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    Default Escort/masseuse burn out??

    I just don't seem to feel like working anymore. I've blown off calls like crazy. It's like I just don't care about the money anymore. I'm really dedicated to training for triathlons, but I can't seem to get motivated to work. Every time the phone rings, I dread answering it. I hate even talking to them. I've been a masseuse/escort for 10 years now. This past year, I've just been getting by. But these last couple of months, I'm not even doing that. I can't really afford to do this. Has anyone ever had this problem? How do you handle it? It's like I have no energy to work. After I get done training in the morning, I want to take a nap around 10 am or so when I'm supposed to be working. And sometimes, I'll put the ads up and then sleep and get interrupted just as I fall asleep with another phone call. Grrr! Nothing like constantly getting woken up by a ringing phone. It seems that any time I am ready to take calls, nothing comes in. I like to be available between 11am to 7pm. But business doesn't necessarily come in then. And staring at the clock for even an hour seems like an eternity. The second I get busy doing something, the phone rings and I get interrupted which annoys the shit out of me when I'm deep into something. I get people calling me at 6:59, right after I wrote in my ad 7pm. So tiring and draining. I'm fine when I'm actually working i.e. doing the massage, the escorting part, but it's getting there that's the problem.

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    Default Re: Escort/masseuse burn out??

    maybe hire someone to answer the calls or try an agency for awhile- getting a real job can be a reality check of how profitable sex work is and how shiity real jobs can be - we all go thru it so don't feel alone - I hope you find something that works for you - IDK - sorry

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    Default Re: Escort/masseuse burn out??

    I know what you mean. I hate answering the phone too because they do ask so many dumb questions. I'm to the point where if they start asking something dumb or inappropriate I just hang up right away, lol. I have no patience for it and I feel like I'm working for free if I keep talking to them sooo....click!

    Oh and the other part about right when you start to do something the phone rings...so true! I swear it will be slow for a few hours so I'll leave to go do an errand and right when I leave the phone rings! Something weird in the universe lol.

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    Wow. I thought I was the only one. I myself have been doing this (dancing/escorting/masseuse) since I was 18 and completely know how you feel. There have been times where the phone could ring, ring, and ring and I just dread the thought of hearing another bs caller but let me tell you once the appointment is over and I have the money in my hands I feel so much better. Lol. Pretty much what motivates my ass to picking up the phone, getting up is keeping in mind that I have to pay rent, bills, and of course I want to shop so I have to work for it. Plus I always remind myself that dark days are ahead of me (you know the days, sometimes weeks where I don’t get a single call) so it’s always good to seize the opportunity while it’s there because you never know when business could die down.

    But lol about the waiting game. Seriously I find it strange that whenever I am with my family or out doing something that’s when the phone rings and rings and of course I’m not around to take a single call. I always used to joke that they must know when I’m busy.

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    I know what you mean, a lot of the time I used to get phone calls at inappropriate times like in the middle of the night while I was sleeping and this would annoy me when I wanted to be off after midnight (and my horrible then-boyfriend made me pick them up). Once I got a call at seven in the morning from someone CLEARLY intoxicated and high off cocaine--which I didn't realize until I got to his hotel room. Terrible experience, to say the least. I might be going back to escorting, in which case I will be using GoogleVoice for its amazing "do not disturb" call option--so no more 12am-12pm calls yay!

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    I did FBSM for 5 years and one day just had enough so I quit. I've always worked full-time in the legal field so I could get by financially. I've just decided to re-enter the field and I'm actually excited! (so lame, I know) Maybe you could take some time off so you can return with a bit more vigor and enthusiasm?

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    Hello sexymadness, I'm a dude and don't do your job, so I may be talking total BS, but I have friends that do. One thing you might want to try is 'becoming more exclusive', working only a couple days a week. Get a web site where you can publish the details about which days you will be available, announce your email and book appointments in advance, then turn your phone off (Or change your number, and only give out your number to screened customers.) Publish 'availability dates' on whatever local boards work for your area. Take a break / do something for yourself on your off days. You can still respond to email.

    Lots of guys like a good sexy massage and in my area, at least, it is hard to find. There is one touring lady from NYC that charges more than the 'full service rate', and is busy. (Google NURU and Kennedy NYC if you want to see her site.) Good luck!
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