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    I have a handful of medical problems that make going in to work impossible some nights. This coupled with frustrating and time consuming obligations that seem to pop up every other week means I can only make it to work one or two nights a week half the time even though I aim for three or four. Even though it's not really my fault I beat myself up every time and can't stop thinking about how many thousands of dollars I've missed out on over the years because I can't force myself through it. I recently switched clubs and my income has doubled but this has made me feel even worse -- I know it's silly but I just focus on how much more I'm losing out on. Anyone have similar problems? How do you cope?

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    I had major health problems towards the end of my dancing days and yes, the money lost haunted me all the time. But I just focused on the moment and accepted that what I got then was what I was supposed to get. It worked well enough to keep me a top-earner.

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    That's basically why I quit dancing, but am getting back into it. I cammed instead.

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    I have autoimmune issues. I feel like shit at least three days a week. I don't take medication for it beyond NSAIDs when I'm having a lot of joint pain/inflammation. I've found that the best "treatment" for me is to treat myself well (nice baths, peppermint tea, and getting enough sleep consistently!). Put in your one or two days and make them quality shifts. The rest of those days, take care of yourself. The kind of attitude you're taking could lead to "why I am I not working 5 or 6 days a week?" or "why do I not pull doubles all week?" It's a slippery slope and can only lead to burnout, IMO. I'm definitely a perfectionist and I get where you're coming from, but there's no sense in it, ultimately. You're beating yourself up and it'll only make you feel worse.

    Would another less strenuous source of income, like camming as GlamourRouge did, work?

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    I totally sympathise lol133. I can't stress enough how important it is not to beat yourself up about it. Your mental health is directly related to your physical health, everytime you start berating yourself your muscles get tense, you release stress hormones into your body, you pre-dispose yourself to mental issues such as anxiety and depression etc... the list goes on. And the toll on your mental and physical well being is totally not worth it because its not going to do anything to change the past. Focus on the positive, despite your illness you are working, you've found a great club, you're being a total warrior about this.

    Louise L Hayes Books 'You can heal your body' and 'Heal your life' really helped me. It addresses the issue of getting into a negative thought cycle that can perpetuate illness. Good luck, hope you feel better.

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    I understand very well, I've depression, anxiety, high blood pressure, & suffered a mild stroke recently. I am beyond stressed, & need to take it down As to coping, I don't & need to, good suggestions on here


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    I understand very well, I've depression, anxiety, high blood pressure, & suffered a mild stroke recently. I am beyond stressed, & need to take it down As to coping, I don't & need to, good suggestions on here
    I'm really sad to hear that. Are you making time to look after yourself? Like doing things you enjoy and general time to relax? Doing creative things like crafts or gardening really helps because it focus' your mind on something and gives you a sense of accomplishment when your done. You've probably noticed from my other posts but I think self help books are the bomb. It might help you to get some on managing stress, coping with depression. For depression a book by Dorothy Row called 'Depression, the way out of your prison' really helped me and is regarded as one of the best self help books on the subject. Please look after yourself, hope you start to feel better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tuesdaymarie View Post
    I have autoimmune issues. I feel like shit at least three days a week. I don't take medication for it beyond NSAIDs when I'm having a lot of joint pain/inflammation. I've found that the best "treatment" for me is to treat myself well (nice baths, peppermint tea, and getting enough sleep consistently!). Put in your one or two days and make them quality shifts. The rest of those days, take care of yourself. The kind of attitude you're taking could lead to "why I am I not working 5 or 6 days a week?" or "why do I not pull doubles all week?" It's a slippery slope and can only lead to burnout, IMO. I'm definitely a perfectionist and I get where you're coming from, but there's no sense in it, ultimately. You're beating yourself up and it'll only make you feel worse.

    Would another less strenuous source of income, like camming as GlamourRouge did, work?
    This was my exact experience. That's why I opted for camming instead. If you live in a place where dancing is lucrative, I really suggest dancing a couple nights a week (whenever you feel good like you can dance), and camming the rest of the time. A lot of cam girls have health problems.

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    Thanks so much for this thread! I totally feel you. I am battling chronic lyme and deal with chronic fatigue, joint pain/inflammation, migraines, brain fog, soreness, the works.
    It really limits how much I go in which is frustrating. At least I am grateful that dancing gives me the opportunity to work less but make enough when I do to be able to rest the rest of the time.
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    i can relate. I have hypothyroidism, and the medication I'm on, though completely helpful in some areas, hasn't done anything to assist with my constant fatigue. Plus, I'll have what I deem "bad days" which make it pretty hard to function at work. Usually I have to go take a nap or relax a work for a bit when I feel like I've hit a wall, and on weekends I've been leaving early--even if there is money there.

