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    Question Would you get a piercing/tattoo even if your S.O. found it unattractive?

    I'm curious...I really want to get a belly button piercing but my husband said he really thinks they are a turn-off and not attractive. I know some people might say "who cares what he wants, he should accept you blah blah" but everyone does things to make their S.O. attracted to them (I hope!). I will most likely still get one because I have wanted one for years and I know he'll still love me and love my body. He strangely said that he thought nose rings are attractive and I don't think they are, haha!

    So, would you or have you gotten body work done that your S.O. HATED? What happened afterwards?

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    Default Re: Would you get a piercing/tattoo even if your S.O. found it unattractive?

    Only semi relevant because I got it before I met him (and would have gotten it anyway) but my new dude does not like that I have part of my head shaved and a tattoo on my head. I do tend to wear my hair parted over it when I'm around him so it's not as visible, but I have no plans in the near future to grow my hair back over it, which is what he thinks I should do. Nope. It's my head lol.

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    Default Re: Would you get a piercing/tattoo even if your S.O. found it unattractive?

    I'm pretty fond of my boyfriend, so I tend to ask for his input before I make any crazy changes. I'm also very impulsive with my appearance though, so it's probably a good idea, otherwise I'd have something like one ear tattooed with pink and purple zebra stripes and my favorite sonnet etched across my ass in webdings. Piercings aren't that important to me, so I probably wouldn't get one if my boyfriend really hated the idea. Then again, it's just a belly button ring, so it's not life-altering if you do get it, or as though it's something facial that he'd have to see every time he looked at you. I've met a lot of guys who think navel piercings look "trashy," so if that's the case, I'd probably get it out of spiteful pride and tell him to get over it.

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    I actually have a few times. It may be kind of selfish. I mean, shouldn't your SO be the person you want to find you the most attractive. Yet in the same way, if you like it you should be able to look the way you want and your SO should love you for what's inside. But you have to admit, most of us care about how our bf/gf looks, and if they were attracted to you initially, but they aren't into an alternative look etc, it could affect things and you really can't blame them for not being as attracted to you if you get a piercing they hate. I got my labret pierced while I was with my really clean-cut bf who hated piercings and only had one tattoo. We ended up staying together at least three years after that. Then, right before we broke up I got my tongue and two parts of cartilage in my ears pierced. I broke up with him though, so I guess it didn't affect his attraction to me much.

    I find it funny, I'm thinking about getting my hood pierced on my pussy. And my current boyfriend told me that he brought a gf in to get that once. It totally made me not wanna get the same piercing as her... bitch But turns out he had it confused.. he thought I was talking about my clit, and I'm not.. so I guess I can still get that pierced haha. I also remember telling my ex that I wanted to get the webbing pierced in my tongue, and he told me an ex gf used to have that.. END of that idea haha. I get a little jealous of the thought of the man I love's ex girlfriends.

    My baby's dad has about 25 tats, and the funny thing is, not long after we fell in love I got pregnant and basically this alternative dude caused me to take out all of my piercing my knocking me up LOL

    I want to get a piercing. Bf is not too into the idea of piercing the hood on my vajayjay. I just started camming, and I was kinda thinking about the business and what would be most marketable. (I wouldn't get a piercing JUST for the job's sake, but I just like the way getting pierced feels, so I'm not too picky about which one out of my list I should get). My bf thinks that customers online would like a tongue piercing more.. I wonder if he's right, but it probably doesn't matter because I have a second interview for a sales job tomorrow and they probably wouldn't allow me to have my tongue pierced anyway...
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    I still can't understand why people care about OTHER PEOPLE'S choices that don't affect them or hurt anyone. I go with the whole "ONE DAY WE ARE ALL GOING TO BE DEAD AND DUMB CRAP YOU CARED TOO MUCH ABOUT WON'T MATTER" and then they usually come to their senses. But its true. One day we will all be dead or dying or too old to function and the things you cared too much about won't matter, and the things you didn't care enough about (like FRIENDSHIPS) will be all you regret.

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    eh I have this prob my bf thinks tattoos are trashy. I'm gonna go ahead and get one as soon as I pick a design I want. The way I see it it's my body my life I might not be with him forever. So I might as well make MYSELF happy. I wish he had tats I don't see him going to get any so why should I listen to him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TaTasha View Post
    I actually have a few times. It may be kind of selfish. I mean, shouldn't your SO be the person you want to find you the most attractive. Yet in the same way, if you like it you should be able to look the way you want and your SO should love you for what's inside. But you have to admit, most of us care about how our bf/gf looks, and if they were attracted to you initially, but they aren't into an alternative look etc, it could affect things and you really can't blame them for not being as attracted to you if you get a piercing they hate. I got my labret pierced while I was with my really clean-cut bf who hated piercings and only had one tattoo. We ended up staying together at least three years after that. Then, right before we broke up I got my tongue and two parts of cartilage in my ears pierced. I broke up with him though, so I guess it didn't affect his attraction to me much.

