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    So I am thinking about asking my dancer if she would be willing to do cam/skype shows for me.
    I go to the club every week to see her and spend good amounts of money on her every time.
    I have been seeing her weekly for over a year now sometimes two or three times a week.
    We hang out OTC fairly often and are on really good terms.

    I just found out I may be getting sent out of state for my work and will most likely be away for 3 or 4 months.
    I am really stressed out about it because longest I have went without seeing her was maybe two weeks a couple of times the past year.
    I haven't told her yet but I know it is going to upset her as well because I am a large portion of her income.
    I would like to run the idea by her about doing cam/skype shows for me, as I would get to continue seeing her while away and she would continue to make money off me without even having to leave her house.
    I am pretty sure her response is going to be something along the lines of I don't do that stuff I would never do porn ect ect.

    Has anyone dealt with anything similar to this?
    How should I go about handling it?

    If she did agree I figure we would have to discuss exactly what would happen and what would be expected.
    I am not sure I would be ok with spending the same amount of money as I would in the club for a "virtual dance" so I am thinking we would have to discuss price as well.

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    I'm thinking that if you are worried about money you are probably wasting your time even asking her. Dancing and caming are two different things. If she doesn't already cam she's not going to get involved in doing it for just one guy at any sort of a low-ball price.

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    Default Re: Asking a dancer about doing camshows?

    why not buy her the start up camming materials like camming software, camera, lights etc? i am a dancer and if a good customer asked me to do this i would willingly agree and i would expect to receive something similar to your regular visit to the club. if for example u ususally get atleast 3 dances but have at times got more, i would put 3 dances comparable to minutes in camtime. remember she can make money in the club too so in no way should you offer her any less. give her $ incentive to want to cam for you instead of going to the club and she will really go for it.

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    I am not worried about spending money, I am worried about getting my money's worth.
    She wouldn't be doing it for just one guy at a low ball price either, like I said I spend money on this girl.
    If I honestly calculated it and figured out how much cam time equaled to what I spend in club it would probably be a 2-4 hour cam show, and I doubt she would want to go that long lol.
    I didn't even think about buying her the camming materials, I will definitely offer to.
    Either way I will not be able to go to the club for atleast a couple of months so honestly it comes down to her agreeing to cam for me or go a few months not making what she is use to making.

    She has always been a "clean" dancer that plays it by the book. So I am just worried she won't understand that I would expect more than her doing some awkward imaginary lap dance on a chair on cam lol.

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    Default Re: Asking a dancer about doing camshows?

    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    She has always been a "clean" dancer that plays it by the book. So I am just worried she won't understand that I would expect more than her doing some awkward imaginary lap dance on a chair on cam lol.
    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    Either way I will not be able to go to the club for atleast a couple of months so honestly it comes down to her agreeing to cam for me or go a few months not making what she is use to making
    Yea, if she is by the book then she may not be into "moneys worth" camming especially if youre expecting more than a stripshow... which isnt unheard of when people do cam, many people cam 'just' as e-stripshows or even nonnude and do quite well. Same with just chatting for hours either honestly (I cam and it youre kind of loling like that doesnt happen, it frequently does.... and she may know that going into this). Youre expecting a XXX show it sounds like, camming isnt always "fucking" on cam - so worried about your moneys worth uhhhh ok. This sounds like it is very possible she may interpret this as you asking for extras but virtual extras. IDK her so cant know but how you describe her vs what youre hinting you want: probably likely she wont be receptive.

    So ask bc you never know but youre posting as if youre anticipating a Yes or that she 'should' and your moneys worth is straightup porn ... so definitely anticipate other responses. Not only bc the nature of it, but if she isnt familiar with camming she is also opening herself up to being paid in a way that compromises her privacy and be upset that she finds out later you have her full name/address when she couldve anonymized it (uh and vice versa). Or oops she suddenly has income that is 100% on the grid. Or discovers that you expect her to chat with you even if her cam isnt sent and that doesnt count as 'paid' time just so you get your fix of her... which is fine to you but isnt ideal for her.

    Stripping and porn where she can be recorded by you arent the same animal and may be a boundary breach for her. Some boundaries make 'sense' to a customer but never make sense to a dancer. I agree with Yoda, cant know if you dont ask - but youre posting as if she already is saying yes or you deserve a yes. But you need to hope for the best but anticipate a no.

    Quote Originally Posted by trixxi View Post
    i would expect to receive something similar to your regular visit to the club. if for example u ususally get atleast 3 dances but have at times got more, i would put 3 dances comparable to minutes in camtime.
    ^I agree with this. Esp after a year of frequent visits: just bc it becomes virtual, im unclear why "moneys worth" immediately has to become something else. You can enjoy her company online as well in the way you would in VIP for 2-4hrs, camming is a pretty big sensory-overload Or idk she may not care about the various risks and be all for it and this comment is off but.... expecting she should do it and you deserve your own definition of your 'moneys worth' = something she'd never do irl is setting yourself up for disappointment.

