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    What do you do to get yourself pumped up to work? I've blown through my savings taking time off and now I have to get back to work. I have A LOT of bills that I need to pay off now so escorting is all I can do while in school and to get my emergency savings account back to where it was at.

    I want to switch things up to make me look forward to showing up for appointments. I'm working on changing my music playlist right now and I bought 1 new lingerie bra. Any ideas that you guys would like to share? Thanks in advance !

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    Default Re: Burnt Out :(

    anxiously awaiting replies to this as i am in a huge funk right now myself - nothing seems to be helping at the moment - I have been in my pajamas for 2 days ( hate to tell anyone that ) I am isolating even more than usual - i had a client who does an hour call from NF today and I just watched it ring -50.00 to talk for an hour and i just could not turn on the other me - not normal for me to pass up money - greedy fairy where are you when I need you please come back

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    I'm sorry you're in the same situation!

    I'm in the dilemma of burnt out, no motivation and nobody wants to make an appointment other than 1 guy I contacted. I've even tried lowering my rates and nobody will bite. God, back to the strip club I go .

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    Default Re: Burnt Out :(

    I'm just a newbie to the biz but seeing as how the car just cost 500 bucks to fix, rent is due soon, and we are moving out of state soon and there are extraordinary expenses that go along with that, and also the fact that whatever short-lived regulars I develop here it won't mean a thing when I move to a different state and have to start from scratch!! My panic mode is way high! I've spent 2 days at a hotel hoping for some big bucks but had about 4 different cancellations for various reasons...really??

    I think I officially turned this into a rant thread, sorry

    I'm currently shopping for new lingerie to brighten my spirits (or distract myself, either one!).

    All I have to say is hang in there ladies! The gloomy grouchy moods always pass. We have a job where we set our own hours, our own rules, and define our own image, which is so empowering...not to mention the semi-shallow but ego-boosting praise we get from clients....Oh, and the money....mmmmm Gotta always remember the positive!

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    Default Re: Burnt Out :(

    I have never had a slow period the whole three years I have been doing this. Slow to the point of nothing coming in and I am like "oh..ugh..fuck" until now. I have been burnt out for the past year. I just started school and am very busy outside of work. I am JUMPING when I get a call now. I learned what it was like to have nothing going on after dicking around and spending all of my money. My ass is in gear now and ready to go. My burn out was awful. I hope yours isn't as bad and business picks up soon. Sometimes I think "oh..that is a new bag!" I know that is bad but I like to treat myself.

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    so my rates were set at 9.90 a minute on NF when I went to bed = The computer warning for a call goes off and I jump out of bed to answer it -apparently greedy rules when i am asleep - lol - cant find my glasses to see who it is but I answer the call anyway - 2 minutes into the call it ends and I hear the no money was added to your account - it was someone I had sent free minutes to - FML right now rrrrr

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    I like the idea of a rant thread haha. Wintertrash, I hope things get better for you when you move. It may be for the better because business is busier in certain states compared to others.

    Here's my rant!
    Some guy fake reviewed me and I threw a huge, stupid public fit over it and got myself purposely banned from TER. This happened right at the worst of my burn out. I'm still not done with burn out either . I guess this was the last straw for me, along with some providers pimp spreading lies about me to other members, and the exhausting drama of my regular's who thought our appointments were real life. But now that I've had a few months out of this job, I realize how badly I threw myself under the bus. I'm so mad at myself for doing that. There's probably no way for me to get my old profile back since ter admin hates me .

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    Try to go it with out - I hate those boards

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    I'm burnt out too! it must just be customers. I am new - so I understand that i don't have a fan base! but I did GREAT my first week now this week I can't even get more than 20 people in my room on Chaturbate! Went to MFC this week and had a ton of private invites but don't even know how to use that site, set up my tokens, etc! Felt too weird on cam today to dance, no angles nor lighting seemed to work with me. Not to mention my hair. Blah. Is it a full moon?
    Good luck ladies! We can do better than this

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    I hate those boards too! But right now, not having any reviews are kicking my ass. Can't seem to get anyone to review me and can't get on any reputable places without them? WTF are you supposed to do?

