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    Default I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    Some back-story / what's been going on with me lately. This is kinda difficult for me to type being as I've forgotten a lot of SW etiquette and I've no idea how people will respond to this. All's I know is that I just need some support right now, so all I ask is that you go gentle with me.

    I haven't cammed in over a month because I struck gold with a client who pays my bills, rent, luxuries, and then some. Sometimes I tell him I might be camming that night, but if he wants to throw down my daily target for me, I'd be happy to throw a couple custom vids his way. He also throws hundreds at "just because" (we also have a very "I'm Goddess. You, slave" relationship). He also sends GC's galore. It's been this way with him for a few months total now, and it's become so that I prefer just dedicating my whole working time to him because he alone pays more than enough. This all might seem like I'm bragging, but this has resulted in me feeling insanely disenchanted towards camming (a job I loved).

    I tried camming tonight and ended up just logging off within 5 mins because someone said "sound" because I was typing to them rather than speaking, and I just straight away was like "omg... fuck that" and logged off.. angry with myself. My tolerance for the 'daily camming grind' has gone so downhill and I kind of hate myself for becoming like this. Not to mention of course my SM placement has gone down considerably because I haven't been on for so long.

    I realize that this custie is not going to be forever: Any moment now he could simply turn away from me, his wife freak out at me, he freak out at me, or just simply stop contacting with me. I get that totally. However, it's come to the point where it's difficult to go back to how it used to be, especially when he treats me very professionally, knows this is my job, and I enjoy making customs and stuff for him so much. Regs - even ones like this - should NEVER be thought of as permanent. I fear that in the long-term, this may have ruined my camming career because I feel like going from making 5 min vids of me dancing around for $100 or something, to fucking myself for what I used to get is screwing me and my work up so, so badly. I have no idea how this is coming across, and I really worry that it just seems like I'm complaining for nothing, or I'm being stupid, or I'm stupid for letting it become this way.. I never meant for this to happen and for my work to slip like this. I just feel like I can't cam anymore. It's like I want to, but I really don't want to at the same time.

    Has anyone else been in a similar position as this? If so, did you get back to "normal" camming? Did you take an alternative route like clip making? I kinda feel more hopeful about working C4S as my main source of income right now, but again, I'm scared, because this will be a huge change for me and feel like I'm taking a risk. Aggg I feel so dumb. Any help or support is massively appreciated.


    {ETA} - Oh I guess, if nothing else for some... this is a chance for me to demonstrate that relying on one reg - seriously, no matter *how* highly-paying he is - is a bad, bad idea..
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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    I think you should try to have faith in your ability to adjust. You feel like you can't do regular camming now but that's because you don't have to. You have another option.

    But you needed to before ( I assume), and you did. People are amazingly resilient and can adjust to all sorts of changes. I think you will do what you have to when the time comes


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    I have had practically no tolerance for camming since day one! Being older than the average camgirl, educated, and starting on a site mainly dedicated to private shows spoiled me entirely, and still colours how I view camming today, and how much of it I actually do!

    So my advice is simply to log in, every day, or every other day, for at least one hour. Dedicate yourself to doing that. No amount of pep talking, meditation, writing lists of how great camming is blah, blah, blah is going to help at this point. You need to put one foot in front of the other and simply keep walking. After a couple of weeks of this I guarantee that while you won't necessarily be in love with camming again, you'll at least be back in the swing of things, and have a little income to fall back on should things go pear shaped with Mr. Whale x

    PS I've found that actually most of those guys DO stick around, even if it feels like they won't. Maybe it won't always be AS financially satisfying for you, but if you ensure you NEVER give the impression you need them (in fact do the opposite every now and then - don;t return an email or text, be late for a show etc), they will hang around out of addiction whether you want it or not!
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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    Being that I am an utter noob to camgirl life in general, I have no specific advice regarding how long your awesome regular will be around. That said, congratulations on finding a kind person that appears to have their head on straight AND deep pockets! susie's idea of sort of easing yourself back into it sounds like a good one. Given the fact that you're worried about your reliance on him at all, I'd say you at least have your head in the right place. It's probably easy to get lulled into a false sense of security and feel like "This awesome dude will be around forever and EVER!" especially in a prolonged arrangement. At your stage, I'd say you're doing better than someone who gets too carried away and gets bonked by reality when the well dries up. Don't feel dumb, darling.

    I'd say enjoy the arrangement while you can and start building your backup plan so the transition is less jarring when this chapter ends.
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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    I have been there. In fact I'm just getting back to camming, and my tolerance for it has never been great. Maybe use this as a time to diversify. Try phone sex, try making more clips and see if you can get along without camming. You may surprise yourself, or maybe try indy or appointment only.

    Also try to save so you have a cushion when this custie hits his expiration date, though somtimes subs stick around for a long time.

