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    Sometimes I get customers who want to talk dirty while we are dancing, so I will play along with it and tell them how badly I want them too, what I would do to them, etc. But then when the dances actually stop, they end up being like, "Oh, I know you want it just as bad as me. Give me your number and we can finish this up OTC." WTF? Then idk what to say. I mean it feels a little awkward to be like, "Oh, actually I'm not into you, I was just pretending so you would give me $$."

    I also have customers who talk about taking me out to dinner, this place, that place OTC....whatever. So I'll play along and be like, "Oh, that sounds soo fun!" And then it turns into the same, "Give me your number, and we'll make plans to go to that place we talked about."

    Do any of you ladies have suggestions about this? Do you just not ever encourage them by playing along in the first place? Or if you do encourage them, how do you get out of doing whatever it was they wanted later on without directly being like, "I actually was lying - I'm not interested." (BTW, they are saying these lines while spending $100+ on dances or taking me to the CR, so that's why I feel hesitant to ruin their fantasy right away, lol.)

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    Default Re: Where to Draw the Line?

    I've heard someone on here say to tell the customer that you would love to but unfortunately you've been burned in the past and you don't give your number to anyone you meet at the club. If you wanted, you could kinda lead them to spend more money on you and pretend like maybe someday when you get to know them better you may just give them your number... : )
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    I still can't understand why people care about OTHER PEOPLE'S choices that don't affect them or hurt anyone. I go with the whole "ONE DAY WE ARE ALL GOING TO BE DEAD AND DUMB CRAP YOU CARED TOO MUCH ABOUT WON'T MATTER" and then they usually come to their senses. But its true. One day we will all be dead or dying or too old to function and the things you cared too much about won't matter, and the things you didn't care enough about (like FRIENDSHIPS) will be all you regret.

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    Not that I'm condoning that though. I don't think it's a good idea to truly make guys think that someday they'll probably get a date with you, etc.
    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    I still can't understand why people care about OTHER PEOPLE'S choices that don't affect them or hurt anyone. I go with the whole "ONE DAY WE ARE ALL GOING TO BE DEAD AND DUMB CRAP YOU CARED TOO MUCH ABOUT WON'T MATTER" and then they usually come to their senses. But its true. One day we will all be dead or dying or too old to function and the things you cared too much about won't matter, and the things you didn't care enough about (like FRIENDSHIPS) will be all you regret.

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    It basically comes down to how comfortable you are leading them on and keeping the charade going. I wouldn't ever recommend outright saying you were pretending to get their $$$ since that kills the fantasy, and really that's what they're paying for - not to mention it basically ruins any chance of them being a repeat customer.

    Personally, I have a lower tolerance for the charade than many others because it inevitably becomes more trouble than it's worth. Still, unless they're aggressive/pushy about it, I'll play coy the first few times. Say something about being burned, having just met, or being far too busy, whatever, to kick the can down the road until later and encourage them to come back to the club. Customers who bring it up the first time will bring it up again when they return, so be prepared to keep deflecting that - that's why I always encourage them to come in during slow times/shifts, so I'm not missing out on a lower maintenance/better customer for them. I like to play it off as it being so nice to have a break from work to see them, getting a chance to enjoy the CR in private, etc., etc.

    If you're comfortable giving out your number and are a good judge of customers coming in the club strictly to find OTC and those that are potentially regulars, do it, tell them you prefer texting because you don't have minutes or are busy or whatever, and keep it club related so they know your schedule and you can get them to come back. This opens the doors for annoying advances, so that's why it's key to pick and choose who you give your # to. Alternatively, offer an email address since that's easier to ignore. Less will go for that, but it's still something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    I also have customers who talk about taking me out to dinner, this place, that place OTC....whatever. So I'll play along and be like, "Oh, that sounds soo fun!" And then it turns into the same, "Give me your number, and we'll make plans to go to that place we talked about."

