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    Hey guys, i need to get your opinion something. I was sitting in free chat just now, doing my thing, and a reg popped on. He comes on fairly frequently, and we have a good back and forth. Today, randomly while im chatting he says causally " you need to work on your moaning: I was like what ? what do you mean? he says "some moans are sensual and sexual and some like yours sounds like wretchet pain like a nail on across a chalkboard."

    I was pissed! I didnt have time to respond before i got swept into a pvt, but later he came back to day he didnt mean it to be rude, just honest criticism. I honestly dont know how to take it. I never had complaints before, I do fairly well, and he takes my quite frequently so I must be doing something right. Honestly after two years I thought i was doing good. I am not a porn star, and really, during sex I never make noises. I do have to extrapolate a little.

    Anyway, i didnt react, I hate letting people see me sweat. But I dont know what to think, What are your thoughts?

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    Default Re: mentally fucked with or just harmless advice?

    My thoughts:

    FUCK HIM.

    If he really felt it was that bad he wouldn't be sitting in your face day in and day out.

    The best thing that happened is that you got swept away in a private? Guess what? That's the best revenge ever. Do not change anything.

    Guy was broke feeling left out and wanted to insult you to mask his own insecurities.

    When I cum sometime I sound like someone is running a hatchet over my skull. Guess what? My guys love it!

    If it were me. I'd just say "Ohh wow that's awesome!! Hahahah! Yah must have been a good one! If he continues on say Ohh wow dude just use mute. Easy fix! Laugh and ignore.

    I get guys saying that my screen is jumpy or they can't hear me or etc etc. They are all broke. Usually the guys in the room will say " ohh nope it's working fine for me". Then I say dude go fix you're computer and then carry on my conversation with everyone but him. It's a nice way of making someone feel really really small and insignificant.


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    Sounds like he was either being honest & is socially inept, or he was feeling cruel. I don't know anything about him, but my vote is for the former. I've had regs say some stupid stuff before, and they're usually surprised if I tell them how offensive it is. I think it's really stupid that he mentioned it at all, but perhaps you really do sound like you're faking it. Honestly, a lot of porn moaning sounds horribly fake, and maybe most of your customers are so used to porn moaning that it doesn't bother them, and maybe this guy isn't used to that. Still, the way he approached it was super lame.

    1. Next time he goes private, ask him to turn on his cam and demonstrate to me how he'd like you to moan (yes, I am a bit cruel )
    2. Next time he goes private, don't moan at all or make any noise, or
    3. Just completely ignore him & continue to do what you're already doing.

    Edit to add:
    Oh alright....
    4. Change what you're doing (if you think your moans might sound too fake)
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    Default Re: mentally fucked with or just harmless advice?

    I'm with Jess - I think he's just socially awkward. i doubt he was trying to genuinely hurt you. he probably wanted to tell you but had no fucking idea how to say it correctly. You have to remember that different guys like different things. Some guys like t6he OH BABY YES! YES! OH MY GOD! YES! FUCK MEEEE! moans, and others like the "mm, ohh, mmm" moans. If he's more into one than the other, try and moan that way whenever he's doing a show with you. Or, just keep doing what you do, because obviously he's liked it enough so far if he's still around.

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    Default Re: mentally fucked with or just harmless advice?

    what he means is " you need to work on your moaning, because personally I like it different" "some moans are sensual and sexual and some like yours sounds like the type of moan that I don't like personally but everyone else has no problem with" "so please change ur entire show to suit me and nobody else" "oh and next week i will be back to tell u exactly what sort of outfits really turns me on, but i will secretly word it in a way as to tell you that your outfits u choose are hideous, because i assume thats the best way to get you to do something, personalised, for me, ok?


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    I can't decide it he's fed up with how hooked on you he feels so he has to go and undermine your confidence and make himself feel in control...or if he just feels like you're his property and you should be exactly how he wants you to be. If it was something major, you'd think he would have mentioned it before.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Classy_Katy View Post
    I can't decide it he's fed up with how hooked on you he feels so he has to go and undermine your confidence and make himself feel in control.
    Thanks for summing up every boyfriend I've ever had so neatly. My favorite was a guy telling me he didn't like women wearing shorts while I was wearing shorts. Like, sexy shorts, too.

    This custie sounds similar imo. Maybe he lost his job or something?

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    mmm I dont know. He might have he is always on. and BTW doodles I just saw you on, you are beautiful!

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    Quote Originally Posted by augusta_viva View Post
    mmm I dont know. He might have he is always on. and BTW doodles I just saw you on, you are beautiful!
    OMG! Thank you sweetie, what a nice thing to say. /blushes

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    Default Re: mentally fucked with or just harmless advice?

    Thats a fucked up thing to saw either way! The thing is if it had been a face to face encounter with someone you are familiar with, then maybe it just slipped out. Maybe it could be viewed as an attempt to make a joke. But when you type something you think,type and read it. I'm thinking he wanted to fuck with you for whatever reason. Not cool at all. Next time say "I'm sure there's a kinder way of saying that? How about I kick you out and you comeback when you've finished all of your haterade?" It's your room dont let them fuck with you.



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    Default Re: mentally fucked with or just harmless advice?

