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    So as the title states, is it okay to objectify men but not women? More specifically, shooting a complement to a guy as in "Nice chest, or nice ass" but for the same being said to a woman, expect a face full of mase, a kick in the groin, or both?

    Reason I ask is because today while I was on my routine run on the trail, as I was approaching a group of girls (they were in front of me) and passed them, they whistled and shouted. At first I thought to myself, haha you guys are just messing with me. People in groups tend to be more bold and do/say things they normally wouldn't if they were by themselves. But then one of em yelled as I ran passed "Nice ass". I felt offended and flattered at the same time...mostly the latter though. I found these girls attractive and they must have been in their late teens/early 20s so maybe I would have felt a whole lot different if they were some rambunctious senior citizens.

    I asked some guy friends if they would like it if a girl commented on their physique as in chest, arms, legs, ass, whatever. All of em said they would love it. Now it seems most if not all guys don't get offended by such comments, but women you would find it offensive? Or only if they guy was not attractive? Then its creepy and perverted...but if hes fine as pie then would you be down? This is granted the man is keeping it civilized and not over doing it.

    So is this a double standard that will never change? Compliment a guy in any which way and its a compliment, compliment a woman in the "wrong way" and its harassment. There were times where I thought of complimenting the girl I was talking to about how nice her legs were or such and such, besides the typical eyes/hair deal but I figured that it would come out looking perverted and offensive even though that's not my intent. I just mean it literally, that's a nice pair of legs or a shapely butt. If a girl told me that I had nice whatever butt/arms/legs/etc. I would be flattered. Now if she wasn't my type...well I would still be flattered.

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    i don't even like the term "objectified". i always hear that from anti-porn/anti strip club feminists. i don't mind compliments as long as it doesn't come with a smack on the ass or i feel somehow hounded and harassed..like some creepy bunch of guys in a back alley contemplating rape or something...

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    i don't even like the term "objectified". i always hear that from anti-porn/anti strip club feminists. i don't mind compliments as long as it doesn't come with a smack on the ass or i feel somehow hounded and harassed..like some creepy bunch of guys in a back alley contemplating rape or something...
    Hmmm whats a better choice of word? I guess what I meant was compliments of certain nature and actions like whistling (I believe that is called cat calling?) and such.

    I agree, touching is a whole different story. But then again if those girls smacked my butt I probably woulda liked it lol damn must be a guy thing. But that would be harassment/assault. I'm sure most men wont complain though.

    But a group of guys acting wild and out is more of a concern than a group of girls acting wild.

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    may have something to do with girls not raping guys very often..but vice versa happens quite often

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    may have something to do with girls not raping guys very often..but vice versa happens quite often
    How would a girl rape a guy hmmm? If she knocks him out with a sedative, I don't think he will erect up even with stimulation? No idea on that.

    But it does happen of course, just not as much.

    Heck today, I was even tempted to chat it up with them since it seemed they were interested enough but at the same time I wondered if that was the kind of girl I would wanna try to make something with. The suggestive nature of it all...maybe they are playerettes. Or just fudging with me...who knows.

    Its like would a girl want to talk to a guy after he just hooted and hollered at her? (in a discreetly loud way for lack of a better description). Say for example, he whistled at her and said "Hey pretty lady, nice figure you have there."

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    nah, i'd probably think he was a desperate creeper

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    I wouldn't say it's OK to "objectify" anyone in this manner (not saying all objectification is wrong, sometimes we want to be, ya know?).
    I don't necessarily think there is much of a double standard where women can do this and men can't, since I hardly ever see men get harassed on the street by women, but vice versa happens ALL THE TIME.
    If you're wondering why your buddies are ok with it, where as women would be "offended", it probably has something to do with masculinity being open and ready for sex always so women hitting on you publicly = bring it on, plus it doesn't happen to men as often so they probably don't realize how rude and invasive it truly is, also they don't have to worry about a woman overpowering and assaulting/raping them like men do to woman all the time. So yeah, there's that.

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    Black, you are right it is a double standard when it comes to men because some women think that you like being treated like a piece of meat. But there is a double standard for everything in this world. However, men have oppressing women for years and still do. So who has the upper hand then? Sad but true.

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    You're on an industry site where women outnumber men greatly. The women are paid because they are being objectified by men. Even the men that are in the industry are paid because they too are objectified by men.

    Now men that work on their bodies to sculptured perfection are very well aware and in most cases crave that attention.

