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    At times I have arrived at clubs near opening time, as some dancers were just showing up. Meeting them at the door and saying hello, I have been struck by the look of disdain on their faces. It occurs to me that perhaps this is how dancers truly feel about “custies.” Inside, outwardly, it’s sweetie this and honey that. Inwardly it’s “you filthy pervert loser.” And the inward feeling is what I see outside the door before the costumes go on. Too bad. We aren’t the people we seem to be in clubs any more than you are. We’re successful. We have good marriages and nice families. We just have a kink we need to indulge once in a while. We’re men, we like to look at beautiful women. We have club personas, too, and club names (as far as any stripper I’ve met is concerned, my name is Jake). Speaking for myself, I don’t imagine that you “are” the women you appear to be when at work. And I “am” not what I appear to be when in a club. I guess we’re all playing roles. I just wish I didn’t sense this underlying disdain. Or do I only imagine it?

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    Everybody I've ever worked with was a miserable slug first thing in the morning when arriving at work. Maybe you should stop showing up early...
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    i dont hate all customers, at all. a few of them have given me some bad experiences, but i try not to lump them all together the way strippers are..i agree with yoda, ill get annoyed if a guy is waiting there til we open, because then its a huge rush to get ready so they can see pussy first thing in the morning ..lol. and people are grumpy when they first get into work, strippers and vanilla people alike


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    Agreed, I don't hate on all custes ether..but yeah you might have a better club experience showing up later on


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    It seems you're not so much asking a question as you've already made up your mind that this is the case and simply wanted to desperately plead your case to us that "all customers aren't bad guys." We know that. No stripper on this board has ever expressed a hatred of all customers. We vent, we get annoyed by certain "types" we see over and over again. But as far as your insightful explanation as to how men "really work" in a strip club and out - we know. We don't hate all customers. I would say most of us don't hate even most customers. I agree with the sentiment to stop showing up early and hanging out by the door. No one is in full "work mode" when they first arrive, and even if you don't hate all your customers, I'd say 99% of people walk through the doors of their workplace thinking "uggggh, I don't wanna work today..." Why are you there so early and greeting them anyway? Just go sit down and have a drink and let them approach you when they're ready to start their day. I promise they won't hate you quite so much then.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    I'd say 99% of people walk through the doors of their workplace thinking "uggggh, I don't wanna work today..." .
    Aurora - I'd say you are correct - here I am at work and reading posts on Stripper Web instead of taking care of my customers. I will get in the "work mode" after my 5th cup of coffee!!

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    "Hate" implies I give a fuck about customers and waste my time thinking about them. To me they are all ATM's with penises attached. So no, I don't "hate" any of you. Maybe a bit of contempt and annoyance for the douches but no real animosity. Y'all just give me money.
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    I think that us "custies" have to remember that the dancers job is to entertain and give us the "illusion" of the possibility of an encounter! And for that they should be paid well.

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    Ya I don't HATE customers but I do HATE when I get to work and a customer is there the second the club opens so then we all have to rush to get ready and be on stage. Then there will be that one customer and no one else because it's so damn early lol and we're forced to go up for one guy.. I recommend you stop getting there so early! Give the girls some time to get ready and in the zone. Or at least sit down like aurora said and don't be in their faces the minute they walk thru the door! it's really annoying.

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    OP do you tip? My experience has shown me the guys waiting for the club to open are the cheapos. Yes we all hate those guys because they are time wasters and annoying. I hate the guys who are rude and cheap. Otherwise most dancers couldn't care less.

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    It's just kind of creepy to say, "Hi" to a dancer entering work in casual clothes. We aren't on duty, we aren't made up, so of course we don't want to socialise with people who we hope will spend time with and money on us later. We don't want you to remember us as "that girl who walked into the club in her gym clothes" lol.

    If they are already working then it's a little unprofessional to be "rude"...unless they know you and that you only have one/two regular girls or don't spend in general. If that's the case, they are probably just going about their business else where.
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    Do I hate customers? Goodness NO!

    If you are nice, polite, and generous I adore you. <<< No sarcasm, I'm legit serious.

    Customers are people too... I don't see them as bullseyes or ATM machines. They're at my club for a good time and I am more than happy to oblige.


