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    I know my regulars want me to go out w them and since things are so bad at my club I'm considering it. I just want to do dinner no private dances for safety reasons and no sex. How do I bring this up and let them know they have to pay for my time? I'm not sure if this will work or not but I think maybe I should try....?

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    Guys don't generally go to strip clubs for conversation. They go to see sexy, naked women and get lap dances. Conversation is nice..it's like a garnish or how food is arranged on a plate. People go to a restaurant to eat...if the food looks good, or is arranged nicely on the plate then it's an extra little perk but not something that keeps ya going back to the restaurant. If you can get some lonely sucker to do that...go for it. However, if a guy is that desparate I certainly wouldn't trust him at all.

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    ^ not necessarily at all! many men come for conversation, the gf experience, etc. i've gone out with custy's to dinner and been paid for it before, and it didn't make them anymore desperate than paying me hundreds to see my pussy!

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    When I danced i had certain regulars who I would let take me out to dinner, and I went on a few 'dates' with regs or tourists. Basically, I let them ask, lets face it guys who want that always seem to ask, and only with those I felt absolutely safe with. I'd make them show me their ID and put the info on my phone just in case (flirtatiously, ohh baby now i can visit you at home bla bla), then leave the phone in my car or upload the info to my email. It was fun and a lot easier and faster $ then hustling at the club.

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    Chloemay - "It was fun and a lot easier and faster $ then hustling at the club" ....I'm guessing they got more than a nice conversation too.





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    Simone87 - The gf experience entails alot more than conversation. If people are paying you hundreds to see your pussy at the strip club then you certainly are unique! What I mean is that hundreds usually don't come into play until the VIP room etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigPole View Post
    Guys don't generally go to strip clubs for conversation. They go to see sexy, naked women and get lap dances. Conversation is nice..it's like a garnish or how food is arranged on a plate. People go to a restaurant to eat...if the food looks good, or is arranged nicely on the plate then it's an extra little perk but not something that keeps ya going back to the restaurant. If you can get some lonely sucker to do that...go for it. However, if a guy is that desparate I certainly wouldn't trust him at all.
    Not true at all. In fact, I hardly dance I don't even go on stage. I make money with conversation.

    Lonely sucker? Desperate? I think you're a little too judgmental. Not to be rude but what are you doing on this site? Your comments are pretty rude.

    OP, when guys ask me out, I ask them "Will you take care of me? I'm getting tired of coming here, it'd be nice to entertain you outside the club- just me and you." It's straight to the point, this way make it sounds like they're saving you or something and guys love to be heros, and it seems like it benefits them.

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    BigPole, you sound like you are inexperienced. Don't come in here telling US what our job entails. We work in strip clubs and you're just a customer. You're the outsider. And for your information, I make good money without having sex. If you're going to be this judgmental, you don't belong here at all.

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    JoJoX - Interesting how you are calling me judgemental considering the content of your reply. The topic is dating outside the club...so your comment of "I make good money without having sex" is referring to your job of dating outside the club? Your banter of what you say sounds promising but is contradictory to everything else. Concerning my experience, I've been to most of the clubs in Southern California, and a few in two other states and have been going for about 10 years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigPole View Post
    JoJoX - Interesting how you are calling me judgemental considering the content of your reply. The topic is dating outside the club...so your comment of "I make good money without having sex" is referring to your job of dating outside the club? Your banter of what you say sounds promising but is contradictory to everything else. Concerning my experience, I've been to most of the clubs in Southern California, and a few in two other states and have been going for about 10 years.
    How is my reply judgmental? I'm telling you that you are being rude and that's a fact. When I said I make good money, I was talking about in and out the club. Nothing about my advice to the poster was contradicting at all and since I actually work in the club, unlike you, I think I would know what I'm talking about. It worked 8/10 times, and in fact, I still see the same guys outside the club so it's not like I'm making empty promises. Why would you answer a post that has nothing to do with you? And 10 years? I wouldn't expect such snarky comments from someone who's been around that long.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BigPole View Post
    Simone87 - The gf experience entails alot more than conversation. If people are paying you hundreds to see your pussy at the strip club then you certainly are unique! What I mean is that hundreds usually don't come into play until the VIP room etc.
    are you implying i have to do extras to earn my money? customers pay me hundreds to talk, entertain, dance, as well as show my pussy and give them the "gf experience" without sex. i don't believe im that unique either, in fact im not a top earner. some of the girls i know earn hundreds without even showing their pussy. and just by talking. not all men want sex in the strip club, and some of them are willing to pay big money just for our company. shocking i know, but please don't assume so much when you are clearly not a dancer yourself..not trying to be rude but many dancers earn their money in different ways.
    anyways, jasmine just be careful that you feel absolutely comfortable with them and that you don't put yourself in danger! do some background checks and be safe girl!

