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    Just had my first genuinely mean person after camming regularly for two weeks. He/she told me that "your tits aren't worth 450 tokens" and that "this is sad, desperation." I banned him/her but yeah. I was planning on jumping back on to another site tonight and now my stupid feefees are holding me back.

    (I know that they are in fact worth what I usually do for my countdown, 250 shirt, 250 shorts, 500 topless, 700 bottomless... I've been perfectly successful on multiple nights. Somehow knowing that isn't helping.)

    Any advice from you seasoned folk?

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    It was probably another model, going into your room, and trying to ruin your mood / the mood of the room.

    And if it wasn't, it was just some ugly ass troll with nothing better to do than to say rude shit to people on the internet for no reason.


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    Default Re: Dealing with hurt feelings...

    all you have to do is laugh it off. generally most people aren't mean. if they are, just make them feel stupid and THEN ban them. usually makes other people in the room respect you more hahaha.

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    I'm sorry you had a lowlife comment like that, they do happen unfortunately but it can be way to learn acceptance. Your body is what it is, and not everyone is going to love it...so, even if that person's comment was genuine, you could say to yourself "ok, so you felt like my tits weren't worth that much...that's your opinion and does not mean mine are "bad" as there is no "good" or "bad", you took the risk when you paid your money that you might not like them, that was your choice...I'm not going to meet everyone's expectations."
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    It's pretty sad when the highlight of their evening is....this stuff. Their lives must be horrible.

    It's bad when someone goes for the jugular. Remember it's not you at all, and allow yourself to hurt...it's okay. It happens to all of us.

    I hope tomorrow is better.
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    Girl, I've been at this for a while and guys who are just MEAN still get to me, sometimes. Today, I had a guy in my members' show say something to the effect of "We must not be looking at the same person!" when another guy called me pretty/beautiful. I kicked him before he could get anything else out but that was within the first twenty minutes or so, on cam. I think it really set the tone for the rest of my day, honestly. I just lose all patience when guys throw that kind of stuff out there. They can call me boring or whatever. I'm not there for their amusement, anyway. but I spent a lot of time carefully putting on my makeup, today and doing my hair! I AM pretty, dammit! Don't try to pretend that I'm not just to be a dick and bring me down!

    I've long since adopted the immediate response of "The internet is a BIG place. If you don't like what you see, LEAVE. Go look at something else." /BAN. That's it. Normally, lots of guys in the room will also jump to my defense but I try not to make an argument out of it and just move on. For me, the damage is already sort of done and dealt with. Best not to dwell on it and try to force a smile, anyway and prove the haters wrong. Keep on keepin' on, as they say.
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    Another model maybe but in my experience jerks on MFC really do say stuff like that. I once had a group of squatters that complete stopped all traffic in my room and spread rumors about me in the lounge because I wouldn't cater to them for free.

    I know it hurts but just think of the money.lol Don't let them get you down.

    Once one comment made me feel so bad I got off cam and lay in bed for the rest of the day and even cried. How lame. But then I thought why should I care about a guy who obviously liked me but was too cheap to buy tokens so he tried to make me feel bad instead.

    You're the pretty model remember that. They're just jealous haters. If they could afford tokens I bet they wouldn't say half the stuff they do.


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    I HATE it when an asshole ruins my mood!

    A guy yesterday came in my room and started talking to me like this. Ordering me around, calling me a dog. When I asked him not to, he started typing "Woof woof, you fucking animal."

    Don't belittle your feelings, that will make you feel even worse - as you'll then think you're stupid for being upset about being insulted. Viscous cycle.

    Take 15 mins off cam, remind yourself that it's OK to be hurt, that not all guys are like that, that you have some amazing people, and get back on.

    It's OK to have hurt feelings. You're a person and what he said was mean. But it's also not true.

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    If that happened to me, I would say, "You're right, they aren't worth 450 tokens. They are worth at least 1000 tokens."
    Then I'd promptly raise my price right in front of them.

    Don't let people like that get to you, they aren't worth the air they're sucking up in their mom's basement.