    Maybe this is a sign that you've reached the point where you need more eggs or that you should change the way you cam. Maybe it's time to go full fetish or domme.

    From your posts you seem a smart and motivated woman. The fact that you made this post means you're thinking ahead. Keep using SW to vent and brainstorm you'll figure out your next move.
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    Ohhh this warning is timely for me... nothing like your reg but I've been growing way too dependent on one regular in particular and I've also found that I've lost tolerance for free chat.

    That said: Just do it. Stop thinking/talking about how it's so hard, you can't do this anymore, etc. Keep positive thoughts. This issue is pretty much entirely within your own head so it's also entirely within your own power to change. You did it before, you can do it again. Enjoy your whale while you have him but know that you can survive without him. And in the meantime I'd advise saving as much of his money as possible so you know you'll have a nice soft landing in case he drops you.

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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    I agree with Rina and the other girls. You just gotta get on and stay on - at least for an hour. I don't have a lot of tolerance for free chat, my patience is zilch most days. Put on some fun music, psych yourself up and log on and do it. You gotta get past this before your reg tanks so you won't be FORCED to get on.

    The first few days suck - but once you get past them and keep making money its a snowball effect (at least how I've felt with it - when I miss a day or too I'm like ugh do not want)

    Once a year I go through heavy burn out where I'm like "I HATE camming." And then dive in to clips. Try some passive income and get momentum doing that.







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    OMG YES I know how you feel. I take breaks from camming often. I do also have a very good, "long term" sponsor in my life. AND YES, when I would log back in after weeks and even months of not camming, I would HOP RIGHT BACK OFF. I have a low tolerance for boredom in general, IF I dont get a busy room and/or prvts within a certain amount of time.
    I think I figured it out tho......I have multiple sites Im registered with (like many cam models), but when I am coming back after a hiatus, I log in one after the next looking for traffic before I just quit. AND I dont linger long in one that is dead, because I know I'll get frustrated. That has helped me to stay logged in.
    I am someone who looks for the custies to entertain ME kind of. Lets converse or take me prvt to keep me from logging out to do other things, you know?! When it slows down, I take a serious break, go eat or whatever and come back later. I am also a victim of the FAST burnout. lol. I hate to say it like that, but its true. I'm not a TOP cam girl, but Im the one who wastes the least time, I bet.

    I think that one hour thing is a good idea too, cause if you are getting a lot of prvts in that hour Im sure you will stay on longer!

    I could easily not work at all, but the facts of life are that yes your sponsor can drop dead or leave at ANY time. I try very hard to keep myself motivated. I dont see the time of having a sponsor as a time to break anymore, instead I see it as my time to GET AHEAD. Keep working, the money you wouldve had to pay in bills you can now save. Think about it too, you are now free to cam at your leisure, there are no serious goals to hit.....don't waste this time. Good luck ....I KNOW it's easier said than done.
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    I just lost my best regular on SM, he saved my ass this summer during the slow weeks, he was begging to meet, after a year of cam shows on SM with him he resigned; i was afraid to give him outside SM contact details cause this guy was odd, unpredictable; anyway, i know i had nites when i spent the whole shift with him in exclusive, now that he is gone i need to go on with my cam work and do my best to earn my living.
    If you have to earn ur living from cam shows again u will do it, u'll find motivation and resources.
    Yes, regulars have an expiration date, ALWAYS. Good luck!

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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    it sounds to me like your relationship domme/slave with him has brought out ur domme personality and u now cannt stand to be anything but dominant. i am the same. i domme on adultwork with no freechat and im nothing but mean and nasty to the men (thats what they wanT) i am goddess they are shit on my shoe... so when i log into MFC and have to be NICE to them i just cant stand it. So u logged on and he said "sound" instead of logging off, insert ur fuck you attitude into his face instead. if ur SM persona is not already domme, maybe change it to be so. or just use AW. i do the best on AW as a domme. but mfc is more money so every few days i force myself 2 log on mfc and be vanilla. it sucks. btw where/how did u find this guy? and what payment processor r u using for him? also i read a post the other day about a guy what sounds just like ur guy who physically stalked his goddess in real life. i hope its not the same guy. i can link u 2 her blog if u want so u can check.

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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    My advice?

    Week One -- Voyeur shows where you need to pay zero attention to your free chat for 15 minutes a day everyday.

    Week Two -- Voyeur show for 15 minutes; Free Chat Hustle for 15 minutes (You've now survived 30 minutes a day)

    Week Three - Voyeur show 30 minutes; Free Chat Hustle for 30 minutes (Oh hai! You are at a hour a day)

    Week Four - Voyeur show 15 minutes; Free chat hustle for 45 minutes (Now you are used to free chat and rocking privates again.)