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    Same here!!! I'm sick of those idiots lying on the review boards, especially the really bad ones who are sneaky and do all kinds of shady things to hide their handle, and personally I think we should take pictures of them and review them so we could all have a good laugh!


    Oh and I completely hear you about the draining regulars who think the appointments are real life. I'd still rather see them over a new guy who might be and even bigger @sshole, but OMG it's like they want MORE and MORE from me. They want 1 hour to turn into 3 (without more $$$), they want to hang out for free, they want to do unsafe things "because we know each other so well", they want to call me 3 times a day because we're "good friends"....OMG it's sooooo annoying!!



    Ok, rant over.
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    Default Re: Burnt Out :(

    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    What do you do to get yourself pumped up to work? I've blown through my savings taking time off and now I have to get back to work. I have A LOT of bills that I need to pay off now so escorting is all I can do while in school and to get my emergency savings account back to where it was at.

    I want to switch things up to make me look forward to showing up for appointments. I'm working on changing my music playlist right now and I bought 1 new lingerie bra. Any ideas that you guys would like to share? Thanks in advance !
    Hello indiegirl,

    I have some tips to cure burn out:

    1. Take a vacation and have fun: I try to do this at least twice a month

    2. After work, watch a funny movie and have a nice laugh.

    3. Go to dinner and dancing at a hot salsa club.

    4. Have a work journal and write down your thoughts.

    5. Read books about famous courtesans such as Veronica Franco and La Belle Otero

    6. Try out new fantasies and ideas that still excited you.

    7. Work on your appearance

    8. Workout to claim your nerves.

    9. Enjoy lavish meal once a month

    10. Pamper, Pamper, Pamper: Pamper your soul, mind, and body.

    Bonus tip: Read books about women such as Cora Pearl, La Pavia and La Otero Belle: the richest sex workers who ever lived and take their values as your own. They made sex, pleasure, and money into a lavish lifestyle and a wonderful art that many women can learn from.

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    Great tips, DonaDiabla! It's always good to "force" rewards onto yourself, makes for a happier, healthier you I will have to check those books out, thanks for the suggestions!

    In regards to reviews -
    Yeah it's a pain. You can't join the review sites without them, and it's more hassle than I would have thought to actually get these people to put the time and care into writing them. A couple of my clients agreed to it, but I can tell I'm going to have to keep reminding them, which may end up annoying them, but hell, I need the reviews!


    My newest rant:
    A wanna-be client who was going to pay me my highest rate yet cancelled his appointment with me the other day due to a family emergency, but now instead of rescheduling the appt he keeps texting me begging for phone sex constantly and "promises" to pay for it when we get together in person...I told him he has to pay up front and he got all butt-hurt as if we've been best friends for years and he can't believe I don't trust him!! And today he's at it again! Ughhhhh. :/

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    Yep the only reason reviews are important because you'll make nothing throughout the week without them. I've tried going without them before and it always ends up the same way. Men think there's something wrong with you if you don't have reviews.

    Also, when you have good reviews people are more willing to accommodate to your schedule, treat you with more respect, and not try to ask so many requests for the small amount of money they want to spend.

    I'm having a hard time showing up for appointments if not enough people show up. I would leave with only 100 dollar profit after the hotel price and gas if I only saw 1 person for the day.




    Quote Originally Posted by WinterTrash View Post
    Great tips, DonaDiabla! It's always good to "force" rewards onto yourself, makes for a happier, healthier you I will have to check those books out, thanks for the suggestions!

    In regards to reviews -
    Yeah it's a pain. You can't join the review sites without them, and it's more hassle than I would have thought to actually get these people to put the time and care into writing them. A couple of my clients agreed to it, but I can tell I'm going to have to keep reminding them, which may end up annoying them, but hell, I need the reviews!


    My newest rant:
    A wanna-be client who was going to pay me my highest rate yet cancelled his appointment with me the other day due to a family emergency, but now instead of rescheduling the appt he keeps texting me begging for phone sex constantly and "promises" to pay for it when we get together in person...I told him he has to pay up front and he got all butt-hurt as if we've been best friends for years and he can't believe I don't trust him!! And today he's at it again! Ughhhhh. :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    Yep the only reason reviews are important because you'll make nothing throughout the week without them. I've tried going without them before and it always ends up the same way. Men think there's something wrong with you if you don't have reviews.

