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    I'm having a health concern that is resulting in getting a biopsy done in a couple weeks and I have to say, I am STRESSED. My moods are all over and I keep crying because my anxiety level is so high. I have to get on cam and work since I can't afford to take time off but I'm wondering if any of you ladies have tips on how to put stress out of your mind and look happy and inviting on cam.

    I know if I started to get upset or felt the eyes watering up, I would log off ( I will not be one of those cam girls that goes viral because of a breakdown..Lol) but I really need to focus and make some money.

    Any tips would be greatly appreciated

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    Hey <3 First of all please stay positive! I know it is damn hard when your life is at risk but you just have to. Yes its all about the law of attraction and much much more. The more you stress on the future results the more you will feel yourself sick and the list goes on and on and on.

    I cant say that I have the magic spell that will make u forget all your problems. When my mom died and I ve lost my only family member and I thought I will never laugh again or be happy again. But its like we all have a survival instinct and after we cried out our eyes we do anything to forget all about our problems.
    I have my feelgood movies and feelgood music and feelgood tv shows. I swear they all help! ( But only after I let myself to cry as much as I want and be mad as much as I want. Because in order to get better you just cannot miss that level ) ENCHANTED! I dont know if you saw that movie but anytime I watch it i feel like anything is possible and my heart is filled with warm sunshine again. The TV SHOW DROP DEAD DIVA! It is an ultimate guilty pleasure tv show that will make you forget of all ur problems and calm you down.
    And my new fav ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK! <3<3<3<3 I dont wanna say anything about that i dont wanna spoiler Its all on netflix
    And of course all the music u ever loved - please avoid machine music as i like to call it its vibe and rythm can make ur stress level higher. Its fun to dance to but its not if u r really stressed.

    Sorry for the novel but here comes the cam part. Put on your fav horny music you know the ones what you listen to and you feel like you wanna get laid like NOW!
    When you listen to those start to put on your make even drink a lil and dance around the house get in the mood girl Then when hair and make up ready stand in front of the mirror NAKED! ur music should be still on a nice drink in you one hand and with the other caress yourself. Tell yourself like a mantra! I AM BEAUTIFUL AND HOT AND EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE AND WHEN I LOG ON GUYS WILL THROW MONEY AT ME!
    And finally when u log on the compliments u will get of the nice guys will make you simply forget aboout all your problems!

    Again sorry for the novel but i was like if i were u i would do these things to forget all about the bad things even if only for your camming shift but still.
    And please dont forget complete denial wont help your case. What I suggested would be awesome for the hours you cam. But when you r not on cam let your emotions flow okay? I made the mistake that i was in denial for long months. All I got after it is a nervous breakdown. Dont do this okay? <3
    And when you r not on cam and you feel like you wanna know more or maybe if you search on your case will calm you a lil bit. Use google. And search search search. I did that and swear the fact I ve learnt a lot of what will happen to me or what might happen to me made the whole thing easier. We r all afraid of the unknown. But If we know the boogeyman he is not that scary anymore!

    Best of luck okay????? AND NEVER EVER GIVE UP! <3<3<3<3<3<3

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    Default Re: Camming while under alot of stress...how do you look happy?

    When things are too tough, I don't show my face on cam at all.
    I do tit play shows or nude voyeur shows and mix it up with selling content over at MGF and C4S.




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    Default Re: Camming while under alot of stress...how do you look happy?

    My absolute honest answer is that I can't get on cam if I feel emotionally unwell. I don't perform well and I find it's much better to take a break until I feel better. If this is longer term and you need to get on there to make money (been there, with every kind of work I've done really), it works for me to get cracked out on Red Bull.

    Feel better!

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    Honestly.. I take a shot or two, just so I'll at least smile on cam lol




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    Default Re: Camming while under alot of stress...how do you look happy?

    Thankyou for the tips I decided to go on AW so I wouldn't have to do free chat and only managed to get 2 privates for about 2 minutes each..Lol...guess I'll just have to go back on SM tomorrow. Maybe I'll find the trolls and beggars, entertaining and it will distract me!
    I'm definitely going to try some of the suggestions you gave

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    Again BEST OF LUCK AND BE POSITIVE!<3

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    Off topic and sort of hijacking, but I was just coming online to ask something similar. My beloved kitty of 8 years died suddenly last saturday, and I've been feeling shit. However I must cam LOL. I got online on Sunday/monday night and did well, but I have to say I also got stinking drunk. I want to avoid that again if possible. Right now I'm trying to rev myself up to log in tonight yesterday I just didn't make it.