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    I personal find that when you are rebelling against something and you are lucky enough to have the time that it is best to force yourself to do it just a little bit at a time like getting into cold water. Kudos to you logically for realizing that you have to do something to get ready for when this comfy arrangement is no more.

    P.S. I've missed having you around here. I totally get you leaving camming for a while, but we miss you when you leave us too.

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    i love your idea!!




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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    I had a guy like that , kinda sorta, Long time ago... he used to spend hours hanging out with me all day on yahoo, I met him from a cam site but then it became more on a personal level. So I would let him watch my shows while he was on yahoo, In return he gave me 1000 bucks a month paypal, 500 a month in videochat ( my cut) and bought me gifts, we talked on the phone and he even came to visit.. I know bad!!.. but i had only been camming 4 months when i met this guy and i was Naive and stupid.. but one day he ended it abruptly after 3 months and I was really scared, hurt and upset , wondering how I was going to pay the bills now. Well that was my lesson learned, after that I hated camming and men cuz of what he did to me. So I never ever would meet anyone from a cam site again or get THAT close to one of them.. You just get up , dust yourself off and take it one hour at a time. And know that you are independent and this is YOUR life. By being this way with this guy he is sorta holding you hostage and you are letting him because it's comfortable and easy to you.

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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    Do you have any other career goals outside of the adult biz? If so, I would just concentrate on getting that started. I personally wouldn't be able to cam if I had someone helping me, because I feel like You do about it, but need the income so, on I go. I'm in kind of a situation which makes it harder to get online, because I started a 'vanilla' sales job, which I love, and just getting out in the world again, and being social, has made me remember how fun it is to actually have human contact. Plus, I'm not as tired anymore to meet up with my friends, who had taken a back seat from my camming so much, and being a hermit.
    Sometimes all that 'sex talk' and staring at a computer for hours takes its toll really fast.
    Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.

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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    Great advice in this thread and I'm linking to a few more burnout threads b/c I'm sure that there's some more good stuff in them. Incantatious, I'm just also giving you my support and heartfelt empathy. I so know how it is (as do the rest of us, I think) and I wish the best for you. You're a really good cam girl and a valuable contributor here. I know that you'll find your groove again and be able to be both happy and profitable soon.



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    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-it-gets-rough
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...itive-attitude (OP deleted, but thread still full of good stuff)

    Hey look! This thread references and links to the very thread you started about how to work through burnout. You've done this before and you made your way through it so well that you started a thread that inspired others to do so as well. I have confidence in you.
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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    I used to be a stripper and worked full time for three years. Then I started camming and kinda really started hating stripping. I know exactly how you feel.

    It kinda reminds me of getting out of a relationship and only remembering the good or bad things about it. You just need to practice self care and remember that at one point you really did love (or at least like) camming and that it's okay to not feel that way now because you will feel that way again if you want / have to. And if you can't feel that way again.... then you'll find something else to do because you're smart and resourceful.

    I like JAC's idea and think that just logging on in general is good. Maybe don't do anything other than voyeur or gold shows or whatever just to kinda get over the mental hump of BEING ON CAM before you have to start putting up with bullshit. And maybe be super heavy on your ban hammer. Whatever you end up doing take care of yourself and give yourself all the time you need.
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    Every single one of you is *SO* friggin' AWESOME.
    I want to hug every one of you so bad.

    Thank you all so, so much. <3




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    I'm glad you see how this is effecting you long term. I've been there. The first day I ever cammed back in 2008 a client did what you did. I got $15k+ out of it, and eventually it all dried up. My advice? keep camming bb! Tuck his money away for a rainy day and keep camming like you have rent due tomorrow. You then won't be angry at yourself and can perhaps use his money to take a week off on holiday, or even an emergency fund. You'll be happy that your ass is still covered from you working, and his money is safe and secure. Let it pile up as long as you can, but please, pick yourself up and keep working.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Incantatious View Post
    Every single one of you is *SO* friggin' AWESOME.
    I want to hug every one of you so bad.

    Thank you all so, so much. <3
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    I know your post was about burn out, but it actually inspired me! After I wrote that reply to you about getting on for just one hour a day... I managed 3 hours today even though at 5pm I was thinking no way, this is a sofa and film night!! So thanks
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    Default Re: I feel like I can't cam anymore.

