I am not a stripper, but was curious about how many of you try to help new girls who are having trouble or do you pretty much leave them on their own? I guess this question is geared more towards the veterans out there.


I am not a stripper, but was curious about how many of you try to help new girls who are having trouble or do you pretty much leave them on their own? I guess this question is geared more towards the veterans out there.





Ehh, depends on my mood and how busy the club is. If it's Tuesday afternoon, sure, I'll talk to them until the next customer comes in. But if it's Friday night, no, and I'll probably tell them they should have started on a slower shift to get the ropes down.
So unless it's uber busy, I'll chat with them, especially if they're sitting in the dressing room with that panicked look on their face. I'll give pointers if needed, or a push towards a guy if they are being timid at approaching ("Hey, you're blonde, that guy told me he looooves blondes" - they usually get a little more confident after their first few sales).
But I'm not gonna hold their hand and do EVERYTHING for them. I once met a girl in a shop who was all "Omg you're buying shoes? You must be a stripper. Help me, what do I buy to wear, where do I audition, when, how", etc etc.
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depends on what they want me to help them with, and how often. ill lend somebody an outfit if they seem nice, or a wipey, or perfume..but don't ask me for it every time! i pay a lot of money for my stripper stuff. ill give them advice like "don't leave your purse on the edge of the stage, one girl got her's stolen a month ago" or " watch out for so and so, they are pervs" or " the manger will flip if you do this n that, its against the rules". i don't help with hustling tips though. i learned from hard work, school of hard knocks, and by studying hustle hut so im not going to spoon feed a newbie all my tricks of the trade. they are my competition, in an already VERY competitive job
To an extent. If someone looks like they're drowning and just need a push in the right direction, or they don't really know how the club rules/etiquette work, sure. But I've learned from experience that being too accommodating and helpful toward new girls can lead to them running to you for every little problem - in the middle of you trying to work. That's not ok. If I'm in a helpful mood, I'll just come here and answer some threads. That way, I'm helping new girls make smarter decisions but it doesn't interfere with my own working hours. Time = money.
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If I got along with them really well and we had something in common. Or if they asked a question nicely.





I help them all of the time.
All of the time.
I don't go too far out of my way... but if the girl seems like a reasonable human being, I will happily give her any advice she asks for. I introduce myself to new gals and welcome them aboard.
A few years ago, I befriended one very pretty girl from Bhutan. She was shy and a bit confused when she started out. We'd walk the mile (6 avenue blocks) to the train station together because we were both trying to save money... we were the crazy broads that would hoof it home rather than take a cab. Clearly we were both serious scrimper stripper sisters. LOL. Safety in numbers, we'd walk back together and we chatted a bit.
She had an intelligent, kind aura around her and I noticed her good attitude. Long story short I decided to help her out...Bonus point! She never asked to borrow my clothing or makeup!!!
After a few months this smart cookie became an amazing stripper... she started out-earning me on certain nights, and we'd trade tips and hints. I learned a lot from her too... it's a two way street. I am always open to good advice. I'm not too proud to ask for advice. Heck, if I knew EVERYTHING, why would I be reading this site all of the time?
I feel like I learn something new every damn day... I liked her perspective on certain things and I feel like it was a pretty equal acquaintanceship... we weren't BFFS, we weren't hustle buddies, we never hung out after work or on off days, we never called one another, we didn't look the same, we didn't dance the same, our hustles were nowhere near the same, we didn't have much in common, she never drank, I'm kind of a lush, she lived further away than I did and had some family issues so she stayed secretive about her job, I flagrantly didn't give a fuck about people knowing my vocation, we were very, very different people... we were just colleagues with a mutual respect for one another and she had the good sense to listen to my advice and use the tidbits that applied to her wisely.
I moved on from that club and I hope she is doing well... She taught me a thing or two and I helped her be a better stripper.
I think it's just good karma to help other girls out.
If it weren't for two very patient strippers I was fortunate enough to meet in 2003, I wouldn't be where I am. If it weren't for a gorgeous gal who frequented this site in the past, I wouldn't have been able to rock NYC clubs. The ladies I've met on SW (and to a lesser extent EDN) have been wonderful guides. Girls that showed me kindness in the clubs when I was new (or "new" due to relocation) helped me more than they even know.
As soon as I got my bearings, I made it a point to show others the same kindness I was given before. I welcome new dancers, I offer constructive help, and I give them encouragement if it's necessary.
For any new dancers that want to get in good with experienced strippers... Follow these suggestions:
- Be polite
- Be low key for a bit of time
- Be professional and considerate
- Talk less and LISTEN MORE
- Slow times are the best times to ask questions
- Don't ask for clothing, shoes, or makeup... if you're unprepared, it is your problem
- If you fuck up, even inadvertently, take the high road... take responsibility and apologize
- Don't get too personal... don't ask personal questions, don't tell personal stories, Ain't Nobody Got Time For That!