    Hugs to you and I hope everything turns out with your health. Keep on swimmin'.

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    Default Re: Camming while under alot of stress...how do you look happy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Incantatious View Post
    When things are too tough, I don't show my face on cam at all.
    I do tit play shows or nude voyeur shows
    ^^^ This.

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    Default Re: Camming while under alot of stress...how do you look happy?

    Thinking that I'm about to take their money usually makes me smile.

    When that doesn't work... Maybe make one of those vision boards with goals and reasons why you're doing this, or just things you really like. Set it up during bad days to help focus on the good things.

    Take it one day at a time. One hour at a time- ten minutes at a time. It adds up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BluJ View Post
    Thinking that I'm about to take their money usually makes me smile.

    When that doesn't work... Maybe make one of those vision boards with goals and reasons why you're doing this, or just things you really like. Set it up during bad days to help focus on the good things.

    Take it one day at a time. One hour at a time- ten minutes at a time. It adds up.
    I definitely need to take it one day at a time...my anxiety has thrown my mind into the future and of course it's running with the idea that the worst result will come in.
    Living in the present moment seems easier said than done...Lol...I'm obviously doing it wrong.

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    This time last year I was rushed to hospital with serious health concerns. I completely understand how much panic things like this can just throw you in, all whilst having the prospect of the same bills to pay and the same "business as usual" shit on your shoulders. The prospect of logging on to actually cam and be sexy and entertaining is the last thing you feel capable of when you are suffering.

    You can outline to yourself - the bare minimum of what you feel capable of.. If you can't smile, don't smile.. don't even show your face if you don't want to. Don't feel like talking? Don't. You can type. Even if the least you can do is show your feet on cam, you can do so. Even if you don't feel like entertaining live and dealing with guests.. you can record clips. And even then, you can do as you wish - you can show any part of you that you want to, and you can film whenever you want to.

    Take time out often, as and when you need to and, most importantly, allow yourself the time to enjoy that free space and time as much as you can and don't feel guilty for it. Your well-being is so, so important, and stress takes a big toll on your body and mind. If health concerns are already preying constantly on your mind, stress can end up aggravating any existing symptoms you may feel.

    There have been times where months have just flown past because I've been so overwhelmed with stress, and just being conscious of the fact that I'm trying to enjoy some quiet time in the bath or something has reduced me to tears because I've been so full of tension the whole time that I didn't even feel like I could possibly stop. But then the realization of the fact that I am in the bath at least trying to relax hits me so hard and I feel so grateful that I'm actually attempting such a thing at all.

    Every little thing helps, and every little thing - however seemingly small or even insignificant - mounts up, even if you are just watching a cherished movie or (if your concentration is difficult to maintain due to stress), putting on some music and doodling.

    My thoughts are with you. <3 I hope you give us an update with how everything goes.
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    Thankyou for sharing what you've been through and you make alot of really good points and suggestions. For all I know...the biopsy could come back as benign and all this worry and stress will have been for nothing (fingers crossed that's what happens..lol)

    I hope the stress in your life is starting to go down. Sounds like you've been through alot.

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    Incantatious gave great advice. I do the same, with the tit shows and basically my head cut off. LOL When I do feel a bit better later in the night usually, I put my head back on cam.

    I've had a couple of biopsies done and waiting to get results back is super stressful. Hang in there and know that we are all thinking of you and sending you positive vibes.

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    Default Re: Camming while under alot of stress...how do you look happy?

    Working out for 40min+ before camming can help you de-stress too.







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    Sometimes I just need a break. I start the next day usually feeling great, and make up for it money wise. I'm trying to develop a list of self motivating phrases and behaviours to encourage me to push through whatever stuff is going on in my personal life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Incantatious View Post
    This time last year I was rushed to hospital with serious health concerns. I completely understand how much panic things like this can just throw you in, all whilst having the prospect of the same bills to pay and the same "business as usual" shit on your shoulders. The prospect of logging on to actually cam and be sexy and entertaining is the last thing you feel capable of when you are suffering.

