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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Show up to the club one night and tell her you just stopped by to ask her out to dinner, not to buy any dances. Report back here and let us know how it went...
    Um something very similar happened to me once. this guy bought two hours in VIP. We talked about all kinds of stuff, easy customer, good money. he told me he'd come back the next night, so I'm thinking, good, more VIP.

    The next night he comes in, we order drinks. He says, I can't spend any money tonight because last night I put all that on my credit card. But i wanted to bring you a copy of that book I told you about. he then produces from his coat pocket a paperback novel that we apparently were discussing the night before.

    I wanted to smack him with it. Not amused.

    (Although, in hindsight, it's funny now)

    And to answer the OP, she doesn't like you, so don't worry about it.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    So I kept seeing her a quite a while after I stopped posting (hardware issue) and I got cold feet and never asked her out and my visits just kinda followed the same routine as they always do with small talk, personal talk, she always spends more time with me like she always does and everything stayed about the same. I sorta lost hope in starting an OTC relationship with her and got a dance (for the first time ever) from a different dancer. Shortly after doing this she got on my facebook and "liked" all the photos I had of myself. ??? What's she trying to tell me with that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    I sorta lost hope in starting an OTC relationship with her and got a dance (for the first time ever) from a different dancer. Shortly after doing this she got on my facebook and "liked" all the photos I had of myself. ??? What's she trying to tell me with that?
    She saw you spend on another dancer and she is just letting you know that she is still out there and still wants your money.

    I know that you are hoping it may be more than that but the only way you will ever find that out is to ask her out and see what happens...
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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    Your money is on she really likes me right? Cause I'm such a charming fella?
    My money is on don't get your hopes up! Just get out the wallet and spend spend spend!

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    Quote Originally Posted by JadeNicole View Post
    My money is on don't get your hopes up! Just get out the wallet and spend spend spend!
    Personally. I'd rather spend money on the girl I saw Friday night, I had a way better time. The thing that kept me coming back to the original girl is the thought of being in an actual relationship with her, and if that's not going to happen I am so ready to move on.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    In my experience, if a dancer actually likes you, there will be no doubt. She will make it clear that she'd like to spend time with you, not your money. Anything involving hanging out at the club is just her working, nothing wrong with that, just don't pretend it is anything else. But to remove all doubt, ask her out, what is the worse that could happen?

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    If you text her about anything other than her work schedule or you coming into the club and she doesn't respond for hours or days or maybe never, it might be all about the job.

    If you text her asking her if she is working that night and she responds within minutes, it might be all about the job.

    Try it.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    Quote Originally Posted by Gainful View Post
    In my experience, if a dancer actually likes you, there will be no doubt. She will make it clear that she'd like to spend time with you, not your money. Anything involving hanging out at the club is just her working, nothing wrong with that, just don't pretend it is anything else. But to remove all doubt, ask her out, what is the worse that could happen?
    Strippers are usually pretty forward people - as least where men/liking someone are concerned. If she's not making a move beyond trying to get you into the club more or get you to stay longer to hang with her at the club, she probably just likes you as a customer. Otherwise, she'd make it known she wants more.
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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    Well I asked if she ever wanted to hang out sometime to which she replied "sure, do you want my number?" Which I of course said yes to. Haven't text her yet but feelin' pretty good about the situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    Well I asked if she ever wanted to hang out sometime to which she replied "sure, do you want my number?" Which I of course said yes to. Haven't text her yet but feelin' pretty good about the situation.
    ^My "stripper sense" is telling me to warn you that she probably still just wants to keep in touch so that you will come into the club and spend time and money on her again.
    The only way you will find out is to text her .
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    This is like pulling teeth....
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    Quote Originally Posted by OliveJardin View Post
    ^My "stripper sense" is telling me to warn you that she probably still just wants to keep in touch so that you will come into the club and spend time and money on her again.
    The only way you will find out is to text her .
    My “Customer Sense” is kinda telling me the same thing. Every dancer who wanted to see me outside of work gave me contact info before I could ask. Plus almost all dancers I've known have at least two phones and use one exclusively for work contacts. None of this means she isn't interested, just keep your eyes open and your feet on the ground.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    One night I was in the club and some mug asked for her number, she just gave him the clubs number, and told him she only had calling. We both had a laugh about it. If she had her own separate line for work contacts why not simply give the man the number, he bought like four dances.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    dude, i give my crap stripper number to any regular that spends..doesn't mean ill hang out with them! i even say "sure, you're cool!" wtf else should i say at a time like that, most strippers don't want it to get akward and turn a good spending customer down like they would a dude in real life. don't get too excited, IF she hangs out with you for free, THEN you can start getting excited. but really its not fair to even ask that of her. she may enjoy your company but but you are a paying customer, that's how she earns her living! that's like somebody asking you to do work for free or give up money because they are interested in you.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    Nat, don't listen to all of these mean and jaded people. I think that she really likes you, but she needs to get to know you better. Remember, not only does she deal with lots of mean and tricky guys in the club, but she probably has a lot of other life issues (don't they all?), so trust is no doubt hard for her to form. You could be just the type of man that she truly needs, but patience is key here. Just keep visiting her at the club and I am certain that it will all shake out soon enough.

