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    Question Sugar guarantee?

    I am talking to someone I met in the club....vp of a casino here (not sure if that's even very well paid...) and is taking me shopping , spends decent cash in the club without expecting me to spend a lot of time with him. Anyway, hes offering to pay my rent and my tuition when I move to new York. He probably wants some ass in return. He said he would try to visit once a month but probably won't make it every month. I'm cool with that as long as he keeps up his end. Which brings me to my question....is there a way to guarantee he makes these payments? What happens if he puts the apartment in his name? Can he stop paying and get me kicked out? How about the tuition? I'm trying to figure out if it's easy for him to fuck me over. I don't have time or patience for the sugar daddy hustle really so if this sounds like a horrible idea and definitely a trap then please call me out on it and point out why it won't work. Thanks ladies!

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    First of all dont let him put the apartment in his name, he can and most likely will kick you out when and if things dont go his way. Your name should be on the lease and maybe ask him if he can pre pay a year or so upfront? Or talk with the apartment complex and see what options you have like can he somehow cosign this thing but its still in ur name? Now the tuition thing is good, he should just pay you what you need for school when you need it, I dont see any way he can mess that up for you except not pay for a semester he was supposed to but youll know this if its guna happen. Now, he will know everything about u, where you live, where you go to school so if your cool with that then good but these guys tend to get psycho at different times, every guy is different but if he somehow becomes unhappy with the arrangement then your gunna have to be careful, you never know what kinda guy he really is. I wouldnt be able to do this unless I felt very comfortable with the guy, I mean you have to be able to sleep well at night, ya know.

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    I dunno, sugardads are a bit flakey...
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    There's no such thing as a guarantee in the sugar world. Hustle is definitely needed, so if you don't have time for it, don't bother or else you'll be in for a world of headaches and disappointment.

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    ^^Agreed!!

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    One word: ALLOWANCE! Don't let this guy be in control of the roof over your head! Tuition is one thing as it is a lump-sum payment but there's no way I'd have his name on my lease, except as a co-signer. Tell him you would prefer a monthly allowance; that his offer of an apartment is awesome but you would be more comfortable with an allowance instead in the form of a pre-loaded credit card. That way, you can either charge your rent or get the cash out for it. There are no guarantees in the sugar world but everything is negotiable and you can certainly put the terms in writing, which tends to cement the agreement and separates the flakes from the actual.

    And yes, he wants your ass, which works in your favor -- no agreement; no goodies! The only way to see if this guy is for real is to have him put his money where his mouth is -- and don't put out till then. And have a back-up plan. I agree with Ava$ -- don't let him have total access to your personal info until you've established a comfort zone. That's why I advocate a pre-loaded credit card for your allowance instead of Paypal or depositing it in your checking account. Cash works, but only if you see him every month to get it in person!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bespoke View Post
    you can certainly put the terms in writing, which tends to cement the agreement and separates the flakes from the actual.
    I would disagree with this. Most actual SDs are going to be uncomfortable putting the relationship in writing because that would give you way too much leverage over him.

    Otherwise, yes, allowance ftw!

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    A contract based on something illegal is void. Written terms mean nothing.
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    Au contraire, Mlle. Pickles! There is nothing illegal about being a personal assistant for my lawyer SD! And that is exactly how my monthly compensation was worded in our agreement.

    I'm just a big believer in "getting it in writing"...whatever "it" happens to be. You avoid the "he said; she said" mess of oral agreements.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bespoke View Post
    Au contraire, Mlle. Pickles! There is nothing illegal about being a personal assistant for my lawyer SD! And that is exactly how my monthly compensation was worded in our agreement.

    I'm just a big believer in "getting it in writing"...whatever "it" happens to be. You avoid the "he said; she said" mess of oral agreements.
    That's different since it's an employee/employer contract. If OP has that sort of arrangement, a written contract is a viable option, but not for a more traditional sugar baby relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bespoke View Post
    Au contraire, Mlle. Pickles! There is nothing illegal about being a personal assistant for my lawyer SD! And that is exactly how my monthly compensation was worded in our agreement.

    I'm just a big believer in "getting it in writing"...whatever "it" happens to be. You avoid the "he said; she said" mess of oral agreements.
    lol I'm not wasting my time with a debate like this but to the OP this bad advice if you'd like to PM me feel free and I will elaborate
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    I have had lots of experience with this. I haven't paid my own rent or tuition this year. I'll share how it's worked for me.

    Send him 3 apartments that you are interested in and have him "choose" the right one. Basically, you've given multiple options of things that you like and he picks his preference. Then, get it in your name and have enough money of your own in case he misses a month or two. You'll have to give him your personal info. It's pretty much understood and expected. If he has a powerful career, he likely has more to lose in the relationship than you, so I wouldn't concern myself with what he'll do with your first and last name. Open a new checking acct. and stick $20 in it. Share the acct and routing number with him and let him know that he can transfer the rent to you directly into your account. These men are smart in business. If you don't act like you know your stuff then they will take advantage. Have everything in your name.

    As far as tuition, I set up a payment plan with the school where my tuition was divided into 3 payments. This made it easier for my SD to afford it without thinking of it as a huge lump sum. Instead of 10k in January, he would pay 3k in Jan, 3k in Feb and the remaining balance in March. Then I put his AMEX on file with the school (all online) and would remind him when it was nearing the withdrawal time.

    Always show him how gracious you are that he helps you and that his help is really the reason that you are successful. I'm not sure if your SD is married but men often don't feel appreciated by their wives. Show gratitude. You may feel expected to have sex with him. Many women are not even offered tens of thousands of dollars to be worshipped like this so take it as a compliment. If you decide to have sex with him, go slow. 1st base one meet, 2nd base the next... but no sex until you get those deposits!!!

    Good luck!

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    honey where'd you find your SD?
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    Quote Originally Posted by LaurenAus View Post
    honey where'd you find your SD?
    I've had two that I would consider SDs. My most profitable one gave me his business card when I asked him for directions. The other I met on a personals site during a (temporary) falling out with the profitable one.

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