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    Ok I put a profile up on a dating site, I do not get out much, having a kid that has autism and camming full time I don't have time to met people .So anyways this guy gave me his # and we started textin and he told me my cam name. I asked him what site did he saw me on? He said porn hub I was like wow.I put pictures up no cam picks but I did said on my profile work in the adult industry.After that I stop talking to him, then he text my phone last nite saying LOOKING GOOD I was like what are you talking about? he was like, "ON CAM" .I was like wow so I text back I really don't talk to fans. I don't mine telling someone what I do but I don't want them to know before hand I want to be the one to tell them not the other way around.I was thinking maybe I should not be like that. Has anyone had this happen to them? I should give him a chance I DONT KNOW but he talks like a fan and might have seen my shows that does not sit well with me...

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    I feel you. My boyfriend and I recently broke up, so I signed up for a dating site just to see what comes my way. I always wonder if some dude recognizes me on cam. If one did I don't know how I would react. I guess maybe if he seemed interested in knowing me, but if all he wants to talk about is cam then no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mimiboo69 View Post
    Ok I put a profile up on a dating site, I do not get out much, having a kid that has autism and camming full time I don't have time to met people .So anyways this guy gave me his # and we started textin and he told me my cam name. I asked him what site did he saw me on? He said porn hub I was like wow.I put pictures up no cam picks but I did said on my profile work in the adult industry.
    Why would you do this?

    I sure hope that you didn't specify your location on your profile.

    Saying you work in the adult industry on a dating site is basically turning yourself into an asshole magnet for guys who will want to take advantage of the fact that you're a sex worker any way they can. It's horrible that we live in such a world, but you can't just trust everyone on the net (especially people you may be planning to actually MEET in person) to take this information like us fellow sex workers do.

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    After that I stop talking to him, then he text my phone last nite saying LOOKING GOOD I was like what are you talking about? he was like, "ON CAM" .I was like wow so I text back I really don't talk to fans. I don't mine telling someone what I do but I don't want them to know before hand I want to be the one to tell them not the other way around.
    You put on your profile that you work in the adult industry which is risky enough when it comes to random, feckless idiots on dating sites. Potentially dangerous guys will see that you are a sex worker who they - if they play their cards right - can ACCESS you for free. Maybe I am more paranoid than others, but dealing out such scandalous information so easily if I were concerned about people I don't know if I can trust or not, can foggy the ways men communicate with you. How will you know the intentions of whoever messages you? Sure enough you can't ANYWAY, but throwing out your sex work just foggies it up even more.

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    I was thinking maybe I should not be like that. Has anyone had this happen to them? I should give him a chance I DONT KNOW but he talks like a fan and might have seen my shows that does not sit well with me...
    Well I don't know, it sure seems like he's a great catch so far...





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    Why would you do this?

    I sure hope that you didn't specify your location on your profile.

    Saying you work in the adult industry on a dating site is basically turning yourself into an asshole magnet for guys who will want to take advantage of the fact that you're a sex worker any way they can. It's horrible that we live in such a world, but you can't just trust everyone on the net (especially people you may be planning to actually MEET in person) to take this information like us fellow sex workers do.



    You put on your profile that you work in the adult industry which is risky enough when it comes to random, feckless idiots on dating sites. Potentially dangerous guys will see that you are a sex worker who they - if they play their cards right - can ACCESS you for free. Maybe I am more paranoid than others, but dealing out such scandalous information so easily if I were concerned about people I don't know if I can trust or not, can foggy the ways men communicate with you. How will you know the intentions of whoever messages you? Sure enough you can't ANYWAY, but throwing out your sex work just foggies it up even more.



    Well I don't know, it sure seems like he's a great catch so far...


    The reason I put that I worked in the adult industry was to be truthful.I really was not thinking about Potentially dangerous you made a really good point

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    You're welcome. I totally get how awkward it is, but I couldn't bring myself to mention sex work on my profile.. I'm on a site myself to make friends as I just moved to a new town and wanted to meet some new people here. But it's failing SO hard because I just cut contact with people because I can't even fathom becoming even slightly attached to them and then having to tell them about my work in case they reject me or guilt-trip me or whatever... I hope I get to meet some camgirls close to where I live at some point in person, but even then I worry about shit like competition or just nonsense.. agh!