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    don't even get me started on how men objectify my mind

    ridiculous, right? It's all in the perceived worth of what's being desired. If female sexuality is tawdry and reductive, a hindrance to full personhood, then yeah, it makes sense that being observed/desired as a sexual 'object' would be a negative.

    I'm with Simone, I don't really buy into most conceptualizations of the objectification of women in human interactions. They seem to be premised on the notion that one cannot appreciate a nice piece of ass and simultaneously recognize the owner of said ass as a full human being. That to me reveals the biases on the part of the person assuming that one cannot be an 'object' of sexual desire AND a human being at the same time.

    Another point, the white feminists always seem to forget that men can be objectified as well. Particularly racialized men, (studies have shown Black men tend to be statistically over-represented as the recipients of workplace sexual harassment, as an example). Painting objectification or harassment as a solely female issue negates the full spectrum of power dynamics that exist in society, namely who has the power to 'objectify' others. It's not the comments, it's the power dynamics that underlie who makes 'em and where and how that impacts upon the perceptions and realities of those subject to them.

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    When women hit on men, it's very subtle and indirect. They'll walk slowly past you or keep looking at you and smile a bit, or do that funny 'gasp and inhale', to let you know they're interested, and will kind of leave it up to you to move things forward.

    The only time I've had a woman directly grab my ass or tell me that I'm gorgeous is when she's drunk in a club.

    Whereas when men hit on women, it's usually very aggressive and direct.

    So I suppose women objectifying men is not really seen as anything bad. But men objectifying women is seen as very aggressive.

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    First of all you need to understand that those girls you jogged past where just goofing on you. You are trying to create a double standard that I don't think exists. It's more an issue of appropriate time, choice of words and attitude. When I pick up a date and she looks good I don't tell her she has a nice ass, I tell here she looks beautiful. Now, if we have known each other and been intimate we may start teasing or flirting and something like "baby your ass is driving me crazy" may get whispered in her ear. I've never been with a woman who thought I was objectifying her by paying her a compliment. By the same token I accept compliments when they are given at the appropriate time. Yelling something to a stranger on the street in any sort of a sexual manner is never appropriate regardless of whether a male or female be on the giving or receiving end. I don't see any sort of double standard. It's wrong all the time.
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    Some women will absolutely scream and holler at guys on the beach or walking/exercising shirtless or whatever. But it is almost always when there are a few of them in a group and they are driving by, riding the tour trolleys here, or will otherwise be gone soon.
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    ^^^^ those drunken hordes of tourists are always good for a laugh ... Provided they keep their grubby mitts to thmselves!

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    Objectification isnt about compliments. It is about where a person's value lays; not just within themselves but also in society. In the 70s it wasnt uncommon for bosses to talk to female employees with "nice ass" or "nice tits". Which was the orgin of the discussion about objectification.
    I think this article explains better then i ever could.

    "I suspect it’s difficult for men to imagine a world in which their bodies have long been inextricably linked to their value as an individual.
    That no matter how encouraging your parents were or how many positive female role models you had or how self-confident you feel, there is an ever-present pressure that creeps in from all sides, whispering in your ear that you are your body and your body defines you.
    A world where, from the time of pubescence on, you can feel the constant and palpable weight of the male gaze. Not just from your male peers but from teachers and sports coaches and the fathers of the children you baby-sit, people you’re supposed to respect and trust and look up to, and that first realization that you are being looked at in that way is the beginning of a self-consciousness that you will be unable to shake for the rest of your life.
    Even if they are never verbalized, the rules of bodily conduct for females become clear early on: when school administrators reprimand you for the inch of midriff that shows when you lift your hands straight in the air or youth group leaders tell you that the sight of your unintentional cleavage is what causes godly young men to fall, you learn that your body is dangerous and shameful and that it’s your responsibility to cloister it in a way that is acceptable to everyone else.
    You learn that your body is a topic of public debate that everyone is entitled to weigh in on, from a male classmate telling you that those jeans make your ass look huge to the male-dominated United States Congress dictating the parameters that rape must fall within to be considered legitimate. To be a woman, and to live life in a woman’s body, is to be held to a set of comically paradoxical standards that make you constantly second-guess yourself and jump through a million hoops in pursuit of an impossible perfection.....