    I find it funny, I'm thinking about getting my hood pierced on my pussy. And my current boyfriend told me that he brought a gf in to get that once. It totally made me not wanna get the same piercing as her... bitch But turns out he had it confused.. he thought I was talking about my clit, and I'm not.. so I guess I can still get that pierced haha. I also remember telling my ex that I wanted to get the webbing pierced in my tongue, and he told me an ex gf used to have that.. END of that idea haha. I get a little jealous of the thought of the man I love's ex girlfriends.

    My baby's dad has about 25 tats, and the funny thing is, not long after we fell in love I got pregnant and basically this alternative dude caused me to take out all of my piercing my knocking me up LOL

    I want to get a piercing. Bf is not too into the idea of piercing the hood on my vajayjay. I just started camming, and I was kinda thinking about the business and what would be most marketable. (I wouldn't get a piercing JUST for the job's sake, but I just like the way getting pierced feels, so I'm not too picky about which one out of my list I should get). My bf thinks that customers online would like a tongue piercing more.. I wonder if he's right, but it probably doesn't matter because I have a second interview for a sales job tomorrow and they probably wouldn't allow me to have my tongue pierced anyway...
    I'm a cam model & I have my tongue, nipples & vertical hood done- the guys seems to like my pussy piercing best

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    Quote Originally Posted by TaTasha View Post
    I want to get a piercing. Bf is not too into the idea of piercing the hood on my vajayjay. I just started camming, and I was kinda thinking about the business and what would be most marketable.
    I thought about that too. I don't cam but I do club dancing and I am sensitive about my stomach. I am pretty fit but right around my belly button I have never been able to quite get rid of the fat. I feel like a piercing would enhance my stomach...so yeah, if I feel sexier, then I AM sexier, which equals more $$$. LOL.

    Thanks for the rest of your story. VERY interesting to read. I must say, I don't enjoy piercings like you do though haha! I can't even imagine getting my coochy piereced!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TattooedBBW View Post
    I'm a cam model & I have my tongue, nipples & vertical hood done- the guys seems to like my pussy piercing best
    That's what I figured! ! Even if you don't do public cumshows(I'm not as of yet) I bet you'll be more likely to get regulars cuz they'll feel like they know a sexy secret or something. Do you love the way it feels?
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    I still can't understand why people care about OTHER PEOPLE'S choices that don't affect them or hurt anyone. I go with the whole "ONE DAY WE ARE ALL GOING TO BE DEAD AND DUMB CRAP YOU CARED TOO MUCH ABOUT WON'T MATTER" and then they usually come to their senses. But its true. One day we will all be dead or dying or too old to function and the things you cared too much about won't matter, and the things you didn't care enough about (like FRIENDSHIPS) will be all you regret.

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    My ex hated my belly button ring, said it was trashy. He literally would take it off when we were fooling around because I couldn't tell he was unscrewing the piercing and try to hide it from me. It annoyed the shit out of me and I told him to STFU because I love it and it makes me feel sexy. Do what YOU want! Always!
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    Quote Originally Posted by funismymiddlename View Post
    eh I have this prob my bf thinks tattoos are trashy. I'm gonna go ahead and get one as soon as I pick a design I want. The way I see it it's my body my life I might not be with him forever. So I might as well make MYSELF happy. I wish he had tats I don't see him going to get any so why should I listen to him.
    Oh, yeah. When he was just my boyfriend I wish I had gotten it done. But now I do feel like I have to consider his feelings since I took the big vows hehe...but not TOO much. I wish he would develop his upper body more (he's an olympic level runner so he's VERY in shape but most runners upper body is smallish) but he refuses to do those types of work-outs, so fairs fair!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissSassyPickles View Post
    My ex hated my belly button ring, said it was trashy. He literally would take it off when we were fooling around because I couldn't tell he was unscrewing the piercing and try to hide it from me. It annoyed the shit out of me and I told him to STFU because I love it and it makes me feel sexy. Do what YOU want! Always!
    LOL! My hubby said the same thing--it's trashy! I was smh...I don't see how it is. Women have been getting their navels pierced for centuries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FireAngelAnna View Post
    I thought about that too. I don't cam but I do club dancing and I am sensitive about my stomach. I am pretty fit but right around my belly button I have never been able to quite get rid of the fat. I feel like a piercing would enhance my stomach...so yeah, if I feel sexier, then I AM sexier, which equals more $$$. LOL.

