So I wont say I am a nice guy because I aint. I'm selfish, greedy, materialistic, vain, hostile...in other words I am human. Now I will say nice guys are good guys and they don't finish last, pushovers and door mats finish last. One can be nice but still retain his spine...no jelly. On to my observation, I see jerks with beautiful or pretty women. They have a girl, exterior is on point....not sure about the internals of the female they are with ie. confidence, self esteem, intelligence, etc. What makes the guy a jerk in my eyes? Well for starters he will sit down while his girl orders the food, once the food is ready she retrieves it. He asks her to get a refill for his drink, etc. He does not pull out her chair or offer his jacket when she is feeling cold...now thats cold literally and figuratively. Now do these guys really get the girl? Is she his, does he have her heart, respect, and admiration? Perhaps the female has low self esteem? Or do women simply like the bad boy I dont give a fudge types who do what they want, when they want.
"In terms of psychology, "the 'asshole' consists of the following traits: High Extraversion, Low Neuroticism (perhaps), Low Conscientiousness, Low Agreeableness, High Openness to Experience, and a bit of a dip into the dark triad traits (those with an extreme dark triad profile aren't considered sexually attractive)." The dark triad refers to three personality deficiencies: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy."
"SBK also raised the question, why do girls want to be with the bad boy?
He found the answer from Michelle at Girlfriend's Planet who eloquently put it like this, "[Bad Boys] don't really ever commit to you, therefore you're always chasing after them. The challenge! As women, we're kind of wired to think that we can change anyone, and bad boys are no exception."
So where am I getting at? I am pondering the thought that these women feel they can tame these jerks...make em nice. Take away their bad sauce and lower the heat just a bit. And then...he will be perfect.
"Maybe for me, it boils down to this old saying, you always want what you can't have.
Women want some chase, some drama, some intrigue. If it's too easy to get the guy, then she might think, "Wait, he just fell into my lap. This is fishy. Maybe he thinks that I'm too good for him. Cool. I'm too good for him. Wait, if I'm too good for him, then that means I could do better. Next!"



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