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Last edited by Noelle_Noir; 02-21-2014 at 09:25 PM. Reason: Because
I don't have kids, but I did have a boyfriend that made me stop stripping and get another job. When I got another job, he had more issues from the kind of pants I wore to work to who I had to sit next to at work (assigned seating and in cubicles for fuck's sake). If I had kids, I would do anything to provide them with everything they need and more. I don't care if I had to do illegal activities to support my kids, I would do ANYTHING, I am not telling you to steal or anything but I seriously think you should do what you can do for your kids. If your boyfriend is not going to get things for your kids and help provide for the household, then it is your duty to provide for your kids. DO NOT let a man stand in your way when you are only trying to provide better for your children. I would sneak it and if he finds out, well fuck it. What is going to do about it? Your life.





I could never let a man stand in the way of providing for my children. Even putting that issue aside, a controlling insecure man is the last thing you need in your life. Being overprotective is not what he is doing.
I'm so angry right now rereading your post I'm red in the face. I only have one child home with me and I have to work a lot even to provide the necessities and for any luxuries I have to work extra, but with FOUR! that is a huge amount of money you need to make. Budget my ass.
As far as your son finding out - you already have videos out there sucking a cock so there is the possibility there already.
If I were you I'd take down that store, open a new one with a totally different name so that asshole can't find it, get a wig and change my makeup dramatically and put up new solo clips. You can change your look to a completely different one very easily. I love my wig. I look way more glamorous on cam than my everyday look. (and yes face recognition software could find me but a random person who knows me surfing porn wouldn't recognize me.)
I am too angry to be posting right now.
What the hell is this "man" adding to your life that you need to give him even one minute of your precious time? I see nothing.
Edited to add... in case this post paints me as some sort of bitter man-hater I just want to say that I'm certainly not. I love men. MEN who take care of their business and aren't insecure enough to try to control me. I have a man in my life. He's far from perfect but he accepts my work and understands it's a job and just a job.
You may have to be alone for awhile but that's a GOOD thing. You can get your head together and concentrate on those children and yourself and stop giving up your time to a man who does not deserve you at all.
There are good men out there who would treat you well and appreciate the things you do, accept you as you are and realize it's just a job, who deserve your attention and time. This man does not.
Last edited by laurielegs; 07-11-2013 at 05:56 AM.
I'm curious what money does he bring in?? It's odd some "guy" is telling you that you need to manage your money yet I haven't heard of him brining any in.
My point is that if he's not brining in real money he's not your man but another child you're supporting. It's best to worry about the babies that came out of your vagina and ignore the one that's trying to get in it.
She mentioned that they have separate households so his income is probably paying for his own bills I assume? If he is not paying your bills or helping you get ahead financially, do what you have to do. I wouldn't tell him because I don't want you to have to deal with some psycho guy trying to stalk you online. Do what you gotta do and seriously I would keep camming info to yourself. Insecure guys tend to get really crazy when they feel like they are gonna lose control soon.





Have no pity for a woman who puts her "boyfriends" need before her kids.
Stop crying & work. Work whatever job you want & see if the bf loves you no matter what.
Time spend with the bf is time away from working to provide for your kids. So I don't get it.
Crying here isn't going to get you sympathy, stop playing victim & become an advocate for you & the kids. The boyfriend is straight up telling you he WILL NOT rescue you. Life isn't a fairytale where a man rides in on a white horse & delivers you from responsibilities that are YOURS!
Sam



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Last edited by Noelle_Noir; 02-21-2014 at 09:26 PM. Reason: Because
I don't have too much to add but I wanted to say good luck with everything, your kids are very lucky to have you
cherryblossomsinspring
It's best to worry about the babies that came out of your vagina and ignore the one that's trying to get in it.
That is one of the most amazing things I have ever read.
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MOre whining & crying
Life is tough.
Who cares what social economic situation either one of you grew up in. This is America we are all equal...
The last time I asked a man permission to do anything was my Dad & I was 17 years old & in college. You keep looking to the boyfriend or son to make decisions instead of being an adult & making them all on your own. WoW!
Boohoo
Grow up





