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    Default Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    Friday night I spoke with a dancer for about an hour and a half and we stopped due to the fact it was closing time. We hit it off. I made her laugh often, I feel we really clicked and she even mentioned having lunch with me sometime and that she wanted to see me again, keep in mind I spent no money on her that night. So Sunday I went to see her again(the club was bare like it is every Sunday) and we talked for about two hours again, it went well, I never received a dance from her but I did tip her about 10$ while she was on stage. Before leaving I brought up the fact that she mentioned grabbing lunch sometime together and she said to come in the next night I have off and she'd give me her number. I was just wondering if she's only stringing me along. I find it odd that she doesn't ask guys for dances, puts me in an awkward spot because while I realize she's at work and want to pay her for her time I also don't won't to fall into the regular/custie zone. I've been there and done that before.

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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    I'm confused how is this an awkward spot for you? Wouldn't it be awkward for her that a guy that is at a strip club comes in with only $10 to spend and has now brought up having lunch with her twice? This is of course after 4 hours of conversation and not spending a dime on her the first time (2hours)? So she doesnt ask for dances that's her way of dealing. She waits for someone to approach her. Now she can either make great money this way or she could be loosing money. Still you are there to watch some nude women , get a chat, get your ego stroked and leave without $10 bucks.

    Asking for more from a person when you're giving so little is actually somewhat rude. It's like hey I know you're not making much but let me not only take up 2 hours of your time but let me even throw in something extra I want? Come on now. Yet you think she's stringing you along? Really?

    Cut your time to 15-30 mins , tip her and thank her for her time then move on to sit elsewhere.


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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    i agree, you are the one who is ripping her off..i feel that she is either a newbie who doesn't know when to ditch a colossal time-wasting douche or possibly looking to be paid OTC.
    on a side note, you should not be going into a club and only spending 10 bucks. next time you go to work, how would you feel if you worked for 2 hours and only recieved 10 dollars? you think it is different for us? have some common courtesy and respect here!! jesus christ


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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    Sounds like you both are stringing each other along.

    She may just be saying sweet nothings with no intent of following through. Why not just ask her if she's being serious or just telling you what you want to hear?

    What do you mean you don't want to "fall into regular/custie zone"? The moment you walk through club doors you're a custie. And on becoming a regular, your decision to go multiple times to see the same girl is what will make you a regular.

    If you don't want to be a regular and you don't want to be a custie then what is it you want? And have you made that clear to her?

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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    Friday night I spoke with a dancer for about an hour and a half and we stopped due to the fact it was closing time. We hit it off. I made her laugh often, I feel we really clicked and she even mentioned having lunch with me sometime and that she wanted to see me again, keep in mind I spent no money on her that night. So Sunday I went to see her again(the club was bare like it is every Sunday) and we talked for about two hours again, it went well, I never received a dance from her but I did tip her about 10$ while she was on stage. Before leaving I brought up the fact that she mentioned grabbing lunch sometime together and she said to come in the next night I have off and she'd give me her number. I was just wondering if she's only stringing me along. I find it odd that she doesn't ask guys for dances, puts me in an awkward spot because while I realize she's at work and want to pay her for her time I also don't won't to fall into the regular/custie zone. I've been there and done that before.
    Didn't we just go through almost exactly the same thing with you a couple of months ago? Ye ol' "I didn't spend money on her, but why is she agreeing to meet me outside anyway?" question. How many times do you need to do this before you get it? You are just a customer to her and she is trying to coax you back in with the hope that you will start spending on her. Period.

    Going into a place where girls are expected to be nice to customers and are required to take their clothes off for them, and then expecting anything genuine to come from it, is kinda' silly. Worse though, guys like you go into places like this knowing that you are getting such ready access to these girls only because it is their job to interact with you (and every other slob with a few bucks in his pocket), but then get butt hurt when it finally sinks in that she was just working you for money.

    Moral of the story: If you don't want to be a "regular/custie" to a dancer, don't go looking for love in strip clubs.


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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    A regular who only spends $10 after hours of conversation? No thank you.

    I don't understand why she even keeps you company, let alone asking you to come back or grabbing lunch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    So Sunday I went to see her again(the club was bare like it is every Sunday)
    Well, Doh, if it's an SC, isn't it bare every day???

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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    If you visit her again you can either ask her for dances/VIP, pay her to sit with her, or politely tell her you aren't interested. I know girls that never dance for customers unless the customer asks her. They have that hustle mastered though. That may just be the way she operates. My friends didn't sit with the same customer for hours on end unless there were no other choices in the club though. Your dancer is either new, or soliciting OTC customers to make money that way. I personally wouldn't waste my time on you for a measly $10 unless it was a table dance. I'd spend 3 songs with you max. At that point you should know if you want dances or not.

