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    When I go to strip clubs, I see some customers who get along nicely witth the exotic dancers maybe because they're regulars, but I see some of the them get along well with the DJ, bouncer, and the bartender at times. It seems like they're well liked like friends. I would like to be well liked in the strip club like becoming friends with the dancers, the DJ, ett if I go there often. What are the methods in doing that?

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    Bring a lot of money with you. Buy dances and tip the staff. Then buy more dances and tip the staff again. Lather, rinse, repeat.

    I don't know why being popular with the staff is important to you but, if that's what you want, spending and tipping will help you accomplish your goal. By the way, it doesn't mean that anyone will actually like you, they will simply act like they do.
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    As a general rule in life, I think it can always pay dividends to be friendly with people, sometimes in surprising ways, and that's as true at the strip club as anywhere else. It isn't something I put planning and effort into, I just treat people like people. And it seems to pay little dividends for me, some as simple as having someone to talk to while I'm between girls, sometimes it's getting juicy inside info. Turns out the bouncer and I have a common outside hobby, love shooting the shit about it ... on the upside, a girl I do dances with tells me that that bouncer lets me get away with waaay more contact than other customers; if that's true, that's a nice unexpected upside. I have a buddy who likes to go further and get in tight with everyone -- that's just him, he's like a politician, and likes to work the whole room, including floor manager, bartender, waitress, bouncer, etc. And it pays dividends for him (and, by extension, me) well beyond the modest amount he spends at the club. For example, the DJ skips girls on my buddy's request (no tip necessary), the manager tells us who is scheduled on which days even though this particular club does not publish schedules (my buddy and the manager often talk in between our trips), the club buys us an awful lot of rounds and sometimes lets us bring in our own bottle and waives the corkage, and on and on. We don't waste our time with people on staff we don't like; but anyone we do like, getting to know them is part of the fun of the trip

    So, while I do think "how can I be well liked at the strip club" might be a bit of an odd way of thinking, I do think "be friendly with everyone around you, whether at work or in the gym or at the strip club" is not a bad point of view. The general approach is not much different than outside the club: talk to people, be interesting and fun to talk to. Oh, and buy them shots

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Bring a lot of money with you. Buy dances (and some VIP rooms---) and tip the staff. Then buy more dances and tip the staff again. Lather, rinse, repeat.
    ^^^^^ Yep.

    Also beyond that... don't break the rules, don't cause problems/drama/trouble and you'll be alright.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    What everyone said. The well liked guys at the clubs I worked at would come in and tip (many of them tipped all the dancers), and came in often and did this. They never caused trouble, never did anything that was wrong and was polite to everyone, including women they weren't interested in.

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    Talk to people like they are real humans.

    The girls, the bouncers, the manager.

    Tipping is not everything

    You can spend money and still be a dick.

    Realize that most guys who walk into the club pay no attention to the staff.

    A little normal conversation can go a long way, but expect nothing for it.

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    Default Re: Looking for methods to be well liked in the strip club

    Just be nice,tipping is a extra and be yourself.

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    Default Re: Looking for methods to be well liked in the strip club

    How do you make yourself likeable at any other club? Don't be obnoxious, pushy, or douchey, respect that everyone in there is doing a job and be polite about their different roles, and tip reasonably well. Apply same rules to the extra employees in a strip club (aka: the dancers). It really shouldn't be that difficult.
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    Default Re: Looking for methods to be well liked in the strip club

    It can be done in three easy steps...

    1. Bring lots of money

    2. Spend lots of money

    3. Don't be a dick

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryuken View Post
    When I go to strip clubs, I see some customers who get along nicely witth the exotic dancers maybe because they're regulars, but I see some of the them get along well with the DJ, bouncer, and the bartender at times. It seems like they're well liked like friends. I would like to be well liked in the strip club like becoming friends with the dancers, the DJ, ett if I go there often. What are the methods in doing that?
    This has got to be a gag post. But I will answer as if it was serious.