    Your motivations and risks behind this arrangement vs Hers are totally different - and as Rick pointed out youre a bit fixated, so, be openminded about her reaction. Some do but but not all dancers cam (even "privately" which ... doesnt exist on the internet) and those reasons are usually pretty compelling.
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    Default Re: Asking a dancer about doing camshows?

    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    I just found out I may be getting sent out of state for my work and will most likely be away for 3 or 4 months.
    I am really stressed out about it because longest I have went without seeing her was maybe two weeks a couple of times the past year.
    I am still stuck on this. This is unhealthy PJ. You are coming across as a bit fixated. The reality is that all dancer/customer gigs have an expiration date. IMHO this may be a sign that it is time for you to spread your wings and explore other options. I am sure that, wherever you are going for the next several months, you can find another dancer deserving of your time and spending.

    Now as to your concerns about her emotional and financial well-being, she'll be fine - trust me. Just as there are other girls who are deserving of your time and money, so too will there be other guys to take your place.

    Anyway, just my for whatever it is actually worth and good luck.

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    I agree with Rick and to add to it....you are making things a way bigger deal than it is. You're stressed out and you're not even sure if the move it for sure or not. No offense but it sounds like you have a severe case of OCD or something judging on your posts. STOP OVER THINKING.

    Let's say you have a gym membership...you go to the gym 7 days a week. Your job tells you that you are relocating...do you worry about how you are going to get to that gym considering you're a loyal member there? Or do you just find a new gym? The customer pays for something that suits THEIR needs. Also as a customer, especially one that spends a good amount of money, you need to communicate about your needs. In your last thread, you even said that you were getting bored of this girls lap dances. Well here's your chance for something new! I just don't get why are you are this stressed. Life goes on. Who knows? Maybe you will find someone you like way better than her.

    LOL I totally wish I had you as a customer.

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    Wow, kudos to JoJox for remembering that last thread from a week ago.

    PJ, last week you were complaining about how boring her LDs have become, yet instead of just switching to another girl, you burned countless brain cells trying to figure out how you could address the issue with her. Now this week you've learned that you are going out of town for a few months, which would be a perfect opportunity to think about branching out, yet instead you contrive to find a way to stay connected to her through a cam. I am now thoroughly convinced that you have developed a very unhealthy attachment to her.

    Dude, walk away. To her you are nothing more than a customer, albeit a good paying one. This will end sooner or later, but it is better to do it on your terms than to have her end it after some pathetic crash and burn moment (or worse).

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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    I agree with Rick and to add to it....you are making things a way bigger deal than it is. You're stressed out and you're not even sure if the move it for sure or not. No offense but it sounds like you have a severe case of OCD or something judging on your posts. STOP OVER THINKING.

    Let's say you have a gym membership...you go to the gym 7 days a week. Your job tells you that you are relocating...do you worry about how you are going to get to that gym considering you're a loyal member there? Or do you just find a new gym? The customer pays for something that suits THEIR needs. Also as a customer, especially one that spends a good amount of money, you need to communicate about your needs. In your last thread, you even said that you were getting bored of this girls lap dances. Well here's your chance for something new! I just don't get why are you are this stressed. Life goes on. Who knows? Maybe you will find someone you like way better than her.

    LOL I totally wish I had you as a customer.
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    Just got the word, I am leaving June 3 and won't be back until Sept 6.
    Going to discuss it with her tomorrow night.
    If she is uncomfortable or doesn't want to do it I guess we will take a break until I get back lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    Just got the word, I am leaving June 3 and won't be back until Sept 6.
    Going to discuss it with her tomorrow night.
    If she is uncomfortable or doesn't want to do it I guess we will take a break until I get back lol.
    Dude... That's only 3 months.... Surely you can manage to get through 3 months without seeing her, a stripper who dances for you, and not an actual meaningful relationship in your life.

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    Man, if only all of my customers were this whipped...

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    Default Re: Asking a dancer about doing camshows?

    just ask?? i don't see the problem..she probably isn't as uptight as you think she is

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    The only problem I would have is the possible recording aspect. That alone should motivate you to be willing to pay.

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    ^That's what I was thinking too. Either way, I doesn't hurt to ask. If she says no (and I think most girls would) why not go to a SC where you move to and find a sexy lady to dance for you there? Or, go on cam sites for fun and interaction while you are away and see your favourite dancer when you get back ?
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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ10 View Post
    I will not be able to go to the club for atleast a couple of months so honestly it comes down to her agreeing to cam for me or go a few months not making what she is use to making.
    Or who knows, she might actually make more!. She spends time with you because you pay her to. If you are not there she will simply spend that time with another customer. If you are trying to create some sort idea in her head that she will be "losing" money if she doesn't cam for you I think you would be wise to abandon that thought process. Customers are replaceable-either temporarily or permanently.
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