    Do any of you ladies have suggestions about this? Do you just not ever encourage them by playing along in the first place? Or if you do encourage them, how do you get out of doing whatever it was they wanted later on without directly being like, "I actually was lying - I'm not interested." (BTW, they are saying these lines while spending $100+ on dances or taking me to the CR, so that's why I feel hesitant to ruin their fantasy right away, lol.)
    I'm sorry I don't have any advice, I just came to say Ugh! I'm in the same boat right now! I have lead this guy down the garden path for a really long time and told him how I rreeealllllyyyy want to go on a date with him and I reallly have a huge crush on him and he's basically my fantasy guy and now pretty much the only thing he talks about is what our next date is gonna be. I have no intention whatsoever of EVER meeting him OTC but I've given him that hope of "...someday." So he comes in once or twice a week, spends good money just for talking and drinking since he doesn't want to get dances because he loves me too much, and is pretty much the best custie ever but the possibility of a date with me has completely consumed him! And I really do feel bad because I just keep leading him on! lol now that I type it out I guess I don't know what I'm complaining about I just wish there were an easy way out of this situation! Haha

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    Thanks ladies. The majority of guys, I do lead on a little bit by telling them I'm soo busy this week with school/bills are due/whatever - maybe in a few weeks! And then in a few weeks, some other obligation always seems to magically come up. I will give my number to those guys, only if they ask, so that they can come back in. Honestly though, I'd prefer not to do that and just get customers who are happy to see me ITC. But I guess idk how to backpedal and explain that after I've already told them I want to go OTC and do (whatever they suggested) with them. And then there are the gross ones who really think I want to fuck them like NOW, and I don't want to give them my number AT ALL, but I feel like I can't avoid them or give them a fake number cuz they come to the club often enough to where they would see me again and call me out on it. I thought about saying, "Oh, I never give out my number/go OTC with customers cuz I'm too scared to get fired. They just fired a bunch of girls for doing that, management always seems to find out! I really like it here and don't want to lose my job." Maybe that would work?

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    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    Thanks ladies. The majority of guys, I do lead on a little bit by telling them I'm soo busy this week with school/bills are due/whatever - maybe in a few weeks! And then in a few weeks, some other obligation always seems to magically come up. I will give my number to those guys, only if they ask, so that they can come back in. Honestly though, I'd prefer not to do that and just get customers who are happy to see me ITC. But I guess idk how to backpedal and explain that after I've already told them I want to go OTC and do (whatever they suggested) with them. And then there are the gross ones who really think I want to fuck them like NOW, and I don't want to give them my number AT ALL, but I feel like I can't avoid them or give them a fake number cuz they come to the club often enough to where they would see me again and call me out on it. I thought about saying, "Oh, I never give out my number/go OTC with customers cuz I'm too scared to get fired. They just fired a bunch of girls for doing that, management always seems to find out! I really like it here and don't want to lose my job." Maybe that would work?


    That sounds like a good one to me!!!
    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    I still can't understand why people care about OTHER PEOPLE'S choices that don't affect them or hurt anyone. I go with the whole "ONE DAY WE ARE ALL GOING TO BE DEAD AND DUMB CRAP YOU CARED TOO MUCH ABOUT WON'T MATTER" and then they usually come to their senses. But its true. One day we will all be dead or dying or too old to function and the things you cared too much about won't matter, and the things you didn't care enough about (like FRIENDSHIPS) will be all you regret.

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    Default Re: Where to Draw the Line?

    I would give them the number for a second, cheap burner type cell to stay in contact instead of your real number. Keep it to text and the conversations as close to work as possible except when making excuses to not meet up. Lead on for as long as you're comfortable, then magically "hook up with some one" when you get too uncomfortable. If word gets out to other customers/regulars and they start getting weird, "he turned out to be a real asshole, so we actually broke up a couple days ago!"

    Just my thoughts.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Just don't give your number or pretend they will have you out of the club. Its become a popular thing for stripperweb dancers to give your number out to guys and meet them OTC, but that's why the clubs have become shit. Think about it awhile. It is extra in my opinion. When I first started dancing when would make money like nothing and clubs be packed with no available seats, it was looked down upon to give out your number. It was also against rules. I started dancing in 99. Cell phones became widespread , and the new concept of trying to out-do fellow dancers by offering something more than the next gal by leading the guy on thinking you will be his gf by giving out your number for out of the club contact. Guys started viewing the club as a place to meet a gf not give us their money for dances unless we give number. I tried it and its just not right on so many levels and equaled less money and more headaches. I am up front I don't give out numbers , I will readily hand out the club's phone number so they can find out if I am there that night. I like to be a challenge, not easy and desperate. That is my hustle. Old school and works. These guys deal with desperate dancers willing to pretend they will go out with them, and when they meet you being straight up hard to get , you are going to be like freaking crack to them. Try it a week.

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