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    Default Almost ready to start camming as a couple, yet I'm plagued with anxiety

    The boyfriend and I have read all of Camming Connection's helpful advice regarding my earlier post. We've got a camera on the way and we're working on the lighting; we've registered on ELM, SM, and C4S and are waiting on approval; we've made a Twitter account, downloaded our editing software, gotten all the props together, discussed our boundaries. I feel like we've covered all the conceivable technical aspects of camming ad nauseum.

    And yet, I'm anxious as fuck. I've been in the adult industry for 5 years now. This camming venture should be a completely natural extension of my job, I shouldn't be sweating it. But I find myself hung up on two things.

    Firstly, I've just now been struck by the permanence of internet content. In every other job I've worked, even though I've had to provide ID/SSN, I felt like I still had a thick veil of anonymity. For some reason, I now have this disquieting feeling about broadcasting our sexuality online. Up until today, when we submitted our last verification request, I thought I wouldn't give a shit -- but apparently I do. This is probably just last minute anxiety before I take the plunge, and maybe I'll be over it by the time we sell our first video, but I'd just like to know how you ladies prepared yourself mentally for opening yourself up to anonymous clients.

    Secondly, I'm concerned that working an adult job together might affect our relationship negatively. I know he suggested we work together because he wants to be involved in "my world." I've stripped through our relationship and he's never taken issue with it -- he's never been jealous, nor possessive, nor discouraging -- but I know he wishes he were included in that part of my life. And I really would love to share it with him, I'm delighted that I'm not flying solo anymore, even if we don't make a dime together. I'm just scared that work and sex will intermix unfavorably -- I don't want sex to be diminished to a job; I want us to keep them mentally separate, even if when we work, sex is the job. He's very much an exhibitionist and really gets off on the idea of camming with me, and I'd hate for us both to end up drained and disappointed. He's read up on the realities of the job, but I'm scared that he might feel more alienated from my work if it doesn't pan out for us.

    I'd really appreciate some perspective on this, as I'm severely in need of advice and encouragement.
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    Default Re: Almost ready to start camming as a couple, yet I'm plagued with anxiety

    First of all, DON'T STRESS! Keep a positive attitude and it will be a fun thing for you two. For camming, charge a lot since it isn't something you can do for 5 straights hours and expect him to get hard at the drop of a hat. Keep him in the background, trolls are just terrible to the guys and burnout comes on fast. Couples camming is tricky and not always that profitable. Clips are honestly a much better bet, with just a camera you can pretend like you're just doing it for fun instead of having some guy in the room madly typing "HARDER F#CK HER HARDER, GET DEEP, DOGGY DO DOGGY NOW, NO GET ON TOP DO HER HARDER CUM NOW DO IT NOW" as your poor guy tries to cum buckets on demand while trying to read the computer for every. single. convoluted. demand. while trying to look super sexy. I do well camming with my guy, but he also did solo camming before we met and is used to the trolls. Just stroke the hell out of his ego and you two will have a good time with everything. After seeing what you do he will probably be MORE comfortable with your work, like oh yeah this really isn't a sexual thing for her, just a job. And be impressed with the unbeliavable BS that you put up with.

    do it too much though, and sex will almost certainly disappear from your relationship, it will be unpaid work and only marginally enjoyable.

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    Default Re: Almost ready to start camming as a couple, yet I'm plagued with anxiety

    ^Thank you! I really appreciate hearing a positive couple-camming experience. He wants to start off by selling content and progress to live camming when we get the hang of things. That's completely fine by me, because like you said, camming seems to have a much higher burnout rate and more potential to sabotage our sex life. I think keeping things in clip-only territory for a good while would be wise -- we do occasionally film (and edit) for our own entertainment, so selling videos would be a less harrowing transition for me.

    I'm admittedly comforted by the fact that there's no way in hell either of us could live-cam full time, so hopefully the novelty will still be there for him when we do. Between my stripping and our schooling, I expect it to be a regular but infrequent thing. At least with selling content (which will hopefully be regular and frequent), we'd be able to work together without an aggressively demanding audience.

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    Default Re: Almost ready to start camming as a couple, yet I'm plagued with anxiety

    Clips are a really good way to start, I make money getting a foot rub and he gets loads of BJs. It's just more enjoyable for both of us. I honestly do camming as an extra cash kind of thing now, I want to go shopping this week, or get a better car I hop on cam.
    You honestly have a huge advantage making clips with a partner, camming as a couple is more of a niche and you'll typically be better off going solo.

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