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    Hey y'all. I'm been a lurker for awhile, I'm also on TUSCL. TUSCL is fine, but I wanted to come here to get more dancer insights. I'm 24 years old, I've been going to strip clubs for four years. What can I say, I love watching strippers popping and twerking their booties lol.Anyways on to the subject of the thread. I'm sure there's been many variations of this subject on here, but here goes....I just started dating this stripper recently, and everything is going fine. I've had other great connections with strippers previously, and I thought it would lead me to dating them but it didn't happen. I think the barrier in all those situations was that I was a customer i.e. I met them in the strip club. This has led me to believe that dating a customer is pretty rare. Have any of you ever dated a customer? If you haven't, why not?One of my thoughts was that y'all don't think customers can handle dating strippers. The customers seem like they are ready for it in the beginning, but two weeks into the relationship they back out because they can't handle it. Of course the easy logical answer is money, but I'm not talking about a customer who you got a 500 dollar VIP with, I'm talking about the customer that maybe bought one or two dances from you.On a related note, the media makes it seem like your boyfriends are unemployed, drug dealers, felons.Thoughts?

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    I would never date a customer not because I don't think he could "handle" me (wtf???) but because customers are just wallets to me. With the big spenders, I'd hate to lose that stream of income, and with the low spenders, their cheapness doesn't entice me to spend any further time with them. The very context of our interaction paints them in a different way compared to the people I encounter outside the club - "Shanna" exists only in the club, and as far as I'm concerned, so do the customers. It's just business. I never would have dated a customer when I worked at a fast food joint or retail store either.

    The media says a lot of things that aren't true, so let's not be stupid here.


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    ^ spoke as a true Professional, wish I had a comp to give her to join the team.

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    i'm dating a guy i met in the club, but i never would have if he were a "regular" or a regular customer there. it was a fluke, because i dont think i'd ever do it again. best to keep business separate. for many reasons..
    1. money, thats a big one. they are there to spend money on you, and you are there to provide a service..not give it to them for free.
    2. you arent yourself in the strip club, so they like the idea of you, not the real you
    3. i don't like the fact that many of them are just there to "date" strippers and put notches in their belts, why i would never have anything to do with a guy who is strip club junkie
    4.its not true that they are ok with your job just because you met them there, they don't see a problem with going to a strip club but feel its different that you work at one. many of them get nervous you'll meet a guy there just like you met them.

    so i can be a mess.
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    You lurk here, and TUSCL, yet you posted the same thread that gets posted routinely??
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    My husband is not an unemployed, drug-addicted loser and when the media (or society) declares that it's always true, all it does is piss me off.

    I'll admit that finding a man (or woman) to date while involved in the sex industry is challenging, but it doesn't always yield poor results!

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    of course its always a possibility...you first have to impress me by how easy going you spend $ at the club with no exectations. I went out recently with a guy who was more educated than me (2 masters degrees) and spent around $10k for him and a few friends to hang out in the cr with me and a few other girls. he was also had model looks.

    obv these guys are few and far between and I can guarantee you that anyone that holds up to my standards certainly doesn't lurk on tuscl!!!

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    I always date customers and pay for their meals on the first date.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I always date customers and pay for their meals on the first date.

    Well...in the words of my good friend Joey Tribbiani....


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    Quote Originally Posted by Barney Stinson View Post
    Well...in the words of my good friend Joey Tribbiani....


    how you doing?
    Inside joke from the pink side but I'm doing fine, thank you.
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    We don't want to be seen as kept woman. ^^^

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    Great insight so far. Yes I do visit strip clubs on a semi regular basis, but I don't get dances, and she trusts me on that. Just as I trust she's not fucking a customer in VIP.

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    I imagine if I dated every customer that asked me for a date I'd be a broke b*tch if not hurt or dead.

    Taking activities outside the club is a huge risk as there are no bouncers to protect should customer turn out to be a psycho.

    Not to mention many customers use strip clubs like a dating/pickup scene and its not.

