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    I'm very interested in escorting and i've been reading this forum for the past few days. I have a question. I know that discussing anything sexual is a big no no, but when you get to the appointment, when is it ok to be sexual? I'm picturing myself with my first client and and i'm not sure when it's safe to drop the "i'm just here for platonic companionship" act.

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    Default Re: So who makes the first move?

    It's different with different people, but I usually cuddle with them first, and we have a nice conversation while slowly escalating the level of physical contact. When in doubt, let him initiate. Believe me, no client is going to casually sit around for an hour and wait for you to make your move- he'll do something to indicate that he wants to take the intimacy further.

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    After offering them a chance to 'wash their hands' you can offer to let them get comfortable while you step into the restroom. An experienced client will have left an envelope in the bathroom and be less dressed when you return in lingerie...

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    Default Re: So who makes the first move?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia D View Post
    I'm very interested in escorting and i've been reading this forum for the past few days. I have a question. I know that discussing anything sexual is a big no no, but when you get to the appointment, when is it ok to be sexual? I'm picturing myself with my first client and and i'm not sure when it's safe to drop the "i'm just here for platonic companionship" act.
    You aren't their first escort. Girl and I do something sexy but not over the line (like DFK) then she tells me to get comfortable (strip). The envelope goes on the dresser while I'm getting naked she never asks and so she's never directly asked me for money. Theoretically she doesn't know there is money in that envelope and she never asked for it. That sort of indirection is for both our protection. It makes a sale ambiguous (probably not enough but it helps). If the client seems to not know what he's doing then make sure he strips before you do anything and you have to somewhat guide things along.

    CFMNH44's procedure is also a good one, though not the one I use. But in general you should never at any point indicate you are doing anything sexual in exchange for money.

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    Good screening will ease a lot of your nerves.

    As RedOdalisque mentioned, some guys will probably want to visit some. Others will probably be awkwardly quiet. I imagine than most will be nervous themselves meeting you for the first time and want to get more comfortable.

    Actually she pretty much gave a really good answer. I would add that if a guy is chitchatting for a long time, you might remind him of the time, so that he realizes that the clock started when you met.

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    OK, I'll take a turn - Many ladies perform a 'cop check', rubbing the guy's private area, supposedly with the thought that a cop wouldn't allow that. (Many do, and would allow much more...), but it serves to show that the lady is not a cop and moves things along. (At least I can't imagine a decoy fondling a dude than arresting them...)
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    Oh my, yeah not only has the "cop check" thing not any form of screening / research (for men or women) so many people do it, that in many cities, the law has found a way to use it to their advantage by accepting even asking for it as admission of soliciting prostitution. And as far as ladies are concerned, many cities also have it in police procedure its perfectly acceptable to be naked, and indulge in light touching as part of the bust. So yeah, nowadays, the only thing it serves to show is you didnt know they could hold that against you.

    Anyway, as to who makes the first move, I always always let the guy make the first move. Not every guy sees us for action...I have many dates where they dont want that at all, and just want to have some drinks and talk, maybe a bit of cuddling but nothing further than that, and would be put off if a lady was ready for action from the get go. Guys who do want that are usually pretty open about it, but is safer to take a guys lead instead of assuming what he wants.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CFMNH44 View Post
    After offering them a chance to 'wash their hands' you can offer to let them get comfortable while you step into the restroom. An experienced client will have left an envelope in the bathroom and be less dressed when you return in lingerie...
    but what if they don't?


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    but what if they don't?
    Yeah, I worry that newer guys will have no idea what to do LoL and besides that, not every date im on leads to BCD time...I have a lot of dates where a guy brings wine and just wants to talk and hang out. So I have it on my site what they are to do...to place it in a gift bag or card, or to discretely and without mention put it in a place where I can see it. So that pretty much covers the bases, whether we first meet while out for dinner, or its incall or outcall etc. I just want to avoid a guy handing me cash and going heres your money! Ughhh...lol
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