    Women are closer than they’ve ever been to living as equals with men in every sphere of life, but when it comes to our bodies, it is still shockingly easy for men to make us feel subjugated, to “put us in our place.” When women are treated as if their bodies don’t serve a functional purpose and are simply on display for the enjoyment and valuation of male eyes, it doesn’t matter how much money you make or what advanced degree you’ve earned or how great a sense of self-worth you hold: you feel powerless. Powerless to prevent it, powerless to counteract it, powerless to transcend your own physiology."
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    I've given compliments but never to strangers, mostly to people like you look good. The guy I have a date with this weekend (though have known him for awhile)I often tell him he looks nice when he is wearing his military uniform. I'd probably say nice ass to him though haven't.

    However, I have had strange men randomly say things that were very vulgar while just walking. To be honest it scares me because I worry this guy will then rape me or attempt something. I've had random guys give a compliment that wasn't offensive and I say thank you often find they were just being harmless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loveshooks View Post
    don't even get me started on how men objectify my mind

    ridiculous, right? It's all in the perceived worth of what's being desired. If female sexuality is tawdry and reductive, a hindrance to full personhood, then yeah, it makes sense that being observed/desired as a sexual 'object' would be a negative.

    I'm with Simone, I don't really buy into most conceptualizations of the objectification of women in human interactions. They seem to be premised on the notion
    that one cannot appreciate a nice piece of ass and simultaneously recognize the owner of said ass as a full human being. That to me reveals the biases on the part of the person assuming that one cannot be an 'object' of sexual desire AND a human being at the same time.

    Another point, the white feminists always seem to forget that men can be objectified as well. Particularly racialized men, (studies have shown Black men tend to be statistically over-represented as the recipients of workplace sexual harassment, as an example). Painting objectification or harassment as a solely female issue negates the full spectrum of power dynamics that exist in society, namely who has the power to 'objectify' others. It's not the comments, it's the power dynamics that underlie who makes 'em and where and how that impacts upon the perceptions and realities of those subject to them.
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    Totally have only skimmed the comments in this thread, but my thoughts on the gendered differences of, "objectifying" is pretty well summed up in this advice letter and answer from Dan Savage

    We all agree that groping without consent of the gropee is wrong. If Ahh-nold out in California did the dirty deed, he should be brought to justice. But as a happy guy who has never groped a woman without her consent, I have a different hypothesis: Say I'm out shopping. An attractive woman approaches, makes eye contact, and we exchange smiles. Then she slowly and furtively reaches over and caresses my privates. Call me a perv, but frankly, I wouldn't mind a bit. In fact, it would make my day. Betcha most guys would agree, but sadly, if the genders were reversed, betcha most women would not.

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    You're right, GRABASS: Most women would mind being groped by a stranger in a store--betcha most women would call the cops. And why is that? Because male-on-female groping has a different context than female-on-male groping. Very few men are raped, abused, or murdered by women, GRABASS, and women can hear the word "no" without stalking or terrorizing the men who've dumped them. Not all straight men are violent rapists or nutso stalkers, of course, but most women either know someone of their own gender who has been the victim of male sexual violence, or have been victimized themselves. So a man who grabs a woman he doesn't know isn't going to be perceived as a friendly, flirty guy, GRABASS, but as a mortal threat.
    Additionally, I think that some men ARE perpetrated against and -as Loveshooks pointed out- some men ARE objectified in a way they don't appreciate. However, in this culture (the US) men are supposed to be ready, willing and able all of the time, so they have pressure to act like they appreciate it, even if they don't. When I was in undergrad there was a man brave enough to come forward when three (very attractive) women tied him up and repeatedly raped him (it IS possible to show physiological signs of arousal even when one isn't aroused, it's an autonomic reflex)*. He was raked across the coals in the court of public opinion. This poor guy was raped, and everyone was saying that -in order to get an erection- he must have wanted it, and had he not wanted it, as a red blooded American male, he *should* have wanted it, and therefore, these women weren't kidnapping and raping him, but doing him a favor. I was disgusted to be a human being in a society where we could say such a thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren View Post
    Totally have only skimmed the comments in this thread, but my thoughts on the gendered differences of, "objectifying" is pretty well summed up in this advice letter and answer from Dan Savage



    Additionally, I think that some men ARE perpetrated against and -as Loveshooks pointed out- some men ARE objectified in a way they don't appreciate. However, in this culture (the US) men are supposed to be ready, willing and able all of the time, so they have pressure to act like they appreciate it, even if they don't. When I was in undergrad there was a man brave enough to come forward when three (very attractive) women tied him up and repeatedly raped him (it IS possible to show physiological signs of arousal even when one isn't aroused, it's an autonomic reflex)*. He was raked across the coals in the court of public opinion. This poor guy was raped, and everyone was saying that -in order to get an erection- he must have wanted it, and had he not wanted it, as a red blooded American male, he *should* have wanted it, and therefore, these women weren't kidnapping and raping him, but doing him a favor. I was disgusted to be a human being in a society where we could say such a thing.

