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    A while ago, I met (I thought) a great customer. He took me to the CR for half an hour, then bought another half hour when the first one was up. (So he ended up paying more overall......because committing to an entire hour upfront actually costs less for the customer.) He was very respectful and we basically just sat and talked the whole time. Afterwards, he said he wanted to keep in contact, and suggested that we exchange e-mails. He had nowhere to write his down, so I handed him a dollar to write on. Then he said, no, wait, here......and pulled out a $50, wrote his e-mail on that, and gave it to me instead! We e-mailed back and forth a couple times discussing my schedule, and then he gave me his number and said that I could text him instead of e-mailing if I felt it was easier. I texted him, and he has since told me he would be coming in to see me on a few separate occasions. He never contacts me for any reason other than to ask about my schedule. Here's the thing though - he has never showed up since that first night! He will promise to come in, and then always has some excuse why he couldn't make it. I can understand once or MAYBE twice.....but every time? Why even pretend you're going to come, then? Is it some sort of weird customer hustle that I'm unaware of, or what?

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    Default Re: What is This Guy's Deal?

    maybe he's broke, or can't get out because of his wife or work or any other number of things...i have a customer like that, always asking me when he can see me, and then cancelling..i gave up and just heard from him again last night! i would remain polite but don't hold your breath or count on him. or maybe he's just lost interest, are you contacting him or is he contacting you every time?

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    Default Re: What is This Guy's Deal?

    OTC hustle from One Hit Wonder.

    He's trying to psych you up to see him in the club $$$$ yet he'll keep playing the game of not showing up. Then out of the blue he'll do a "hey how about you come over ..... or come out to xyz with me".

    He's more so asking your schedule to find out when you're NOT in the club.

    I suggest only ignore him on days you do not work. Make sure that you answer on days you will be at the club. Also start pulling back. Less time on the phone and slowly transition into not answering. He'll show up in the club to pull the string to start all over again.

    Lol he wrote on a $50 haha that's classic!

    He's smart at this game.

    First he spent alot so the girl is like yah! great guy.
    Then he asks for contact but makes sure to keep it green friendly with the contact on the $50 move. <-- Think Pavlov's Dog
    He gets your email and then tries to move that to phone
    Then he probably has actually spoken on the phone
    Next will be "lets meet up outside of the club". He'll use something about " he hasn't gone because he just doesn't like the club environment all that much when he's been doing this little tag game for years.

    I can't really tell if this guy is trying for a relationship or he's trying to get OTC sex. Either way dial back the contact and slowly stop responding. He'll pull another money tree moment if he feels you're loosing interest.

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    If he keeps contacting you, that one would assume that he IS interested, especially since he wants to know when you are working. Honestly though, he sounds like a bit of a flake. Yes he was a good customer the night that he spent those 2 half hour sessions with you and tipped you $50.
    I've had many "would be" regulars like this before. They spend a handsome amount on your one night, talk to you for most of time and then they want to "stay in touch." He's probably hoping to pursue you for free outside of the club.

    As for why he never comes in when you tell him you are working, he probably has no money/has lost interest.
    Appreciate that you enjoyed your time with him and expect that staying in touh with him through texts will probably never go anywhere.

    In the future, I might suggest that you save the number exchanges for 'whales.'

    No worry though hun, they come and go babe, they come and go.

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    See, that's the thing. I would feel differently about it if he were trying to contact me to talk about stuff that has nothing to do with when I'm working. But he is the one who always initiates contact, and as I said, it's ONLY to find out if I'm working that night or some upcoming night in the future. Otherwise, I never hear from him. We've never talked on the phone, and our conversations via text (if you could even call them that, since it's about a 3 text exchange, MAX) are very "straight to the point."

    Would it be wrong of me to basically call him out on it and let him know (in a nice way, if possible) to just leave me alone if he never actually intends to come back in and see me? Obviously, texting with him takes up hardly any of my time......but I'm getting pretty tired of this stupid game.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    Would it be wrong of me to basically call him out on it and let him know (in a nice way, if possible) to just leave me alone if he never actually intends to come back in and see me? Obviously, texting with him takes up hardly any of my time......but I'm getting pretty tired of this stupid game.
    ^Just ignore his texts, don't respond and he will soon get the idea that you have "lost interest" or are too busy for his games.
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    text him and make him feel bad. "where r u, ive been here for 3 hrs and so bored, weds always suck but I came in to see you tonigh" then ifhe gives you the run around and texts you a later night tell him you are upset that he stood you up and he will have to come in and make it uo to yiu

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    Default Re: What is This Guy's Deal?

    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    Would it be wrong of me to basically call him out on it and let him know (in a nice way, if possible) to just leave me alone if he never actually intends to come back in and see me? Obviously, texting with him takes up hardly any of my time......but I'm getting pretty tired of this stupid game.
    In this case yes. He will just pull the classic guy tactic response of 'deny & act hurt'. If you try to call him on it even in the most subtle way he will then act overly hurt that you could even imply such a thing since he is such a 'nice guy' and then try to guilt you into making it up to him.

    Guys do not respond to words. They respond to no contact.
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    Quote Originally Posted by justanothercamgirl View Post

    Guys do not respond to words. They respond to no contact.
    A wise saying that should be taught to girls during the birds and the bees conversation to save them from later heartache.

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