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    Angry Escort questions: appt setting (and a rant!)

    I could use some tips from you experts out there regarding communication with future/hopeful clients.

    I get tons of dudes wanting to send emails or texts back and forth without actually committing to an appointment time (or requesting "more pics" or asking about sexual services, ughhhhh!).

    I always give them my earliest couple of openings and let them choose, so when I receive their response I'm expecting them to have decided.....but NO!!!....soooo often they just say vague things like "ok sure"...and then NOT get back me...really??? I always eventually write back and politely remind them to examine their schedule and get back to me. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Even a lot of my clients have needed extra coaxing to get them to make a decision. Am I going about this all wrong?

    I'm still new and trying to my best to just GET the clients in the first place because it seems all the flakes of the world want to flock to me! I know an in-demand established escort probably won't waste their time sending "reminders", but I don't know what else to do. Most of my clients have been first-timers so it's not like they had references yet.

    Also, I've been flaked on a bunch of times. The dude will seem so excited and dead-set on our appointment, then fall off the face of the earth when I call to confirm that morning. The clients who have followed through have been awesome though, and I adore this lifestyle and want to get myself established when I move out of state soon. I'm hoping one day I will be able to attract serious people who know what they're doing!

    Anyway, please ladies, I will be very grateful for whatever advice you have!

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    Default Re: Escort questions: appt setting (and a rant!)

    They are doing this because you are new. Lots of goes will try to push your boundaries right now. DO NOT LET THEM! Have you been reviewed yet? How are you screening all of these guys?

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    Quote Originally Posted by strippername View Post
    They are doing this because you are new. Lots of goes will try to push your boundaries right now. DO NOT LET THEM! Have you been reviewed yet? How are you screening all of these guys?
    I'm trying not to let them! lol. It's hard sometimes *sigh* I joined VerifyHim so I'm using that right now. After they contact me I ask for their TER (etc.) handles and escort references (if applicable), but like I said, most of these people say they have never done this before. *shrug*

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    Default Re: Escort questions: appt setting (and a rant!)

    A lot of them are lying to you about it being their first time. Where are you based and where are you advertising? You can PM me if you want.

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    Oh, I forgot to mention I do technically have one review so far, but the guy put it on my personal site, not via a review website, so I told him and he promises to write one via TER soon

    I'm in LA county CA (moving to northern Oregon soon, btw). I started out as a craigslist panty seller and got most clients through that (which explains the first-timers AND flakes). Now I'm also using backpage, cityvibe and bestgfe (and these people still claim being first-timers....and are still flaky, lol.

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    You should track down the San Diego forum. They have a northern San Diego meet and greet that you could potentially meet with people and gain access to the forum and start up some business down there, perhaps travelling down for 1-2 days a week.

    *stolen from AutumnAmbrosia*

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    Quote Originally Posted by strippername View Post
    A lot of them are lying to you about it being their first time. Where are you based and where are you advertising? You can PM me if you want.
    This. 99% of the time, it's not their first time. They just don't want to be linked to their online presence or their real identity, because then they'd get a bad rep when they flake. Or alternatively, they have seen other girls but they treated them like crap and know that if you contact them, they'll warn you. When a guy tells me it's his first time, no matter how convincing his story is, I pass. If they at least sound genuine, I tell them I'd love to hear from them in a few months when they've met with a few other ladies.


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    Quote Originally Posted by strippername View Post
    A lot of them are lying to you about it being their first time. Where are you based and where are you advertising? You can PM me if you want.
    This. 99% of the time, it's not their first time. They just don't want to be linked to their online presence or their real identity, because then they'd get a bad rep when they flake. Or alternatively, they have seen other girls but they treated them like crap and know that if you contact them, they'll warn you. When a guy tells me it's his first time, no matter how convincing his story is, I pass. If they at least sound genuine, I tell them I'd love to hear from them in a few months when they've met with a few other ladies.


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    YEP, this is definitely true.

    For Wintertrash: Always check if the ladies they give you as references have recent reviews and have multiple reviews. Do you use verifyhim.com too?

    Quote Originally Posted by Miss_McKenna View Post
    This. 99% of the time, it's not their first time. They just don't want to be linked to their online presence or their real identity, because then they'd get a bad rep when they flake. Or alternatively, they have seen other girls but they treated them like crap and know that if you contact them, they'll warn you. When a guy tells me it's his first time, no matter how convincing his story is, I pass. If they at least sound genuine, I tell them I'd love to hear from them in a few months when they've met with a few other ladies.

