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    Question Your Opinions On When Your Best Custie Starts Acting Wonky?-I'll Explain

    I have had this awesome custie for over a year now, who always has long exclusives and gets me to my daily goal at least twice per week. Starting a couple of months ago, he now just comes into my chat every single time I'm online, says nothing for a minute, then leaves. The first handful of times he did that, I just thought he was having connection issues, or he didn't have money to spend at that moment, and I would at least get an e-mail explaining it. Keep in mind that I cam different hours everyday, so he doesn't even know when I'm going to be on.He even sits in my chat area when I am doing hour long voyeur shows. Yesterday, he finally said hello. We had a brief conversation, I invited him in, and he, poof, he just left again.!With camming the way its been the past 6 months or so, I'm so let down to see that money never happen! My question is if you've had a custie like this, and how you handled it. I know custies have an expiration date, but this was my whale, and I'm really pissed off at this point. Any ideas why he is doing this? Do they ever explain to You why? Keep in mind that we do a very specific roleplay, which happens to be my expertise niche, so if he's sick of me, why is he coming in my chat everyday? I really want to kick, and then ban him, but.. should I? Of all the regulars I've had that have done odd things, this is the strangest. Thanks for Your imput.

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    Yes, this has happened to me more than once. I get very annoyed with it. Of course it sucks that they are no longer paying for shows, but I can accept that, because like you said every reg has an expiration date. The thing that truly irks me is when, like your guy, they come around and come around to sit and stare but they don't even tip or interact. That to me is very disrespectful, like why are you coming around and using me for free entertainment but you can't exhibit some manners? Once it happens several times, or over a couple of weeks (whenever it becomes clear that they will no longer be spending money on me) I basically completely ignore them and treat them like I would any other freeloader- because essentially, that is what they now are. If they've stopped spending altogether for some time and try to engage with me in free chat I will acknowledge them, but will make it clear that I am not interested in talking with them for free when they used to pay me for it. Like they may say hey how are you and I'll just say I'm fine rather than talking about my day, asking about how they are, etc. like how I usually would.

    Interestingly, I used to have a very good reg who started acting just like yours. He eventually disappeared for a good nine months, and recently came back and bought a long show with me last week. It was completely unexpected and a pleasant surprise. The next night he came back in my free chat and talked with me for a few minutes, but now he is once again back to coming in and staring silently for several minutes before leaving. I don't even waste my breath on him; if he wants me attention he knows how to get it, if not I'm not going to sit and beg for his attention just because he used to spend pretty good money on me.

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    I've had this happen, too. Sometimes they'll eventually let me know what's going on. One guy travels a lot for business and could only log on via his ipad and couldn't type in chat, and was rarely home to get on a proper computer. Another guy eventually contacted me off-site to let me know he was in a billing dispute with SM–he had to start approving each transaction through his bank, which he didn't want to do. (Although, he recently came back, so fingers crossed on that one.)

    Even though there are a lot of different reasons, it's still such a mindfuck that I have just decided to assume that something has changed in their circumstances—like, they are broke and unemployed or recently married and lacking privacy—but they still miss the fun with us but don't want to "bother" us in free chat if they can't play. Most of the time I also just blame technology; it's just easier that way, and a lot of times turns out to be the case anyway.

    Sometimes I have this weird preference for doing shows with new people, so I don't expect anything at all. I mean, it's nice to build up a rapport and all, but sometimes when a reg is in my chat who is acting weird I am always relieved when someone I don't know whisks me away first.
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    I've had this same exact experience more so now than ever. What I do is I just stop interacting with the member. They've come to the point where they no longer want to spend. I think part of it could be that they are broke but personally when I can't go shopping I don't loiter in stores or even pick up and jump in the dressing room trying on outfits. To me I find it rude and I would hate to waste the time of the store clerk. When their behavior changes so does mine. I don't respond to them any longer. When they show up I act as if they aren't there. I will recognize and respond to everyone but them.

    Now there are many times when I don't take my own advice and try to be ever so understanding of a financial change for the member. The issue is that in most cases when they have extra money they aren't spending it and think "she likes me so I don't have to give her anything for attention". It's a big mistake and they tend to grow resentful of those moments when you are taken to private/group or where someone else tips. It doesn't happen instantly but that frustration builds until a blow out happens or worse they start thinking they've paid enough to approach the " let chat on skype for free , phone or lets just meet".

    The member has now joined the ranks of freeloader.

    Just last night I had a member say " hey I remember you and I logged in just to speak to you". Did he have any tokens? Nope. He wanted to act like he was doing me a favor by bringing his needy attention seeking ass to the fray when I was happily engaged with a generous member. I can't even tell you who this member that logged in to chat was. His screen name rang no token bells in my mind which is probably because he changed his screen name several times over. He made a point to tell me he doesn't come onto the site that much yet was sitting in "guest chat". Which is probably what he does until he enters a room where guests are muted.

    Now the next time I log in I'll ignore him until he tips something. If he doesn't he'll go back to that guest chat with a frown. Ohh well.

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    Arghh it is so frustrating when a reg goes bad. Just today a very good reg came into my free chat and was starting drama so I started paying more attention to the other members. Then he takes me pvt, said hi, and then asked if he can go back to free chat now. Of course by that time everyone had left my free chat except for 1 or 2 lurkers.

    So basically because I was talking to other guys he takes me pvt for all of 1 minute so I'd have to pay attention to him. JFC.

    Why can't they just act like normal people? They like pussy, we like money, we should be able to have mutually fulfilling business relationships! But no, it always goes sour.

    IDK why they act like this. I think the only thing we can do is use it as a lesson to not rely on any one reg. The multiple egg philosophy applies to customers, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Procrasturbator View Post
    Then he takes me pvt, said hi, and then asked if he can go back to free chat now. Of course by that time everyone had left my free chat except for 1 or 2 lurkers.

    So basically because I was talking to other guys he takes me pvt for all of 1 minute so I'd have to pay attention to him. JFC.
    I cannot stand when men do that!!!!!! It happens very rarely to me, but when it does??? Oooooh chile!



    I once had a very good reg whom I hadn't seen on a couple of months come into my free chat very late at night. He consistently does pretty long shows with me, and I really needed the money that night. Then some asshole takes me private for about 30 seconds to see me tits and left. My reg logged out since he saw that someone else took me private, and I haven't seen him since (I'm working a different schedule now). God. Damn. That. Man! I think that's one thing I hate more than a reg gone bad: an asshat who clears out my room for a private he doesn't even want.

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    Thanks everyone for relating! I feel better about the situation now.. Luckily, I have been getting lots of new people, so I guess in the long run, the money will balance itself out.

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