The boyfriend and I have read all of Camming Connection's helpful advice regarding my earlier post. We've got a camera on the way and we're working on the lighting; we've registered on ELM, SM, and C4S and are waiting on approval; we've made a Twitter account, downloaded our editing software, gotten all the props together, discussed our boundaries. I feel like we've covered all the conceivable technical aspects of camming ad nauseum.
And yet, I'm anxious as fuck. I've been in the adult industry for 5 years now. This camming venture should be a completely natural extension of my job, I shouldn't be sweating it. But I find myself hung up on two things.
Firstly, I've just now been struck by the permanence of internet content. In every other job I've worked, even though I've had to provide ID/SSN, I felt like I still had a thick veil of anonymity. For some reason, I now have this disquieting feeling about broadcasting our sexuality online. Up until today, when we submitted our last verification request, I thought I wouldn't give a shit -- but apparently I do. This is probably just last minute anxiety before I take the plunge, and maybe I'll be over it by the time we sell our first video, but I'd just like to know how you ladies prepared yourself mentally for opening yourself up to anonymous clients.
Secondly, I'm concerned that working an adult job together might affect our relationship negatively. I know he suggested we work together because he wants to be involved in "my world." I've stripped through our relationship and he's never taken issue with it -- he's never been jealous, nor possessive, nor discouraging -- but I know he wishes he were included in that part of my life. And I really would love to share it with him, I'm delighted that I'm not flying solo anymore, even if we don't make a dime together. I'm just scared that work and sex will intermix unfavorably -- I don't want sex to be diminished to a job; I want us to keep them mentally separate, even if when we work, sex is the job. He's very much an exhibitionist and really gets off on the idea of camming with me, and I'd hate for us both to end up drained and disappointed. He's read up on the realities of the job, but I'm scared that he might feel more alienated from my work if it doesn't pan out for us.
I'd really appreciate some perspective on this, as I'm severely in need of advice and encouragement.



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