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    Some ladies use deposit to make sure guys don't flake. I don't since I'm kind of desperately needing money and need to pay rent in a week lol.
    But deposits can help if yo really want to cut down on guys not showing up or flaking.

    Quote Originally Posted by WinterTrash View Post
    I could use some tips from you experts out there regarding communication with future/hopeful clients.

    I get tons of dudes wanting to send emails or texts back and forth without actually committing to an appointment time (or requesting "more pics" or asking about sexual services, ughhhhh!).

    I always give them my earliest couple of openings and let them choose, so when I receive their response I'm expecting them to have decided.....but NO!!!....soooo often they just say vague things like "ok sure"...and then NOT get back me...really??? I always eventually write back and politely remind them to examine their schedule and get back to me. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Even a lot of my clients have needed extra coaxing to get them to make a decision. Am I going about this all wrong?

    I'm still new and trying to my best to just GET the clients in the first place because it seems all the flakes of the world want to flock to me! I know an in-demand established escort probably won't waste their time sending "reminders", but I don't know what else to do. Most of my clients have been first-timers so it's not like they had references yet.

    Also, I've been flaked on a bunch of times. The dude will seem so excited and dead-set on our appointment, then fall off the face of the earth when I call to confirm that morning. The clients who have followed through have been awesome though, and I adore this lifestyle and want to get myself established when I move out of state soon. I'm hoping one day I will be able to attract serious people who know what they're doing!

    Anyway, please ladies, I will be very grateful for whatever advice you have!

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    Default Re: Escort questions: appt setting (and a rant!)

    Just respond with a friendly one or two line email 'reminding' them that everything they need to know is on your website, and ask if they'd like to schedule an appointment. (If the info isn't there, add it, as well as what you require for screening. If you require provider references, and one of their references indicates he is 'ok, but no-showed', don't expect anything different...

    Quote Originally Posted by WinterTrash View Post
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    I get tons of dudes wanting to send emails or texts back and forth without actually committing to an appointment time (or requesting "more pics" or asking about sexual services, ughhhhh!).<snip>
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    Intro email no info (1st chance) Im super friendly in my reply and let them know what screening info I need, plus info on when they woudl like to meet.

    2nd email with some info not all (2nd chance) I a bit more professional in my tone, letting them know what info they are missing

    or 2nd email is just more flirting with no info / or 3rd email still not with all the info I ask for (strike) No matter what theyve writte, my curt reply is "When you are ready to book, please fill out my reservation form. Thank you!"

    then thats it...until they fill out my reservation form, they dont hear from me again no matter what they have to say. Usually they dont respond after that, Im no fun for a guy who just wants to waste my time because I dont allow it. ETA: If they are serious, then after an email or two with no response, they will get the point and fill out my reservation form.

    My method doesnt scare away all guys, just the ones who never had any intention to book in the first place. Those who do want to see me usually fill out my resrvation form or include all the info from the very first email.
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    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    Do you use verifyhim.com too?
    I just signed up with it but honestly can't even afford to pay for it so I'm just using the free version for now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    Some ladies use deposit to make sure guys don't flake. I don't since I'm kind of desperately needing money and need to pay rent in a week lol.
    But deposits can help if yo really want to cut down on guys not showing up or flaking.
    I was wondering what type of payment systems you gals use. I will have to do my investigative work and find out the best way...I just know Paypal doesn't allow adult transactions...


    CFMNH44 and BlkSharpie -

    Thank you for such valuable info!!
    I will try my best to stop wasting my time reminding people over and over again how to read! Haha. I KNOW they end up not following through, but it's still so "tempting" to keep plugging away at each one, hoping they'll surprise me! Haha. But enough of that! When I move next week I want to really polish up my act and not follow in the same unprofessional manner.

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    Default Re: Escort questions: appt setting (and a rant!)

    1. You have to assume that they are cops. That is the #1 thing a cop says "I am new & never done this. I don't want to be ripped off & sure of what I am getting for my money."
    Cops will often try to get you on the phone or in an email stating sexual services for a certain amount of money from you.

    2. Many game players out there who think your whole existence is to jump through their hoops for their entertainment. Verify & be all business, being to nice is just them taking advantage of you. Men who send more than 3 emails or calls without confirming a time & such are time wasters.


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    Really good tips. Thanks.

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