    And also keep in mind that, as much as you are CLEARLY different to her than all of those other guys, she cannot be at work without making her rent and food money, so be sensitive to making sure that she doesn't lose out while she is using you as her port in the storm. Now some guys just don't understand the dedication that it takes to win over a stripper, but I think that you are cut from a different cloth. Hell, if you must, work a second job to fund the time needed for her to truly trust you.

    Nothing good comes without time and sacrifice. Good luck and keep us posted on how it goes. I don't know about anyone else around here, but IMHO there is nothing as heart warming as a good club romance story.

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    Rickdugan, I concur. In some inexplicable way, there is something "modern-day" special about finding the right person at a club, on either end. Of course, I'm sure the "party line" for everybody on where they met will be "in line at Starbucks..."

    Honestly one of the mods should just start a sticky thread with a general summary with advice and suggestions for this type of question/situation as responses are nearly always the same...

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    Default Re: Does this dancer perhaps think of me as more than a customer?

    If you are looking for something other than a dancer/customer relationship, inform her you are no longer interested in being just a customer. Things may or may not progress from that point, but I wouldn't set my expectations too high.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    Nat, don't listen to all of these mean and jaded people. I think that she really likes you, but she needs to get to know you better. Remember, not only does she deal with lots of mean and tricky guys in the club, but she probably has a lot of other life issues (don't they all?), so trust is no doubt hard for her to form. You could be just the type of man that she truly needs, but patience is key here. Just keep visiting her at the club and I am certain that it will all shake out soon enough.

    And also keep in mind that, as much as you are CLEARLY different to her than all of those other guys, she cannot be at work without making her rent and food money, so be sensitive to making sure that she doesn't lose out while she is using you as her port in the storm. Now some guys just don't understand the dedication that it takes to win over a stripper, but I think that you are cut from a different cloth. Hell, if you must, work a second job to fund the time needed for her to truly trust you.

    Nothing good comes without time and sacrifice. Good luck and keep us posted on how it goes. I don't know about anyone else around here, but IMHO there is nothing as heart warming as a good club romance story.
    Speaking of trust. I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and that's when she offered her number. She said she was surprised I didn't ask a long time ago and I told her I didn't want to be one of "those guys" who just come in and start asking for number. She said it was a good thing and that waiting so long made me trustworthy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    Strippers are usually pretty forward people - as least where men/liking someone are concerned. If she's not making a move beyond trying to get you into the club more or get you to stay longer to hang with her at the club, she probably just likes you as a customer. Otherwise, she'd make it known she wants more.
    Nat, what Aurora have said above is very true^ i asked this kind of question a while back, and most of them told me they will go out of there way to make u know they realy like u. So far i dont see her having "really" gone out of here way to make it clear. Except for "like" on ur FB page but to me not something out of the ordinary!. Offcourse the fact that she told you she was wating for u to ask for her number, is good signe and the way she said it to u but for me not enough to belive it is something more. I am sure she likes u as a friend.

    The only way to truly find out is to ask her out, or text her and see what she say, like i said in my last post, if she say yes, but give u an excuse why she can not meet the day of or before two times in a row, then u know. I would tell u my experice in this, but i promised some of the other guys i wouldn't, after having reffered to it to many times so i want,

    I hope it will go your way, but just keep in mind that, the outcome might not be what u want, But don't wait to much longer to ask! u wait to long to ask, she might loose intrest, and you will be stuck in the friends zone, once u r there, it wil be hard to get back to the intreset zone (this is reffernce to all women) if what she said to u last time, (wating for u to ask for he number, and making u trustworth) is any idication for here intrest in u, (personaly not convinced) she is wating/excpecting u to ask her out sooon

    Good luck Nat, and may the stripper Gods be on your side

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    This little adventure has been going in circles long enough. The OP knows what to do next...

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