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    Default Regulars who think they're in love...

    I have a regular who comes in and spends bank on me, but he always calls me baby and thinks we're in love and asks me why I'm "afraid" to kiss him during lapdances. I just tell him I keep things professional in the club (lol) and don't do that. He tries to hug me and kiss my shoulders and stuff and it's more annoying than anything. I've never had any outside contact with him, he wants me to call him and gives me his number when I tell him I'm busy and forgot or whatever (I'm just not going to call him, he's stupid). I like the money he spends on me, but it's getting annoying, what do you ladies do in these kinds of situations?

    He also wants to pay me loads to take me out dancing, have you ever done that/ would you and how much do you charge if you do? I'm honestly not interested in going out with him at all, but getting paid hundreds of dollars to dance for a couple hours doesn't sound terrible.

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    Default Re: Regulars who think they're in love...

    Well if he is that annoying you could always try to be wicked toward him and scare him off by ignoring him or being downright cruel. And if it doesn't work to forever deter him then you can turn it around into a seduction technique- switch between sweet and mean and he'll be hooked all over.

    He sounds clingy though and if he wants to see you outside the club I would not partake, even if he offered a good compensation, never know the levels someone who is overly attached may stoop to... Also 'dancing' is kind of ambiguous. Does he mean dancing in a club or dancing in a hotel room?
    If you do feel comfortable enough with him to do something OTC then charge club rates plus another added percent as a 'convenience' fee or something.

    Either way when they get this attached they tend to start burning out fast.

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    'in love' or not, he's got no business forcing physical contact on you that you're not comfortable w/. Tell him if he really loved & respected you he'd knock off the hugging/kissing, both b/c you're uncomfortable w/ it, & (even if this is stretching the truth a bit) the kissing could get you in serious trouble.

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    Hes reaching expirey date, Once you accept that then you can pump him for as much cash as you can and then start strictly asserting your boundries (actually start doing that anyway).
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    Hes reaching expirey date, Once you accept that then you can pump him for as much cash as you can and then start strictly asserting your boundries (actually start doing that anyway).
    This. All regulars have an expiry date, so milk them as long as you can and don't feel bad about dropping them when their money stops being worth your while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    Hes reaching expirey date, Once you accept that then you can pump him for as much cash as you can and then start strictly asserting your boundries (actually start doing that anyway).
    ^This is exactly what I was thinking!

    You are acting professional and asserting your boundaries, keep doing this and don't allow him to push your boundaries or make you feel uncomfortable simply because he is a good regular. If he really "loved you" he would be more respectful of you lol .

    If you aren't comfortable or interested in meeting him OTC, don't feel like you have to. All regulars have a shelf life.
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    How can u be certain of a customer's expiry date??? Any examples?

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    The needier/ballsier they get, the more they try your patience, eventually their behaviour stops being worth the $$ they give you to put up w/ them. Usually either they get theirs in a permanent twist b/c the dancer isn't giving them whatever their end goal is, or the dancer just says Fkit & ends the relationship.

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    ^^^ This. It happens to the best of us hun. Its very common. Especially if they feel like "they have earned it" I.e they own you. Because they have more than likely been spending thousands on you a day/week/month. Put your fucking heel down. No means no. It really just depends on how long you can deal with the line-crossing to money ratio. And usually once they get the hint that they really can't buy you, the cash starts to dwindle. Then its waaay easier to just ignore their sorry ass. And on top of that, ignoring him might make him feel like you are punishing him/ trying to make him jelly and he may try to lavish you with gifts and whatnot to get back in your good graces.

    And if not..fuck em. Go get a new outfit and say see what you bought me and ignore him 4ever.
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    Quote Originally Posted by trixxi View Post
    How can u be certain of a customer's expiry date??? Any examples?
    When they stop spending money on you. Aniela also listed some great signs that their expiry date is nearing, but really, as soon as you start questioning if their money is worth the effort, it's all downhill from there.

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    And if you meet him outside the club he will always spend less on you in the club from that point on!
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    Default Re: Regulars who think they're in love...

    They make tasers for this sort of thing!

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