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    Default Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I have a regular who's been coming to see me every week for a few months already. He's well-groomed, respectful and very nice. He never tips but as I said, he's a loyal client and never sees other girls & comes see me weekly so I guess it compensates. He asks me every time to see me outside of the club, he's not pushy but he always asks.

    He said he doesn't want anything sexual he just wants to go for dinner and take a walk. At first, he said he would pay me for the cab ride to meet him at the restaurant and for the ride back so he wouldn't know where I live, plus the meal of course. He never mentioned about compensating for my time. I always say maybe later, after I finish school, during the holidays.

    I wouldn't mind going out for dinner with him, he suggested some very upscale places that I haven't had the chance to try out yet. We never discussed about money but I tried telling him that I would have to take an evening off work to go out with him. He replied that he would compensate me, but he didn't say how much. After reading some threads on sw, a lot of clients say they wouldn't pay for a girl to have dinner with them because it's pleasure and not business.

    I was thinking about charging him $200 for 2 hours but I'm scared to come off as greedy, especially with the meals he would have to pay. I am from a city where lap dances, escort services are very cheap. But at the same time, I am afraid of losing a good client if I charge him $100 or nothing, it's not really worth it. It would be much cheaper and a better deal for him & I am afraid he wouldn't come see me at the club anymore and expect OTC or think I am in love with him.

    I am sorry for the long post but I really would like your opinion... What would you do and what would you recommend? He's really sweet, often bring me roses and gifts. When I first met him he always wanted me to dance during a whole hour but now he just pays me the same for conversation. Sometimes when I start moving sensually he tells me to sit down and just relax since I've been working hard all day...

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    It's hard for me not to constantly think: time is money

    Its good that he's offering something but him saying he'll compensate you is a bit vague. Compensate you with what? Flowers? Clothes? D*ck (yes some men think theirs is worth gold)? IDK i'd want some clarity and a $$$ number/figure...

    There are quite a few threads on this very topic - this one may be helpful

    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...for-OTC-dinner

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    ^ I see a game here. Vague means "whatever I feel like giving you". I would just ignore him meeting him OTC imho. Just keep him as an in club customer. Don't be surprised if he drops you and he's snugged up with someone else at the club. My point is that this was his goal the whole time. He played the keep being consistent and it will pay off.

    After reading that thread lol still can't believe the guy thought after hours of dancing she would want to sit at a dinner table with him. Dumb. lol Oh and "have dinner with me when money is not an issue" <--That took the cake right there.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I can be of no assistance other than I have the exact same issue at the moment. I finally caved and told a regular I'd have dinner with him sometime but, said this knowing that he's only free at weekends and I currently only dance at weekends. I earn a good week's wage dancing but I really won't take a weekend night off unless there's something I really want to do, and I've made/saved enough money to counteract the loss of £ that night off will cause.
    Hinting tends to not work with men but it's worth a try-I have no response as yet, but I've emailed him saying the reason I wasn't in touch last week was because I currently can't afford to take the night off work. I'll see what he says. It's a good idea to say that you average X amount of £ -if you're more forward than I am lol tell him you earn more than you actually usually do and then ask him outright if he could make that, if he says not then go a little lower so he thinks he's getting great value.
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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I assume you would make more than $200 in the club if you went in to work instead of seeing him, so why charge him such a meager amount for a premium service? OTC is the holy grail to many customers, and you can get away with charging a lot - especially since once you take it OTC, the expiration date of that regular usually doesn't take much longer to arrive. Think about how much you would make on a good night and charge a bit more. If you're gonna do it, at leaat make it worth your while!

    Honestly though, I always recommend keepin it ITC. It's better for your $$$ in the long-term, but I also have no interest in spending time with customers in public and social situations.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I wasn't actually planning on taking a shift off at the club to go get dinner with him but on a free evening. It's an excuse I made up since I didn't know how to approach him about the money. You girls are right, I should probably keep it ITC, I have never done anything OTC and usually never even consider it.

    However, I wouldn't mind with him since I've known him for quite a while and he doesn't want anything else than company. Shanna dior, you are right. I shouldn't be afraid to quote him an amount that would make my time worth while. If he really wants to take me out for dinner he wouldn't have any other choice but pay the price I ask and he should consider himself lucky for being even offered a possibility than nothing at all.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    Him offering to pay for dinner and cabs shouldn't be something that you see as spending money on you, or a reason to charge less - after all, if he had met you anywhere OTHER than the club, and asked you out to dinner, you would assume that he would pay, correct? Anything that falls under normal "date" expenses doesn't count.

    I have done this once or twice, and have always done it as "well, I would have to take the night off work, and I usually make $x in a night...I can't afford that!! Pouty sad face etc. But hey, if you want to buy me out for the evening, I would MUCH prefer that to going into work!!! bat bat wink flutter". It's a good way to stop them comparing you to escort prices (so - don't say x per hour), and give them a good reason to pay you.

