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    Default how to be friendly without the client thinking you're into them?

    I'm not exactly sure where to put this, or if there's been a thread already on this (if so, please direct it my way ).

    I sell my used panties and one of the things i hear often is how friendly i am compared to other women they've bought from. i get that building rapport, making him feel special is totally the way to get him to buy from me. but what i'm finding is post transaction, they want to keep talking to me! i'm fine with keeping in touch - helps to turn him into a repeat client. but some of these guys want to talk about their days, send me their (poorly written :S) erotica, blah blah blah... it's like i'm some gf substitute!

    have you ever dealt with this? how do i nip this in the bud without ruining the business relationship?

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    Default Re: how to be friendly without the client thinking you're into them?

    You lucky girl...there is nothing better than opening your email to poorly written erotica by lonely men How about setting an auto-reply thanking them for their business and hope that you can serve them again in the near future? Or, send a personal email after their purchase and THEN setting an auto-reply (thank you for your email...I'll be getting back to you as soon as possible!) and leave it at that. If you give them an inch, they'll take a mile and you just have to distance yourself (in a friendly, professional manner). An auto-reply acknowledges their email and leaves the door open if you want to respond at some point.


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    Default Re: how to be friendly without the client thinking you're into them?

    Are they continuing to be actual customers during these 'keeping in touch' contacts or are just writing a lot and frequently to you? Do you respond back with a lot of text and rapidly as well, or?

    I just slowly withdraw honestly. I dont tend to be overly direct unless theyre just steamrolling through my increasingly obvious hints, and usually by that point I know their perception of our dynamic is too altered anyway so may as well go out gunsblazing. But that is rare so otherwise I gauge how often / much to respond based on how recently theyve spent and/or if their emails/msgs have to do with another sale of some kind.. or even referencing previous sales.

    If there arent any cues to coming back, spending, and it is just one-sided personal narratives and sexual stuff --- my responses arent rapid. Ill slowly begin inserting more pitches/flirty references to... a past or future sale. Or my responses will be brief and full of idiotic smilicons. Or if it is incessant and there is no intention to buy or budge or even recognize the hints - I wont respond and theyll get added onto a mailing list which are direct/overt sales solicitations.

    For example: he sends a lot of erotica (btw, google some of the paragraphs of it, Ive had ppl do this and they just stole stuff from literotica). Say oh you sent erotica, I loved the first paragraph - Id love to read this while masturbating into a new pair of panties for you. Like the pair I sent before but even wetter. Or: Aww you had a rough day, Im sorry to hear you [example of rough day], have the panties I sent you been helping alleviate stress? Yes? Then you deserve more. That kind of thing.

    Building rapport is a great idea - but if it is overly personal then itll feel almost like an afrront to have to reignite the transactional nature of your relationship. Itll stress you both out bc he'll be confused and youll be resentful. So just maintaining that a sale is somehow weaved into your exchange beyond the first or second sale will help. If that fails, become less accessible?





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    Default Re: how to be friendly without the client thinking you're into them?

    Also, if you have customers saying how nice you are but always stress 'compared to others'..... keep your wits about you a bit, bc yes many do genuinely mean theyve had disappointing experiences before that gives you a leg up, but dont get so flattered that it alters your own boundaries and you become overly accommodating.

    My experience with the ones who stress 'compared to others' is:
    1. They have a chip on their shoulder that no matter what will re-emerge in our dynamic.
    2. They think (or hope?) Im green.
    3. Im being wayyyy too accessible in ways I shouldnt be bc he's startled enough by it to remark on it.
    4. Or they just dealt with someone who was very open/shut about all transactions or was callous (or even legitimately rude) while he was hoping for more, and he is trying to learn if he wants to continue down this road again.

    #4 is easiest to deal with as they usually have their own boundaries already or will be very responsive yours. The rest will have a hard time with you putting up boundaries later, so dont get too gassed up about being praised.





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    Default Re: how to be friendly without the client thinking you're into them?

    I think the trouble comes in 'making them feel special'. Every time I've had a client who specifically said they felt I treated them differently, or that they felt we had a 'special' connection, things got clingy and bad. I don't really have any helpful advice, since I have my own string of clingy fellows whose poorly-written erotica and pseudo-poetic love letters are still landing in my inbox. It just seems like any time guys feel like they're being treated better than I treat my other clients, that's when things get problematic.

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