    I hope we both find what we're looking for.. I am sure we will in time, and they'll be worth the wait. Thank goodness for this website! <3




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    When going on dates I tried the whole "I work in the adult industry." being honest thing. Men do not hear that, they hear "I'm a slut and I'm ready to fuck!!!" So after repeatedly treated like I was three-living holes for a cock I gave up and now I tell everyone I'm have a boring job in retail. Maybe if I get serious with someone I'll be honest, but otherwise nadda.








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    Besides being dangerous and being treated like 3 holes to fuck there are the pimps put there trolling. Oh, I bet she makes alot of $$$. So then they're just looking to use you. Unfortunately the only person who will understand is another sex worker. And the rare guy. Plus in a small town you risk being ostracized. You meet a guy it goes well for months you tell him, he can't handle it and runs his mouth. Now the town knows. Sadly people still look down on it even though you're making a valid check.
    I think it sucks when you just can't be who you really are around people and have them accept you for who you are and what you do. We're not out selling drugs and murdering people.
    I wish you luck on your quest.

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    I use to be upfront with guys about camming. Guys were all like I understand, it's a hustle, yadda yadda...but in actuality, they don't...they make it seem as if fucking was courting lol...They don't really take you seriously, they feel you have all this time on your hands...Not saying all men are this way, but the majority lol





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    Ummmmmmm yeah nooooooooo. I wouldn't talk to this dude. I would block his number and block him on the dating site. I can already foresee how this situation will turn out and it isn't good. I agree with everyone on the whole adult industry thing on your profile.

    I don't get out much either. I honestly like staying home and being to myself....#teamintrovert. I've tried dating sites but I haven't really given them a chance. I've never put that I'm in the adult industry on my profile. Early in my career I use to tell guys that I was a model but I stopped doing that. I don't tell guys what I do anymore. Now if I were to get serious with a guy then I'd tell him but if we are just getting to know each and just dating then I don't feel he needs to know. I just tell guys that I'm a web designer/developer which isn't a lie.

    Honestly I already have a problem with a certain type of guy coming at me kinda cray so yeah there ain't no way I'm telling them that I virtually get men off for a living. I plan on giving dating sites another try though....a serious try this time. I dunna if you're on a free or paid site but I've heard that its better to use paid sites because you're more likely to deal with guys who are serious about dating/relationships.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lolabunny View Post
    I use to be upfront with guys about camming. Guys were all like I understand, it's a hustle, yadda yadda...but in actuality, they don't...they make it seem as if fucking was courting lol...They don't really take you seriously, they feel you have all this time on your hands...Not saying all men are this way, but the majority lol
    I personally say that I'm in sales. Which I am. /flex

    If they want to know more about me, they gotta tip! I mean... Earn it. =P
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    That's the reason i am single here now, i dont trust to tell local guys what i work, i dont know if i'll ever meet a guy for a serious relationship while in the industry (i tried 2 times tho), i wish but i know the risks are too high so i keep a low profile regarding my work and income also. You never know how things turn around and u can put in danger ur own & family safety having in mind u have a kid with a special condition so is even more dangerous.

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    Mimi, BB: for your safety, I would not state that you're in the adult industry on your profile. There are too many crazy out there. I'd hate for something to happen to you. I am also on a dating site but I don't tell guys about me being a camgirl. Too often time people are proven to be unworthy of knowing such private aspect of your life. There's a big difference between honesty and disclosure.
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    Some guys have the impression that we only do this work because we are desperate, we have sunk to the lowest possible place, to sell our bodies...so not only are open to have sex with any guy who wants to with us, we are also on our knees and easy to manipulate.

    Edit: On my profile I say how I am professionally qualified, one guy asked me what happened for me to do this work...like I experienced a massive fall. Nothing happened, I have no issues with my sexuality and I just wanted to work from home in the hours that suited me and to be self-employed!
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    Exactly! They think they're doing us a favor by giving us the time of the day so in return, they want to cum over, drop their pants, get a nut then leave. Ooooooooh helll naaaaaaawww!
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    Or they think they're smart and know how to make money better than we do.