    I do hate some people who happen to visit the club:

    - The "you're too good for this" guy that asks me to meet him at his hotel
    - The "what are you going to do for this money?"/"what are we gonna do in VIP?" guy
    - The sweat-pants-boner-man (luckily my current club has a dress code so none of that nonsense recently)

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    When I am walking into the club, I don't look at any customers and say Hi unless they are my regulars. I get paid to interact with people I don't know. Nothing against the other guys, but why should I say hi to someone who may only be there to see me naked with no garuntee that I'll get anything in return?

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    Quote Originally Posted by inawe View Post
    Meeting them at the door and saying hello, I have been struck by the look of disdain on their faces.
    There are a plenty of legit reasons why dancers might be annoyed with a customer hanging by the door and trying to engage them as they walk in. Some need to get their heads in the game before dealing with customers, while others don't want to be seen by customers outside in their street clothes, and yet others may not want customers to see what car they came from or who dropped them off.

    I did something like that once in NYC many years ago and it quickly dawned on me how awkward the situation was, so I took off to another bar and returned a short while later. Since then, during the rare times that I have showed up at a club prior to opening, I just waited in my car or went somewhere else and returned. There is no good reason to be skulking around the entrance to a club while dancers are showing up for their shifts.

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    All 9f the above is true...and dont forget thers different types of time
    CLUB TIME is what some would call real world time. That which a clock says
    WORKER TIME time off is different from time on...nobodyblikes work....especially wht these girls put up with
    GIRL TIME My girlfriend will be ready at 8...and yet somehow she comes downstairs about 9....930
    STRIPPER OR MODEL TIME theyre ready when theyre ready...girl time times 2. It aint easy co verting from amy the student mom to roxy the super seductress tramp of your dreams

    And lets face it guys....we know none of us could do for a week what these professional actresses do for years

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    All 9f the above is true...and dont forget thers different types of time
    CLUB TIME is what some would call real world time. That which a clock says
    WORKER TIME time off is different from time on...nobodyblikes work....especially wht these girls put up with
    GIRL TIME My girlfriend will be ready at 8...and yet somehow she comes downstairs about 9....930
    STRIPPER OR MODEL TIME theyre ready when theyre ready...girl time times 2. It aint easy co verting from amy the student mom to roxy the super seductress tramp of your dreams

    And lets face it guys....we know none of us could do for a week what these professional actresses do for years

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    I don't like it when guys see me going in the club because I feel wary of why they're there, they know what I'm wearing and they may be dodgy.. I'm sure you aren't, OP but some people are.
    I'm always wary when I first arrive at work anyway, just can't wait to get in and get ready and be out on the floor-the process of getting from my car to the door of the club is nerve-wracking because of past experiences ...I was walking into the club this Wed and a customer was walking out having found out it wasn't open yet, and he thought it was hilarious to call me a whore! Another time I was arriving at work and a woman leaned out of her and shouted 'Fcking Prostitute!' For jsut a couple of examples!
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    ^ Yup. Some limited awareness out there.
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    "Hate" is probably too strong a word. Most dancers seem to consider customers nothing more than a one of the necessary evils of the job. They generally prefer not seeing customers except when on duty. That's one of the reasons so many of them choose to dance away from where they live.
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    I don't hate all customers. I don't 'hate' any customers. I have disdain towards perverts who try to take liberties that I don't grant them, and I do not like cheapos or rude customers. But most customers I entertain don't fall into those categories. Most customers are neutral or pleasant. All of my big-spending, consistent regulars are guys I genuinely appreciate... we have good conversations, they get multiple VIPs and we drink and have fun and I'm happy to be entertaining them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    while others don't want to be seen by customers outside in their street clothes, and yet others may not want customers to see what car they came from or who dropped them off.
    ^This!
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    It's really not about being "hated" but expecting to be "liked" is unrealistic most of the time. As a long-retired fave once said to me "There is a big difference between being friendly and being friends".
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    Y'see, I don't have that OP problem because I (a) do not arrive at opening time or even during the first hour and (b) usually do not hang by an entrance where I'll be running into the ladies arriving in their civvies (ocassionally the club's layout makes paths cross but then I don't seek it out). The first mostly because I prefer to get there only after the scene gets going (who wants to look overeager?) and the second because if I'm there I should be looking forward to meeting the girls in-character for their performance.

    Also if I get a put off vibe from someone, I will give them the benefit of the doubt of it not being about me but that there may be other issues that are fairly stressing them. Exhaustion, money issues, home issues, got cut off in traffic, etc. I will try to not take it personally (just as I hope they will not take personally a decline for a dance).

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    The only demographic of customers I loathe is "furniture".
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