The statements I bolded are the most disturbing parts to me. I know you said "we have the best relationship ever," but he is very controlling and trying to interfere with you and your kids' happiness. And he isn't even a husband (and even if he was, I'd still say it's messed up)...he's just a boyfriend, and he's trying to keep you on a leash. You should get rid of him and focus on you and your kids. I can tell that camming is something you really want to do, so I think you should stick with it and do a little (or a lot) of C4S too so that you can be making money in your sleep. I'm sure another X dollars per month from C4S would really come in handy for you and your kids.
Also, you don't have to have to give your son the full details about your camming. You could just say something like you are in charge of a chatroom, and if he asks to check it out, say that in order to keep your identity private from people on the internet, you prefer to keep your in-real-life friends/family separate from work. Because you don't want one of your loved ones to slip up and tell all your personal business to these people. Something like that maybe? Your overprotective son is not the one paying the bills, and I hope that your controlling boyfriend isn't starting to rub off onto your son now. These kids don't understand how important it is for us parents to work and earn money. That is how the electricity bill gets paid (so they can watch their shows/movies/play Wii), and all the other stuff gets paid for. When they get older and get a job (having to deal with a boss all day), they'll start to understand what it's like being a responsible adult. And they'll start to realize that shit is expensive...lol. You're a grown woman who deserves to make her own decisions, and to do what's best for you and your kids. Putting up with a controlling boyfriend who wants to put a leash on you, and have you do nothing but stay at home and suck him off...is not what's best for you and your kids.
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A) Your boyfriend sounds like a controlling jerk. Nobody "lets" somebody else do something. You need to be with someone who is strong enough and secure enough that he doesn't feel the need to police you. You both need to be able to trust each other and stand on your own two feet as adults. This is a relationship, not a war. There's no dictating terms!
B) I don't know how your state deals with child support, but some states allow you to re-petition for support if what you're getting isn't paying the bills. Go talk to a women and children support agency, or legal aid. Just do a google search for legal aid+ your area and look for .org or .gov sites.
C) Kids, like dogs, get overprotective of their parents when they think that their parents are being taken advantage of/can't take care of themselves. What is happening in your life where your son sees you as a powerless victim? Look into that, ask him how he feels about it. You'll probably get a strong reaction from him, that's how you know you've found it! Then, if you take the steps to take control over that situation (I'm going to bet it's your dating life) and your son sees that, he'll feel better and relax, which will also allow him to be a kid again. If you use the adult industry (camming, C4S) to take back your control, make sure you frame it as this when you talk to your son. This isn't controlling you, you are controlling it. This is how mommy is taking control of her situation, she's not a fallen woman, this is a tool for her to make life better for HERSELF (not for her son, for herself).
D) You don't HAVE to tell your kids you're a sex worker. It's none of their damn business. YOU'RE the mom. YOU'RE in charge. Here's an article and a comment thread to the article debating the issue:
http://offbeatfamilies.com/2012/10/t...e-a-sex-worker
Telling people in general (includes your children)
http://www.respectqld.org.au/flyers-...20sex%20worker
Thread about telling your kids here on SW:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ou-do-for-work





A) Your boyfriend sounds like a controlling jerk. Nobody "lets" somebody else do something. You need to be with someone who is strong enough and secure enough that he doesn't feel the need to police you. You both need to be able to trust each other and stand on your own two feet as adults. This is a relationship, not a war. There's no dictating terms!
B) I don't know how your state deals with child support, but some states allow you to re-petition for support if what you're getting isn't paying the bills. Go talk to a women and children support agency, or legal aid. Just do a google search for legal aid+ your area and look for .org or .gov sites.
C) Kids, like dogs, get overprotective of their parents when they think that their parents are being taken advantage of/can't take care of themselves. What is happening in your life where your son sees you as a powerless victim? Look into that, ask him how he feels about it. You'll probably get a strong reaction from him, that's how you know you've found it! Then, if you take the steps to take control over that situation (I'm going to bet it's your dating life) and your son sees that, he'll feel better and relax, which will also allow him to be a kid again. If you use the adult industry (camming, C4S) to take back your control, make sure you frame it as this when you talk to your son. This isn't controlling you, you are controlling it. This is how mommy is taking control of her situation, she's not a fallen woman, this is a tool for her to make life better for HERSELF (not for her son, for herself).
D) You don't HAVE to tell your kids you're a sex worker. It's none of their damn business. YOU'RE the mom. YOU'RE in charge. Here's an article and a comment thread to the article debating the issue:
http://offbeatfamilies.com/2012/10/t...e-a-sex-worker
Telling people in general (includes your children)
http://www.respectqld.org.au/flyers-...20sex%20worker
Thread about telling your kids here on SW:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ou-do-for-work



