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    Default I feel horrible- gain 15 lbs in 1 month

    I was 155 lbs last month, and now I am pushing the high 60s. I was with my grandma all month, and she wanted to take me out like 2-3 times a week, cooks me cookies/pasta/crap, and then I tell her, "I can't eat anymore, please stop offering me food" she goes back and makes me something "special". She tells me I'm anorexic and I need to eat, and I'm too skinny. I don't have a scale here, but I feel like a fat pig now because it took me MONTHS to get down to 155.

    I feel disgusted. I don't want to be rude, but I am going to have to be a b*tch about food with her, even if it does hurt her feelings because I was comfortable in my skin at 155, but not at 170.

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    Default Re: I feel horrible- gain 15 lbs in 1 month

    I know exactly what you mean.

    My family does the same thing. They'll make rude insensitive comments like "have you gained weight yet?" Or "you look sooo skinny?" And any other bonehead comment you can think of. I swear they were trying to fatten me up at one point. They don't get that everybody's body is different. I happen to have active metabolism, eat pretty healthy food most the time, and get in exercise couple times a week.

    The crazy thing is I've been the same size since high school (most people would kill to have the same body they did i high school) and deep down I think they maybe a little jealousy on their part that they don't have and struggle to get a fit body like they want

    As long as you are healthy and feel good about yourself is the only thing that matters.

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    Default Re: I feel horrible- gain 15 lbs in 1 month

    My family is like that too, but they value being thicker and they think its not real food if its not heavy food. Myself and my mom are the only ones in my entire family who are somewhat thin. Its more like a cultural thing. For that reason, its like religion. Different people will have different beliefs on what you should or shouldn't be doing/eating, and what you should or shouldn't look like/weigh.

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    oh that sucks! my family is the opposite, not that the've ever told me i was fat or needed to lose weight, but they've been trying to lose weight for as long as i can remember so i was raised on water, bland, super healthy foods. she needs to respect that there are things you don't want to put in your body, its YOUR body. maybe make it about your health instead of weight when turning down certain foods? when do you leave her house?

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    Ugh I totally sympathize! My grandma does the same thing, and I used to have an ex that I lived with that was even worse.

    I have IBS, and have to eat very small portions throughout the day, because that's what works best for my body. Rarely can I even come close to finishing a restaurant sized meal. I also have to stay hydrated while I'm drinking for the same reason, so I alternate between booze and water on nights out. My friends make comments all the time about my eating/drinking habits, so finally I decided to just stop being embarrassed about it and explain to them that I have IBS and I can't eat large portions, high sugar/milk/starch content foods, or dehydrate myself by drinking too much or things just really won't run right for a week. (Sorry if that's TMI).

    I found people are a lot more understanding though, when I explained my eating habits are a reflection of how food makes me FEEL, not about concern over my appearance/weight. The guilt from eating crappy foods doesn't hit me when I look in the mirror, it hits me when I'm walking around all bloated with no energy and a tummy ache. Maybe give her a mini nutrition lesson and explain that you do it to care of your health, then get in the kitchen with her and cook a healthy dinner together one night or something. A lot of people show love through their food (esp. grandmas!), so that could be what she's doing.
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    My fam is the same way...except that Im the odd one out. Everyone in my fam is really thin with a crazy high metabolism....so they can and do eat eat eat eat eeeeat! LoL I used to be able to be like that, but ever since 30 its like my metabolism went, okay, youve had enough youre on your own...it takes me forever to lose weight, and takes nothing to gain it.

    Granted, I havnt visited them in awhile so its not too much of a problem now, but as it is, Im bigger than everyone, yet they are all still "eat! eat!" Which sucks for me cause its the one time I get really good authentic Jamaican food, so Im so torn!! LoL but I end up feeling like crap when I hit the scale after eating more in one weekend than what Id usually eat in a whole week.
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    Default Re: I feel horrible- gain 15 lbs in 1 month

    Quote Originally Posted by summerbre View Post
    Ugh I totally sympathize! My grandma does the same thing, and I used to have an ex that I lived with that was even worse.

    I have IBS, and have to eat very small portions throughout the day, because that's what works best for my body. Rarely can I even come close to finishing a restaurant sized meal. I also have to stay hydrated while I'm drinking for the same reason, so I alternate between booze and water on nights out. My friends make comments all the time about my eating/drinking habits, so finally I decided to just stop being embarrassed about it and explain to them that I have IBS and I can't eat large portions, high sugar/milk/starch content foods, or dehydrate myself by drinking too much or things just really won't run right for a week. (Sorry if that's TMI).

    I found people are a lot more understanding though, when I explained my eating habits are a reflection of how food makes me FEEL, not about concern over my appearance/weight. The guilt from eating crappy foods doesn't hit me when I look in the mirror, it hits me when I'm walking around all bloated with no energy and a tummy ache. Maybe give her a mini nutrition lesson and explain that you do it to care of your health, then get in the kitchen with her and cook a healthy dinner together one night or something. A lot of people show love through their food (esp. grandmas!), so that could be what she's doing.
    yeah, tell your grandma that the sugar makes you feel sick and you prefer natural sweets like fruits. a lot of times when I go out with friends I wont eat because everything on the menu looks gross but they know im not trying to lose weight, im just picky and really don't like heavy food. pasta and cookies are the worst...its literally all sugar which ia a disaster on your insulin, you could be at risk for diabetes if you keep eating like this. tell her a friend got diagnosed with type 2 diabetes from eating too much sugar and you want to stay healthy.

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