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    I wouldn't want to date a guy who went to strip clubs, and I don't particularly see that as a "double standard" or anything like that. I also have a baseline hatred for pretty much every customer. Not trying to be a bitch to OP or anyone; it's just how I tend to feel. Even when guys pleasantly surprise me by not attempting to grope me as much as most do, they generally get drunk and beg me to tell them my name or meet them for dinner. It's exhausting.

    Re: the media's portrayal, unfortunately, I've worked with more girls who are walking stereotypes than not. Half the dressing room discussion is when so-and-so's boyfriend is out on parole, or which girl is trying to pawn her engagement ring because her boyfriend is a deadbeat loser and she needs the money. Unfortunately, most of them don't realize pawned rings don't fetch as much as you'd hope. My boyfriend is a big nerd who plays EVE and has never been in a club, and I like him like that. I come home all the more grateful for him each shift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by musik22 View Post
    Hey y'all. I'm been a lurker for awhile, I'm also on TUSCL. TUSCL is fine, but I wanted to come here to get more dancer insights. I'm 24 years old, I've been going to strip clubs for four years. What can I say, I love watching strippers popping and twerking their booties lol.
    Welcome to the board m. If you use the word "twerking" again I am going to ban you..ok, just kidding...maybe...



    Quote Originally Posted by musik22 View Post
    On a related note, the media makes it seem like your boyfriends are unemployed, drug dealers, felons.Thoughts?
    If by "media" you mean the guys who post on TUSCL or SCL or script writers for movies of the week I would agree. If we are talking about the legitimate news media I've never really found this to be the case. In fact, the subject of stripper's bf's rarely comes up outside of SC discussion boards and tabloid tv.

    Dancers dating customer IRL happens. Most of the dancers I know have firm rules about not dating customers...even the ones I date. Now, I've never been the type to sit in a strip club and waste a dancer's time by not spending money on her but if that's working for you I guess you must be just that awesome. Some of us old geezers actually have to spend money to get a ladies attention...
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    Yes I did date one customer and that was out of hundreds of customers I have danced for. In this case he was someone I met at a club I danced at for months only I didn't start hanging out with him until I left the club and then we were just friends. We were friends for years, lost contact for over 10 years, reconnected started dating then broke up. My first and last time dating a man from a club. I no longer dance so the men I meet I don't meet at strip clubs. He wasn't one of my best customers but he paid me (usually to rub my feet). I would never consider a man who didn't tip in the club because cheap guys are guys I avoid.

    Second, no I wouldn't date a loser. My parents would be ashamed if I dated a man who was a drug dealer, in and out of prison or unemployed (unless it was because of the economy). Sadly though many dancers I worked with did date losers, though I've known women not in the industry who dated losers as well, so it's not really a dancer problem but rather a young woman problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by musik22 View Post
    Hey y'all. I'm been a lurker for awhile, I'm also on TUSCL. TUSCL is fine, but I wanted to come here to get more dancer insights. I'm 24 years old, I've been going to strip clubs for four years. What can I say, I love watching strippers popping and twerking their booties lol.Anyways on to the subject of the thread. I'm sure there's been many variations of this subject on here, but here goes....I just started dating this stripper recently, and everything is going fine. I've had other great connections with strippers previously, and I thought it would lead me to dating them but it didn't happen. I think the barrier in all those situations was that I was a customer i.e. I met them in the strip club. This has led me to believe that dating a customer is pretty rare. Have any of you ever dated a customer? If you haven't, why not?One of my thoughts was that y'all don't think customers can handle dating strippers. The customers seem like they are ready for it in the beginning, but two weeks into the relationship they back out because they can't handle it. Of course the easy logical answer is money, but I'm not talking about a customer who you got a 500 dollar VIP with, I'm talking about the customer that maybe bought one or two dances from you.On a related note, the media makes it seem like your boyfriends are unemployed, drug dealers, felons.Thoughts?
    I dated and lived with a former customer for 2 years - Never again! Granted, as I think I've mentioned on here before, I have no intention of dating seriously or exclusively until I've quit dancing, just because I think I personally am incapable of having a healthy relationship as a stripper. Not that all strippers are! Just me! Even if I weren't stripping right now, I don't think I'd want a relationship - for where I'm at in my life.