    Just be friendly, go often enough that they remember you and take care of the people who take care of you. Simple.

    First and foremost, I always take care of the bartender. I am a bar hanger, so if you like table seating then the equivalent is your waitress.

    I take care of the dancers who entertain me, either through stage tipping, other activities or both.

    I rarely tip other club personnel, but when they do something for me I do tip them. I have been known to occasionally throw a little money at the DJ to play something that I want to hear. I also tip VIP/CR managers when I am taking a girl into a back room. And a couple of times I received warnings about, and alternate routes around, DUI checkpoints and I tipped very well for that information.

    But I am not really trying too hard to be liked tbh. The rapport that you see between regulars and club staff is really one that develops naturally over time. Now every club seems to have that guy who tries too hard to be liked, calling ahead to take coffee/food order and such, but where I come from we have a name for this animal and it isn't complimentary.

    Just be cool and treat everyone with kindness and you'll be fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oldster View Post
    Talk to people like they are real humans.

    The girls, the bouncers, the manager.

    Tipping is not everything

    You can spend money and still be a dick.

    Realize that most guys who walk into the club pay no attention to the staff.

    A little normal conversation can go a long way, but expect nothing for it.
    ^This is all true, but inversely, no matter how nice you are - if you're the guy that goes in the club, talks to the dancers, talks to the bartenders, chats up the DJ and doesn't tip, you are the "cheap guy" that people eventually learn to avoid. I can picture the faces of every single "cheap guy" regular at my club right now! No one talks to them, and not because they're not good people, but because dancers and staff are at work, and they're contributing nothing to their income. That seems to always be the difference between regulars who are "well liked" or ignored at my club - their spending potential. If you spend enough money, even if you act like a dick, people will be nice to you, because you're partaking in an industry where it's peoples' jobs to be "nice" to you if you pay them for it. That's how it works.

    Now, at a regular bar, I'd talk to a nice "cheap guy" before I'd talk to a jerk with a fat wallet, because out in the "real world," I value kindness over money. Strip club norms, however, are different than real world norms - kindness doesn't pay my bills...
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    Default Re: Looking for methods to be well liked in the strip club

    Ok. Noob question...why would a customer need to tip a DJ? I only tip dancers, waitresses (im never at the bar) and managers when I ask for their assistance and am requesting a dancer. But other than that, I have never tipped a DJ before.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Barney Stinson View Post
    Ok. Noob question...why would a customer need to tip a DJ? I only tip dancers, waitresses (im never at the bar) and managers when I ask for their assistance and am requesting a dancer. But other than that, I have never tipped a DJ before.
    Usually if they want songs played or are requesting dancers - pretty much everyone on staff gets dancer requests at some point or another.
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    Quote Originally Posted by summerbre View Post
    Usually if they want songs played or are requesting dancers - pretty much everyone on staff gets dancer requests at some point or another.

    Ahhh ok. Never thought about approaching the DJ for a dancer request. Thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by summerbre View Post
    ^This is all true, but inversely, no matter how nice you are - if you're the guy that goes in the club, talks to the dancers, talks to the bartenders, chats up the DJ and doesn't tip, you are the "cheap guy" that people eventually learn to avoid. I can picture the faces of every single "cheap guy" regular at my club right now! No one talks to them, and not because they're not good people, but because dancers and staff are at work, and they're contributing nothing to their income. That seems to always be the difference between regulars who are "well liked" or ignored at my club - their spending potential. If you spend enough money, even if you act like a dick, people will be nice to you, because you're partaking in an industry where it's peoples' jobs to be "nice" to you if you pay them for it. That's how it works.

    Now, at a regular bar, I'd talk to a nice "cheap guy" before I'd talk to a jerk with a fat wallet, because out in the "real world," I value kindness over money. Strip club norms, however, are different than real world norms - kindness doesn't pay my bills...
    I guess tipping like a human is taken for granted. I don't think the bartenders at regular bars are nice to the nice guys that tip nothing.