    I don't mean to sound rude, but especially being on this forum, you know what it expected in this relationship. Money. Bring money to the damn club and decide what to do with her. Either pay the lady or tell her to walk on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    I find it odd that she doesn't ask guys for dances, puts me in an awkward spot because while I realize she's at work and want to pay her for her time I also don't won't to fall into the regular/custie zone. I've been there and done that before.
    Really? You don't want to wind up in the regular/custie zone? How is being in the time waster/cheapskate zone working out for you? Whatever her approach may be you aren't going to get anywhere with her without spending money. Of course, there is no guarantee that you are getting anywhere with her even if you do...
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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    I find it odd that she doesn't ask guys for dances, puts me in an awkward spot because while I realize she's at work and want to pay her for her time.
    ^She may be a new dancer and doesn't have the confidence or stripper-sense to ask for dances and also to know when it's time to move to another table . Or, the club may have been dead and she was biding her time until she could finish her shift. Or, she was trying or planning to arrange a P4P arrangement by talking about meeting OTC.

    A $10 stage tip isn't going to earn you 30 mins with most dancers and if you really wanted to pay for her time, then you could have tipped her to sit with you or YOU could have asked her for a dance!

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    I also don't won't to fall into the regular/custie zone. I've been there and done that before.
    maybe you should stay away from places like strip clubs and spend your lunches with people other than strippers.

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    Time out. Why is everyone bashing the OP? This is her own damn fault...He is not the bad guy here.. She's the one giving him the GFE for free! (or $10) She is the one with poor business/work ethic...what kind of dancer sits with a guy in the club for 2 hours for free?? Why is he the bad guy again?? If I were him, I'd be doing the same thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    Why is everyone bashing the OP?.
    ^I think it's because he mentioned feeling like he "should" spend money on her for her time and didn't-but, she didn't ask for anything so I guess she deserves nothing in return .
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    Nathoonder you are either Trolling or too stupid to be posting on StripperWeb.
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Quote Originally Posted by JoJoX View Post
    Time out. Why is everyone bashing the OP? This is her own damn fault...He is not the bad guy here.. She's the one giving him the GFE for free! (or $10) She is the one with poor business/work ethic...what kind of dancer sits with a guy in the club for 2 hours for free?? Why is he the bad guy again?? If I were him, I'd be doing the same thing.
    Would you really? I can only speak for myself, but there's no way I would sit around and waste hours of someone's time's while they're working! Especially a girl I was "interested" in! Yeah, the girl may suck at her job, but that doesn't mean he has to take advantage of her cluelessness! Then again, some people are always trying to get the most for the least, so what can you really expect? smh

    He knows better and he doesn't care. Some friend he is ... So, yes, she's dumb and he's the bad guy.

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    Default Re: Dancer says she doesn't ask for dances.

    I guess a piece of background info I forgot to mention was, during the course of our conversation she told me the managers get mad at the dancers when they spend over 30 minutes talking to a bloke who doesn't buy a dance. The thinking being that the guy isn't interest therefore the girl should move on and let another girl try. So when she tells me this I OFFERED to get a VIP dance and she was like "Oh no, you're fine". So if she was trying to make some cash RIGHT THERE was her out, and she didn't pounce on it. And yes she is a newbie this is her second week and she has a second job that is her primary source of income.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    I was just wondering if she's only stringing me along. I find it odd that she doesn't ask guys for dances, puts me in an awkward spot because while I realize she's at work and want to pay her for her time I also don't won't to fall into the regular/custie zone. I've been there and done that before.
    It is kind of hard to string $0 along. $100s yes but not $0.

    So do really want to pay her for her time? If so, why did you not give her money? It sounds like you think that if you don't give her any money you will be able to make her into your girlfriend ("don't want to fall into the regular/custie zone").

    Poor you. She is stringing you along. She has put you in an awkward spot. What?

    The point of going to a strip club is find one or more girls to spend your money on and have a fun time. If you're not having fun or into the girls, come back another night and try over.

    Fact. If she really wanted to go out with you, she would have given you her number the first night and you would have already gone out. In reality, she probably spent the time at the end of the first night building rapport to get you to come back and spend money. That is why she mentioned lunch but needed to be reminded of it the next time. Since you came back but didn't spend money, it will be interesting whether she continues.

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    I'm getting deja vu. This is just like the last time, with "oh, by the way, this was also part of the story" tidbits dropped in after the initial round of responses. And of course the added tidbit are invariably things to further bolster a case that this might be something different.