    You can outline to yourself - the bare minimum of what you feel capable of.. If you can't smile, don't smile.. don't even show your face if you don't want to. Don't feel like talking? Don't. You can type. Even if the least you can do is show your feet on cam, you can do so. Even if you don't feel like entertaining live and dealing with guests.. you can record clips. And even then, you can do as you wish - you can show any part of you that you want to, and you can film whenever you want to.

    Take time out often, as and when you need to and, most importantly, allow yourself the time to enjoy that free space and time as much as you can and don't feel guilty for it. Your well-being is so, so important, and stress takes a big toll on your body and mind. If health concerns are already preying constantly on your mind, stress can end up aggravating any existing symptoms you may feel.

    There have been times where months have just flown past because I've been so overwhelmed with stress, and just being conscious of the fact that I'm trying to enjoy some quiet time in the bath or something has reduced me to tears because I've been so full of tension the whole time that I didn't even feel like I could possibly stop. But then the realization of the fact that I am in the bath at least trying to relax hits me so hard and I feel so grateful that I'm actually attempting such a thing at all.

    Every little thing helps, and every little thing - however seemingly small or even insignificant - mounts up, even if you are just watching a cherished movie or (if your concentration is difficult to maintain due to stress), putting on some music and doodling.

    My thoughts are with you. <3 I hope you give us an update with how everything goes.
    You went it did it again. It is when you make posts like this that you make me fall in love with you as a person all over again. This is an amazing well thought out reply. Thanks for sharing it.


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    What I do on Streamate when I feeling stressed is try to steer clear of anything that could make me lose my shit. I like to do gold shows (from 35g-50g where the min. buy-in is 5g) that involve a truth or dare session, where each person gets to take a turn truthing and daring me for like 10 minutes. I haven't had a bad experience yet and they usually pick out fun or silly stuff for me to do. Or ask personal questions about my everyday life. Simple stuff. I also did a gold show the other day where I set the countdown for a half hour and the actual show to be a minute (non-explicit) and just had people coming in and tipping me whatever they could while we talked. I put in the "what I will do" description that it was just chill out time and that anyone who tipped over 5g got their name or a picture of their choice written on me in marker. It was pretty successful. They asked me if I had any special talents, so I sang, showed them some of my art, and just kept them entertained for the hour. I didn't make a lot, but it was enough to be happy with and it kept my spirits up. I hope you find some solace in camming rather than being bummed out by it, IF you feel you HAVE to do it. Stress and burnout due to our everyday lives is sure as hell a good reason NOT to cam, but for those of us that have little to no choice, we find inventive ways to cope. You will, too. Best of luck to you. I'll be saying a little prayer for you and your health issues. Definitely let us know the results when you find out what was up, okay? <3 Much love and big hugs for ya, girl.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Incantatious View Post
    This time last year I was rushed to hospital with serious health concerns. I completely understand how much panic things like this can just throw you in, all whilst having the prospect of the same bills to pay and the same "business as usual" shit on your shoulders. The prospect of logging on to actually cam and be sexy and entertaining is the last thing you feel capable of when you are suffering.

    You can outline to yourself - the bare minimum of what you feel capable of.. If you can't smile, don't smile.. don't even show your face if you don't want to. Don't feel like talking? Don't. You can type. Even if the least you can do is show your feet on cam, you can do so. Even if you don't feel like entertaining live and dealing with guests.. you can record clips. And even then, you can do as you wish - you can show any part of you that you want to, and you can film whenever you want to.

    Take time out often, as and when you need to and, most importantly, allow yourself the time to enjoy that free space and time as much as you can and don't feel guilty for it. Your well-being is so, so important, and stress takes a big toll on your body and mind. If health concerns are already preying constantly on your mind, stress can end up aggravating any existing symptoms you may feel.

    There have been times where months have just flown past because I've been so overwhelmed with stress, and just being conscious of the fact that I'm trying to enjoy some quiet time in the bath or something has reduced me to tears because I've been so full of tension the whole time that I didn't even feel like I could possibly stop. But then the realization of the fact that I am in the bath at least trying to relax hits me so hard and I feel so grateful that I'm actually attempting such a thing at all.

    Every little thing helps, and every little thing - however seemingly small or even insignificant - mounts up, even if you are just watching a cherished movie or (if your concentration is difficult to maintain due to stress), putting on some music and doodling.

    My thoughts are with you. <3 I hope you give us an update with how everything goes.
    THIS. So much this. <3

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