    *they made a Law and Order episode based on it.
    Wow three attractive women did that?! What a lucky guy...okay well that depends on who you ask and what was done to him. If they penetrated his rear...then ugh no bueno. But none the less if its not consensual....its rape and the guilty need to be prosecuted.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I've given compliments but never to strangers, mostly to people like you look good. The guy I have a date with this weekend (though have known him for awhile)I often tell him he looks nice when he is wearing his military uniform. I'd probably say nice ass to him though haven't.

    However, I have had strange men randomly say things that were very vulgar while just walking. To be honest it scares me because I worry this guy will then rape me or attempt something. I've had random guys give a compliment that wasn't offensive and I say thank you often find they were just being harmless.
    I feel in your case, the fact that you two are already familiar gives you some if not the grounds to say nice booty to him. That depends on the kind of relationship you two have with each other and your comfort levels.

    As for the random strangers saying things of that nature, thats poo.
    Now if they have chatted you up and there are no bad/awkward/strange vibes or you two know each other well enough, then I say its okay.
    But to me the comments have to be reasonably decent, nice figure or sexy hair is fine. "Your ass is so juicy" on the other hand is to raunchy for my taste, its a compliment no doubt but there is a time and place for that.

    I can't remember the last time I complimented a girl I was trying to talk to ie. in the coffee shop/mall/etc. I figure they are so used to getting compliments and what not that if I do compliment (they think I am just trying to get in their pants) so I save the compliments for a later time and I try not use physical compliments...more of stuff they wouldn't expect and normally hear. Heck I even "neg" them and it seems to be recepted either neutral or positively. I used to be such a puppy dog with women...I did notice that when I started being more blunt and assertive...my interactions were better.

    And that goes for people in general...confident and even some cocky is always better than no/low confidence and uncertainty. Even when I am lost and don't know where the heck I am going I pretend I know. Or I like to always have an answer for everything but if I really don't know I wont make something up....especially if I am giving medical advice.

    Okay that went off topic.

    There should be no double standards...ever. ie. Guy sleeps around hes a pimp, girl sleeps around shes a slut. Both are whores...man whore and whore. Now I only believe in this if they have a significant other...if they are single then thats their choice.

    Men = Women and that means same treatment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post
    Men = Women and that means same treatment.
    i should be, but in many cases that's just never going to happen. SOME double standards i approve of, like women not being drafted or guys hitting girls considered way scummier than a dude belting another dude. men and women ARE different..different but equal. with the whole " you can't rape a man" thing is wrong though

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    i should be, but in many cases that's just never going to happen. SOME double standards i approve of, like women not being drafted or guys hitting girls considered way scummier than a dude belting another dude. men and women ARE different..different but equal. with the whole " you can't rape a man" thing is wrong though
    True True, if a woman puts on a 9 inch strap on and goes to town on the dude...hes in for it.

    And as for guys hitting women, that is some of the lowest of the low.

    There were times my ex girlfriend started hitting me in anger and my goal was to simply get her off me. Thats one thing I could never do, but I have thought of asking my tomboy friend to lay the smack down.

    But I always wondered...what if the woman is beating your ass and looks like this?

    Thats one hell of a woman...

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    Personally... I'll accept physical compliments and flattery in any capacity any time. It's just not as outwardly a regular occurrence from women to men as it is men to women. Plus I think for the most part men are much more aggressive and suggestive about it. There will always be double standards for both sexes though. So I just roll with it. However... if someone I'm not attracted to grabs my ass or something... I let her know that's not cool. If she's hot, well then different story. I'm a dog and I accept that. However... I never grab at or catcall to a woman. Furthest I go is one on one compliments... and sincere ones at that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlackSheEp3 View Post
    Wow three attractive women did that?! What a lucky guy...okay well that depends on who you ask and what was done to him. If they penetrated his rear...then ugh no bueno. But none the less if its not consensual....its rape and the guilty need to be prosecuted.
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    Him: we could meet... im 5ft 9 sexy italian with a 8 inch love stick...imagine playing with me... how would you do it
    Me: I would cut off your dick and feed it to the pigs

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