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    Dizzy Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    Hi there, I am new to the site and this is my first post.
    Looking for some serious advice and was told this was the site to ask it on lol, so here goes.

    Ok so I have been a regular of a girl for a year now. I started seeing her at one club and even followed her to a different club when she switched.
    I see her on a weekly basis and always spend money on her. I buy her drinks get dances and tip her on stage.
    She usually will go have breakfast with me afterwards and we hang out now and then outside the club.
    She is my favorite dancer and I only go to see her, I never get dances from any other dancer.
    She does not do anything dirty, the most she lets me do is grab her boobs, just making this clear lol.

    Here is problem I am having, every dance I get from her is exactly the same. There is no change or difference they are exactly the same lol.
    I love getting dances from her but it has become repetitive and frankly I am becoming bored with them.
    How can I deal with this issue and address it with her without her getting angry or upset at me?

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    First off, I'd like to thank you for being awesome. Not many regs left like you anymore.

    She more than likely got comfortable with you and stopped being creative. Same way some people get married and just let their selves go.

    Next time you see her say in a playful way "Hey let's try some new moves, you're so good at the ones you do now, I'm curious to see what else you got." Or something along those lines.

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    I am just worried about bringing it up because I do not want to upset her or make her feel like I am saying her dances are bad.
    It is just the repetitiveness that is bothering me and it is starting to burn me out.
    And honestly I would rather address the situation even if it does make her mad, because it is better addressing the issue I really do not want to stop getting dances but that is where I am heading if we do not resolve the situation.

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    Also if I say "I'm curious to see what else you got." I am worried she will think I am asking for extras or something.

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    Honestly, I think maybe you're worrying too much and over analyzing. If a reg told me that I'm good at my moves and want to see more moves, it wouldn't upset me. If you really thinks she may think you're asking for extras, just specify moves as in dances. Besides, why would you be asking for extras INSIDE the club when she has already met you outside the club? You could of easily got extras in your car or something, lol. I don't get why she would get mad... And you're the customer, you're the one paying for this- you need to speak up because a closed mouth won't get fed.

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    Ok I will go with the new moves line and see what happens. If it comes down to it I will just explain everything to her.
    I'm pretty sure she will be fine with changing the routine up.
    I have never tried getting extras from her by the way. Don't get me wrong I would totally love to be able to do more with her than just dances but I respect her too much to even think about asking about that stuff.

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    Are extras usually involved with OTC? I have just taken her to shows, concerts, ect.
    Never brought up extras...She is a clean dancer so...

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    We all have a routine and "moves" that have become automatic-so she probably doesn't even realise she's being repetitive or "boring" (she's just going through her choreography; moves that accentuate her assets, she feels are entertaining and sexy and moves that she's comfortable doing). Also, she's probably comfortable with you and thinks she knows what you like and expect. As long as you are polite about it and avoid the word "boring"-then telling her shouldn't be a big issue. Something along the lines of, "I love your moves-do you have an sexy new ones to show me?" or "I really like it when you/girls do xyz" would suffice. Or, you could just suggest playing "Simon says" jks ?

    Do you two always go to the same room/area of the club? For example, she's going to dance differently on different seating etc (this will depend on the club's set up though).

    Goodluck...be careful not to direct her and keep your comments positive and playful...and remember a dancer HATES being told how to do her job!
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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    We have a favorite spot. The dance area is all the same though.

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    Dancer/customer relationahips often have a shelf lufe of less than a year. You may have just reached that point.
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    I think you're blurring the boundary between friend and client. She's there to entertain you in exchange for your money. This is a business transaction, and if you're not satisfied with the service you're getting (repetitive dances) then you just politely say so. She's been at this for at least a year, so she knows how this works and is unlikely to take it personally like you seem to think she will. Hell, she'd probably appreciate knowing you're bored so she can spice things up and keep you as her customer for longer.

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    Getting dances from only one dancer in only one club is going to get boring sooner or later. You may be able to talk things over with her and get her to try a few new moves but I don't really think that's the problem. What you are missing is the variety of having different women dance for you. I have favorite dancers but I have at least one or two in about five different clubs that I frequent. I am loyal to all of them but I rarely visit the same girl twice in a row. I think it's great that you are loyal and generous to this gal but it doesn't mean that she has to be the only dancer that you get dances from.
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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    IMHO, this...

