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    Default Re: When/How did you come out?

    Fallenangel2904, I'd imagine how hard it can be at times but it seems like you have a good outlook on things. That's one of the downfalls of coming out to someone because at anytime they think they could use it against us.
    With no disrespect to your mom but don't ever let anyone makes you feel bad. People who truly love and care for you, don't treat or make you feel bad.
    You should be commanded for making something out of your life!
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    I didnt. Well i only told my oldest sis i do phone sex (which i dont)...but im not saying anything else. I know it'll always get thrown in my face.

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    I don't plan on ever coming out... My husband knows and he is all that matters. This is our personal private business. I have a very open relationship with my family and they know I am kind of the exhibitionist of the bunch... This is something I just don't think they would understand, and I really don't expect them too. One of my friends would pretend she was okay with it and judge me behind my back, the other would act all concern and think that I have finally crossed the line ( and tell he big mouth boyfriend who would tell EVERYONE we know) and the other would act all holier than thou and jealous... Not needed lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexysusie View Post
    (((Hugs))) FallenAngel. I know it's not the exact same thing but years ago I told my mom (who has always been very supportive of me) that I had a girlfriend. She was disgusted and wouldn't let me hug or touch her for months. I was so hurt, and completely shocked. But it does pass. We're ok now Hang in there xxx
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    Fallenangel2904, I'd imagine how hard it can be at times but it seems like you have a good outlook on things. That's one of the downfalls of coming out to someone because at anytime they think they could use it against us.
    With no disrespect to your mom but don't ever let anyone makes you feel bad. People who truly love and care for you, don't treat or make you feel bad.
    You should be commanded for making something out of your life!
    Thank you susie and Marina

    I would be so lost without all of you amazing people on SW I swear! When I feel like frowning you guys make me smile!

    Parents are hard to deal with sometimes. Me and my mom have a weird relationship- she's my best friend at times, but also my worst enemy as crazy as it sounds. Sometimes I feel like we're more like sisters then mother and daughter. Without getting too deep, I didn't have the best childhood and she made a lot of negative choices in her life so it really frustrates me that she would judge me for my choices. She just doesn't consider camming a 'real job', I guess that's some of the issue also.

    I've made peace with my choices though- the good ones and the bad ones- and I'm happy with the person I am because of them

    Thank you bb's for the love and support!!<3
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    i only started caming recently but i havent told anyone. im thinking about telling my mom but im not 100% sure, i almost told her today at dinner then i decided against it.

    we get along really well, like friends more than mother/daughter, she is one of my best friends. i decided to "test the waters" and i told her a few weeks ago i would love to get a sugar daddy instead of dating guys my age because at least then i would have security and guys my age around here are douchebags (she hates my ex because of how immature he was, so i knew saying that would help) and she basically said i should go for it. a few days later we were out shopping and i seen an older guy who was somewhat handsome and had a really nice/expensive car, and i jokingly said to her "oh gosh, theres my future sugardaddy!" and she laughed.

    i dont really plan on getting a sugar daddy, but i knew that was the closest thing i could say without admitting being a cam girl. i really want to tell her about my camming for a few reasons.
    1. i live at home with her, im afraid some day ill be on cam and she will come banging on my door yelling my real name lol.
    2. every day i get ready for cam i spend an hour on my appearance but its NOTHING how i look in every day life, i barely wear makeup but for cam its a full face, hair extensions, false eyelashes,etc. so when i start to feel hungry or tired i just clean off my makeup and go back to my regular appearance to go somewhere in the rest of the house...it would be nice to leave the makeup on incase i decide to hop on cam again later (almost every night i want to cam but dont feel like doing my makeup a second time)
    3. i am going to have to explain where all of the extra money is coming from..i could say web design but she would probably ask to see the work, she always shows an interest in my life.

    basically i dont know what to do! once i tell her i can't un-do it. if i do tell her ill probably say im non-nude and i just chat to lonely old men or something, if she knew i was showing my "goods" to multiple strangers every day she definitely wouldn't approve.

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    Thanks for all your stories, ladies! I think I agree with the majority when you guys say there's really no reason for them to know so why say it? The only reason I was considering coming out was because my mother knows my finances thus thinks moving is crazy. I've been reading through the responses and have decided that for now I won't tell her. Instead I've come up with an elaborate lie about how a family has hired me to be a babysitter/tutor and that they'll be helping me pay for an apartment out in the city that I want o move to. I've even come up with names and personalities for all the family members already!

