One thing I hate about myself is when I unexpectedly find myself in the middle of a confrontation the shock of it and the sudden emotions freeze me up and I don't know what to say off the top of my head. My mind just kinda goes blank and numb and though I am offended by the person and want to say things to defend myself, in the moment I can never come up with the right things to say. The person will say their piece and leave. I may stammer a bit, but it's not until they're gone and I settle down a bit do I think of all of the things I should have said.
I hate this because I hate feeling like I didn't appropriately defend myself and likely came off as a pushover which I am not, and I hate that feeling of when I should have put a wrong person in their place, but didn't get the chance to and now it's too late. So I just keep dwelling on it for awhile and it makes me angrier and angrier and when that happens I start thinking of ways to do something to that person out of spite just to get my "say" so to speak, which isn't good either.
Anyone else have this issue? I wish I could learn to remedy it and become a quick thinker and eloquent speaker even when things are intense and I'm not expecting to have to say what I need to say.
Any tips on how to get better at this?



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