Well damn, the board accidentally deleted some posts.
Your boyfriend doesn't sound very great if he's complaining that you need a job and then dictating what you can and cannot do for income, and making you second guess yourself which is a controlling behavior tactic. Next he'll try to dictate your work schedule, or when you can see friends and family. If you want to keep him around, tell him to shut his opinion hole- he's not paying your bills or child support.
As for your son, I can't give you much on advice that hasn't already been given. He's getting to an age where he's going to discover internet porn, if he hasn't already. If it makes you feel more comfortable, go get a wig or two, watch some makeup contouring videos on youtube, and set your default pictures to body parts rather than your face to make it a little more difficult for him to find you. If he presses the issue, you can explain that you work customer service and can't be disturbed during certain hours.
And everything Isobel said![]()




I don't think anyone got their posts deleted because the posts were deemed inappropriate in anyway, (at least I got no message about that) but they got deleted somehow in the process of... whatever the fuck has been going on with SW in general the past couple of days.
Posts that I made just a few hours ago have just disappeared, as have a lot of others posts for seemingly no reason. Seriously, it sucks such huge dick that I'm going to not post as much here for a while until I can be sure that no posts I spent longer than 2 minutes on are going to just vanish. :/ The board is doing the double-post thing again, agh..
^^I know, I was bummed
@Noelle, I don't know if you saw the thread before the roll-back, but a bunch of us were giving you a ton of props for NOT whining or playing the victim. As well as for trusting your instincts in knowing that something is wrong and for having the courage to start the process of changing this. It takes a ton of guts to approach a bunch of people on a forum asking for advice and feedback, and I hope most of what you read above re-affirms that your judgment IS sound in recognizing this situation as untenable. Don't let this guy stand in the way of the life you and your family need and deserve.
We wish you all the best and please let us know how things go.



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Last edited by Noelle_Noir; 02-21-2014 at 09:28 PM. Reason: Because
It just seems like he is trying to be TOO apart of everything that way he has some sort of control. It is YOUR career, not his.



I am still collecting everything I need for camming and C4S,I need a new camcorder and I am not sure what too pick.If anyone has a list of things I will defiantly need for camming or c4s please let me know <3
I think there's a sticky in cam connection for new camgirls.



UPDATE
I need too be honest and let everyone know that my fiance is not the monster that he may have come across.He has helped me more than anyone,including my own parents.He has supported me for two years when he did not have too.He is and will always be the true love of my life,I love him and after he has found this thread I hope he will love me and trust me again.I have hurt him and myself.I have come across ass incredibly selfish and in the end I have hurt the one who love me.He goes too work every day too support me and once was the life we had together,I just wanted too work so I would not feel like such a weight on him.He hates me now,and I understand why.I am sorry.
Last edited by Noelle_Noir; 09-01-2013 at 06:42 AM. Reason: Update





oh my - i dont even know where to start with this - Not to be mean or sound harsh but - he has you brainwashed sweetie - he is counting on you feeling guilty to get you back in your place - passive aggresive power and control - he obviuosly has a pattern of dating sex workers - my advice is
1) contact your local spouse abuse center or center for women and children and get into some counseling
2) work to take care of yourself and your children - not taking money from this A_HOLE that comes with strings attached - FUCK THAT
If you dont want to be a doormat - get off the floor
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