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    JoJox - Here is your contradiction "it'd be nice to entertain you outside the club- just me and you." So by "entertain" you mean "talk"? That's too big of a stretch and thus a contradiction. JoJoX, I'm sorry you feel I'm being rude to people who aren't even in this thread and who are unamed strangers? If what you are saying is true they should open up Conversation Clubs and Talking Clubs where all you do is talk and get paid...I haven't heard of that.

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    simone87 - You and JoJoX should open up the nation's first conversation club. If what you are saying is true, you both will be rich in no time and will pioneer a whole new industry. I love innovative, progressive women who are entrepreneurs so go for it. As for me, I will keep going to strip clubs to see beautiful naked women and getting fabulous dances. You have given good advice though...anyone who is willing to pay you to converse over dinner and that is it...should be investigated!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigPole View Post
    JoJox - Here is your contradiction "it'd be nice to entertain you outside the club- just me and you." So by "entertain" you mean "talk"? That's too big of a stretch and thus a contradiction. JoJoX, I'm sorry you feel I'm being rude to people who aren't even in this thread and who are unamed strangers? If what you are saying is true they should open up Conversation Clubs and Talking Clubs where all you do is talk and get paid...I haven't heard of that.
    Lol, really dude? Entertain can mean a lot of things. Talk, private dances, going out to party, telling joke- hell what if I know how to juggle 5 china plates without dropping them? Entertaining is something that has to come to terms between the two parties. Again, do not tell us dancers what we do for money considering you're not a dancer. Don't tell me what I do on my dates. Unnamed strangers? You are CLEARLY talking to the people who are posting on this thread. What I am saying is true because again I WORK IN THE CLUBS! YOU DO NOT. Some guys DO COME TO CLUBS FOR CONVERSATION. Just because YOU don't doesn't mean ALL men feel the same way you do. People come to clubs for all types of reasons.

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    crawl back in your hole, troll! good god

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    simone87 - Don't be so harsh with JoJoX.

    JoJoX - LOL. ? The people I called desperate etc. are GUYS that aren't here discussing the issue.

    You two have a great gig...talking = $....all the power to ya!

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    JoJoX - Report away...LOL. The only comment I made was towards guys who are not here and I called them desperate and lonely suckers. Strange how you so badly want to believe I was rude to you just because I have a different opinion. What do you call that?

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    JoJoX - thanks for the laughs...lighten up or you will have a heart attack.

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    I understand "Big Pole" that for you giving money to a woman to enjoy her company isn't something you're into. For other men it is. The whole " in the VIP' yeah that works for some but not all. Remember she asked if it's possible and it is very much so.

    You call these men desperate but the same can be said about a man that has to pay for someone to touch him in the first place. See doesn't feel great right?

    Just respect that people enjoy what they enjoy so you can continue enjoying the things you do.

    It's not one size fits all in this world. Remember that.

    In other news...

    To the OP;

    Yes it's quite possible and my friend that dances is seeing a customer now. He flew her out to hang with me and arrived shortly after. They haven't slept together because it's way too obvious that he's not getting any. I don't see him as desperate but it's clear that he really enjoys her company and they appear to have a blast.

    I also agree with the savior mentality. Some men really do love swooping in to take care of things. What I was also surprised with was that he's not hideous. He's an average looking guy but seems quite down to earth.

    She's tried with a few but others had the same mentality as Big Pole so she just tells them to see her in the club and avoids any interest when they mention the VIP ROOM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigPole View Post
    Chloemay - "It was fun and a lot easier and faster $ then hustling at the club" ....I'm guessing they got more than a nice conversation too.




    To clarify, I had a couple of sex customers and a few dinner/date customers. Pilots and traveling businessmen were good for nice steakhouse dinners, even better if he was a food snob, we could check out upscale trendy places (usually over-rated by the way).

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    Um, so back on topic...

    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    I know my regulars want me to go out w them and since things are so bad at my club I'm considering it. I just want to do dinner no private dances for safety reasons and no sex. How do I bring this up and let them know they have to pay for my time? I'm not sure if this will work or not but I think maybe I should try....?
    Why do you want to do this? Do you think you'll make more money taking them OTC or do you have a lot of regulars heckling you to go OTC? If it's the former, forget it. All regulars have a shelf life and OTC generally speeds up the expiration date. Keep in them in the club if you can and you'll make more in the long run. If it's the latter, I mean, they probably get the fact that they have to pay you for your time OTC. The best way to bring it up is to simply say you have to take a night off from work so they'll have to make up for that. Have a figure in mind that's higher than you could realistically earn in the club. Be confident in your quote and don't let them talk you down.