I help out to an extent like others have said. You have to watch All About Eve as a precaution though'.





Very, very occasionally. I don't lend stuff, (except maybe mints or something) and I'm not going to chat to another girl on the floor or give her tips on how to hustle. Occasionally I'll tell a new girl off - not sure if that counts as helping? The basics of etiquette or something that she would get fired for - so even though it is me pulling her aside and saying "this is not ok, don't do it again" it is in the interests of her not losing her job. I guess that is helping, right?
That said, while I never go out of my way to help newbies, I am always nice to them. I do remember how scary it was to start out, and so I'll happily say hi, and have a chat with a smoke, compliment a girl if I think she has a great outfit, etc etc. I never want to turn into one of the girls that scared the crap out of me when I first started, who would never so much as look at a new girl unless it was to tear her a new one!
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Hear me ramble about random things:
I help new girls. I don't mind lending small items. I offer advice if asked, and sometimes even if they don't ask I'll tell them if they're committing a zero tolerance stripper offense (saw one girl with glitter ALL OVER her face, another oiling up her legs) What I will never do again, however, is take them around with me and make money for them. There's one girl that follows me EVERYWHERE I GO months after meeting her. She's nice and I like her, but I'm like, damn, training is over, girl. lol Get out there on your own.
I want to say thank you to all of you who do help us newbies! At least the new ones who don't show up looking drugged out of their mind and too rude to r deserving of help.
My very first audition was on a Monday night, after reading up on here for a month. However I am extremely grateful to the long time girl at the club who pulled me aside to sit with her while she got ready and spent almost an hour (there were no customers yet of course) explaining some of the basic courtesies and absolute no-nos to me. She gave me a crash course on everything noob related, most of which was things I read here. Her spending time with me took me from literally shaking and wanting to vomit nervous to feeling like maybe I could do this after all.
Because of that, while I know I don't have years of wisdom, or even a year yet, I try to pass along little things that I've learned here or from personal experience to any newbie who seems nice and like she's trying. Hell, half the time my idea of helping consists of handing them a napkin with stripperweb.com written on it and saying 'you should go. A lot.'
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I'm a new girl, and I don't trust a lot of people who "give me advice" I hustle on my own a lot because I have the kind of attitude that if people try to act all friendly they are trying to stab me in the back or take something from me...I grew up in a tough city with abusive ass parents so even my parents screwed me over ..over and over...and over again. I can only name two people in my life that I know personally who have a personal interest in my well being, other wise, I have a dog eat dog mentality about people a lot...I dont expect them to help me, or be there for me...or anything. I didn't fucking get it from my own damn parents, why should I expect it from strangers.
On the internet however, people tend to be nicerso I trust you guys lol