    Also - telling them that you would RATHER be with them makes them feel all special and desired, and gives them a chance to go all white knight - don't worry about the money, baby, I'll give you that so you can come do what you want!
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    Quote Originally Posted by xStacey View Post
    I shouldn't be afraid to quote him an amount that would make my time worth while. If he really wants to take me out for dinner he wouldn't have any other choice but pay the price I ask and he should consider himself lucky for being even offered a possibility than nothing at all.
    Yes! Whether you're actually taking the night off work or not is moot, because he's getting a premium service from you and your attention for a good amount of time OTC. Gotta pay for it accordingly!

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    100/hour minimum

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    Yes, that's actually what I asked for. I was afraid he would try to negociate but to my surprise he replied right away to my text and said it's not a problem.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I would also tell people where youre going to be and with whom.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    i would keep it ITC!

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    he wants girlfriend, free girlfriend with all the benefits that come with it. Unless you want the same don't be afraid to ask for your money after all that is why you are there. $200 don't sell yourself short < ask for way more >. As a previous post mentioned eventually he will probably be snuggled up with another girl at the club anyway. You will probably be pouting wishing you were not afraid to ask for your money, if he doesn't want to see you anymore move on to the next. Never be afraid to ask for your money remember a closed mouth does not get fed.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I would probably ask for about 300. If its just a few hours and nothing more than I think that would be fair!

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    $500 I think is fair to take you to dinner. More if you know you would definitely make more at the club.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    Id definitely not miss a busy work night that you usually do good on, pik your day off or a day where you dont make much anyways and dont have shit else to do then ask him if he'd give you what you would make in the club so you dont have to go in. If he gives you a low number, laugh. Id agree that 500 is fair and if he's super rich maybe more

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    But then dinner at Island Prime and a night at Pacific Terrace and I could be persuaded!

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    But then dinner at Island Prime and a night at Pacific Terrace and I could be persuaded!

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    Usually meeting a regular for dinner OTC is the quickest way to kill your $$$ relationship with them ITC. Sure, you may make a few hundred bucks off of him for dinner, but after that, all he'll do is push for more OTC.

    There are some regulars out there for whom this rule doesn't apply, but they're far more rare.

    I find that once a regular starts intensely pushing for OTC, that means he's nearly done as a regular (all regulars have expiration dates). So depending on your feel of the situation, you may want to lead him on for as long as you can, and then once he's "had it," agree to one OTC for a certain amount of money. And zen ze regular relationship will be dead thereafter.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    You said he never really tips at the club? What does that mean? Does he spend $$ in the club. Tell him the amount you would make at work and add a hundred. Nothing less than 100$ an hour. I would worry more about devaluing your time than appearing greedy.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    I'm assuming there isn't a dinner option at your club? Cause that's the route I go for first and foremost.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    $100 per hour??? Piss off! minimum $250 per hour. I would also tell them a figure up front instead of suggesting by the hour too.
    All costs paid by him. Get 1/2 $ deposit on customer's previous visit to the club and remaining money as soon as you meet OTC (trust me).
    Monitor your drinks etc- if he spikes you then no one will be there to protect you if he bundles you into a cab to take you fuck knows where. Regular text check ins with a friend. When you get into the taxi just have him start driving down the street, tell him your address when the customer is nowhere within earshot.
    I would suggest viewing this customer as having already reached expiration date. Get accustomed to that fact and you will be in the position to maximise the remaining $$$. He will move on- be more mercenary.
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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    For maybe $500 for a few hours.. nothing less!

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    i agreed to go to dinner with this big champagne regular of mine, partly because he was begging me to, partly because i actually kinda enjoyed his company (at first), and partly because, well, i wasnt working (out with an injury), why the fuck not. i charged $1000 flat fee every time, and we went to the nicest restaurants. dinner, occasionally a drink after, and THATS IT.

    he's been my customer STILL for about a year now since meeting him OTC. ive gotten way, way more money out of him than i ever could keeping it ITC. he'll still come see me wherever im dancing when he's in town, so thats nice too.

    i do feel like this might be an exception to the rule.

    bottom line: charge a LOT, because you might get a yes. id never consider going out for dinner with a customer (and really he's the only one i ever have) for less than $1000.

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    Default Re: Regular keeps requesting for dinner OTC, charge him or not?

    If you think $200 for two hours is greedy, it doesn't sound like he's the biggest spender. It's my own belief that OTC dinners (and dinner only) should be $500+. Maybe you could tell him how much you average in a night (lie if you want) and have him pay you that amount to compensate you for missing a night of work to see him. If that's too much money for him to fork over and you're OK with settling for less, then just ask him to pay you whatever amount he usually spends at the club.

    Be careful though - sometimes customers will get too comfortable with OTC that they'll stop spending ITC and start being cheap with OTC or wanting more than just dinner. This is why I don't do OTC. If a customer wants to have dinner with me, my club has a menu full of delicious food. I have a regular now who would probably be a good OTC candidate because I know I could get around 1K for dinner, but I'm even hesitant about that because I don't want to risk losing him as a customer. They have to remember that they are customers and that they need to pay you for your time even if it's not in the club!

    So to answer the question in the title of this thread, yes - absolutely charge him.
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