that. But change is a part of the business and a part of life. If you want something that doesn't change get a vanilla job. Otherwise grow up and be a big girl.

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    Just hang in there. I know it's easier said that done but I agree with the lack of socializing=more money. I make it a point not to sit with fellow dancers and/or talk with them. It's not because I don't like them or anything, it's just that I'd rather save conversation for custys and focus on hustling. Some girls may take this as being stand-offish or being a bitch, but quite frankly I don't give a rip. I also avoid the dressing room as much as possible...it's like the epicenter of drama and negative vibes.

    Good luck and hang in there!
    I'd grab my trumpet and I'd do a stripper sound, like the old Louis Armstrong, real raspy. And the people would go nuts! Then I knew that the sexual, sensual, guttural sound, that throbbing sound, is where it's at.

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    JordynBliss: Eyes on the prize AT ALL TIMES. Do your thing and eventually folks will warm up to you. Even if they don't, you'll come home with more money than you came in with.

    There is NOTHING to be anxious about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    This was my thought. It's not too brutal of a commute if you vastly prefer the club.
    Right..I want to go work, ideally at a club that far. For now it's more practical to work at smaller, less money club until I build up savings to be able to drive further..I also want to find a decent cheap place to stay overnight on weekends to avoid the commute.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    You are making good, easy money.

    Strip clubs are not sororities, they aren't sisterhoods-of-the-traveling-thongs, they aren't places to socialize and mingle with co-workers.

    Have you considered that the money you are making (sounds like it's at least the same if not better than the previous clubs profits) could be related to the fact that you can't BS with coworkers? Maybe this club has made you more focussed on the task at hand?

    It's a different dynamic. But as long as you are safe and banking... what's the big to-do? Build a rapport with the customers and make that cash. Tough it out. Your bank account will thank you.
    Ahaha! sisterhood of traveling thongs, I love it! This is true however, I have been the new girl at alot of clubs but I dont typically have problems unless there is zero $ in the club I am at and in that case I dont need to be in there anyways. I just stay to myself while at work though, I dont try to make friends, I focus on the custys but if i am spoken to I speak, thats it. I have learned my lesson not to speak to strippers, I hate making friends with them because then they always seem to get in the way of my $$ while I am working or they do sum fake shit that really pisses me off, just all things I dont need while I am hustlin!

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