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    Default Oh my god what gives??!??

    Customers keep getting taken from me, guys leave me for other girls, no stage tips and I'm ignored on a daily basis. What am I doing wrong? I don't know the words to say to guys. An I too real? I don't know how to interact I guess. Someone please give me some insight.
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    Default Re: Oh my god what gives??!??

    I'm sorry..do you read Hustle Hut? I especially like the top sticky
    "Law of Attraction" by Money Worshipper.


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    Default Re: Oh my god what gives??!??

    seems like, although you have been given pages of advice and tips and support in other threads you've started where you've been having trouble, it doesn't seem to be working maybe stripping just isn't for you and there's nothing wrong with that!

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    Have you tried out any different clubs? Sometimes when I don't make any money in one I'll make money in another.

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    Are you working at a small club with mostly regulars? It might be these guys come in to see a specific girl. that is not a good club to start at.

    research a club that gets a lot of tourists and bachelor parties and stuff like that.

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    What do you mean they get taken from you? Another girl walks right up while you're sitting with them?
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    What do you mean they get taken from you? Another girl walks right up while you're sitting with them?
    This is what I'm wondering. Customers aren't "yours" to get taken. If you leave him alone, he's fair game. Even regulars are fair game (though many girls won't go there so as not to step on toes). Unless girls are literally coming up to the customer while you are with them, he was never yours to be taken and you just didn't hustle him well enough. You gotta close the sale and the earlier the better. If you feel you're being "too real," I feel like you might be sitting around with them too long, just shooting the shit. Keep the conversation light and sexy, always be closing and driving it towards spending money and having a sexy naughty time. And in case it hasn't been hammered in enough after all the previous posts, read Hustle Hut.

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    We can't really give you any insight unless you provide us with more information about your hustle, appearance, club type, etc.

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    I think a lot of her problem is lack of self confidence and not being aggressive enough...
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    For one thing, the $$, for the most part, is NOT going to come to you. You need to go to it.

    I agree w/ Selina that your self-confidence sounds like absolute crap. When I first started dancing, a girl at a club I was checking out told me, "Fake it til you make it." It's been one of the best pieces of advice I've received abt this job, & there's a thread in HH abt the affects that your own body language can have not just on the customers, but on you.

    HH needs to become your bible. There is a learning curve to this job, no question abt that, & there will be nites where your club is standing-room-only but none of them want to part w/ their $$.

    That being said, time-management is everything, learn to be an opportunist. Smtg as simple as sm light, childish exchange can be the sale-closing nugget you're looking for. Had a guy one nite, that somehow pretty early in the conversation we got to laughing abt that children's game, Connect-4. I suggested we have ourselves a little game of Connect-2, in the VIP. Hellooooooo, string of dances.

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    I've learnt you have to have a joke with a potential customer, if they don't take a dance right away they will come back to you happened many times to me like that, had a laugh and joke with customers and 20-30 minutes later we are In the VIP

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    Sorry for the late response. Ok so I was doing good, making no less than 250 a night, but me and my bf broke up and since then it's like I can't make more than 100 dollars. When I say guys get taken from me I mean it's like I'm sitting with them and another girl comes up and I guess she's just better than me cause they'll be more taken by her. A guy came in one night and I was super nice a d friendly to him and he bought a dance from me but later on he fell for this other dancer and now he's her regular. And I know I'm fine cause I see that and other girls say how great my body is. And when I say I'm too real I mean I don't lie at all only about my name. So I've hit a rug, fights have been going on at the club and now our clientele is way down.

    And also last night I caught some girls videotaping a dancer and I told, for my privacy and era and later out I find out that she wanted to be taped and they were her friends. Now I think I've made enemies all because I was trying to protect myself and other dancers. I'm just getting so much grief and I want to know how to turn this around.
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    Default Re: Oh my god what gives??!??

    This club sounds like a stressful enviroment to be working in.Is it possible for you to work at a different club?

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    One of my peeves in this job is ppl recording, & esp. The girls who encourage it.

    As far as I know, it's illegal to record in stripclubs. Any place I've worked - now, mind it's a bit different in the case of a few girls playing on the pole when it's dead & recording each other, presumably w/ improvement in mind - any security or mgmt worth their paycheck will be on that shit, if for no other reason than to cover their own asses. This was the case even in the $hithol€ that is Daytona. I had a pole competition @ my club last wk end & was told that my friend wouldn't be permitted to videotape my performance even w/ my permission, in case another dancer was recorded who didn't want to be.

    If girls have gotten up in your Kool-aid for getting them busted for recording, I'd find this a dicey environment to remain in.

    As to customers getting "taken from you" as in your example just above, that kind of crap happens all the time. Would you say that you "stole" a customer from the girl in question, if the roles were reversed? W/ the possible exception of offering extras - & I am in NO WAY trying to suggest that you are or that you should - a dancer really doesn't have much control over who a particular customer favours. It's no different than you choosing between two guys that show you attention, you just favour one over the other & that's the end of it. Better get used to it, as it's smtg that is simply out of your control.

    Re: "being real" there is a bit of bullshit artistry required to be successful in this job. Again, HH needs to become your bible, & do sm reading on body language & its affects on you, not just the affects you desire to have on others.

    Finally, exploring other clubs might not hurt. At the very least, you will learn from your experiences in clubs other than your home club.

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    Also after re-reading your last post, are these girls coming up to a customer, uninvited, while you're sitting w/ him? If so, that's cutthroating & you need to grow sm backbone & stand up to them, &/or bring their behaviour to the attn of mgmt.

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    I haven't been to the club since the incident and I really hope when I go back there are no problems, but you guys I swear the vibe of that club has completely changed since I first started, it's just weird, issues are arising and all sorts of stuff. I just really like the club and I want to get better. So I shouldn't worry about being friends with the other dancers? It just sucks feeling left out and targeted.
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    Switch clubs. If it's not a good environment, you won't want to be there and your money will do as it is and go down the tubes.

    Fuck no, don't worry about making friends. Shit, I have only ever had one friend at work. The rest, I'm pleasant to, but it's not a priority to make friends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    Fuck no, don't worry about making friends. Shit, I have only ever had one friend at work. The rest, I'm pleasant to, but it's not a priority to make friends.
    Agreed! I actually can't really imagine working with a friend. I'd think it'd be not only distracting, but also personally difficult since they're competition.

    That said, I'd love to have the experience of working somewhere where competition is at a minimum - like the Lusty Lady (SF)! I think it'd make work go by so much more quickly. Friendship just doesn't seem appropriate for a hustle-friendly strip club environment...

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    I've only been dancing for 2 days but I've picked up quickly and I'm doing pretty damn good. I sold the most vip dances and the longest dances last night. Make eye contact on stage be confident...fake confidence if you have too. Don't drink or do drugs be sober I'm not saying you do. . While your on the floor touch the guys like rub their neck while you walk by and smile.Ask details about them..men love to talk about themselves. Ask about their joeir day or week. Ask their hobbies and talk about them. Don't cut throat but dobt let the other girls hog the men. I have found if your good to the other girls especially when you're a new girl they'll be good to you. Ask where the keep their stuff so you dpnt take their place and tip them. a dollar here and therr.

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    It might be these guys come in to see a specific girl. that is not a good club to start at.

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