It REALLY depends on the club, what kind of club it is, how many girls are working etc. Most dancers just keep to themselves and while they won't be outright rude to a newbie, they won't go out of their way to make you feel welcome either.
If I see someone looking nervous or lost I will check to see if they are ok i.e. they aren't sure where the bathroom is, what the dress code is etc, or if they just ask me a question. Or, if they are unintentionally doing something wrong, I will politely let them know (so that other's don't do it, not so politely) i.e. talking to customers around the tip rail.
Luckily, I work at a club where cattiness is NOT tolerated and stripper etiquette is encouraged amongst the girls.
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I am not a "veteran" dancer but I have been doing so for 11 months now. Every time there is a new girl in my club (new to dancing or not) I introduce myself at least with a huge smile and a hand shake. If they need my help or not I want them to know that we are nice girls( well most of us) and welcome new girls. So far there has been three brand new girls to dancing and I've tried to help all of them. Sometimes they take my advice, and sometimes they don't.
When I first start NO ONE helped me. Hell the staff was more helpful than the dancers, really. I learned a lot on my own and WATCHED and LISTENED a lot. It was about a month and a half before the other dancers really started talking to me and accepted me.
I guess it depends on the club and the girls there. Some will gladly help you and others will let you fall on your face and smirk about it. shame

I've been dancing about a year now, and am still learning every night and working on improving my hustle. I will help a new girl but only if she comes and asks me. I don't socialize with the other girls at work beyond common sense situations. I'm there to make my $$$ and go home and I like that to be clear. I don't mind giving out some minor things, like.. oh a tampon or a wipey, but theres NO WAY she's borrowing my hair brush or thong!
I helped a couple new girls when they ask me because I just have a kind heart and I didn't get much help when I started. I do notice new girls tend to make easier money cause customers intrigued by their newness so the only way I help them hustle is with a double dance and we both make money.




I'll give them advice when ask, or let them use some of my products if I have an abundance to give. I won't go out of my way to help a new girl, and I wouldn't "train" a new girl or let her shadow me. I mean, I usually keep to myself anyway so I won't go out of my way to talk to someone. But I'll be polite/courteous and nice if they approach me.
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This is me as well. If someone reaches out to me, I'm certainly not going to be rude and I'll happily help answer whatever question they have or calm their nerves, but I'll rarely go out of my way to offer tips or advice. Making money is my number one priority in the club, and being nice to a newbie isn't going to interfere with that for me. During downtimes though? Happy to chat when approached.




Nope. I'm really off-standish with new girls. If they ask me a question directly I'll answer it in as little words as possible. I probably do come off as a bitch, idk. When I was new, I was hazed for months until one of the vets abruptly decided to take me under her wing. It was tough, and I think it impacted the way I perceive new girls. I certainly don't haze them, but I feel incapable of going out of my way to be really nice and helpful.
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I haven't danced in a club for a while, but I always did.I started off in a dirty dive where having a full set of teeth made the other girls envy you. I helped them because nobody helped me, call it stripper karma.



I don't introduce myself to anyone, but if I've seen a face a few times and see that she's getting it I'll warm up to her. If she asks me a question I'll give her honest advice, but I keep it short and sweet unless I can tell she wants to learn from me. A lot of people don't take advice, so why should I waste my breath. I'll never volunteer advice bc most people don't want to hear it anyways and it could sound bitchy if I approach her over it.. Besides its not my job. I worked one of the fresh meat shifts the other day and two young newer girls asked me advice, and I was really flattered that they'd look up to me. I don't know everything and I have a share if shitty nights, but it felt good to know that they admire me. I started dancing when I was 18 and I still remember the women who took me under, I needed a LOT of help lol. I feel like I should pay it forward.
I'm still pretty new myself but if I could help a new girl out I would. My very first night it was totally dead in the club and a couple of the girls were so sweet helping me learn to dance on stage and in the back. One girl let me borrow earrings (I had bought new earrings that I meant I be stripper earrings but my definition of stripped gaudy was not enough lmao). She gave me some advice on outfits, wearing bright colors, being confident etc. the second club I was at the girls mostly left me alone, and at my third (and current) club I got a lot of hustling tips from two of the top earners and a bit of unsolicited advice from another girl! Sounds like I've been very lucky. The two clubs where the other girls were super sweet and helpful didn't have a housemom so maybe that's the difference.
Very rarely. I usually don't even talk to them unless they talk to me first. LOL.





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