    So my advice? Raise your price. When I started MFC, I did 500 tokens for topless. Now it's 1500 for topless. Anyone who complains (and not one person has complained when I raised it, even when I directly tell my room why I did it and I point it out) doesn't need to stay in your room. They love confidence. Don't sweat the losers who come through to try to ruin your day. In fact, I've had many instances where my guys tell me I should raise the price. Those are the guys you want around you- not lame assholes like the one you describe. They don't matter one iota.
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    You know, I see a lot of us make the comment about guys in their mom's basement a lot, in jest. But ironically, tonight I had an amazing night, largely thanks to a guy who was literally in his mother's basement, who was also really cool. No joke. The irony of that just hit me lol.
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    A simple silent ban is all that's needed then get it off your head completely! I can't stress enough on self-esteem and self-worth! If you feel good and confident with who you are then no one should be able to tear you down on or off cam!
    My attitude is, I am drop dead motherfucking gorgeous! if you can't see it then that's a reflection on your limits! Approval is neither desired nor required.
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    I have two answers for you:
    Mature answer: Know that you're beautiful and when someone says anything to make you think differently it's a reflection of their problems and misery and has nothing to do with you.
    Immature answer: Do what I do when I get insulted. Get all the cash you've made doing webcam, dump it on your bed, strip naked, and roll around in it singing "Your opinion is sooooo important to me!" to Mr. Insulting Tiny Dick.


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    I have two answers for you:
    Mature answer: Know that you're beautiful and when someone says anything to make you think differently it's a reflection of their problems and misery and has nothing to do with you.
    Immature answer: Do what I do when I get insulted. Get all the cash you've made doing webcam, dump it on your bed, strip naked, and roll around in it singing "Your opinion is sooooo important to me!" to Mr. Insulting Tiny Dick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleLolaRose View Post
    Just had my first genuinely mean person after camming regularly for two weeks. He/she told me that "your tits aren't worth 450 tokens" and that "this is sad, desperation." I banned him/her but yeah. I was planning on jumping back on to another site tonight and now my stupid feefees are holding me back.

    (I know that they are in fact worth what I usually do for my countdown, 250 shirt, 250 shorts, 500 topless, 700 bottomless... I've been perfectly successful on multiple nights. Somehow knowing that isn't helping.)

    Any advice from you seasoned folk?

    Thanks!

    xox
    There are some hatin'-ass females out there, but MFC does have a lot of guys who are trolls too. I had to ban some trolls myself the other night. I feel like some of the 20-point premiums on there bought tokens ONE time just so they can go to different rooms and talk shit (since guests/basics are muted in most rooms). It just goes to show you how pathetic some people's lives really are.....

    I've read that on Streamate, some models prefer Classic Chat to Party Chat, because in Party Chat guys are more likely to troll since they know others can read their posts. On MFC everything posted in public chat is seen by everyone. So on MFC, guys who post rude shit in a model's room know that the other guys will see it.

    Oh, and your tits are worth 450 tokens and more, and I hope you know that. That cheap fuck is complaining about 450 tokens? Please. I charge 1,000 tokens to stay topless in public chat. I wish he'd come in my room and talk shit about what I'm "worth." SMH. Don't let these losers keep you down and prevent you from making your money. They wanna see lots of tits, ass, and pussy for FREE, and they're just butthurt about it not being free. Click the 'ban' button, extend it to a 60-day ban if you want, and put that jizzbag in the back of your mind and just enjoy yourself on cam.

    In this line of work, you're gonna encounter a lot of trolls, cheapasses, and self-entitled people who expect you to bend over backwards for them for free (or very few tokens). Free chat on any cam site is bound to attract a lot of scumbags.
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    Sorry that Happened to You,as we all deal with it daily while camming.
    I actually had someone come into my free chat while I was In prvt. last week, and type~"How's Your FAT Ass doing today?"
    Even though I was in prvt, I couldn't resist typing back~"Making Lots of Money at the Moment. How's Yours?"