    I remember when I veeerrry first started I'd openly tell people and one of the first guys I told said something like "Do you keep 100% of the profits or do you give out a %? Cuz if you are you're not better than a Russian girl working for nickles and dimes. Try charging through Paypal. I could show you how to capitalize and make much more money"

    Bitch, plz.

    Whys love gotta be so hard for the cam girl/sex worker, eh?

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    So funny after I texted him back that I don't talk to fans he has not text back. I am going to take out I am a sex worker,guess I WAS a little gullible. I just did not want to take that risk of really of liking someone then they turn around and says if over cause I am a camgirl, you know but I guess if they really like me it would not matter. lately I been feeling so isolated

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    I really dont like it much. I had a guy I was talking to find out I was a cam model, he said he was fine with it. GREAT. However, THEN suddenly all convo seemed to turn sexy. It's like they cant separate the 2 or something! OR like just because Im sexy for work thats who I AM 24/7, UM NO. Guys like this I will just try to turn into tricks/sugardaddies. You want the sexy all the time? Well, give me the money then too!! Dont try to freeload in my real life, like we're in FREECHAT. I dont give attention to nontippers and the same applies here. lol. Unless, the guy can separate it and get to know the rest of you, its hard. Just like you said- a FAN

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    I dunno, guys, as much as it's NOT what I want, I've started accepting the fact that I very likely will be alone the rest of my life .. pretty much for all of the reasons listed here. It's hard enough finding a decent male and I just don't think I'll ever come across one who is decent AND is genuinely cool with what I do. So sad but true.

    It's really not fair, like I'm sure most of you are, I consider myself to be a good woman. I am smart, ambitious, caring, a great family woman .. but none of it matters. My work is humiliating to them or something. A joke. Most only want sex, some are cool enough with it to make me a short term girlfriend, but won't consider anything more with me.

    I mean, yeah, love means a lot to me so I could give up sex work and work some lame vanilla job in hopes that a male will come along .. but that's not what I want. My job is important to me too. I've worked some crappy vanilla jobs and they affected me so negatively. I'm genuinely happy and love what I do now .. so why can't I just have both? My friends with vanilla jobs or no jobs are all settled down and have families, but I'm the Scarlet Woman lol. I see it.

    That's my sob story/rant lol.

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    I dunno, guys, as much as it's NOT what I want, I've started accepting the fact that I very likely will be alone the rest of my life .. pretty much for all of the reasons listed here. It's hard enough finding a decent male and I just don't think I'll ever come across one who is decent AND is genuinely cool with what I do. So sad but true.

    It's really not fair, like I'm sure most of you are, I consider myself to be a good woman. I am smart, ambitious, caring, a great family woman .. but none of it matters. My work is humiliating to them or something. A joke. Most only want sex, some are cool enough with it to make me a short term girlfriend, but won't consider anything more with me.

    I mean, yeah, love means a lot to me so I could give up sex work and work some lame vanilla job in hopes that a male will come along .. but that's not what I want. My job is important to me too. I've worked some crappy vanilla jobs and they affected me so negatively. I'm genuinely happy and love what I do now .. so why can't I just have both? My friends with vanilla jobs or no jobs are all settled down and have families, but I'm the Scarlet Woman lol. I see it.

    That's my sob story/rant lol.

    You aren't alone. I feel the same way sometimes. Like, do I need to go find another guy who's in the industry ? Because vanilla guys just don't get it, in my experience.

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    So who's going to set up a dating site for adult workers? I see dating sites being advertised for if you like a man in uniform, so there should be one for escorts/pornstars/cam-people/porn producers/ex too where people in the industry can get together!


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    ^Like the millionaires club or whatever it's called, except instead of showing your bank statement or paying a large fee to be accepted you have to show your phone/cam/stripping/escort/porn credentials LOL! I could dig that.

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    I just wrote about this same thing in Life Support. Today, two guys within 10 minutes of each other ( I originally thought it was an hour..lol) wrote to me. One had been pvt with me a few times in the past and the other said he saw a pop up off me on a tube site. He even offered to do cam shows with me. Wasn't that soooooo generous of him? FML! It's a icky feeling having these guys write me at a place where Im being myself and not a performer.

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