    This happened to me about a year or two ago. I had a sub practically cover all of bills sending me gifts etc. I would log into MFC he'd tip my whole goal plus sending me a few grand . At that point I just didn't want to cam with anyone else. I was so content to just spend the whole day with him. This went on for about 6 months until he started pushing for more. Now the guy was hot so that wasn't the problem but what I started realizing was that I didn't have any other business. The dynamic of me being in control could easily be switched to where he's creating a way for me to be reliant on him. He broke a rule once .. got a second chance and then was banished. My point is that it's a great feeling when you're getting exactly what you desire and then some. The issue is that it's cutting off your connection to other business. So after I banished him I made about $500 on MFc for one night but I was worried that things would change drastically without him there and they did. My camscore slipped something awful and all of those members that were trying to compete with his high tips were trying to "collect" ie " they wanted to meet for sex etc and kept pushing. Soon most of my regs had to either be dropped, banned or they moved on. My friend's list looked like some skeleton crew it was that bad. So one of the last days my sub tried to contact me to apologize for his behavior I was already sending in paperwork for 3 other sites on my brand new computer. I was ready to hit camming hard and I did.

    As with all things camming over time has been quite unstable. I don't even make close to what I did before him and during the time we cammed. I did well on the new site I went to and then they too changed things up and it's like pulling teeth.

    So personally now that I know how things go I wouldn't spend too much time with a member like that ever again. Even though it was probably the best fun I've had on cam, I still didn't like those last weeks feeling panicky and having to say "nope he's done" knowing full well I may have cut myself out of several grand. He wanted to maintain a friendship but he was already hitting passive aggressive commentary far too often to have him as a friend. Plus no money? No need to hear the whining for attention that he would do when I was about to get on cam.

    He's a financial sub but many try to switch up the game and create reliance. I think I suprised him with me "gtfo" attitude. Did it hurt me? Sure. I got way too comfortable and that was my own fault.

    What I realized is that when my needs are met and I'm also getting what I want, I don't have the same type of drive. I would log in and hear one stupid comment and thought" fuck this noise!". **logs out**lol

    Enjoy the money but please keep camming. You need to keep business flowing in when he decides he wants something you're not selling. I'm not saying it will happen but for most it's just a"when" will it happen.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Incantatious View Post
    Some back-story / what's been going on with me lately. This is kinda difficult for me to type being as I've forgotten a lot of SW etiquette and I've no idea how people will respond to this. All's I know is that I just need some support right now, so all I ask is that you go gentle with me.

    I haven't cammed in over a month because I struck gold with a client who pays my bills, rent, luxuries, and then some. Sometimes I tell him I might be camming that night, but if he wants to throw down my daily target for me, I'd be happy to throw a couple custom vids his way. He also throws hundreds at "just because" (we also have a very "I'm Goddess. You, slave" relationship). He also sends GC's galore. It's been this way with him for a few months total now, and it's become so that I prefer just dedicating my whole working time to him because he alone pays more than enough. This all might seem like I'm bragging, but this has resulted in me feeling insanely disenchanted towards camming (a job I loved).

    I tried camming tonight and ended up just logging off within 5 mins because someone said "sound" because I was typing to them rather than speaking, and I just straight away was like "omg... fuck that" and logged off.. angry with myself. My tolerance for the 'daily camming grind' has gone so downhill and I kind of hate myself for becoming like this. Not to mention of course my SM placement has gone down considerably because I haven't been on for so long.

    I realize that this custie is not going to be forever: Any moment now he could simply turn away from me, his wife freak out at me, he freak out at me, or just simply stop contacting with me. I get that totally. However, it's come to the point where it's difficult to go back to how it used to be, especially when he treats me very professionally, knows this is my job, and I enjoy making customs and stuff for him so much. Regs - even ones like this - should NEVER be thought of as permanent. I fear that in the long-term, this may have ruined my camming career because I feel like going from making 5 min vids of me dancing around for $100 or something, to fucking myself for what I used to get is screwing me and my work up so, so badly. I have no idea how this is coming across, and I really worry that it just seems like I'm complaining for nothing, or I'm being stupid, or I'm stupid for letting it become this way.. I never meant for this to happen and for my work to slip like this. I just feel like I can't cam anymore. It's like I want to, but I really don't want to at the same time.

    Has anyone else been in a similar position as this? If so, did you get back to "normal" camming? Did you take an alternative route like clip making? I kinda feel more hopeful about working C4S as my main source of income right now, but again, I'm scared, because this will be a huge change for me and feel like I'm taking a risk. Aggg I feel so dumb. Any help or support is massively appreciated.


    {ETA} - Oh I guess, if nothing else for some... this is a chance for me to demonstrate that relying on one reg - seriously, no matter *how* highly-paying he is - is a bad, bad idea..


    I had something similar. I still did cam shows but they were almost all with him. I would let him know when I logged on and he would go into private right away for hours and he did that for years. It is hard to cam with other people when you have someone so nice that treats you well and respects your time. I would work on other avenues of earning money if you don't want to cam right now. You have C4S and Kinkbomb to sell clips on. Perhaps only do phone calls on sites like NiteFlirt. You could also do indy cam shows so you don't have to deal with free chat.

    I still do shows with that custy but he links the indy cam shows better so I get paid more.

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