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    I also would like to add that the caliber of an insult is only as good as the person that it's coming from. One of my the many downfalls of the internet is anyone can be a bully because they can cowardly hide behind their computer. They wouldn't say that to your face or make themselves known. I mean if you know who they are, you would be like is THAT what's insulting me????? REALLY? It's quite transparent, LOL!
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    You have to consider the source, i mean, hes prolly a total waste of oxygen, living in his moms trailer, with 6 under-chins and a face that would scare the bark off a tree.That's my take on trolls anyway.

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    It doesn't matter if your tits look like wet saggy tube socks with grapefruits in them or perfect perky DD's. All that matters is that your tits were created for a reason. Those reasons are being able to nurse your future offspring (if you have or will go that route) to be pulled, sucked on and pinched during intercourse and or masturbation, and used as a warning at times during PMS. I'm sure there are other reasons but my point is, don't ever let someone decide how you feel about yourself, especially on camera. You have every right to ask for what you want concerning your body. You are a confident sex goddess and anyone who lays eyes on you should be thankful. Next time someone fucks with you throw them this comeback. "I bet they look better than your wive's or you wouldn't be in my room starring at me." and if it's another cammodel you suspect, "Damn, your room must be dead because if it weren't you wouldn't be in my room trying to steal my shine." and follow it with a smile. Anything they say back, if you give the chance, won't matter because it's most likely the truth. Now, go be the confident HBC that you are.




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    Default Re: Dealing with hurt feelings...

    It really depends on my mood - usually, I prefer to wait until I make them leave, rather than banning. It feels more satisfying that way.

    Usually, I make a joke of it. Had someone today who came in and called me a bitch...and I responded with "oh, you are one of those?" I am always smiling and happy, and never get mad at them, or snappy, or anything...I just ignore it, or laugh and say that they are just ridiculous. Usually they leave when they realise that that can't get a rise out of me.

    Sometimes I feel like banning lets them know that they got to you.

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    if i pulled my tits out and some loser had a problem with them while everyone else was enjoying them, i'd be SOOO happy to put my bra back on and then my shirt and then maybe a parka. that guy will be the most hated man in the room.

    the posts about trolls make me think of school where an A- was so terrible for me... oh no i got ONLY 92% of the questions right and focusing on the 8% of WRONG. plenty of men think you are gorgeous and that your tits are awesome but it just takes a few shitheads to ruin all those compliments. well, it shouldn't!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rosemary Rabbit View Post
    I was once instructed to kill myself by a regular (how 'bout them mangos?), which resulted in my first burnout/sob-fest.
    i can assure you that this guy will burn in hell

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    Quote Originally Posted by CanadianRuby View Post
    It was probably another model, going into your room, and trying to ruin your mood / the mood of the room.
    Its true. The other day I had a "customer" say this other cam model ( wont say names) was saying shit about me in her room, saying I had lopsided boobs and that im not that hott etc etc.
    I thought it was ridiculous, I checked out her screen name, she was online at the same time...could have been true, but wtf right? GET A LIFE, dont talk about other camgirls, if anything we are suppose to support eachother not talk smack.
    All I said was well what does that say about her? huh? ...watever move on. That was that.

    I almost hope though it wasnt true cause thats such a shame that camgirls would do that...

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    Quote Originally Posted by CinnimonKiss View Post
    Its true. The other day I had a "customer" say this other cam model ( wont say names) was saying shit about me in her room, saying I had lopsided boobs and that im not that hott etc etc.
    I thought it was ridiculous, I checked out her screen name, she was online at the same time...could have been true, but wtf right? GET A LIFE, dont talk about other camgirls, if anything we are suppose to support eachother not talk smack.
    All I said was well what does that say about her? huh? ...watever move on. That was that.

    I almost hope though it wasnt true cause thats such a shame that camgirls would do that...
    Yeah I can't handle that kind of behaviour. Women are VERY, VERY jealous creatures it seems, though. So, she either feels threatened by you, or feels you're competition etc.

    I'd rather rise above all of that and not play those games. It's to distracting from the $$$.

    I like the phrase "You do YOU" haha.

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    Ladies, thank you so much. This thread really helped me pick myself up and dust myself off. I'm back on cam and have been making good money again, now that I've got my groove back.

    You are all beautiful goddesses!

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