    I really don't mind lying so much it's just that I can't believe I'm about to do something so crazy. I've been following the typical path all my life and now that I have graduated college and started camming I have the freedom to do whatever I want! It's almost scary having so many options!

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    The only person at "home" who knows is my boyfriend. He's helped me with my adult work all the time and has no problem with what I do. There is absolutely no way I could ever tell my family though. I come from what most people would say a very conservative European family. Not religious but very strict. I moved out as soon as I could when I was 19 and as far as I'm concerned I don't "owe" my family anything anymore now that I am an adult. If they find out oh well that would suck but I sure as hell am not going out of my way to tell them. What they don't know won't hurt them!

    CaramelLoveDoll good luck with whatever you decide to do... just remember telling someone you cam is kinda like peeing in a pool, once you do it it cannot be undone.

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    My heart goes out to all those ladies and lads who have to lie to get by. I understand it, it just makes me sad. Granted, if you feel like you just don't need to tell anyone your bidness (and you don't!), you're probably not too sad for yourself. But my experience with outright lying about my profession does make me feel some sadness on behalf of those with your pants on fire. ;-)

    That said, I got really, Super Duper lucky in this regard. Firstly, I married young, so Mr. Hubs was there to hold my hand the whole way. He supports every damn fool thing I get up to, so by the time sex work came along, he already had his pom poms out. I'd dabbled a bit in phone sex, but a few years ago I did my first porn flick. Before I ever got on the plane, I'd made up my mind to tell my sisters. I was nervous, in part, because one is pretty religious, but they all embraced it as just another wild thing that Sissy was getting into! Unlike a lot of us, I was never afraid to tell Momma. She was so proud of me! She knows how she raised me, so her very first question was if I was going to be able to find a labor union for the sex industry. Her second question -- well, it was actually more of a lecture, about making sure I charged what I was worth and paid my taxes on time. Momma and my sisters, and some extended family, still take an active interest in my career, and have been so, so encouraging as I've tried new things (like camming!). The only "bad" reaction I got was from some family members who'd decided to disown me after I married a black guy, so I couldn't really give a rat's puckered ass. (This is just between you, me, and the fencepost, but I signed 'em all up on a dedicated email list, and now they all get notified every time I do some new, depraved thing. Ha! Suck it, bigots!) Even with all that support from my family, I did fall into a pattern with "regular" folks: when my job came up, I'd talk around it, or change the subject, or even lie outright. It took nearly two years of seeing how geeked Mr. Hubs still gets over my pics and movies before I dropped the job-shaming. I thought, if this white-hatted, earthworm-saving, library-book-returning boy scout is proud of me (not to mention the amazing women who dominate my family) why in the hell was I acting less than proud of myself?? So, I am pretty open about all of it now. I am one of those raging feminists who folks would never think approved of the sex industry, so I like to treat it as a learning opportunity.

    The other "bad" reactions I've dealt with were from strangers who couldn't give me educated reasoning on the subject, so I don't really care what they think. Sorry, but if you feel that strongly about the evils and dangers of sex work, then you best read a book on the subject, else I'm just gonna laugh at your ignorant ass. If people just disagree with me, I don't mind. I disagree with the appointing of Supreme Court judges -- to each their own. Also, my brother got annoyed that I got "sister cooties all over" his favorite cam sites. ;-)

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    I used to work at a bank before I started camming.
    I went to work a week before Christmas, and my manager called me into the office,
    and fired me because of my tardiness. (Mind you, I had come down with really bad sleeping patterns due to depression/my mom dying. Shit happens, though.)

    I thought, "Omg, I need a job. Quick."

    My friend had suggested porn or phone sex. I looked into the industry, found "Webcam at home, make money!"
    Signed up for Mongocams.
    Mongocams was absolutely horrible.


    Looked into more websites like them,
    and signed up for streamate, myfreecams, and chaturbate.

    Have been consistently making over 3000 in a month.
    Better then 1200.00 at a stupid bank, don't you think?

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    I really feel for those of you who either can't be open with your family about what you do, or have been open and had a really bad response to it. I'm totally open with my mum and her b/f about what I do - they've both really supported me right from finding out I did extreme bdsm porn through everything else I do. My mum loves the fact that I can earn money doing what I love. Especially as previously my depression made it very hard to find and keep a "real" job. My mum even wants advice on starting camming herself now!

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