    Many of the members (and particularly the pinks) who responded to your initial post have ample experience with this industry and understand that there is an extremely high probability that you are being strung along. It is a common tactic used by some dancers to keep guys on the hook. Not much that you can say with your added "oh I forgot" clarifications and tidbits will likely change that belief other than a post about a successful civvie date.

    Wanna' prove the naysayers wrong? Go seal the deal. Simple. She already told you the next step in getting her number, so go do it already. After that, use the number, setup a date and actually have her show up (this last piece is no small feat - lol).

    Once you have accomplished these things, you can post about it and we can do the high fives and other congrats. But until then, please spare us any more of these last minute add-ons and other mental gymnastics about why you think that may be real.

    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    Friday night I spoke with a dancer for about an hour and a half and we stopped due to the fact it was closing time. We hit it off. I made her laugh often, I feel we really clicked and she even mentioned having lunch with me sometime and that she wanted to see me again, keep in mind I spent no money on her that night. So Sunday I went to see her again(the club was bare like it is every Sunday) and we talked for about two hours again, it went well, I never received a dance from her but I did tip her about 10$ while she was on stage. Before leaving I brought up the fact that she mentioned grabbing lunch sometime together and she said to come in the next night I have off and she'd give me her number. I was just wondering if she's only stringing me along. I find it odd that she doesn't ask guys for dances, puts me in an awkward spot because while I realize she's at work and want to pay her for her time I also don't won't to fall into the regular/custie zone. I've been there and done that before.
    I am beginning to think that you have an overactive imagination and dwell in some sort of fantasy universe.


    If you're for real... the answer is simple:

    Your girl is either priming you for an OTC financial arrangement or she is an idiot. Take your pick.


    Beyond that, I am extremely displeased with the fact that you decided to tip a gal only $10 for two friggin' hours of her time. I'm even more pissed with her dumb-assery... if, in fact, she actually exists.



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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    I'm getting deja vu. This is just like the last time, with "oh, by the way, this was also part of the story" tidbits dropped in after the initial round of responses. And of course the added tidbit are invariably things to further bolster a case that this might be something different.

    Many of the members (and particularly the pinks) who responded to your initial post have ample experience with this industry and understand that there is an extremely high probability that you are being strung along. It is a common tactic used by some dancers to keep guys on the hook. Not much that you can say with your added "oh I forgot" clarifications and tidbits will likely change that belief other than a post about a successful civvie date.

    Wanna' prove the naysayers wrong? Go seal the deal. Simple. She already told you the next step in getting her number, so go do it already. After that, use the number, setup a date and actually have her show up (this last piece is no small feat - lol).

    Once you have accomplished these things, you can post about it and we can do the high fives and other congrats. But until then, please spare us any more of these last minute add-ons and other mental gymnastics about why you think that may be real.

    Good luck.
    Rick I disagree, I think he is legit & he's just posting here to show how to pick up a stripper with $10 Why else would he post here?

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    I'm getting deja vu. This is just like the last time, with "oh, by the way, this was also part of the story" tidbits dropped in after the initial round of responses. And of course the added tidbit are invariably things to further bolster a case that this might be something different.

    Many of the members (and particularly the pinks) who responded to your initial post have ample experience with this industry and understand that there is an extremely high probability that you are being strung along. It is a common tactic used by some dancers to keep guys on the hook. Not much that you can say with your added "oh I forgot" clarifications and tidbits will likely change that belief other than a post about a successful civvie date.

    Wanna' prove the naysayers wrong? Go seal the deal. Simple. She already told you the next step in getting her number, so go do it already. After that, use the number, setup a date and actually have her show up (this last piece is no small feat - lol).

    Once you have accomplished these things, you can post about it and we can do the high fives and other congrats. But until then, please spare us any more of these last minute add-ons and other mental gymnastics about why you think that may be real.

    Good luck.
    Rick I disagree, I think he is legit & he's just posting here to show how to pick up a stripper with $10 Why else would he post here?

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    Quote Originally Posted by nathoonder View Post
    I guess a piece of background info I forgot to mention was, during the course of our conversation she told me the managers get mad at the dancers when they spend over 30 minutes talking to a bloke who doesn't buy a dance. The thinking being that the guy isn't interest therefore the girl should move on and let another girl try. So when she tells me this I OFFERED to get a VIP dance and she was like "Oh no, you're fine". So if she was trying to make some cash RIGHT THERE was her out, and she didn't pounce on it. And yes she is a newbie this is her second week and she has a second job that is her primary source of income.
    Forgot to mention?

    I can't take any more of this. If you meet yet another stripper that you want to try and date for free please tell the ENTIRE story in your first post next time.
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