    I totally agree with the above sentiment! I am so thankful that this job has a relatively flexible work schedule and the particular club I'm at is very lax and has no quelms with dancers taking breaks or naps while they are working. I really can't imagine having a demanding job right now. Imho-- take advantage of the schedule flexibility that comes with stripping! There is really no need to push yourself when the consequences outweigh the benefits Don't beat up on yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MyButter View Post
    I am so thankful that this job has a relatively flexible work schedule and the particular club I'm at is very lax and has no quelms with dancers taking breaks or naps while they are working. I really can't imagine having a demanding job right now. Imho-- take advantage of the schedule flexibility that comes with stripping! There is really no need to push yourself when the consequences outweigh the benefits Don't beat up on yourself.
    Seriously, we'd all be SO FUCKED.

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    Quote Originally Posted by femme-inist View Post
    Thanks so much for this thread! I totally feel you. I am battling chronic lyme and deal with chronic fatigue, joint pain/inflammation, migraines, brain fog, soreness, the works.
    It really limits how much I go in which is frustrating. At least I am grateful that dancing gives me the opportunity to work less but make enough when I do to be able to rest the rest of the time.
    before you started dancing, did you have a vanilla job? maybe an office position? how was the "fog" then? I suffer from several illnesses...and I have the "lupus fog"..very frustrating! im at a point where I could in no way dance these days, but even keeping a vanilla job...I cant seem to get it together. I also have brain damage similar to early dementia, caused by type 1 diabetes. so difficult to go from top of my class to...hold, wait, what? huh? LOL
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    My mother and little brother have type 1 diabetes, that's a rough one.
    I try not to think about the brain fog because i just get really self pitying, and i think that focusing on it sometimes might perpetuate it. it usually just accompanies the fatigue on days when i am really tired.
    i am on a lot of herbs and supplements so i am telling myself that's doing something. i've had bad anxiety/spaciness issues even before this, so it's hard to tell what's lyme and what's my preexisting issues.
    Before being a stripper I worked as a dog walker and in child care. I am also currently a student, so yeah, it's a struggle to feel spaced out and exhausted. But I am staying positive and am in battle mode against this thing. I had no idea that type 1 diabetes could cause dementia. My mother had really severe mood swings, can type 1 also cause that? Good luck and take care of yourself!
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    Thanks for your responses. I knew I wasn't alone but it felt like it at the time. Hope you're taking care of yourselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by femme-inist View Post
    My mother and little brother have type 1 diabetes, that's a rough one.
    I try not to think about the brain fog because i just get really self pitying, and i think that focusing on it sometimes might perpetuate it. it usually just accompanies the fatigue on days when i am really tired.
    i am on a lot of herbs and supplements so i am telling myself that's doing something. i've had bad anxiety/spaciness issues even before this, so it's hard to tell what's lyme and what's my preexisting issues.
    Before being a stripper I worked as a dog walker and in child care. I am also currently a student, so yeah, it's a struggle to feel spaced out and exhausted. But I am staying positive and am in battle mode against this thing. I had no idea that type 1 diabetes could cause dementia. My mother had really severe mood swings, can type 1 also cause that? Good luck and take care of yourself!
    yes! your mother's mood swings are a result of radical fluctuations in her blood sugar levels. also, low and high respectively have their own mood swing symptoms. a severe low, or a fast dropping blood sugar can cause a type of panic stricken type of anger..almost violent. is your little brother on the pump?
    the problems neurologically with type type 1, is that you have nerve damage, similar to that of neuropathy in the hands and feet. so receptors are screwed up, signals misfiring etc...that just make you a complete idiot .

    my way of dealing with it is to not put myself in a situation requiring a higher mental caliber than I can provide lololololol....so...i'm not a banker anymore . pretty much doing grunt work/labor..which isn't good for me either, im not healthy enough for labor, but gotta live! its so funny, since I interview very well and have ben in some major fields...I get the...."why do you want THIS job??" lol or are you sure we cant place you elsewhere......lololololol
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    I agree with Glamour. Try camming. You might like it. Then you don't have to rely on dancing as much.

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