    Also, when you have good reviews people are more willing to accommodate to your schedule, treat you with more respect, and not try to ask so many requests for the small amount of money they want to spend.

    I'm having a hard time showing up for appointments if not enough people show up. I would leave with only 100 dollar profit after the hotel price and gas if I only saw 1 person for the day.
    I always try to schedule only 1-3 incall days a week to maximize my profit. I hate the hotel expectations some of these guys have. They do not realize the real "hooker math". 100 at the least for a decent hotel. Sometimes parking, babysitter, bottle of wine, etc. If I didn't charge 400 an hour I would make absolutely nothing. I tried offering a "notel" rate for days when I am not somewhere nice but I felt too gross hosting there. Not to mention the creeps hanging around them.

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    Yep I tried last month to post certain appointment days but guys always wanted a different day that I wasn't working or I'd only have 1 guy try to see me for the day. I want to focus all my time on studying and it feels like I'm wasting my entire day to travel to my incall, sit in traffic, make very little money, sit in traffic, and then come back. I'm only charging 300 for the hour right now since it's even more slow business if I go any higher.

    I've thought of using a motel but I just don't feel safe using one. I feel like staff would leave me alone if I were at a 3-4 star hotel.

    Quote Originally Posted by strippername View Post
    I always try to schedule only 1-3 incall days a week to maximize my profit. I hate the hotel expectations some of these guys have. They do not realize the real "hooker math". 100 at the least for a decent hotel. Sometimes parking, babysitter, bottle of wine, etc. If I didn't charge 400 an hour I would make absolutely nothing. I tried offering a "notel" rate for days when I am not somewhere nice but I felt too gross hosting there. Not to mention the creeps hanging around them.

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    I have been thinking about finding a trustworthy provider to share a hotel with on days where I only have one appointment. Maybe you can look into that too. I just asked a provider on TER how she works out the logistics with that one.

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    I recently came off a 2 month burn out...I didnt do a single thing and went through all my savings. *sigh* being broke is a pretty good motivator...look at me, escorting and trying to get back into cam as well LoL! But thing is, I know myself...I know I burn out, I know Im going to need time off at some point or another, so I save up as much as I can so that when it happens, I dont end up homeless...cause when I burn out Im DONE. And all I can do is ride it out. I usually spend it alone decompressing, watching movies, spending time with kiddo, and I tend not to talk to anyone, friends, fam, work, nada. Im just in complete meltdown / shutdown mode. Usually it only lasts a week or two, 2 months is exessive even for me... but it happens.

    One thing that I find helps *a lot* and I really should utilize it more is a spa day. I always feel like I can conquor the world the day after I go to the spa...and the money I spend on that is worth it if it keeps me from burning out and making no money at all.
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    Omgggg im going through major burnout right now as well i assumed it was just me that business was really slow for but everywhere combined with me not really good at saving and always spending this month has been really sucky lol and its pretty slow hopefully it will pick up sooooon... and donna i really like your tips it is good to treat ourselves because no one else is going to lol ^_~
    slut it out responsibly and don't forget to smile while you're whoring out!!

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    It is SOOOOO slow. It's very annoying. So far I have nobody lined up for this week and only saw one person last week. The majority of guys only have old references, they have bad verifyhim reports, they gave me references that don't even have ads or have zero/no reviews, want a day/time that I'm unavailable, or they send me an email with a subject line of "Hi" and a blank message. I finally got one guy on board but his references have not contacted me back with the okay. I would already be working at a strip club if I had the time but I'm studying all day long.

    But anyways, I hear you BlkSharpie on spa days. One amazing massage per month can do wonders!


    Quote Originally Posted by natilinia rouge View Post
    Omgggg im going through major burnout right now as well i assumed it was just me that business was really slow for but everywhere combined with me not really good at saving and always spending this month has been really sucky lol and its pretty slow hopefully it will pick up sooooon... and donna i really like your tips it is good to treat ourselves because no one else is going to lol ^_~

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    Yea i think im gonna have to go back to stripping for a bit until it picks up... i did loooove stripping when i did it it was fun and something new everyday lol
    slut it out responsibly and don't forget to smile while you're whoring out!!

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