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    I think you're blurring the boundary between friend and client. She's there to entertain you in exchange for your money.
    ...and this:

    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Getting dances from only one dancer in only one club is going to get boring sooner or later. You may be able to talk things over with her and get her to try a few new moves but I don't really think that's the problem. What you are missing is the variety of having different women dance for you.
    You could probably get her to switch things up a bit, but I agree with Yoda that the ultimate issue is that you are bored with her. I doubt that there is a whole heck of a lot that she could really do to wow you further if she hasn't already, at least short of doing things that are clearly beyond her boundaries. There are only so many ways that one can cook chicken.

    I also agree with shanna's belief that you are blurring the line between friend and customer. I suspect that this boredom has been creeping up on you for some time now, but that you have let it build up for fear of upsetting her. Perhaps you have enjoyed the OTC time with her enough that you've been willing to tolerate it until now.

    Idk. All train rides come to an end and it may be time to search for another favorite (in the parlance of dancers and customers on these boards). Now Yoda's approach involves spreading it out among multiple dancers, but there are a lot of guys who operate more like you by concentrating their spending on one particular dancer at a time. I think that there are good cases to be made for both approaches. Whichever way you go, however, I suspect that you may need a break from this one.

    Good luck!

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    Is having her bring a friend over for double dances or alternating an option? When I sense a customer is getting bored, I'll bring over another super hot girl (who I'm friends with) and I know is entertaining over to help out the situation.

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    Default Re: Regular looking for advice on addressing dance issue

    if you are bored, its time to try something new in my opinion,

    what you are doing is like going to the same restaurant every week, and ordering the same meal off the menu every time, and then you are complaining because its the same, well what did you expect? you got what you ordered,

    the simple solution is to order a different meal.....understand?

    on a side note, you are worrying way too much about nothing, you are only a dollar bill to her, she probably doesn't care one bit about you or what you think, she has many others just like you, dont kid yourself and think you are special to her,

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    This is kind of off topic but how can I determine if a dancer is willing to do stuff OTC?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    This is kind of off topic but how can I determine if a dancer is willing to do stuff OTC?
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    JMO and I can see other dancers disagree but I would be annoyed if a customer asked me to "see different moves" or to dance differently or anything like that. Every dancer has such a specific way to her. Across the club I can recognize friends of mine even if they have their backs to me, just by how they move to music. Especially if a customer gets numerous dances from me he has likely seen me dance to a variety of music anyway.

    Personally i say just let it go. She is who she is. Enjoy her company or move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    This is kind of off topic but how can I determine if a dancer is willing to do stuff OTC?
    ^You stated that she was a "clean dancer"...so I think it's been determined. Because if you are already seeing OTC for breakfast etc and she hasn't brought the idea of a paid OTC rendezvous up, then she likely won't.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    This is kind of off topic but how can I determine if a dancer is willing to do stuff OTC?
    Now I wasn't sure if you were asking this question specifically relating to your fav or in general with all dancers, so I'll share my on both.

    If you were talking about your current fav, then exactly what Olive said IMHO. If you've been seeing her for a year and have had OTC meetups already, yet the p4p option has never opened up, then I doubt it will.

    If you are speaking more generally, then IMHO it is a tougher question. OTC with dancers is my primary form of p4p and in some places it is easily available, in other places it is difficult to find (at least with someone who you want to do that with) and in yet others it is hit or miss. Now I'm not trying to over-complicate it either, but before you indiscriminately solicit a dancer for OTC sex it helps to understand the lay of the land in that particular club and to get a sense of her potential receptiveness to an offer before you make one. You often only get one bite at the apple, especially if a girl reacts badly or runs her mouth after rejecting your offer. IMHO, successful sourcing of OTC play partners is as much about knowing who NOT to ask as it is identifying those who may be open to it.

    We're up in pink now so that is as far as I'm going to go with this, but if you post the question in the blue side I will elaborate more.

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