    However... Even if I were dating, and did date customers, I would NEVER date a customer that made a habit of "going out with," "dating," or even "befriending" a lot of strippers. That's a red flag to me - it makes me feel like I'm just a number to gratify your ego. And I'm really not all that impressed by customers that have this idea in their heads that they're somehow "different" from every other customer - ie:
    I'm different because I only got a couple of dances - Lots of guys only get a couple of dances, and the result is mostly just my own disappointment that you didn't get more.
    I'm different because I'm younger than the old wrinkly men you usually dance for - No you're not, I've met tons of men your age before.
    I'm different because I'm clearly better than the average broke-ass/loser/druggie that strippers USUALLY date - Oooh, your presumption about my taste in men is such a turn on, baby, tell me more. *sigh*
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    Sure I'd "date" a customer. In the hour or two I have free before work in the city, at my favorite restaurant, and once he's popped that nice wad of $1000 in 50's in my hand to compensate me for my time.
    Until someone decides to take me up on that, no, I have no interest in "dating" a customer.

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    It never works out well. He's all "let's go to a strip club!" and them I'm like "dude we just went last night! You never take me out to dinner anymore." Then we just fight all night.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    It never works out well. He's all "let's go to a strip club!" and them I'm like "dude we just went last night! You never take me out to dinner anymore." Then we just fight all night.

    Relationships are always give and take. Maybe you can compromise.......Tell him "OK, we'll go to the stip club tonite, if we can stay in and scrapbook tomorrow night."

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    I dated a customer once, during my 6 years of stripping. But, aside from that incident, I have never had the slightest desire to date anyone else I've meet at the club (although I did have a fling with a bouncer once when I was a newbie... He carried my bags and defended my honor when guys smacked my butt on stage--swoon). The guy I dated wasn't a "strip club" guy. He came in for a bachelor party and we just hit it off. I'm probably a total hypocrite, but I have a tendency to kinda judge guys that spend a lot of time and money in the club. I appreciate them, but I always suspect if their social skill set was a little better they wouldn't be at the club, paying for human interactions. I'm mean. Sorry. This mostly applies to guys in the age group that I would date. I'm much more compassionate towards the older gentlemen who frequent pervert row. Where else are they going to find a bunch of little hotties ready to jump in their laps?

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    I can't talk shit...my current SO was a customer that I met, subsequently devirginized, and am now dating. But he is obscenely hot and can fuck for hours. If it's your run of the mill custy, no I probably wouldn't date them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Dancers dating customer IRL happens. Most of the dancers I know have firm rules about not dating customers...even the ones I date.
    That's a good line! It applies to me too, exactly. If I turn things around, for years I had a rule about not dating women in my immediate workplace. I'd heard all the admonishments about what a bad idea it was, and then dated a co-worker, and it all applied -- when it's over, if you dislike her you have to see her every day and work with her anyway, if you still like her you get to eat your heart out while you see who she's hitting on next, you know she's talking to her friends who also happen to be your coworkers, etc. So, having learned my lesson, I decided on my "no dating coworkers" rule. And I used the rule to deflect unwanted attention from any other women I worked with who I wasn't attracted to ("you're really cool ... but I don't date coworkers. Sorry, had a bad experience with this, blame the rule! If we weren't coworkers we could definitely date!"), and having the rule helped me to stay disciplined about NOT pursuing coworkers who I was just a little attracted to. But one day they hired this really beautiful woman ... fuck my rule, we had our first date 3 weeks later. And I think, forget strippers, just in general, human attraction is a primal urge that's insanely difficult to ignore, even for someone very highly disciplined: if someone is attracted enough to you (because you're handsome, or fun, or interesting, or kind, or whatever), their rules tend to bend; otherwise, they cite the rule.

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