    I do not believe it is required to spend like a drunken sailor to be 'nice'

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    Quote Originally Posted by oldster View Post
    I do not believe it is required to spend like a drunken sailor to be 'nice'
    I agree! I said tipping.

    Tipping ≠ Spending like a drunken sailor, in my eyes.

    There are guys that come to my club that will rack up $30-50 at the bar and tip the bartender $1, never go to a single stage or buy a single dance. Two guys in particular are loaded, and if their favorite bartender isn't there, her replacement gets NOTHING. This is "cheap guy" behavior.

    And when I referenced who I'd talk to at a regular bar, I meant as a patron, not as a staff member, just to be clear.
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    Quote Originally Posted by oldster View Post
    I do not believe it is required to spend like a drunken sailor to be 'nice'
    I agree! I said tipping.

    Tipping ≠ Spending like a drunken sailor, in my eyes.

    There are guys that come to my club that will rack up $30-50 at the bar and tip the bartender $1, never go to a single stage or buy a single dance. Two guys in particular are loaded, and if their favorite bartender isn't there, her replacement gets NOTHING. This is "cheap guy" behavior.

    And when I referenced who I'd talk to at a regular bar, I meant as a patron, not as a staff member, just to be clear.
    “The irony of commitment is that it's deeply liberating -- in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around like rational hesitation. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life.”
    - Anne Morris

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    In addition to above, I think you can get somewhere dressing well. Business casual will make you stand out from jeans and tshirt customers. If you go in looking like the type that won't spend, you won't get approached. My Fwb won't approach the frat boy types for that reason.

    Actually come to think of it... Here's some other little things that might help. I don't smoke, but it seems in my experience like a lot of the girls do. I give my fwb a pack of cigs every time see her, offering cigs might be a nice touch, but at least carry a good lighter.

    Smelling good is probably a plus. I stay clean, but never bothered with anything beyond basic deodorant. But fwb is constantly trying any perfume sample we walk past. I'd consider this more advanced than I could advise, and the results may vary. I do also use a topical testosterone prescription, and I get lots of ladies telling me I smell good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Divorced View Post
    Smelling good is probably a plus. I stay clean, but never bothered with anything beyond basic deodorant. I do also use a topical testosterone prescription, and I get lots of ladies telling me I smell good.


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    Wut? Do you doubt me? I'm not talking in a SC context, quite frankly I hardly go. Every single woman I've dated since I got divorced has out of the blue told me that I smell good. It probably has very little to do with the topic at hand, and without prescription coverage it would cost more than dating a stripper. And I'd certainly rather do without it, it kind of means that I can't let women touch me on my upper back.

    Hmmm... come to think of it, I think I've gotten the compliment from some of the girls at the club, but I didn't pay much attention because I'm only going for my FWB.

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    No, I don't doubt you. Just sounded funny..


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    Now that you mention it... Making a girl laugh is the best way to make her feel comfortable being around ya

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    Money is the ONLY thing that will "buy" you the "friendship" of a dancer. Of course we genuinely get along with some customers/regulars, but if they weren't paying for our time-we would be enjoying another customer's company. Being polite, respectful, and generous is a bonus i.e. offer the dancer a drink, tip her for spending time with you, tip if you sit at the tip rail, buy dances, don't push the dancer's boundaries or ask for anything that doesn't fit her job description, have fun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Divorced View Post
    Wut? Do you doubt me? I'm not talking in a SC context, quite frankly I hardly go.
    Oh great, another one...
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    BACKRUBS BACKRUBS BACKRUBS BACKRUBS BACKRUBS BACKRUBS BACKRUBS BACKRUBS. I've had 3 total regulars who always gave me FUCKYEAH BACKRUBS and I adore them to this day. The fact that I adore them equally, despite their difference in spending, is based solely on the fact that they do that. My fondness for them over "regular" regulars is palpable. BACKRUBS. But don't be creepy.
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