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    Default I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    For starters, I love what I do. I love the girls I work with, I wake up looking forward to go to work.
    That being said, it makes me happy, I enjoy it.

    My parents don't know. I find this upsetting because I've always been very close with them, particularly my mum.
    She feels guilty really easily, I am very sure she will feel responsible for the way I "turned out". The last thing I'd want to do is disappoint them.

    I still live at home as I am going to university so I feel as though this is a contributing factor to how I am feeling.
    Ease my mind?

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    maybe think of it as sparing them from knowing..most parents are just never going to approve, and even though i've told mine i know deep down my father probably wonders what he did wrong. just like i don't tell them or my bf what goes on in the club, they don't need to know or worry about me. its a tough situation, im like that too i hate lying to those close to me or even withholding truth but sometimes its for the better. unless you want to just come out to her..what did you need your mind eased about exactly?

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    That's great you enjoy your work!

    Unfortunately you have to make a decision (to live the truth or to live in secrecy) but weigh the cost and the benefits carefully.

    Keeping your work a secret while living with the parents will be a challenge. I did it for 2 months but It Was rough and I had to get my own place for more privacy.

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    They'll find out. Coming home at 3am everyday with tons of 1's isn't good. You need to move out.

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    Thanks girls you have been extremely helpful

    I work in Australia, we finish at 5 & the smallest bill we have is 5
    but I understand what you're saying. thanks for the advice

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    ^It's still easy to get caught when living with the parents, so be overly cautious and, honestly, plan to move out sooner rather than later if you want to keep working without them finding out.

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    Quote Originally Posted by dirtydiamond View Post
    Thanks girls you have been extremely helpful

    I work in Australia, we finish at 5 & the smallest bill we have is 5
    but I understand what you're saying. thanks for the advice
    ^If they didn't know, then to ease your conscience, I would honestly tell a white lie and say you're working in a bar. Or, tell them from now on you will be. With the hours we work, it's easy to name a nightclub/bar (one that they would never go to) and say that you are a bar tender there. They would be on at least $20-22 an hour, plus tips so it's not like you would be broke (I still wouldn't go "flashing" money or designer things around in front of your parents though lol).

    If you are studying, chances are that dancing will be a temporary job for you. It's great that your parents accept your job, but they can't possibly begin to understand it. It's natural for a parent to feel "guilty", but realistically you are just exercising your independence and looking out for your future by doing a flexible job that you enjoy and earn good money from.

    If this is weighing on your mind-maybe moving out would be a good idea if it's an option so that you have some freedom and your parents don't have to see you sleeping all day after work/coming home in the am. Also, does your work have lockers (if you are living at home you don't want anyone finding your outfits etc)?
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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    You could always say you're doing overnight child care for a nurse/firefighter/police officer or someone else who pulls the graveyard shift. But I hope you can keep your dancewear/makeup in a locker at work so you can just leave with your bookbag.

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    you girls are amazing. just told my mum I'm applying for bartending jobs in different clubs, so hopefully that'll work. will keep you updated

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    Default Re: I'm having a moral meltdown. Please help girls :(

    Best bet is to get a cover story and move out ASAP cause they eventually will catch on and the likelihood is much greater when you are living in their house. ALso, get a locker ASAP at work. You don't want clear heels hanging in your room or glittery thongs LOL.

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