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    I am need of people's advice. Like other woman I just want to do the dam thing and just start working and making money. But for one I live at home with my mother and would be ashamed if she found out are there any other ways that she won't find out but know that I would be ok working a late night shift? Also another thing that bothers me is what are ways I can stay safe when its time to go home? What are the pros and cons of working at a small town club vs the city? My thing with the small town I would just be scared to run into some one that I know and then them probably ratting to etc you know how small towns are and finally put of respect for my mother me personally I would not want to be a dancer while living under my mothers house hold but I guess to each is own what do u all think?

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    Default Re: Needing advice

    If you're living with your mother and sneaking around to dance, she will inevitably find out. You can try to hide it by saying you're working at a bar as a bartender/server/coat check girl/shot girl/whatever, but the truth has a tendency of coming out.

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    Default Re: Needing advice

    Shanna said it all in regards to keeping this job a secret from ppl you live w/, be it relatives or roommates.

    Fwiw I've not found a lot of difference small town vs bigger city, only difference was when I worked in Daytona 10 min from where I lived. Then I occasionally ran into ppl who recognised me from the club. Everywhere else I've danced, I commuted 40 min on average so being recognised by customers was much less of a thing. I nvr told anyone where I lived, if they asked I would name an area abt 30 min away in the opposite direction.

    As to other safety issues at work/after work, there is a lot of good advice on this subject in the stickies on the newbie board.

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    I would like to say its also good to learn different ways to make yourself look different than you would usually lookin town... As far as ur moms go... It's going to be hard but if your going out to the clubs you can even tell her your a party promoter, party hostess, or go go dancer depending on how ok that is for her...

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    Default Re: Needing advice

    What does everyone think I should do ? I just don't want my mom to find out should I just get my own place or I don't know what to do I just want to respect my mother while living under her household

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    I'm a big advocate for moving out of the parents' place as soon as it's doable, so I vote for getting your own place and doing your own thing. When it comes down to it, while you're under her roof that means following her rules. It's truly a matter of time before this comes out if you stick around, and moving out makes keeping it a secret possible. Plus you can gain and enjoy your independence!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    I'm a big advocate for moving out of the parents' place as soon as it's doable, so I vote for getting your own place and doing your own thing. When it comes down to it, while you're under her roof that means following her rules. It's truly a matter of time before this comes out if you stick around, and moving out makes keeping it a secret possible. Plus you can gain and enjoy your independence!
    I second this vote

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    I'm a big advocate for moving out of the parents' place as soon as it's doable, so I vote for getting your own place and doing your own thing. When it comes down to it, while you're under her roof that means following her rules. It's truly a matter of time before this comes out if you stick around, and moving out makes keeping it a secret possible. Plus you can gain and enjoy your independence!
    I second this vote

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    I want to beg the differ for a moment. I can not rember what section and catagory it was under but the message was regarding a young lady telling her mother that she had been dancing and she lives with her. What is the difference between my question and the young lady who wants to tell her mother? If anybody has seen that thread.

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    If you mean the thread where the girl was debating telling her mother that she was bartending at a strip club to test the waters because she thinks that her mother will ultimately accept her decision, that's a world of difference between your situation where you think your mother would be ashamed of you, not to mention you not wanting to disrespect your mother by dancing while under her roof. They're totally different questions and situations. Unless you mean a different thread, in which case it always helps to link to what you're referring to.

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    Default Re: Needing advice

    Shanna hit the nail on the head...both times.

    I lived with my mom briefly during my divorce, and commuted an hour to work. Even though she didn't say it, I knew she was embarrassed. She had to make excuses for me to her friends and it just wasn't worth the inconvenience on her.
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