    Honestly, I really wouldn't recommend broaching the topic with customers who have never indicated any interest in OTC though. Some dudes really just prefer to visit a strip club and pay a lady for her time. There's no need to do take-out to stay competitive. Best of luck with whatever you choose though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine22 View Post
    I know my regulars want me to go out w them and since things are so bad at my club I'm considering it. I just want to do dinner no private dances for safety reasons and no sex. How do I bring this up and let them know they have to pay for my time? I'm not sure if this will work or not but I think maybe I should try....?
    I don't think it's a bad idea, but don't set your expectations too high. I've done the whole, "Let's go out on a date and you can pay me $XYZ for my time I'm missing from work!" and the guy is either not that into it or thinks it's totally a legit date and tries to make a move, regardless of the fact that he's paying. Also, this tends to just make the custy salty about the fact that he's pretty much blatantly paying for a date, with no action at the end. As has been said, all regs have a shelf life and this tends to make them go staler even faster. It's not impossible to pull off but the short-term rewards may have a long-term affect on your business.

    Another angle that I have worked that's been relatively more successful is I'll let the guy take me out on a dinner date before work and then agree that when he drops me off, he stays around to do dances or goes straight into the CR. This worked really well when I was working in Guam and made a large portion of my money in drink commissions. Dude takes me OTC for dinner, brings me to the club (because no stripper in her right mind misses a night of work, on Guam), and immediately takes a seat at the bar and starts lining up my $20-$50 drinks. I found that by the time he was out of there, he'd spent what I would have asked him to pay me on me and still didn't have any expectations outside of our stripper/custy relationship. Also, when he's gone, I can just go about my normal night, more relaxed that my goal-money has already been made off of one guy. So, ultimately, I got a free, decent dinner right before work, custy got to get his "OTC bonding"-time in, and I still get paid without blowing off a shift! Everybody wins.
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    Oh gosh, must we ? Ladies I respectfully suggest you ignore an obvious ignoramus like "BigPole". I'll avoid the obvious jokes about his selection of a handle.

    The fact is that I have been in a number of clubs where ladies are paid to sit and talk to custies. I haven't paid for conversation and think it's kind of ridiculous but it definitely happens. There are guys that will pay for the company of a pretty lady to do little more than chat. What's wrong with that ?

    I've also dated more than my share of dancers and engaged in OTC activities. I NEVER "paid" for it except for one activity I'd rather not post about on a public board for obvious reasons. I bought many a nice dinner , tickets for the Rangers, Yankees and several concerts and made several trips to nice places at my expense. Why not ?
    Did I ever pay for "shopping sprees" ? No, but I did take dancers shopping and bought a few things.

    Are there guys willing to pay a dancer for her time to go to dinner etc. ? Yep. More than a few. Most of them are gentlemen but there are a few assholes that require caution and avoidance.

    Do most of them expect sex ? Some do but oddly enough most don't. Shhhh - some of them can't, even with the help of a little pill.

    In short, it's a big world out there with all sorts of people and all sorts of opportunities.
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    Just going to add my 2 cents. Yes, guys DO pay for conversation/company in the club. Just last Thursday a guy paid me $100 to sit and talk with him the last 15-20min of the night because he was pissed off that two other guys asked me on stage to get dances and he wasn't done talking to me. I told him I could make $40 in less than 10 minutes from those two and that I'm working and time is money. He laughed and said I was hustling but he pulled out 5 $20s and asked me to stay. He REALLY wanted to "get wit me" as he put it and it was a rather awkward conversation, but yes it happens a lot so other guys that think it doesn't are crazy. They get all competitive when their favorite dancer's time is in demand.

    As far as the OTC date thing. Yes, I've done it when I was single. A few regulars and semi regulars liked to take dancers out to breakfast after work. They paid each dancer a varied amount and that's it. They liked the attention. We drove our own cars so no funny business. One time I went to breakfast with a regular and I fell asleep for like 10 minutes at the table! He thought it was hilarious and was a little concerned. (I was just super tired after a 6hr busy shift and a few drinks.) A couple other real dates I went on the guys paid me a full nights work that I quoted to them because I had to call off work both times. One was to a baseball game and it was a Tuesday so I asked for $500. Another was a Friday night out downtown to see a band. I asked for I think $800 but I think I took off $100 because he paid for everything. Both times I drove myself and took down their full name and address and made it clear that I was telling my roommate who they were and where I was going. One guy I never saw again because he was only in town for that week. The other came to see me 2x a month in the club until I quit 2 months later. Most guys DO want either sex or a serious dating type relationship so be careful and make it clear. If you have to swindle them or hint at sex later to get them to pay for a night off it's not worth it. They could get violent or ruin your rep! It's fun though especially if you're single. Good luck!

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    It can be done but I wouldn't do it if you're going to miss work UNLESS he is willing to pay for your above average figure you would make at work AND knows that there won't be any sex at all. I also wouldn't suggest it to them. That's opening a can of worms you don't really need opened.

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