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    Lightbulb I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    So I somewhat know this dancer who has worked in a couple of different clubs around town. The first time I saw her she came up to me and we engaged in a pretty long conversation. It was more like a normal conversation you would have with anyone you found engaging. I think she's hot, but I think she's everyone's cup of tea.

    Anyway, I've known her (somewhat) for about three years and for as long as she has been a stripper she always finds an excuse not to dance for me. I know from our conversations that she is a germ-a-phobe. But in that case why dance at all? Again, she is very friendly to me and even flags me down when I walk into a club she's dancing in. But she always makes excuses and avoids getting dances from me. WTF?

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    Um did you ask her a reason why?

    IDK - the guys i don't dance for are either too cheap, bad hygiene, or too handsy and want extras

    You never know the real reason unless you ask her...

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    I honestly don't have an answer for you-she is only hurting her own income and wasting her own time by behaving this way. If you enjoy her company and feel guilty for spending time with her, you can always tip her for the time you guys spend talking on the floor. If I were you, I would seek the attention of another dancer who knows and fulfils her job description.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Um did you ask her a reason why?

    IDK - the guys i don't dance for are either too cheap, bad hygiene, or too handsy and want extras
    ^I thought that...but then, if he were THAT horrible, she wouldn't waste time just talking to him (because it would be equally as uncomfortable) .
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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    She says she likes you too much to dance for you AND she's a germophobe?

    Are you a "licker" by any chance? *shudders*

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    Easy answer, she is there to make money & will not dance with you because of a issue you seem to have & have brought up. Clean before & when she says hey, she's saying to others...problem.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    my guess is that she is aware that you post on tuscl or another review site and is friendly with you so you don't put her on blast that shes a bitch but knows from other girls that youre super nasty during dances and doesn't want to put up with you.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    Maybe you remind her of someone ... like her dad or her brother.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    Why do you care? She's either an idiot or a bigot. Either way you can't change whatever is in her head. Just move on.
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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    i feel like we just had this question from another custy! its either
    A. she's a moron who doesn't want to make money. but you said she's been stripping for at least 3 years, so that part seems strange to me
    B. maybe she's trying to get you into an OTC relationship, also doubtful
    C. she's heard you are gross, and since she's a germaphobe doesn't want to get anywhere near you in that setting.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    She's friendly because you just won't go away, for years, and she probably wants you to just tip her on stage but not have to touch you.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    There is one guy at our club who I have made an executive decision NOT to give a lap dance to if I can help it. I do privates from time to time, but I am on a stage a bit away from him.
    Is it because he is handsy, cheap or gross? No, not at all, the hands would be welcome and he smells divine.
    It is actually because I don't like my chances of keeping my job if I dance for him that up close. We have wicked chemistry and it would be far too tempting and easy to push things too far and forget where I am.
    It probably wouldn't be the sort of thing I would actually get fired for, however it would be more full on than I think is acceptable for the club, and I always get annoyed when I see other dancers giving guys those types of dances, especially with touching, which is illegal, because it raises the expectations of the other guys in the lap dance room of what they think *should* be happening in their dance (because as we all know, strippers are cut from the same mould and give 100% identical dances, right)
    So, yeah, there is a vague possibility of that being the case. Or she doesn't actually like you, or she has to prioritise keeping herself available should a high spending customer walk in (I assume with your history she knows your exact $ value in the club to her at any given time)
    You could always surprise her by dropping some mad cash one night on stage (lots) and then asking her for another dance? See if that twists her arm. If not, then sorry she honestly doesn't want to dance for you, if so, then she was just prioritising her money making options, including you.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    Do you tip her for her company when she sits with you/buy her a drink? How long does she sit with you? Are you typically very "handsy" or otherwise unpleasant person to dance for (licking, nibbling, wearing sweatpants?).

    My theory, if she's been at it for 3 years, is that she knows your good for $x in tips during conversation/stages, and/or uses you to get liquored up, but has qualms about dancing for you specifically due to one or any of the issues listed above. I refuse to dance for unpleasant customers like this (and trust me, girls talk and know which guys come in expecting high mileage), but still play nice for stage tips, as other girls have mentioned.

    Not to imply that you ARE an unpleasant customer - if she's sitting there chatting your ear off for a while, you never tip her, and you've never done anything of questionable etiquette during a lap dance, then she's just terrible at this job.

    Would you tell us, if you ever find out why? I'm pretty curious, myself. Lol
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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    It could be she doesn't like dancing for people she knows. Years ago one girl I knew stop dancing with customers after seeing them a few times. She would say since we are know friends I can't dance for you anymore.

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    Default Re: I like you, but I won't dance for you.

    It all depends on the individuals involved but the dancers I became friendly with generally saw tbe guys in the club in one of three ways. A very small percentage of the guys were guys they liked well enough to wish not to engage in dancer/customer activities with. A small but somewhat larger percentage would be guys that weren't worth tolerating for the money. The rest of the guys in the club are guys they can tolerate for the money.
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    Maybe you have a special place in her heart. Like the big brother she never has and doesn't want to ruin it. Who knows man, who knows.

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