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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    NEVER EVER suck on the dildo's you have stuck in your ass. You can get majorly sick.
    agreed. ATM needs to remain a fantasy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by karaamsel View Post
    agreed. ATM needs to remain a fantasy.
    Why do cam girls offer that?

    I have seen a cam girl take a dildo out from there and stick it in her mouth. I find that disgusting. Ecoli and intestinal parasites and shit, should not be ingested.....not healthy AT ALL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CanadianRuby View Post
    Why do cam girls offer that?

    I have seen a cam girl take a dildo out from there and stick it in her mouth. I find that disgusting. Ecoli and intestinal parasites and shit, should not be ingested.....not healthy AT ALL.

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    Default Re: Insertion and tight spots. Help?

    You have gotten a ton of really great advice in this thread. Like, really fantastic, from-the-heart stuff from women who are professional, big money makers in the cam world and really know their stuff. I'm quoting the best of the best here and adding a little bit of what I think. Not that there's much to add. Everyone has covered it already, pretty much.

    Quote Originally Posted by roast View Post
    It sounds as if you shouldnt be doing anal on cam or possibly not camming period until you realize what your boundaries are.

    I say this because if youre breaking down in tears repeatedly, in pain, and following each order that comes by - my concern is you may not know how to negotiate your own boundaries. And it is dangerous to engage in sex work with no boundaries and end up with trauma as your compass? Not just "oh that sucked Im never doing that again" but trauma and you sound traumatized? And you being OK takes precedent over becoming increasingly more comfortable with doing anal on cam.

    you shouldnt have a job where youre reduced to tears and in emotional and physical pain esp after only 2days... and somehow expect that this is the norm? It isnt, it doesnt have to be, but allow yourself to either figure how it doesnt have to be or try out other employment options.


    Quote Originally Posted by KimKlass View Post
    You have a mouth- use it to speak up. Say "Hey, I cannot do what you're asking me to, so either let me slow down or we'll have to end the show."

    Oh, they give you funny looks when you bust out the warm up toys? Here's what you do- don't even allow them to know that you own anything bigger than that.
    And are they literally giving you funny looks? Are they legit making the, "Baroo?" face on cam to cam or typing, "WTF is that pathetic thing?" or is it your own internalized, "women must be nice, women must please men" thing? I think a good portion of the reason we sex workers get a ration of shit is that we DON'T kowtow or bend over backwards to be nice or please men when we don't want to. We WON'T let men who have learned, "just be pushier and she'll eventually give in" push us around. Men don't like that they can't eventually wear us down and women don't like that we've broken our conditioning while they haven't.

    Kim is also right on don't let them know you have anything bigger than that. I used to think that displaying my toys would get me more shows, so I had them all behind me on the bed. I moved in with the man creature and I had to cam on the sofa because he'd be sleeping in the bed. The sofa had no room for me to put the toys in view of the camera. Know what? I got just the same amount of shows and FAR fewer guys asking me to use toys.

    If they can't see they toys on cam:
    • People who must see you with toys will ask before they take you to show.
    • People who like to see you with toys will ask a few minutes into the show.
    • Most people will never even ask for toys. They think you either don't have any or get off better without them.
    • Some people will take you to show specifically because they don't see any toys*, assume you don't have any because you're like them and prefer fingers. Somehow this makes you "more natural."

    *Protip, those guys are super nice, gentle, want to give you enough time to have a real orgasm (or more than one) and get longer shows with more talking.


    Quote Originally Posted by CanadianRuby View Post
    Guys think throwing money at you will make you do what they want. You gotta reframe it in your mind.

    YOU are PAYING me, to watch me pleasure myself. I still own my body, you dont. The money you pay, is the price it costs for the PRIVILEGE of seeing me naked.


    Quote Originally Posted by pantophilepanic View Post
    I just lost my anal virginity this year. I looooove anal sex with my partner more than anything.
    I think that most women in the adult industry and most sex workers period have something that they do in their private lives that they don't do at work. First, work sex is different than home sex; some acts are just not as pleasurable if you're not in that same mental space as you would be if you were doing it with someone you've got an attachment to, some acts need some prep work and maintenance that you just can't do if you're working for 6 hours instead of having sex for 1 hour (ie. santorum). Second, sometimes it's just nice to keep something special just for you.

    Quote Originally Posted by pantophilepanic View Post
    4. This may sound yucky, or maybe too familiar, but I get butt stuff (fecal matter) all over my toys when I do the above three things. I try to use the bathroom before I go on cam and not eat too much, but it persists.
    Guuuurl. You know if you're getting poo on your toys and then putting them on something or near your other toys you're getting fecal coliform bacteria on all your stuff. That shit (tee hee) has all kinds of nasties in it that can make you really sick. 1) put toy on blanket 2) get into bed later that night. Even if there's no visible poo, the bacteria is still there. 3) FCB goes from blanket to your skin, where it can live for a little while 4) you have poo bacteria on your skin, which is bad enough 5) you are a disease vector, well, more than humans normally are, even 6) you can easily transfer the FCB from your skin to your eyes, nose and mouth. There are hundreds, if not thousands of times a day you go back and forth between skin/eyes/mouth/nose.

    Here's some advice from Dan Savage about what could be the culprit when you have constant poo problems with anal insertions. WARNING The piece gets rather graphic.

    For my own part, I'm just put off by even a tiny bit of santorum, which tends to happen with any extended period of time that one is having teh buttsexors. I do anal in my private life. I like to be able to do a little squirt of purely water enema from the drug store sized douches right before. Admittedly, it only takes a short period of time to do this, but I can't stop the cam and run to the bathroom every time someone asks for anal. So I don't do anal on cam. If someone really insists, I tell them reason and I tell them that if they buy a half hour block EXCLUSIVE session, I'll do it all in front of the cam. This hearkens back to what Roast said, figure out your limits. To me, it's not worth it to maybe show butt goo to a room full of pervs on the internet who are probably recording me, so I make the price to see me put stuff in my butt high enough that if someone is willing to meet the price, I feel properly compensated. Your limits may vary, but make sure it's worth it to you to do what you do.

    Other threads related to your problem that you may like reading:
    What if someone asks you to do a sex act you don't like?:
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-don-t-LIKE-it
    Sex toys and comfort/health/hygiene:
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...and-Toy-Safety
    One of your problems may be that your rates are low. Customers who seek out girls with low rates tend to be more demanding and meaner:
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...Being-Cheap-(-!!!!!!!!!!)
    "Ways to Stall and Make More Money":
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ake-More-Money
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    Default Re: Insertion and tight spots. Help?

    You don't NEED to do anything. Guys will ask for and blurt out all kinds of things. When I started i did anal cause I thought I needed to to make money. Now I don't even consider it. NEVER FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO DO ANYTHING TO MAKE MONEY EXCEPT GET NAKED. And fuck the "harder faster" people. Just do it at your speed. If they don't like it they can click the X and leave. But most likely, they won't.

    Whatever the hell you are willing to do, somebody will pay to watch it because you are unique and beautiful. If someone isn't happy with YOU pleasuring YOURSELF then they can go fuck off, because someone else will be.

    If you do stuff just to please your custies, you will never want to work. The key to work success is being happy! And wanting to log on. Just make sure you are enjoying yourself.
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    I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who took the time to give me all this great advice, encouragement, and support. You folks are wonderful. I am feeling so much more confident in myself. I've removed any mention of anal sex or sex toys from my profile. I began working on SM again, and I haven't let anyone boss me around. My butt and I are much happier lately, and I have made even more money doing just the things I am comfortable with. Thanks again everyone.

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