So as the title states, is it okay to objectify men but not women? More specifically, shooting a complement to a guy as in "Nice chest, or nice ass" but for the same being said to a woman, expect a face full of mase, a kick in the groin, or both?
Reason I ask is because today while I was on my routine run on the trail, as I was approaching a group of girls (they were in front of me) and passed them, they whistled and shouted. At first I thought to myself, haha you guys are just messing with me. People in groups tend to be more bold and do/say things they normally wouldn't if they were by themselves. But then one of em yelled as I ran passed "Nice ass". I felt offended and flattered at the same time...mostly the latter though. I found these girls attractive and they must have been in their late teens/early 20s so maybe I would have felt a whole lot different if they were some rambunctious senior citizens.
I asked some guy friends if they would like it if a girl commented on their physique as in chest, arms, legs, ass, whatever. All of em said they would love it. Now it seems most if not all guys don't get offended by such comments, but women you would find it offensive? Or only if they guy was not attractive? Then its creepy and perverted...but if hes fine as pie then would you be down? This is granted the man is keeping it civilized and not over doing it.
So is this a double standard that will never change? Compliment a guy in any which way and its a compliment, compliment a woman in the "wrong way" and its harassment. There were times where I thought of complimenting the girl I was talking to about how nice her legs were or such and such, besides the typical eyes/hair deal but I figured that it would come out looking perverted and offensive even though that's not my intent. I just mean it literally, that's a nice pair of legs or a shapely butt. If a girl told me that I had nice whatever butt/arms/legs/etc. I would be flattered. Now if she wasn't my type...well I would still be flattered.



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