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    Default Anyone else not have regulars?

    I've been at the same club for almost two years (on and off). There are several regulars. They always ask where I've been and make small talk. None are the type I can milk for money! There are some who come in that are like furniture. They may buy me a drink or two, but rarely dance with anyone. If I'm having a bad night I'll ask them to get dances and they will do it because they feel bad and KNOW I'm having a bad night if I'm asking them for dances. I have a couple of guys that come in, but they are regulars that I consider friends and just have a better time with OTC. (Going to concerts or sporting events) It sucks, because I know there are several guys who will spend very well on their favorite dancer only. Once the said dancer is gone I put forth the effort to see if I can snag them, but it never works.

    Am I the only one that gets along with the customers but can't get them in back?

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    Default Re: Anyone else not have regulars?

    No I don't have any either, i have had in the past but now the ones I meet are not worth the stress. I have guys that I dance for most weeks but they dance with a few girls.
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    Default Re: Anyone else not have regulars?

    i'm the "regulars" kind of dancer, for sure, and if you can make money without them, then count yourself lucky!! they are a pain..they get really moody, and clingy, and eventually want you to be their gf or sleep with them and talk to them for hours for free because they are "special". its soo much energy! regulars are good when they spend BIG, or when its slow.
    theres a big thread about cultivating regulars in hustle hut i believe..for me, its wowing them with the best dances i can give and putting a lot of energy into charming them when its slow, giving them my googlevoice number to come back in, etc.

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    Default Re: Anyone else not have regulars?

    Never been a "regulars" dancer. They're just too annoying and needy. It's never even that I have to cut them off, because I can't really get to the point of cultivating them in the first place. I just refuse to even pretend that they're going to get any more out of me than I feel like giving lol So a lot of them, after like 2 nights, start playing the "oh look at me spending all my money on this other girl and telling you I don't have anything left for you" game. Fine. Go. Haha I can't deal with it.
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    Default Re: Anyone else not have regulars?

    Do you spend a long time with customers on the floor before finally asking them to go to the back? I find it more likely to get put into the friend zone the longer I spend with someone just shooting the shit and not focusing on closing. Not sure if you're even looking for advice, but just some food for thought.

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    Default Re: Anyone else not have regulars?

    Nope, I don't either. I don't work frequently or reliably enough to keep them< and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to if I could. I had a handful of regulars back when I danced full-time, but even then, just the few... and I eventually tired of dealing with them, too. There is always the furniture that I can count on for a commission drink or two and a few bucks in cash for my time. But all in all, I don't feel like a fo-real regular is worth the inevitable headache.

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    I used to not really have regulars and then I started upping the communication with them outside the club via texting. Before I would just tell them when I was working and ask them to come in. Now I message them asking how their day is or how work is and after a little bit of chat, I ask them what their doing that night or tomorrow night and see when they can come see me. The important thing is to not make it seem like you're just out for their money. Insist on them just coming in for a "drink" and once he's in, you can work on the room which he already knows he's doing anyways lol. Afterwards, if you want to see them out cool or have just one drink with him before he leaves or you have to leave. THEN text him thanking him for coming and tell him how much fun you had etc etc. Also, sexy non-nude pics help. Men are visual creatures.

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    I've never been at the point where a huge portion of my income is from a few guys that reliably see me multiple times/month. repeat customers, sure, but I travel and switch clubs frequently so I wouldn't be able to get great regulars even if I actively sought them. too much work. I also don't like the idea of worrying about leaving a potential whale because my reg came or whatever.

    that being said, I'm moving to ny for school next year and I'm hoping ill be able to get some good regs that'll make it worth it to come into the club for only 1-3 hrs and hopefully bail me out via paid dinners or cash gifts if I don't have time or energy to work. I don't wanna take out loans for col in manhatten but at the same time grad school will be much harder than undergrad so I won't be able to do 8 hr shifts . I'm so not looking forward to it. maybe ill get a reg who owns a building and can hook me up with a free apartment lol a girl can dream....

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    I'm in the same position (I've been at my current club for two years as well). I don't "cultivate" regulars like a lot of other girls do, so I don't expect to keep them for very long (I don't give out my number, email etc. Not that everyone does, or that it's always necessary to do so in order to keep a regular. But, it helps). My regulars also don't last long because I'm more than happy to cut ties with them when they start to push for OTC, or to push my boundaries.

    What's your club like? Some are more regular friendly than others. My club is the "party" sister club of a gentlemen's club. It's upscale, but we get a mixture of customers and most of the spending, white collar customers are from interstate (the local ones go to the sister club). I don't have ANY currently and I'm a top earner-you don't need them to do well, so don't let it get you down. It is nice to know that you're going to have a good night before the night starts though .
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    Default Re: Anyone else not have regulars?

    I have a few fair weather regs but they're not the kind to quit my day job over.
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    I actually like my friendzone regulars. They may not pay my bills, but they'll do anything for me. If I have a bad night they will make sure my house fees are paid, breakfast in my tummy, and gas tank is full to get home. I wish I could turn one of the guys into my regular because I have an idea of what he spends. It would be so nice to have that income garunteed, but I just wouldn't be able to handle his upkeep. I don't actively look for regulars so I don't need advice on it, though I do appreciate the few tidbits given above. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't some kind of weird anamoly considering how long I've been at my club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlotte. View Post
    . I'm so not looking forward to it. maybe ill get a reg who owns a building and can hook me up with a free apartment lol a girl can dream....
    In the words of R Kelly "If I can see it, then I can do it, If I just believe it, there's nothing to it". Go get that apartment girl.