    Thanks for the rest of your story. VERY interesting to read. I must say, I don't enjoy piercings like you do though haha! I can't even imagine getting my coochy piereced!
    I can't imagine getting my clit pierced, or my nipples. Those seem like they would be sooooo sensitive. But the hood is above your clit and not actually thru your clit.. I assume it would feel the same as getting your belly button pierced, which wasn't bad. Anything flesh in my experience(not cartilage or tongue muscle) feels about the same and really is just a little pinch. If you have a high pain tolerance, it will barely hurt at all, so I think you should go for it!
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    I still can't understand why people care about OTHER PEOPLE'S choices that don't affect them or hurt anyone. I go with the whole "ONE DAY WE ARE ALL GOING TO BE DEAD AND DUMB CRAP YOU CARED TOO MUCH ABOUT WON'T MATTER" and then they usually come to their senses. But its true. One day we will all be dead or dying or too old to function and the things you cared too much about won't matter, and the things you didn't care enough about (like FRIENDSHIPS) will be all you regret.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TaTasha View Post
    I can't imagine getting my clit pierced, or my nipples. Those seem like they would be sooooo sensitive. But the hood is above your clit and not actually thru your clit.. I assume it would feel the same as getting your belly button pierced, which wasn't bad. Anything flesh in my experience(not cartilage or tongue muscle) feels about the same and really is just a little pinch. If you have a high pain tolerance, it will barely hurt at all, so I think you should go for it!
    Yeah that makes sense. I'm sure you have more experience than me! I only have my ears pierced atm. I have a tiny tiny hood though so no way is that ever happening.

    Definitely looking into the navel piercing soon! I don't think I would get my nose pierced though. Doesn't it permanently scar the cartilage?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TaTasha View Post
    That's what I figured! ! Even if you don't do public cumshows(I'm not as of yet) I bet you'll be more likely to get regulars cuz they'll feel like they know a sexy secret or something. Do you love the way it feels?
    Absolutely love it!!! It's so sexy. It's one of my ways to get guys into private shows "come take me private ill show u my pussy piercing" haha guys eat it up

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    Quote Originally Posted by FireAngelAnna View Post
    Yeah that makes sense. I'm sure you have more experience than me! I only have my ears pierced atm. I have a tiny tiny hood though so no way is that ever happening.

    Definitely looking into the navel piercing soon! I don't think I would get my nose pierced though. Doesn't it permanently scar the cartilage?
    Nah I had both sides of my nose pierced for 8 years, I took one out and u can't see it.. It's been out for a while and u wouldn't even know it was ever pierced

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    My hubby is sitting here playing a game next to me. I told him I'm getting it done...he's pouting LOL. He said "I guess I'll have to get used to it". I agreed to wear a smaller piercing when not at work. Compromise, the heart of married life. :p

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    yup! my boyfriend doesn't like tattoos, or piercings, or any kind of plastic surgery but its MY body, and my confidence and happiness with it is what matters to me and should matter to him

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    I don't like tattoos, but if I like the girl it wont matter.

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    I've learned a lot of the time, if you just do it anyways they will learn to like it! I don't have any tattoos or extreme piercings, but one thing my boyfriend was not fond of at first was when I started tanning and getting really dark. He kept telling me he didn't like super tan girls, but I did it anyways, and now I've even got a few compliments out of him on my new tan (:

    Anyways, my point is, it can't hurt to experiment. Especially if it's something semi permanent like a belly button ring. If he absolutely hates it and it makes your relationship miserable..the worst that can happen is you take it out and have a little hole where it used to be..if even that. Chances are it will grow on him if you do it!

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    Well, you can take a piercing out temporarily, so I'd say it's a no-brainer! Get it for sure. Just take it out during the sexytimes as a compromise, and leave it in the rest of the time.

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    I showed up to my future husbands house with my septum pierced one night out of the blue. He looked at me very sadly and asked if it was for real. I said YEP. He said he hated it at first. We got married, he learned to love it over time he took it back. We arent together anymore but still, do it for you!! Ive had boyfriends since with mixed opinions on it and at the end of the day when I look in the mirror, I love it so deal with it.

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    Yes, totally! It's your body!


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    ...he probably wouldn't even notice (he loves and is attracted to you-so a small piece of bling isn't going to change that in a hurry). Idk why, but some guys seem to think of belly button piercings as being a like lower back tattoos . But neither have to be "tacky" and he'll see that.

    I've died and cut my hair over years when SOs have said, "I wouldn't like that/I like you like this ..." or "Nooo! It won't look good!!!". But every time, they have liked it (if they have even noticed). It's your body and you know what will look good on it .

    Anyway, it's not a drastic change like getting a full sleeve or going from blonde to bright pink after all.
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    ...he probably wouldn't even notice (he loves and is attracted to you-so a small piece of bling isn't going to change that in a hurry). Idk why, but some guys seem to think of belly button piercings as being a like lower back tattoos . But neither have to be "tacky" and he'll see that.

    I've died and cut my hair over years when SOs have said, "I wouldn't like that/I like you like this ..." or "Nooo! It won't look good!!!". But every time, they have liked it (if they have even noticed). It's your body and you know what will look good on it .

    Anyway, it's not a drastic change like getting a full sleeve or going from blonde to bright pink after all.
    Guys are so silly lol! Yeah, I've heard they think it's trashy now? I'm like, why? Girls have been getting belly button rings for centuries. Was it trashy then? I think my husband has settled into it. Or he's hoping I forgot about it

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