    If he's only seen you a handful of times then yea socially awkward honesty. It is a sting but super helpful because you always know where you stand? I like the wellmeaning but unintentionally harsh socially awkward ones but like Rosemary if theyre super nitpicky you wont really ever meet the mark no matter how hard you to try.... if youre invested and up for changing it for him: cool. If not: hey maybe tell him "that is what I sound like when I orgasm, do you want me to...fake it for you or-? Bc I dont want to :-/" hahaha idk

    If he's a serious regular and seen you for awhiiiiiile and youve always moaned like that? It is something else. Like if you dont enjoy how someone is moaning, you ... change the channel. Lol I know I do? Wrecks my orgasm immediately, I dont just sit dryly through it - especially if I were to be paying out the ass? Maybe he discovered he is into humiliation (giving) and kind of missed the whole consent part....or worse discovered Pick Up Artist forum and was like "EUREKA! Lemme try this out on my e-girlfriend"

    I swear, there is a whole hoard of guys who are webcamming "hobbyists", they crack me up bc they have this weird Pick Up Artist tinge to their presence. There is a giant smorgasbord of models on almost every site, all the weird passive aggression is unnecessary - if you find yourself as a customer at that point in your webcam "hobbying" (lol) take a break, I mean damn. I remember I lost some weight a bit a go and aregular was bummed but kept harping about it and kept staying around. He seemed to not like it and kept talking about it all resentfully- but I wasnt going to gain back the weight which I said, so lol it was bizarre and went on for months with him increasingly spending less. This is porn, thanks for the loyalty but we're not married wtf you doin? You couldve immediately gone to find some bigger lumps when you saw my humps werent as lumpy as they once were. It isnt fun for you and isnt fun for the model even if youre paying (so you know its bad), just take a break. There is no point to be cynical and grumpy about sexual entertainment as the consumer when there are 10s of thousands of channels to surf, lol, go outside, breathe some fresh air and sunshine.





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    Quote Originally Posted by roast View Post
    I swear, there is a whole hoard of guys who are webcamming "hobbyists", they crack me up bc they have this weird Pick Up Artist tinge to their presence.
    You are so spot on with the PUA aspect!

    This morning a guy led out with "Give me a reason why I should be here." Really? My getting all dolled up in makeup and cute lingerie, having professional studio lighting and business-grade ISP service, putting myself out there on the internet for time immemorial, knowing the ins and outs of HD streaming, and providing a colorful room, a happy smile and ready conversation isn't enough of a reason already?

    Oh, right, the HIGHLY unlikely possibility that you might throw some money my way means I should jump through your precious hoops because if I wouldn't do just about anything for a dollar then I wouldn't be a cammgirl in the first place. Gotcha.

    Sometimes I play with the PUAs when it's slow because I've read up on their techniques and find them amusing in a "sad clown" kind of way but mostly it's an insta-kick because I want guests in my room that are happy to hang out with me and will spend money on me of their own volition. The ones who treat me like THEY are the lucky ones and not the other way around.

    As a freelance graphic designer I am not afraid to fire a client who sets me up to fail and ends up being more trouble than they're worth. I feel the same way about camming: not every customer HAS to be MY customer, and certainly not some pale, friendless virgin who learned his hustle from a dork in a fuzzy hat. /rant

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    I would personally just ban AND report him to SM as an underage minor. Camming can be physically and mentally hard enough so the last thing you need is for someone to darken your footsteps.
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    Thank you for all the replies guys, I read them all and really, I appreciate it. I came to the conclusion that I am who I am and I do what I do and if that pisses one guy off then fine, there are thousands of other guys online. And even though it sucks that it came from a good paying reg, I know that it is the nature of the beast that they come and go. I don't think that it was humiliation because he isn't into that. He came back later and as i was ignoring him typed "your not mad are you? Um yeah i was, duh don't come in my room and type that shit when I am trying to make money. He was like "no one can see what I type, and I mean it in a helpful way, and didn't mean for you to take it personally."

    I didnt ban him cause I just don't care enough. If he comes back, and is fucking with my head space, then yeah, I will. But I am a good matured person, people say stupid things out of ignorance and not malice, so Ill just ignore it and let it go. I laugh when people come into my room and call me fat ( Im not) or piggy or whatever because it just so obvious they are trolling. But it caught me off guard that someone I was cool with would just make an off handed comment like that.

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    I guess I'm the only one wondering if he said this in pvt or freechat?

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    In free chat before OP got swept into pvt by another custy!
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    I guess I'm the only one wondering if he said this in pvt or freechat?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    In free chat before OP got swept into pvt by another custy!

    Ok thanks...I see now I just re-read it. I kinda of wonder why he waited 2years to say this. Like someone else said maybe he lost his job. Not to be all in your biz @augusta_viva but did he go pvt when he came back.

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    Whether he meant it or he's socially awkward, he's a douchenozzle and you don't need him fucking with your work mood. If he does some shit like that again it's block time.


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    These sites modulate our voices to sound higher pitched which is supposed to mimic a young girls voice. Have you not watched other cam girls in free chat and their music becomes quickly annoying due to how sharp & high pitched it is. ALL the sites do this.

    The speakers on computers & such are NOT the best so how you sound in real life is not the same of how you sound on a computer. Especially since the cam companies modulate our voices.

    Dont take it personally... There are somethings going on that are beyond your control.

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