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    So, like many of you I have a vanilla business besides camming. Whenever there is an issue with customer service (I sell things online), I really just want to tell them where to shove it. But I can't. And I have to *act* doormat most of the time to maintain a seller's reputation and win cases.

    We are spoiled in camming in that if we don't like the way a custie is talking to us, we can ban them and/or tell them to fuck off.

    Does anyone have the same dilemma/frustration with customer service...or even real life? Where you find yourself going from bitch to doormat all the damn time?




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    Like yourself, I am also self-employed: a Professional Hairstylist so I am the "Head Hoe" in charge. I have to say that I am extremely blessed and lucky to have very pleasant and easy to deal with clients.
    What I do is a bit different from yours but it's still customer service and dealing with the public so I totally empathize.
    I do have a few clients that aren't comfortable with me having tattoos and being a pre-operative Transsexual when they found out because I was outted. It was very hard every time they would come in. You could feel the hostility in their tone. I didn't want to breathe that air, especially in my salon so I had to let them go. Judge me for my talent and what I have to offer not my tattoos or gender. I am so much MORE than that!
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    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    Like yourself, I am also self-employed: a Professional Hairstylist so I am the "Head Hoe" in charge. I have to say that I am extremely blessed and lucky to have very pleasant and easy to deal with clients.
    What I do is a bit different from yours but it's still customer service and dealing with the public so I totally empathize.
    I do have a few clients that aren't comfortable with me having tattoos and being a pre-operative Transsexual when they found out because I was outted. It was very hard every time they would come in. You could feel the hostility in their tone. I didn't want to breathe that air, especially in my salon so I had to let them go. Judge me for my talent and what I have to offer not my tattoos or gender. I am so much MORE than that!
    I'd totally get my hair done by you
    Thanks for sharing... I am always really interested in hearing how vanilla business owners work it alongside this industry.




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    Quote Originally Posted by qurl View Post
    I'd totally get my hair done by you
    Thanks for sharing... I am always really interested in hearing how vanilla business owners work it alongside this industry.
    Quote Originally Posted by ~Carmen~ View Post
    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Default Re: NOT telling people to go fuck themselves?

    I think that being in the adult biz has made me more assertive in the vanilla/real life world. I wouldn't say that I'm a jerk, but I'm more apt to stand up for myself in an articulate way.

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    I just had a woman at my vanilla job literally laugh in my face when I asked her how her day was going. All I could do was smile and change out her ear jewelry for her. :/

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    i can't seem to do that. some lady walked up to me and started making snide remarks because i "took" the spot she wanted to park in..the old me would have ignored it or even apologized, but the new me had a few choice words for her..very choice. im scared of getting a vanilla job now, i just have a hot temper and now i've kind of trained myself to put people in their place when they are being rude and abusive.

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    That's right, BB! Sweet as a Georgia Peach with a strong pit inside! You can be nice and still be clear! I think when people are rude, all they really saying is "give me your joy", "give me your peace". Never let anyone steal your joy!
    Quote Originally Posted by space_cowgirl View Post
    I think that being in the adult biz has made me more assertive in the vanilla/real life world. I wouldn't say that I'm a jerk, but I'm more apt to stand up for myself in an articulate way.
    Quote Originally Posted by ~Carmen~ View Post
    I can see you being 90 and flipping your long hair, still teasing the boys.



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    Quote Originally Posted by qurl View Post
    So, like many of you I have a vanilla business besides camming. Whenever there is an issue with customer service (I sell things online), I really just want to tell them where to shove it. But I can't. And I have to *act* doormat most of the time to maintain a seller's reputation and win cases.

    We are spoiled in camming in that if we don't like the way a custie is talking to us, we can ban them and/or tell them to fuck off.

    Does anyone have the same dilemma/frustration with customer service...or even real life? Where you find yourself going from bitch to doormat all the damn time?
    I actually find myself not allowing myself to become a doormat more now than I ever used to. I can see where it's important in a vanilla business tho, which is why I don't even bother with other vanilla businesses that I could get back into if I wanted to.

    Camming has really given me this view on the world that people are more painfully stupid then I ever once thought, and so yah... I find myself telling people to fuck off a lot more than I ever used to!
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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahTime View Post
    Camming has really given me this view on the world that people are more painfully stupid then I ever once thought
    This made me literally LOL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahTime View Post
    Camming has really given me this view on the world that people are more painfully stupid then I ever once thought, and so yah... I find myself telling people to fuck off a lot more than I ever used to!
    I had an Oprah a-ha! moment about two weeks ago. I had been in a shitty one sided relationship for almost a year, and out of the blue, it dawned on me: I would never let a cam custy treat me half as badly as I let him treat me.

    Apparently ladies, I had balls. They were in the bottom of my purse the whole time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by qurl View Post
    So, like many of you I have a vanilla business besides camming. Whenever there is an issue with customer service (I sell things online), I really just want to tell them where to shove it. But I can't. And I have to *act* doormat most of the time to maintain a seller's reputation and win cases.

    We are spoiled in camming in that if we don't like the way a custie is talking to us, we can ban them and/or tell them to fuck off.

    Does anyone have the same dilemma/frustration with customer service...or even real life? Where you find yourself going from bitch to doormat all the damn time?
    Omg yesssss! I sell things on eBay as well as camming and I swear since eBay has all these new rules and is all for the buyer..I feel like camming is easier! Never used to be like that! I can't wait till a real competitor takes over eBay! And with the customers..omg u just have to suck it up and be nice! Grrrrrrr I feel ya sista

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    Quote Originally Posted by Graceface View Post
    I had an Oprah a-ha! moment about two weeks ago. I had been in a shitty one sided relationship for almost a year, and out of the blue, it dawned on me: I would never let a cam custy treat me half as badly as I let him treat me.

    Apparently ladies, I had balls. They were in the bottom of my purse the whole time.
    That is awesome! Congratulations to you!

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