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    I tend not to have regs, it seems I havn't developed the knack of cultivating them. I earn more steadily whereas girls who are more reg dependant seem to earn huge amounts one night and very little on others so I reckon our earnings overall are quite similar. However it would be great to be a reg magnet and a lap dance machine.

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    i didn't have a regular for the first two or three years i was a dancer. in fact, that seemed to be the general consensus of most of the girls i worked with--it took awhile to get one (or a few).

    if you are going to cultivate regulars, the only thing i would suggest is to be careful about who you want coming to see you on a consistent basis. i've noticed a lot of girls get overwhelmed with them when they arrive--they could be making money off of a good crowd, but instead have to tend to some exceptionally needy guy that dropped in. and when they've been spoiled for too long, they often "forget" how to hustle for a bit, so having regulars is a bit of a double-edged sword. be sure that if you do have a regular guy, he understands that while you prefer his company, you will still need to work a little bit with the crowd.

    i've only ever considered one customer a real "regular," but he's come around consistently for five years. other less dependable types have come and gone, but that's the nature of the beast. i think it's important to just be honest about yourselves with each other. if the arrangement works, it will benefit the both of you--him for social/loneliness reasons, and you for financial ones.

    anyway, never rely too much on customers! in fact i think you have it better, knowing how to make money on the fly than growing dependent on some guy who might decide he never wants to see you again.

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    My best long term regulars were traveling businessmen who came to town four times a year. It was great because it was always a "reunion" and we'd spend the first few hours of VIP time catching up. Those types of regulars can last years before their expiration date.

    Local regulars I could keep for a few months, but as soon as it didn't turn into anything OTC it ended.
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    Every regular I've had has eventually gotten bored because I refuse to meet them OTC.. so, nope! no regulars here!



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    I got a share in the "club regulars", the guys that came in a few times a week, were loyal to the club, and had a pretty set roster of girls they'd get dances from. They were good for a couple dances at least. I liked them because they wouldn't bullshit around - if they didn't want a dance they said no, and "maybe later" truly did mean "maybe later, check back".

    Never wanted any regulars because I prefer the wham-bam-thank-you-maam way of marketing... and I know it eventually turns into a badgering for OTC. I also worked such varying days that it would be near impossible to cultivate any.
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    When I first started dancing 9 years ago around 80% of my income came from regulars. At the club I work at now, I don't need regulars, there are enough new faces there every night for me to do great without having to put tons of effort into a fake relationship.

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    I've been at the same club for almost 6 years and I don't have any regulars. Honestly, I just don't have time or patience for that. I'm not there to be friends, get a sugar daddy, listen to life stories, and make up excuses as to why I don't want to hang out. I'm just there for money. I've only had one guy that came in once or twice a month and would spend a tonnn of money for me to dance as he talked about his life. But then he would just leave, he was a simple guy so i kept him around for a while, but when i changed my number I just never updated him. Eh, I just don't care enough really. There are plenty of guys to make money off of nightly lol. Then of course, we have the regular bar flies that buy drinks for girls and hang out, they're nice and i'll talk to them every so often if I'm bored and trying to look busy since I stay out of the dressing room as much as possible.

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    I think regulars can bring consistency as far as income is concerned, you enjoy time with them, and they are usually more generous than others.

    I had 3 regs when I started and liked knowing they were dependable and cool company. But I had bad experience with one of them and changed my thoughts on keeping them around. I may change my mind again sometime soon but for now,

    For me I see regulars as more energy/work/effort so I wouldn't keep them around unless they understand the dynamics. Which is I spend more time/energy/effort on you and a select few in exchange for money that will make it worth my while.

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    I'm very introverted and hate spending too much time even with people I like, so regulars are particularly draining to me. I used to focus on cultivating and maintaining them because I thought that's what being good at the job meant. Everything was going well on paper and I was proud of my hustle and income, but it just became a pain in the ass. The more time I spent with them, the more bored I became. The handful of texts per week felt like an intrusion on my personal life -- I couldn't really relax knowing I'd have to respond to a "how was your day?" (I don't even text friends back the same day a lot of the time!)

    At a certain point I decided not to take on any more regulars for a while because of this. Honestly, my income didn't take a hit. I find it much less draining to use a very hard cold contact hustle on a dozen customers than a soft hustle on one or two. Someone's bound to bite if the numbers are there. I'm starting to get back into the regulars game now that I live in a city with actual rich people. Still, I'm much happier dropping them when it's busy unless the money is insane! And something about the cold contact hard hustle is more fun to me. I feel like it keeps me sharp.

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    I have one regular and he picked me, hes not really someone I normally would have approached and thought we were going to be bffs. 50 year old Asian businessman. Hes good for 100 bux, a couple drinks and some dinner from the attached grill. I find it somewhat uncomfortable because I don't even know what to say because we don't have so much in common and he likes to massage me, which I actually do not enjoy from anyone. Aside from that, its a big place, I am better with new faces, not ones I dread when I see because even though im getting a few bux, I know very soon someones will once again try to see how many times he can poke my butt hole during a lappy. Good times haha.

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    Every club has leeches the problem is many clubs don't have managers that know how to drain the swamp or won't because they fear the bottom line not being achieved!

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